Sorry in advance if this is long but i really need some advise about my 'lovely' teenage sister
My sister who is 16 has been living out of home for about 8 or more months now..
She left home and started living with her boyfriend(and his mum and sister) just before i gave birth to DD(Lovely right, what a sister) she was pretty much living with her bf anyway hardly ever home etc.
but it has really put alot of strain on our family and has been causing my mum alot of grief which she really doesnt need. My sister is now getting living away from home allowance which she got by telling centrelink and social security that she couldnt live at home anymore making up total lies to recieve it and blaming mum when the only reason she was moving out was to be with her bf.
Even throughout this mum has always reminded her the doors are always open that shes welcome back anytime just under my parents rules etc which i think is fair enough..
Im just finding it hard now ive been trying not to think about the whole thing as ive had enough to deal with lately. trying to shut it out from my mind really but i thought id get it all out now as i can feel it resurfacing.
We use to be best friends not just sisters we use to do everything together . people use to say they were jealous of the relationship we use to have their was not a thought or word not shared with one another....Now were nothing but strangers.. its so sad ive lost my sister and my best friend ( i thought after i had dd that things would get better between us becuase i was sharing such a special time with her iykwim but it didnt)
A few months ago she was having issues with her bf and 'moved back' well it didnt last long not even a week. everyone at home was so excited to have her back and went out of their way to make sure she was happy but my other little sister who is 11 gave up her good bed for a crappy single bed just so she would come back but she only stayed a few nights and then left. when she was here she treated everyone like dirt wouldnt help clean up after herself just stayed in her room.
She wont tell us whats going on , we've all tried
We hear pretty much how shes going and whats happening to her through facebook
Apparently' shes not with her bf now but is living with his mum n sister who is one of her gd friends..
She wrote as her status last nite " Cant stand this place anymore, anyone wana move out with me?" my mum wrote under it you know ur always welcome home it may not be the coolest place but its a place where everybody loves you unconditionally" she still hasnt responded... my poor mum
im so angry at my sister for doing this to my family and to me.. but more sad than anything. sometimes i feel like it was my fault that she left that maby the stress of my issues at home and the house being to crowded with me n gracie i dont no
im sorry again that this is so long but i really needed to get this out
if youve read this far you deserve a medal(sp?)
Sounds like your family's doing the right thing - teenagers can be so tough to deal with and you seem to be handling it better than most other families would do... Just be patient and I'm sure she'll find her way. Keep trying to stay in touch, if for nothing else than she can't turn around and say that she feels abandoned later on.
My mum just rung my sister as she was worried about her because of some of her status's on fb and she tells mum that centrelink are paying $300 a WEEK! FOR HER RENT!! i cant believe her,my mum is so upset as god no's wat she has told them to get that how can centrelink do that!! its ludacris
I used to be the same as your sister. It did take some time for me to realise what I had at home.
Maybe you could call centrelink and let them know where things stand at home.
They break your heart sometimes..:(
( i thought after i had dd that things would get better between us becuase i was sharing such a special time with her iykwim but it didnt)
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