Trying to Conceive after Loss or Miscarriage ~ June 08 #3

Jen - sorry about af. The biatch!@#$% When I first started temping I fell pg second month so I am sure it WILL be your month this month. :hug:

WTH - interesting about the pesticides in tea - thanks for sharing that. I never knew that, I had been told a similar thing about buying foreign garlic a few years ago (particularly from China) so I've always eaten organic or Aussie grown garlic every since.

Mollycat - good to hear your cycle is behaving this month. Good luck & hoping you get your BFP.

smilinatu - lol at your 'yummy lunch'. Hey whatever it takes - Good luck!!

Hello and :hug: & :pink-babydust::bluedust: my ttc friends. And :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: for those still 'inbetween' TTCAML & PAML.

afm - on the final countdown of the first trimester. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, I want to run but I can only take it day at a time & walk. :pray: that bub will be growing nicely at next scan.

Jen - CD1
megsmum - CD2?
Vanaithi - CD4
Kittens - CD4?
Acria - CD5
Tutmae - CD8
Jodsan - CD10
Easha - CD10
Issy - CD13
Smilanatu - CD14
pbstar - CD14
Mollycat - CD15
Joey - CD15
Toccara - CD16
Tina - CD16
Abbey - CD18
KrystieLove - CD20 In the unknown!

Sandygirl - 6DPO
Angel Babies - 13DPO

Bettyboop - 3w3d
WTH - 4w5d
Jenushska - 6w6d
Laura - 7w2d
AJC - 9w5d
Mel A - 9w3d
mmteacher- 11
Canary - 11w2d
plc - 12w
Katiegirl - 21
Nickster - BFP 23+wks

Tempus moriendi - Not sure where you're at sorry!

LizJessie - How's things hun? You ok? :hug:

Please let me know if you don't want to be on the list, or if I have gotten your cycle day wrong :)

Thanks mollycat! Hope you're enjoying this bittersweet family day! :hug:


WTH--:hug: Thanks to you, too! Cycle 5 here I come!


tempus--So glad you're back, well, you know, I wish you didn't have to be here, but we've sure missed you! Looking forward to hearing from you more often! :goodluck2: in your search for a "crunchier" dr!! lol...


Thanks Krystie for the silver lining! Another would be that I get to keep temping! :lol: I'm such a freakin' addict, when I do become pg I'll probably continue taking my temps every morning! Sounds like you had a great night last night! Thanks for wishing Mum a Happy B-day from me! Sorry about your misbehaving temps-- :pray: you have a nice temp spike in the morning! Oh, and :woot: I'm at the TOP of that list!! Silver lining...!!!

Hey--I want to go to the Melbourne meet-up!!! I told DF and he said "yeah right!", can you believe the nerve???


Aww, thanks AJC--hopefully my second month temping with be as prosperous as yours was! Glad to hear you're nearing the end of the first trimester. I can't believe it! How long now until your next scan? Thanks for popping in, always good to hear from our :bellygrowing: friends!


Ok, girls, who's going to be the first BFP for July???

Jen - You are the QUEEN of the silver linings!! I'm so proud of you for being so positive because we all know how hard it can be to keep your chin up at the start of a new cycle. You are an inspiration :hug:

I'll save you a seat at the melbourne meet-up!

Oh, and as for the first July BFP... PICK ME PICK ME!!!! :P

Aww, thanks Krystie! I was just about to log off and I saw a message pop up--I don't know why, but I had a feeling it was you (for real!) Would love to see you be the first July BFP!! I have high hopes for July, too, as it still shows I'll have a girl! :lol: grain of salt...


Goodnight my lovely mates! I'm off to bed, it's been a definite AF day, let me tell you! Gruuuumpy, I just want this day to be over--it was a rough one! Will be on bright and early with a new temp! Nightie nite! :asleep:

Jen- Soryy about that damn af, hon!! July is your month!! Now you've got the temping down pat it'll be a breeze!!

Krystie- I'm a big fence sitter on that stuff too! But, you're right about the positives- it ain't too bad at all!!

