teenager girl chat

[shazza]

i would love to start a thread about girls going through hormonal changes or teenager girls .just to have a chat with mums going through the same thing would be great

[Bathsheba]

Good idea... I'll be in it! I've at least two BooHoo threads about my 13yo DD!

[shazza]

i hear you i have a soon to be 13 yr old
and a 11 yr old going through hormonal changes
i thought if i chat about it it will keep me sane

[mrsmac]

Count me in, there are days when I could kiss my 16 yr old and days I could kill her LOL Even my frineds say "where did our beautiful sweet Jess go??"

[melham74]

Count me in aswell, my DD is 13 next month and just dont even bother looking at her at the moment.

[mrsmac]

I really hate to tell you ladies- it doesn't get easier for a while yet

[~Aveta~]

i've had endless battles with both my DD's to the point that both have left to go back to their father and then ooops! realised that he wasn't the hero he makes himself out to be. after four months, DD2 is coming home, having made a sideways apology for her behavious - but i'm setting much firmer ground rules this time. i love her dearly but refuse to be her punching bag again.

[Bathsheba]

sounds as if most of us here need a hug! I almost feel bad to update that things are going well with our 15yo DD. She has settled into boarding school really well and exceeded all our expectations. We talk to her every night on the phone and she seems to be over the worst of the homesickness. Living away from home really seems to helped her appreciate us as parents. To he honest though it's been the support we have received from my sister, BIL, my aunt and uncle and my grandfather that has really helped. DD has spent most weekends with these extended family members and because she has had to be on her best behaviour a lot of her bad habits have been dealt with. My family basically reinforce DH's and my values so this has been important and valuable. For instance she has had to be tidier: no more leaving wet towels on the bedroom floor etc. She was also not eating breakfast when she was here at home but at boarding school she can't snack when she feels like it and has therefore started to eat breakfast with the other girls... It is compulsory to be in the dining hall at 7.15am anyhow so I guess she figures she might as well eat something. She also hadn't had access to caffeine drinks which was also worrying me when she was at home (friends would buy her cans of Mother etc) and she would help herself to my coffee. Best of all there had been no more sneaking out at night!

I know not all families can send their kids to boarding school but even time away from home with trusted extended family would have helped our DD. She will be coming home for the school holidays in 2 weeks and we are really looking forward to it... And hoping that she keeps up the good work at home as she has while away!

[fionas]

That's so excellent Bath - don't feel bad, it's great to hear positive stories

[Fleur]

That's so excellent Bath - don't feel bad, it's great to hear positive stories

:yeahthat: Absolutely!

[KimB]

Don't feel bad Bath, I think we need some good stories to prove that it can happen.

Sarah was in tears all day at school today and I had about 3 phone calls from them asking me to pick her up but I stuck to my guns and told them what she was doing and they believed me omg so they kept her at school until the end of the day. Am fed up with the 3 y/o behaviour cause then she says "you treat me like an adult and then like a kid. Make up your mind" grrrrrrrrr we treat her how she acts. Have to go as she is home and need to deal with what happened today.

Wish me luck

[Lulu]

I used to get this. If she was shirty about something I would always get a phone call sometime to pick her up from the sick bay. I ended up refusing too.

I also got the moving out at 16thing. I took a tactic other than telling her she couldn't, mainly becuase I knew I couldn't stop her. She brought it up in a councelling session and myself and the councellor, asked how she planned to do it. "Friends house" - what if they don't have room? "I dunno" How will you pay the bills? etc etc

When she would scream that she was moving as soon she could I would just say - I wish you wouldn't but if you feel you have to there isn't much I can do is there? It took the wind right out of her sails and made her think a little. It's also much better for the blood pressure

I'm the non hysterical times when we could talk I would bring it up and explain how expensive it would be for her and that I was happy for her to stay, that I would provide for her when she was at high school. I expected a small amount of board when she got to university. So basically I'd discuss it in an adult manner so she felt listened to - and in the same way I would if one of her friends wanted to discuss moving out.