I spent 8 days in hospital (minimum requirement was 7 days) with the option of staying longer. My DD was born in winter & my DH is an outdoor labourer, so go to take additional time off whilst I was in hospital, so he would come in the morning and stay until the evening - that would give me time to sleep and shower whilst he looked after DD.
At home he had another 2 weeks off & cooked, cleaned, washed etc.... and was very hands on with DD.
My mum then come over in the mornings and spent most of the days with me - letting me rest, feeding me & keeping me company.
I also had my IL's for about a week and they helped out too
I found that I wanted to get out of the house - I felt I had a bit of cabin fever b/c I was used to doing whatever I liked before DD come along but this time around I am planning on staying home as much as possible and taking up lots of offers for help & meals. (even though DH can cook)
No, and I really want to do things differently next time round.
It didn't happen for the following reasons:
1. Everyone in the world seemed to think it was a great time to come and visit. They would only tell us vague times they would be coming so I didn't want to go to sleep just before they came (I felt like I would be being rude). I also felt like the house needed to be reasonably presentable when people came over (again, it was my thinking, but it made things worse for myself).
2. DH had just started a new job and we weren't sure if his 2 weeks off were going to count towards his annual leave or paternity leave. In case they were his annual leave he wanted to have some time doing things 'he' wanted to do, meaning I was left doing everything.
3. I'm a bit anal about keeping the house clean, so being around the house all the time drove me nuts if things weren't clean.
4. I wanted to 'show off' DD, so wanted to get out the house a bit.
5. When people (eg MIL) came over, I felt as though I should be staying in the same room 'entertaining' them. I should have taken the opportunity to have a rest/shower.
6. Because of all of the above I don't feel like I look after myself/was looked after enough and I just ended up soooo tired and an emotional wreck.
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