Jen - hope your feeling not so grumpy by the time you read this message, just think Day 1 is gone onwards to Day 2 each day is another one closer to when you BD towards a BFP. :crossfingers: for a girl BFP for you

We're back from our day out. Gorgeous weather, absolutely beautiful, sitting on the rocks in Newcastle Harbour, watching boats go past, a line in the water (didn't catch a thing, but got a couple of bites), actually the boys only caught little fish they threw back but it was a lovely day. Now we're doing a few things around the house and yard (actually DH is, I snuck off to see how everybody is doing) and youngest DS has gone off to ride bikes with his friends around the corner.

AJC - glad to see you pop in, only a couple of weeks now and you can tell the world. (or at least your family and friends) won't they be so exited and surprised. I bet one or two say they already knew or had worked it out. Are you going to tell family in a special way?

I don't have to be the first July BFP, but i'd certainly like to be one of them. That would make a new baby due about the time my first DS was due (he was late and came in April). :stickyvibesgirl::pink-babydust::stickyvibesboy::bluedust:

I feel like completely slow as. When and where is the Melbourne meet-up? Should I be checking out a particular link? Please help out this poor ol' mushy brained gal!

plc - It's in hawthorn this coming monday. You should come, I'd love to meet you!!! I'll copy and paste some details:

Date: Monday 30th of June
Time: 10:30am
Location: BillyLids Indoor Play Centre
Address: 86 Lynch St, Hawthorn (Melways Reference - 45 B 10)
Cost: $7 per child. Babies under 12 months and mums are free.

I have booked the table under the name "BellyBelly", so you can ask at the door where the table is.

The link is here.

I'm coming all by myself, so it'll be nice to know more people that are going :D

Krystielove - leave it with me. I have to beg the forgiveness of my friend for backing out of our scrapbooking day after having backed out of so many lately. I'd be bringing DS too but from what I have read on that thread, there'll be quite a few kids in tow. Sounds great!!

Doesn't anyone understand!! :wall: I am doing as much research as I can about when it is safe to TTC after MS, and my husband and mum are telling me to stop worrying about it and just let it happen. Grrr :wall: I don't want to just wait. That could take months or years. I need to temp and I need to feel secure that if we were to TTC straight away that it would not be bad for the pregnancy. They are just telling me that getting all worked up about it isn't going to help me any, and suggesting that it could hinder my chances of falling preg cause I'm stressed about it. I'm not getting worked up, at least I wasn't until they told me to stop doing what I'm doing. I'm researching! Grrrr :wall:

Joey - you do what you need to do, hon. It is your body. (I think) it is completely normal for you to feel this way.

I completely understand. I became (and still am) internet obsessed. I have had to feel like I am doing everything in my power to prevent another loss. I guess then I might not blame myself for "failing" (my words, no one elses) . Research has made me feel like I have more control over what is going to happen in my future, rather than the powerlessness I felt when I MC. My FS, on the other hand, did not enjoy my myriad questions I would take to each appointment. "Unplug the internet," he has told me on more than one occasion!

Oh, and about the stress thing - no study has proved it has stopped conception. It is of course, important not to strees so much once you conceive.

I am sorry that the closest people in your life are not giving you the type of support you crave, even though I am sure they have the best of intentions. Do what you've got to do, hon'. It is not hurting anybody

Joey, I totally agree with WTH! You have to do what you feel you need to. I also am internet-obsessed when it comes to TTC and pregnancy. I'm even already looking into things for school age children! I often see my DH's eyes glaze over when I start talking about something I've just learnt, lol! I'm lucky though because he's super-supportive. So maybe just let your family know that the research is what makes you feel more comfortable and at ease, and to just let you continue. Just remember that for every opinion you can find somewhere on the net, there is usually a differeing opionion out there too. You may never find the exact answers you are after, but at least you can make informed decisions and know that you are doing your best for yourself and your future bundle of joy :hug:

Hi everyone,

It's been a few days. I haven't been feeling really well. Threw up early (4am) on Wednesday morning and have been feeling queezy since (no, I'm not preg. Had my blood test on Thursday arvo and hCG was at 2). Did some more painting today on the carport, and have spent the last hour or TWO catching up on what I have missed! Boy oh boy!
So sorry if my replies are a bit all over the shop. I'm just replying as I read!

