Tk - I am a private patient delivering in a public hospital too and all of these things were discussed and decided upon with my Ob, not the hospital. I did my birth plan and I discussed it with my ob around 37ish weeks, there was some negotiation on delayed cord clamping (it was delayed but not until it stopped pulsing, my ob likes to take a sample of the blood from the cord for testing and I was happy with his explanation and reasoning for this) but I was happy enough with the end result.

I just took a copy of my birth plan in my hospital bag but didn't actually end up having to give it to the midwives. I got there, got in the bath, had a bit of gas and then by the time I was ready to deliver, my ob was there and took over.

I need to do my birth plan!!