Not sure where I fit in

[mummacassdy]

Dear FI1980, I am so sorry to hear of your experience. It must be a confusing and sad time. I think everyone dreads losing a pregnancy once it has begun. I was at a naming day ceremony for one of the little kids I mind and someone asked me how far along I was. The poor woman was so embarassed when I said that I wasn't pregnant anymore (I terminated at 17 weeks due to chromosonal abnormality- 6 weeks ago). As she was apologising I had a little bubble in my throat and a tiny tear but she was looking away. It was probably the moment I had been dreading but I just said that she wasn't to know and I wasn't offended. She was genuinely sorry but I have found that talking about it really helps and other people will share their stories more readily. What I want to say is you are not alone, even though you might feel like you are the only one to have ever gone through it. We are human and we feel what our friends and family feel even though sometimes people are not good at talking. Dont be afraid to talk and ask for a hug or a shoulder to cry on. I hope you feel better soon. Take care
Mummacassdy