Jenushka - I was the one who was a nana. Welcome to the nana's club!! Where in Hamilton? Not the ritzy part. We're not rich. Wouldn't mind if we were though! We're in walking distance to Bretts Wharf and Portside Wharf. It's lovely, but we don't eat there $$. I'm a bit of a scab when it comes to spending money :lol: What hospital are you planning on going to for your bubba? We'll go to the RBH.

Arcia - I agree with Jen, temping is addictive. Be careful!

NicksterUK - Hi! Nice to meet you. :hug: What is iykwim? Thanks for your feedback. How's your belly going? Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

Vanaithi & Arcia - I think I'll jump on the banana and carrot banwagon (is that how you spell it??) I pretty much have a banana a day, the carrots are a bit boring, but dipping them in peanut butter helps. The banana and carrot growers will love you!

Easha - How was your conference. Did you manage to get though it and stay sane?

KL - Removing a stocking from a dog. Hmmm. Sounds like fun. I think I'll stick with my 10 year olds, even if some of them do have attitudes!! That would be beautiful if your bubba was due on your wedding anniversary!! I'm hoping for that too. Ours is the 5th of April! I don't know when I'll O cause I haven't had AF since mc. Just have to wait and see! Be careful going out nana!! What a hastle, you have to shave your legs. Don't you just hate that! Good on your DH for being the Godfather of Funk! Maybe soon he can be the FATHER of funk too! I like the idea of your Melbourne Meet up. Does anyone know if we have one in Brissy? I know there's a group of those who are preg, but what about a TTC group? It would be nice to be able to chat about it in real person with out boring the others to tears. Happy belated birthday to your mum.
Glad to hear you had a great night. And well done on showing up the X!! Sounds like you had a really great night. Don't tell me you're leaving the nana's club?!

Jen - I know what you mean. If AF is going to come, just come already so you can start over again!! I am just reading through all the posts as I send this one (making sure not to miss anyting out), and you mentioned the carrots and peanut butter thing too. They recon that peanut butter is good for you in preg too. ?? So that's handy.

WTH - I'm sure you couldn't drive us nuts if you tried!

Tina - Hope your weekend was wonderful, and included lots of BDing

Smilanatu - No good to hear that Lee is broken. Maybe try a paddle pop stick and some gaffer tape!! :ROFL:

Tutmae - Hi! I'm Joey. Nice to meet you. :hug: And the clairvoyant said TWO babies? How do you feel about twins?

Tempus Moriendi - Nice to meet you too. :hug:

AJC - Glad to hear you are nearing the end of your 1st trimester. A job well done!

WTH - THANK YOU!!! If you know what's going on, you feel in control. Thanks for the support. :hug: I'm sure they care, they just don't know how to do it the helpful way right now!

KL - Lucky for you, your DH's eyes just glaze over. Mine looks at me as though I am from another planet! Thanks for the support. :hug:

Hugs to you all. I would go crazy without you all.

AFM - I need to convince my DH that I am NOT addicted to BB and I am not obsessed with charting and my life does NOT revolve around TTC. Any suggestions on how to do this? All the fuss is turning him off. Noooooooooooo:wall:

Joey - it's so frustrating when people say what they think will help but it infact does the opposite. They really don't know what it is like to go through what us ladies in here have been through. That is why I joined BB because the only people who made me feel better were the people in here. Even though i love my DH more than anything, he just didn't have the right words to comfort me. Same with our parents, they care about us so much but they both had two healthy children have no idea what you go through when you have a m/c.

