Frustrated & Dissapointed....can't TTC for another 6-12months now! :(

[lissy]

I am slightly heartbroken ATM.

Me & DF discussed when we both wanted to TTC again after our MC in Jan 10 & both agreed to wait untill April to try, we would've tried again right away but decided emotionally we weren't ready.

Now we've just found out that DF will have to have an opperation on his sholdour in the next two months!! will be in a sling for almost 2 months & VERY light duties for 6-12 months.

This might seem ok but we have a small rural place & cant afford to have both of us possibly out of action. Plus DF is employed in the heavy machinery industry so means major upset with his work. Reduced pay & all, lots of time off work.... so we cant possibly commit to TTC during that time.

I know that I am so fortunate that I have every chance of conceiving & my journey to conception was relatively easy, but the last couple of months after our MC I have been telling myself that its all ok, & hanging on for dear life to the fact that its not that long and we can try to be pregnant again.
When my workmates have announced their prenancy, its been ok coz hopefully i'll be back there soon...... and now its just not going to happen for a while

[luna moth]

Hi lissy. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I've just come out of the other side of a 6 month wait due to molar pregnancy, and honestly, it feels like forever at the beginning, and like it is the world's worst curse, but it's really not. It's a bit of a leave pass, if you will, to have some dedicated couple time before you become a family. Our 6 month wait has been the most incredible time for our relationship, and our lives in general. We put a lot of focus on building on our relationships with friends, too, and now we have this wonderful tight circle of friends that will be there for us through anything.
It's also a great time to get your body in good shape for baby making - lose any extra kilos, do an enormous detox, eat heaps of fresh food, and prepare a lovely environment for that baby to grow in.

Good luck!

[LadyRaven]

Try and see the extra time as an opportunity to prepare your body for another try. Take some conception multivitamins, get your health in a good place and give yourself every chance of having a happy healthy pregnancy.

[chody47]

I'm sorry to hear that you have to wait so long to try again. It is obviously very frustrating and upsetting for you. Is it possible for you to start trying in 3-4 months time? Your DF should be back at work then by the time you may be getting to the latter stages of your pregnancy....just an idea....