My SIL rang DH about a month ago... we dread these calls.

After lamenting over her own issues/problems she moved onto her teenage daughter (she has just turned 15). She said that her daughter has anorexia and will, in all likelihood, have to be admitted to hospital. She's already seeing a psychologist. Her daughter has always been thin but now she's downright skinny. I haven't seen her (in person) for over a year now so I don't know anything about how she "is", ie, temperament, outlook etc.

She then proceeded to blame her daughter's anorexia on her older daughter as she is overweight. I immediately thought this was a load of crap.

Ever since I met SIL she has been overly vocal about how people should look. She constantly told daughter number 1 that she wasn't pretty because she was fat (her words - not mine) and would tell other people in front of her. As it was daughter number 1 started gaining weight at an alarming rate (since moving out of home towards the end of last year she has taken to exercising and eating healthy and is coming back into a healthy weight range of her own choice).

With daughter number 2 she would tell her how pretty she was because she was "thin and sexy". Who on earth describes a 12 year old (at the time) as "sexy"????? And would often say, don't get fat like daughter number 1.

Now SIL has taken photos of daughter number 2 which she in turn has posted onto FB. The photos show a severly underweight 15 year old in a series of provocative poses on the beach. Is she celebrating her daughter's condition? Or is this actually going to help her?