I started temping after my first m/c. After the d&c my cycle went back to normal straight away but after 4 months when I wasn't pg again I got really stressed and my cycle (which was stricly 29/30 days prior to that) went totally whacko. I convinced myself twice that I was pg when really my cycle was just late. So not only did I experience the frustration of getting af - then realising that we'd bd at the wrong time made matters even worse. I bought my bbt thermometer half way through my cycle but started using it straight away (just prior to O) and I couldn't believe how much it told me about my cycle even when i hadn't been through a whole month. Next month it was a BFP. I bought one of those maybe baby saliva things but it didn't work for me. I also tried opk's but they didn't work either (until I found some midstream ones).

My temping I felt I was in control of my cycle and at least at the end of each month I knew we'd given i our best shot rather than wonder 'did we bd at the right time' etc. Good luck with it - happy temping.

Sending you a million :hug::hug:

Joey - Never fear! I'm not leaving the nana's club!!! DH is DJ'ing again tonight and tomorrow night and I'm staying at home in my pj's! Actually I work tomorrow night anyway, but even if I wasn't I'd still not be going out hehe.

Oh, and an update on my legs... I didn't end up shaving them :ROFL: I decided to wear these cute black stockings I have, then when I got dressed at the last moment (as I always do) I decided the stockings didn't match the dress so I took them off. It wasn't until we were sitting at dinner that I realised I was now wearing a dress with a small forest on my legs!!! Luckily the night club is nice and dark and no one was rubbing their hands on my legs (besides DH of course ;) ).

:ROFL: "paddle pop stick and some gaffer tape" !!!

Also, check out this forum area for the meet-ups. There are a couple in brissy too!

Joey - big big :hug: hun. On the stress thing - I had three people tell me to stop stressing and just relax the month I fell pg! My response to each of them was that if "stressing" was that effective at preventing conception they'd tell everyone to stress their heads off and chuck out their contraception!! And around here, its not stressing - its dedication (lol!). If all goes well with this pg I'll be heading to the Mater Mothers Private (aka Mater Mirage).

Jen - I am so sorry to hear that AF arrived for you and I sincerely hope that you are doing ok. Embrace the grumpiness - just go with it and it can be quite liberating!! Sounds like you are still keeping that chin up though. What an absolute trooper you are. Take it easy, rest up and before you know it, it will be o time and bd fest once again :hug:

wth - how are you doing lovely? How's the symptom analysing going (lol!). I am feeling quite sick which is good, and both bb's are sore, but the left one is more tender - ever heard of that? I haven't! Oh well I'll just go with it.... Any clues on the high prog level from the bt? Any more follow up tests or scans booked?

krystielove - hope you throughly enjoyed your night out - how cool that your ex was there when you were all glammed up with your gorgeous dh in the dj booth - hehehe! Have fun at the Melb meet up.Thanks also for maintaining the status list for this thread - you're a star :)

mollycat - sounds like you had a magical day with your family. I have my fingers crossed for a july bfp for you

jen and krystielove - I checked out your pics and you both look gorgeous and exactly like I'd imagined - well, pretty close to what I'd imagined anyway :) I've added mine too...

belly rubs to plc (12 weeks already - omg!!) and ajc (storming through the first tri!!)

and of course

:pink-babydust::bluedust: and :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: for all ...

Joey- Aw, hon, it's rough when people don't quite understand. But I'm sure that they're just trying to look out for you. Hubby is probably feeling exactly the same as you- men just seem to keep it a bit quieter than us ladies. Men!

And, twins? AHHHH! It would be great, but, um, I think I would be just as happy having two with two SEPARATE pregnancies. And with my "morning sickness" as bad as it was with Lilah (dropping 13kg, liver failure, general grossness) I hate to think what it'd be like with two little ones!! That being said- try and get the grin off my face everytime twins is mentioned. Heehee.

tutmae--Thanks, hun! :hug: Really glad you're back!


mollycat--Sounds like you had an amazing family day! Your chart looks great, bet you're going to see a coverline any time now! Looks like everyone's in line for a July BFP--lets clear this thread out!


