BD after miscarriage.... Kind of a woo hoo..... just wondering what its like for you?

[myturn]

So....... this is probably WAY more information than any of you want to hear... but..... since the miscarriage (and before first AF) BD has felt different.....

I couldn't really put my finger on it.... thought it might have just been 'dry', but it also just felt different down there, although I knew that physically nothing was different..... I didn't say anything to DH, cause, well.... I was a bit embarrassed/weirded out about it all... and I wasn't sure if it was psychological ie... I felt emotionally different, so maybe it was all going to change.... I wondered whether it was hormonal... maybe I was someone who'd not feel up to sex during pregnancy.... (and I probably should add that my sex drive is probably higher than DH )

anyway..... so since AF arrived..... it's felt good and back to normal.... only DTD a couple of times... but as DH got home today after a long weekend.... I was pleased to find that things felt really NORMAL today yay yay yay.....

and a big phew... cause it worried me a bit.... it would suck if this whole crappy process stuffed up that particularly important part of our relationship.....

so.... I wondered..... did anyone else feel that way? Has it been 'different' for you....? I guess I'm thinking it's probably normal, but I am curious... and perhaps hoping I will feel more connected if I know others have felt this way too....

[Sunny Love]

Yes, I did.

I think now, nearly 4 years on, it came down to a combination of things. Those being the utter physical & emotional grief you feel about what couldn't be, the hormonal disruption that occurs after a miscarriage/DC, and just trying to inseminate rather than impregnate afterwards.

xx

[Em_325]

Yep it was definitely different for me following the mc so you are not alone. For me I think a lot of it was emotional with a touch of left over hormones as it took a while for my hgc to go back to zero. I just felt yuk down there following the mc and it wasn't the physical pain that was over pretty quickly it was more I felt my body had let me down and I have to admit the actual process of having a natural mc traumatized me a bit. It lasted about 2 months for me but I am now 100% back to normal and enjoying dtd again.

[maybebaby2012]

I don't remember it feeling different physically but it was an emotional hurdle for me. I just couldn't believe we were right back where we started and I resented baby-making sex. And yet I was so desperate to conceive that any sex was baby making sex in my head, I couldn't avoid or think of anything else. I don't think I was ready to be intimate emotionally but I knew that it was the only way to get pregnant so i carried on regardless. As the weeks went on though it felt less frantic and more normal and lovely.

[Amy_jellybean]

I cant comment on the after D&C/miscarriage question but I can say that I feel very different bd'ing during pregnancy. It feels really uncomfortable and full and to be honest we have only done it a few times because it weirds me out haha.

[myturn]

Don't want baby to get poked in the face amy???



hmmmm..... so when did it (if ever) go back to normal??? for me it was almost like AF was a line in the sand, and everything has felt normal since then... which could be emotional too, as I was kinda waiting for her as it signaled the end of the miscarriage..... I think sunny you are right, it's a combination of everything isn't it....

nice to know I am not crazy and imaging it, and that others have felt the same way....

[maybebaby2012]

I can't really pin point it. It was just when DTD stopped reminding me of our loss.

[Sunny Love]

Mine too was the return of my AF, it represented that my body was finally emotionally 'healed' enough and ready again.