Storm, sending you {{big hugs}}, I know exactly how you feel. It is so hard when you have tried everything you can think of and nothing works. My DD also has the "I dont care", "I don't know" attitude, and her excuse for misbehaving or wagging school was ALWAYS because "the teacher" hates her. I swear the girl has NEVER taken responsibility for anything in her entire life. Everything she has ever done wrong has always been somebody elses fault...usually mine, LOL.
Hang in there, and hopefully the truent officers can help out.
Hey Jo! Haven't seen you round for a while. Just wanted to send you a I have no idea of how to deal with teenagers (obviously) but I think you mums of teens are amazing people! again.
Sorry I have nothing constructive to offer. My DSD is the same and her most recent excuse was "I was in class, the teacher just didn't see me!". Seems she is wearing her Harry Potter Invisibility Cloak.
Hiya Amy!! Sorry to be "bumping" into you in here.All hugs help, thanks!!
I'm sick of everything being someone else's fault too Marlene, yep, always mine. She needs to face up to her responsibilities, cos from this point, I no longer am going to do it for her. Why should I? She doesn't appreciate a dam thing I do for her anyway. Ooh I hope the HSLO does have something to offer that will benefit us, cos I'm starting to get a real headache banging it on the wall all the time.
LULU, unfortunately, I can't get support like that from my family, my olds just take control, my dad especially reckons a good flogging will solve all my problems.While, yeah it may, I'm not prepared to batter my child to make her be nice. I know she would be dealing with all sorts of issues right now, peer pressure, hormones, bla bla bla, & I am here to support her through that, but I won't take the crap that goes with it either, it most definitely isn't my fault.
Oh great idea on taking all those "little" things away, last night I didn't dish up her Tea, I left it in the pans for her to do, went down just the way I wanted it to, YAY 1 point to me anyway.
I'd love the back up, I think I need it. lol. Being pg dealing with all this makes it a bit over the top.
More reason"s why I wont take her crap.I just wish she could please hurry up & work that out.......
( I'm sure some of you would remember all the drama I had with Dylan last year, it seems Amy wants to follow in his footsteps)
Maybe moving into pops isnt a bad idea...
My 14yo brother was in the same kinda boat at home, He was wagging school getting into the wrong crowd, stealing from mum, when she tried to get him to school in the morning he would throw the biggest tantrum and would not behave for my mum - mum rang me close to tears a few times because they (he and his brother) would be kicking up a stink about going to school... Mum was at her wits end, the police had picked him up a few times, gave him a talking to, she saw councillers countless school principal visits...
Her last option was to send him to me... Which has been very hard for her, she lives 14 hours away and hasn't seen him for 6weeks! but on the good note, he has been getting up at 6.30 (sometimes 6, 530) gets ready for school, hasnt wagged a day since he has been here. We've only had a few arguements over doing his share of work and lying etc... But he really has turned a corner since he has been here, hes going to school, doing his homework, has more respect for his mum and dad, and is so ready to go back home at the end of the school year!
He has learnt that his parents are just trying to do the best thing for him and that there a horribel people with far worst rules (ie me lol) then what mum and dad has!
basically i have treated him like a child while he was here until he proved that he was a teenager... We took away all privleges for the first week (computer, softdrinks, dvds, tv made strict bed time rules, etc) But now that he has proven to do the right thing he has those privleges back hes allowed on the computer when he ask, can watch tv movies etc...
Maybe try all that if she has a tv in her room, take it out, no internet, no friends over or going to friends, no this or that - until she can prove her self...
I haven't read through all the replies so sorry if this has been suggested..
Go and hang out the front of centrelink with her for a morning.. and ask her if she wants to end up like the derroes (sp) that go in there... Tel her if she doesn't get a decent education this will be her life..
unfortunatly there isn't much else you can do because forcing her to do something will only make her more defiant (well IMO anyways)
I swear the girl has NEVER taken responsibility for anything in her entire life. Everything she has ever done wrong has always been somebody elses fault...usually mine, LOL.
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I have no idea of how to deal with teenagers (obviously) but I think you mums of teens are amazing people! 
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