yeh i agree with you there Skybie, i can handle a c/s if i get a healthy baby out of it. J actually died at 37 + 4, but he was born at 38 weeks. they waited until after my birthday to induce me, which i think is fair enough....still, the next time round i will be freaking out in the lead up to the birth......gah, it's just so unfair that the next pregnancy has to be such a stress and a cause for anxiety, rather than a time of joy and excitement.....

thanks everyone for your advice and stories, i appreciate it.