plc--Oh, man, now I really want to go to the meet-up!! It's so unfair I live too far away! Please take lots of pics for me so I can "be there" with you girls!


joey--We all understand, hun! Prior to my m/c the only thing I did online was pay bills! There's something about a m/c that makes us crave knowledge, and not only that but we crave the answers as to why this happened: could it have been prevented, did I do something to cause this, where do I go from here, etc... My mind after my m/c was like a slideshow that continually played over and over in my mind, and the only way I could deal with all the images and thoughts was through researching everything I could find on m/c and conceiving after m/c. I must admit it was consuming, but it got me through those dark days! That's how I found this site, and all these amazing women that made me feel completely normal--more than just normal, but accepted! I also learned to accept the fact that my family couldn't get me through this because as much as they tried, they just didn't understand. It's like expecting a woman that's never given birth to appreciate labor and delivery--it's impossible to comprehend until you're there dealing with it! I truly think your family is just at a loss for words on how to comfort you, and in not knowing what the "magic words" are, it's easier for them to just pretend it didn't happen. I'm very lucky that DF now realizes how important this is for me--just yesterday he was saying how cool it was that I'm so connected to the girls here, and how we were all brought together under such heartbreaking circumstances in order to comfort and be there for each other! I think he's just happy to be off the hook--he gets to hear the funny stories about the girls instead of being constantly reminded of the sorrow and pain! As much as I would've wanted to have a healthy pg'cy, I truly feel like I was blessed in a way because I never would've met this amazing group of women! When 1 door closes, another one opens--someday you'll see the connection and you'll realize what you were supposed to learn from this situation. Just tell your family that this is what you need to do to heal and find comfort--show them my post and say, "See! It's not just me, this is healthy and normal!" You need to do what makes you feel better--so tell them I said to leave you the hell alone! (:lol: you know I'm just kidding!) BTW (sorry, by the way) IYKWIM is "If you know what I mean"--it's confusing at first, I know! I agree with jenushka, BB is not an addiction (well, for me it is!), it's dedication! Sending you lots of :hug:


jenushka--Thanks, hun, you're making me :redface: Did you picture me with curly hair like Krystie did? lol... The pic of you and DS is amazing--you're beautiful, and DS is SO cute! You look very much like I imagined you would!

I just felt like posting, really. No news for me, except that I told my dad about the calirvoyant thing today and he was actually really happy. Geniunely happy. it was a big surprise!!

Also, who is next to test? Surely we're due for one more June BFP! Fingers crossed!!

AJC -Thanks so much. I agree. The only people that really understand are the girls in here. You are all life savers :hug: Congratulations on your preg!! You must be so excited.

KL - So glad to hear the nana's club hasn't lost you. I was starting to get worried lol !!

Jenuska - Thanks for your thoughts - I totally agree. The Mater is supposed to be really good. Well done. We don't have private health cover, so we'll just be povs in the RBH. They were really good with my first pregnancy (a trillion years ago), so I don't mind. Yours will be a little more luxurious though, I am sure. ENJOY!

Tutmae - well if that's the case. Good luck with those twins that are on the way!!!!

Jen - sounds like you have a wonderfully understanding DH. Thanks so much for your words. I totally agree with EVERYTHING you have said. And I will tell them, they better watch out, or Jen will be around to see them!!

AFM - Feeling a lot better this morning. But don't like the idea that I have to do my 'researching' in secret so as to not stress out my DH. After our BDing last night, stuck my legs up the wall and a pillow under my butt, just in case I o any time soon. Hard to tell, my temp is saying not yet, but that's not going to tell me until it's too late anyway. My hCG was at 2 on Monday and Thursday last week, so it's probably wishful thinking that it's dropped to zero and I've dropped an egg already, but whatever!!

Love you all. Thanks so much for the continual support!! You are the best

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I am signed on here from my cell phone right now so I can't do any personal post I just needed to vent because I had such a bad day ... I got to work and it was baby shower invite in my mailbox which made me kinda sad and then I got home and watch a movie where a baby was being born which made me cry I want to have a baby so bad and right now I just feel like its never going to happen sorry for the sad me post but I just needed to get that out I'm going to bed now wish I could sleep in but I have to work in the am ...

