Get good at saying “no” to her now Michelle. Lola is starting to really push it & not taking no for an answer. (Just like me sometimes when I was 12).

With sex talk, I always find I just answer questions if they ask, but not in any more detail than they ask. When Lola was 4 we got an age appropriate book about conception to explain where her little sister was coming from, I think it talked about a seed growing in a special place inside the mummy or something. I wish I could remember the book.

When I was pg with Angus I got the standard Where Do I Come From that I remember from when I was a kid, and it still seems very good. I sat down and read it with Ruth, & Lola joined in too.

They started telling Lola more adult stuff at school from grade 5, mostly about periods & puberty. She’s still fascinated with periods & asks all about it all the time, but is still kind of “eewww” about sex. She does the eewww thing even if she sees DH & I having a cuddle, so I think she’s just not all that curious yet, despite wanting the girlfriend magazine. She seems to come to us about every little thing she reads or sees, so I still feel like I’ll know where her head is at with it. I’m mostly concerned that I don’t want her to think of herself in a sexualised way like teenage girls tend to. I won’t let her wear mini skirts or skimpy tops, and I’ve always joked that she can’t have a boyfriend til she’s 30, but she’s mentioned it more lately (just as a way of bringing the conversation back to her, IYKWIM, & I’ve conceded maybe when she’s 18, lol. It’s scary though when she asks me when did I have a boyfriend.

I saw your other post Jackie about the sex ed at school thing with the model, that was outrageous! I’ve heard it’s a lot different now than when we were kids, and I suppose it’s a good thing, but they’ve got to be VERY careful about how they approach it. I’ll be keeping a close eye on how it goes with you & what comes up at our school. I do think it’s a good thing if they get the idea across to girls that they’re supposed to get pleasure out of it too! I just don’t want them putting the idea into her head that she should try sex before she’s, um, 25? Is that too unrealistic?