totally normal I just passed my last EDD from my m/c in May I started TTC in nov 06 my mums group friends have now all gone on to have #2 well one is due in 4 weeks the other 4 have had their bubs they all started way after I did, I was jelous as well but they all understood and were really supportive in the way the told me they were pg and have all been great with the bubs being aroudn me etc, only one has made a comment that hurt and she apologised that night sayign she realised afterwards how bad it was ...
Thanks Lilmiss and Rach for your kind words. I am definitely trying to go easy on myself. To make matters worse AF arrived today and DH got SA results back- not very good. I think I need a holiday.
I am hearing you on th friend thing! One of GFs has just started trying and she wants me to be her ear through it!! She again rnag today and I just can't talk about TTC with her it is too hard after 2 miscarriages. I think I am just nervous that she might concieve before me, OMG if she does I will be devastated!
So natural, feel how you fell hun XX
sandygirl - your reaction was completely normal and exactly how I would feel in the same situation. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and your pain. It's such a difficult journey. It took us 2 years and 2 m/c before we conceived a successful pg. Please believe that it will happen for you because I do. Some days will feel worse than others but you will gradually have more of the better days. I found the worst were anniversary type dates & special occasions such as birthdays, Mothers Day etc.
Sending you a million hugs and the very best wishes. Please please keep believing that you can do it tho, I know it's soooo hard sometimes but please do it. I actually became addicted to the Delta Goodrem song 'Believe Again' after my second m/c because I felt the same way you did, I'd lost faith/belief that I could do it but I knew I just had to keep on going & believing that it would happen. That song gave me hope & inspiration. It's weird that a song got me through it but it did, I hope you find strength to believe and keep on going because it is worth it.
sandgirl,
i feel your pain and know just how you feel i had a m/c last year and just passed my EDD on the 19/2/09 which was a really hard day for and to make things worse my cat died that i had for 10 years.
I've been struggling ever since the m/c with my roller coaster of emotions and recently found out that my brother in laws gf was 3 months pregnant!! they bhad only been together 6 months and the pregnancy was not planned. i too founng out in a public at work but i was not that strong and burst into tears i was crushed and so jelous it was not fair. i avoided seeing them fopr 2 weeks i have now excepted it and am happy for them but at the same time im still disappointed that its not me. i felt so bad that i reacted that way and some people couldn't understand why i was so upset whch made me feel wose.
but as the others have said those who havn't experienced loss really cand begin to understand how we feel.its going to take time we will never forget the loss we have experienced and we are giong to have bad days and i think we deserve to have those days.
I hope that in time we will ll be rewarded with a beautiful baby that we can love and cherish.
Just remember it's very hard for anyone to announce a pregnancy to a person who's not having any luck in that department. It's hard for those who haven't had any issues & I think it's even harder for those who have had issues cos they know they can so easily say the wrong thing & cause upset. She hasn't intentionally said anything to upset you, but upset you she has. I had a terrible TTC & m/c history before having my son & I remember saying things that I regretted to someone in the same situation as you, the wrong thing can just pop out of your mouth and once it does there's no taking it back.
I found it really difficult to deal with others pregnancies & really only got over that when last pregnancy was quite advanced.
The anniversary of course makes it worse. AF is always going to make you more sensitive as well as it's a reminder that another month has gone by without success.
I can't offer much advice other than hang in there.
totally normal I just passed my last EDD from my m/c in May I started TTC in nov 06 my mums group friends have now all gone on to have #2 well one is due in 4 weeks the other 4 have had their bubs they all started way after I did, I was jelous as well but they all understood and were really supportive in the way the told me they were pg and have all been great with the bubs being aroudn me etc, only one has made a comment that hurt and she apologised that night sayign she realised afterwards how bad it was ...
Reply With Quote
Bookmarks