Oh Toccara - I know. I just know what you are going thru - it is the most exquisite agony imaginable and you just want to tear up everything in sight with ur teeth and punch a hole in the wall at how unfair the waiting is. It brings tears to my eyes remembering my own pain so clearly in my mind. No one forgets the anguish not even when ur pg. The feeling is just so raw and try as we might to bury it at times and be positive - the feeling is always ready to resurface at any time. I just have to encourage you to be hopeful that it is going to be u one day too honey - ul be such a great "mommy" just hold onto that for what it is worth. Feel what you need to feel but vent it out of ur system as much as possible!!! Hugest hugs imaginable for you sweet!

Krystielove - after giving it much thought, I am not going to go tomorrow. I am going to pm you.

Hello everyone else!!!

Dearest Toccara,

Do you really have to go to work? Why not spend the day in bed? Have a big sleep and find something snuggly to snuggle in with. No words can take away your pain, just know that we are all here for you. :grouphug: And feel free to vent at any time at all.

Jen,

A new addition for "you know you're addicted to BB when ..."

Your DH comments that he's your family, not the girls!!

Hi...My name is Ruthie.. I was diagnosed with PCOS on 1999. I had my first son on fertility meds. After him I have become pregnant twice and both ended in miscarriage in the first trimester.
I have started a round of the same meds to have my first at a higher dose and am in the 2WW! I hope I finally get a BFP.:pray::pray::pray::pray:

I look forward to hear your experiences.

**baby Dust****

Hi Ruthie,

:welcome: It's sad that you have to be here, but we're glad you have found us. This is such a wonderful place to be when the rest of the world seems cold and hopeless at feeling your pain. :hug:

How old is your son? Do you mind if I ask how far along you were when you MC? How long ago was that?

I really hope that you only have one 2WW. :2ww: Fingers crossed for you. :stickyvibesgirl:

Here's my story: I am 29, very very close to 30 (in 18 days time), and I have a daughter from a previous marriage. She is one week off 10 years old. She had an idential twin sister who we lost at 1 week old to 'twin to twin transfusion'. One baby was much bigger than the other and took all the goodness, preventing the other from growing. We didn't even know we were having twins until 1 week before the birth as I had been against ultrasounds (not knowing their true affect at that time, I figured I would only have one if I needed one). Dr sent me for a scan at 27 weeks, and after 3 amniocentesis to try and reduce the amount of fluid to allow the little one to grow, I went into labour at 28 weeks. Delivered by c-section, one baby was 1.1kg, the other 470g. One week later, our littlest angel died. The whole time looking back is really a blur. It was so unexpected. We only knew about our second little angel for 2 weeks, one week in my tum and one out.

I am now remarried (for just over a year) and we are TTC, after a year of actually wanting too, but not having permancy in my job). We had a MC 2 weeks ago (at 5.5 weeks) which was very sad and unfortunate, but my recovery has been speedy thanks to BB. I have ignored doctors orders to wait a month and we are TTC straight away. I have done copious amounts of research and have come to the conclusion that I can't change the bigger plan, we get what we are given, and when it is time for us to have a baby, one will be given to us. So, if indeed we should wait a month, then no matter how hard we try this month, we won't fall. Yet if we were meant to fall pregnant this month, we will. So let's just see what happens. I have no clue as to what my cycle will do. I have read of women who have had to wait 5 months for AF to visit. I have also read that you can ovulate two weeks after MC and conceive, and go on to have a healthy pregnancy. So that's what I'm hoping for!! Will just have to BD every couple of days, and hope the :sperm: catches the little eggy when she decides to arrive.

I have been having blood tests since my MC, watching my hCG levels drop. On the day I went into the hospital in fear of MC, by hCG was at 45. Two days later it was at 8, two more days later it was at 3, 5 more days later at 2, and 2 more days later (Wednesday of this week) still at 2. So I'm curious to see how long it will take to get to zero. I'm assuming I won't ovulate until it gets to zero. Perhaps you know the answer to this?

