Dd 13 just sent me yet another text about not wanting to go to netball training. I'm at a loss here.

She started netball 3 years ago, discovered a talent she never knew about it & loves the sport. Cant get enough. Refused to miss a training or game, even when sick unless I made her stay home.

She went off to high school, wanted to to basketball, hockey, social soccer & join TDS (talented squad) as well as town netball. This is my kid. Sports is a big pary of who she is.

I held her back a bit. High school (first year, year 8), boarding, homework etc, I allowed the social soccer & the town & tds netball, since that's her main interest.

She was so keen. Put her name down for tds try outs, then didn't show. I made her go the second day & she got in. Apparently in their top 3 for her age group. She was stoked.

Then trainings came around. She went to the first, but told me she'd thrown up & was feeling sick for the next one. I'd spoken to a supervisor that day & my mum met her for lunch. Neither of them knew she wasn't feeling well. She went to school & was in the common room when I called her. So I called BS.

Yesterday she was again trying to skip training for a nutrimetics party. I told her that sorry, order out of the catalogue if you really want something, you can't miss another training. 2 out of 5 isn't good enough.

Just got home to another text. She hurt her quad in a beep test today & was tired. Can I text 'coach' & tell her she won't be there. I called her. She's feeling sick, threw up again last night so she says & all the buses have done their runs for the day.

So I told her to figure it out (sporting commitments are different to town runs) or I'd call them & ask them to take her. She still needs to be there at least to know what's going on. They need to know if she can play Saturday if she actually did hurt herself.

I've discussed life & commitments, and having a job (which she's talked about getting) & how when you commit you have to stick to it, or you lose it. This is how it'll be for the rest of her life. Fun things are gonna happen when you have to work. You can't just skip it.

I don't know what to do. She wanted this so bad, but I think the social life/boyfriend etc are making her forget about what SHE wants in life. The only reason I'm pushing this is because SHE wanted it. And the fact that if I'm paying $350 just in bloody fees, the least she can do is show up & have a go!

How do I navigate this? Do I need to pull her out & home school her? That's the last thing she wants, but if she doesn't pull her head in soon, I am willing to do it. She's already tried skipping classes. What's next?