I totally understand your concerns ... so sorry i have no helpful words of advice BUT i wanted to say what a wonderful friend she has in YOU

Maybe if you ever get the feeling she is unsure of anything tell her what you would have loved to have heard when you had your 1st baby ... and reassure her no matter what, what a wonderful Mother she is !!

(My Mum was a 1st time Mum a 17 & all she got were knocks & sniggers ... never a kind word ... and even though my Mum did make some severe mistakes at my expense she DID what was her BEST ... and that does count) !!

Hope your friend does fine ...keep us updated ok.