SO ... after all that ... :welcome:again. I hope we can all be of help to you. Any time you need to chat. Log on. There are many beautiful women on this site who will help you get through any dark times you may (but hopefully won't) have.:hug:

Love Joey :wiggle:

hey everyone

tempus- good to hear from you, i was just wondering where you had got to. GL with finding a new doctor and i hope you get some good news soon.

angel babies- have you got any news for us? am :pray: for a BFP for you.

jen- sorry about AF hun :hug:

issy- how are you? you've been very quiet cycle buddy...hope all is ok.

big hello to everyone else.

Just a quick note.... AF arrived... so that s me out for the cycle. Not really thinking to much about it.... just trying to focus on work.... no time for me to be a train wreck...

sorry bday buddy :( don't be too brave :hug:

tempus - great to hear from you

welcome ruthie - big hugs to you and wishing you the world!!

joey - thankyou for sharing ur story.

hello and hugs to everyone!!

hi all, im back from a a lovely romantic weekend away ;);)

jen: i was thinking about you over the past few days, so sorry to hear AF showed, your chart was looking so promising...as you said next month is another opportunity....

ruthie: welcome babe, sorry that you have to be here, but this is a really great, supportive place...vent as much as you need!

Angelbabies: so sorry to hear AF showed for you too sweeetheart...im really hoping that July will be a better month for us all...please dont lose hope, we will all get there...

melbourne girls: this is the first ive heard of this meet up! are there many ttc'ers going? I was thinking about it, but dont wanna be the only one there who is not pregnant or has a baby...i dont think i could handle it...

AFM: DH and i had a really lovely relaxing weekend (and yes, there was some :bd:ing !)
So, i have all my fingers and toes crossed for this month. This is the one that ive been thinking about since i had the MC ...that i just need to be pg again by the time my EDD arrives. Its on the 20th of July, so if were not successful this month then i wont be...and im not sure if ill get through it...so, if there is any :pink-babydust: floating around here at the moment, could i please have some?

Good morning, girls! Doesn't seem like there's nearly enough :bluedust: :pink-babydust: going around these days! Don't want to forget those :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: That's better, ok, here goes...


Toccara--Oh, hon, sending you huge hugs! We all know how difficult this TTC journey can be--it's a long, bumpy road that has many up's and down's along the way! Harder still are the obstacles you have to get around, i.e. friends or family that are pg or giving birth, misc. pg women you come across on a daily basis, baby showers, even just seeing babies at the grocery store! There will be days where these things don't affect you at all, but often there will be days where it just stops you in your tracks and makes you feel like someone swiped your feet out from under you! Suffering through a m/c, and then picking up the pieces of your life can be the biggest challenge, and can leave you feeling physically and emotionally drained. I know those dark days of curling up in a ball in the dark, just wanting to get through another day of not being pg, my heart truly breaks for you! Please just know you'll get through this after time, and you'll heal and have the ability to deal with the up's and down's with a little more ease. We're all here for you, and we've all walked in your shoes, so you're not alone in this! Sending you the biggest, hugest hug imaginable!



joey--Thanks for sharing your story with us! It's amazing how something so traumatic, once written down and shared, begins the healing process--not only for you, but it gives others affirmation that they aren't alone, therefore allowing them to begin to heal just by reading your story! Sharing your experiences is a powerful tool for yourself and for others, and I'm grateful that you're here with us, sharing this journey with us! :hug:


Hi, Ruthie, welcome! I'm so sorry to read of your losses :( but happy that you've found your way to our little thread! The women here are truly amazing, and I'm sure that you'll find all the comfort and support you need for this rollercoaster ride of TTC! Praying your TWW ends with a BFP--good luck with the fertility meds!


pbstar--Thanks for the hugs, sending them right back atcha! How's your TWW treating you?


Angel babies--So, so, so sorry to hear about AF! Grrr, for you and me both! Bring on the April babies!!! We're only 2 CD's apart, so looks like we're cycle buddies--would love a shared BFP for both of us in July!


tina--Thanks for thinking of little ol' me! Glad to hear you enjoyed your romantic getaway! Crossing fingers and toes, arms, legs, and eyes that you caught that egg! Here's some :bluedust: :pink-babydust: just for you!

Ok, I ran out of smilies, so onto another post I go!


Krystie--Ok, missy, now I'm beginning to question your stalking skills! Hopefully DH has you hand-cuffed to the bedpost in some kinky fashion that's preventing you from your stalking :rofl: That's the only plausible excuse that I'll buy! Am missing your usual humor and long posts this morning! Hope things are well with you!!


issy--I've been wondering about you, as well! I hope you're doing ok! Sending big :hug:


:stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy: for our fortunate BFP'ers: JMG, Trac, Magda, nickster, Katiegirl, ll80, Anthonysmom, seenabeena, mmteacher, Canary, rainbowgirl, Emmy-Lou, plc, AJC, Mel, Karan, SaraJane, WTH, jenushka, and bettyboop--wow, this list is getting long!


:bluedust: :pink-babydust: for our TTC friends: smilanatu, tempus, Toccara, tina, Abbey, Vanaithi, Angel babies, Krystie, Easha, LizJessie, Natty, kittens, joey, pbstar, issy, mollycat, Jodsan, tutmae, Acria, megsmum, Antheia, Cierasmummy, treelo, Sandygirl, and Ruthie!


AFM... Nothing much to report as it's only CD 3 for me, feeling pretty crampy and just... blah at the moment. Just wishing I could push the fast forward button to O! Feeling a little less grumpy today so far, although the kids are still sleeping, so that may change! :lol: Sending hugs and well-wishes to all!

You know you're addicted to BB when:

1. You sign a 2-year contract and pay $60 more per month just to have wireless internet service for a 5 day camping trip!

2. Your significant other walks in on you checking the position of your cervix, and actually gets turned on from it! :rofl:

3. You resort to becoming an adult film industry advocate in order to keep things alive during those fertile times!

4. You read, post, and then refresh to read again in case you missed a post while posting!

5. You dream of being the first to post in the new thread!

6. You feel like you are wasting urine when you don't pee on a stick! :lol:

7. You see abbreviations in everyday life and try to work out what they mean in the TTC world (eg. DVD must stand for something like "Doing the vjay vjay dance"...) :rofl:

8. When you get excited about choosing a new ticker....oh the choices!!!!! :think:

9. You actually think in emoticons and abbreviations...and occasionally call your husband DH....and he says, "what the hell did you call me????".

10. And the biggest one of all....DH actually asks if it was a light or dark "BFP" (not positive test) and whether or not you used "FMU" to test!!!! (all in abbreviations...)

11. When getting a coverline makes you so happy, you feel as though you won the lottery! :excited:

12. When you look forward to going to bed just so you can wake up in the morning and add a new temp!

13. You say you are taking a break from bb and then spend 24 hours trying to do anything but log on, including cleaning, washing, ironing, shopping, all the while saying to yourself don't do it don't do it don't do it before finally breaking down and getting your bb fix...

14. You drag yourself out of bed at 6 am every morning even though you're still tired, just to have "quiet alone time" on BB while the kids are still sleeping! :shhh:

15. You get the butterflies while logging on to read posts! :hooray:

16. You keep your computer on all day long so you know as soon as someone has made a post!

17. You know you are addicted to BB when you go to put the date on something and you end up writing 9 DPO!

18. You're whole day is ruined just because you can't log onto BB, and you feel like you're going to go insane without it! :computer:

19. You climb a slide and drive up the tallest hills at your camp spot trying to find a signal so your laptop will work!

20. You bring your laptop to the drive-in with you so you can check on posts in between shows!

21. You check your chart at least every half hour, because what if somehow it changed?

22. You wake up at 2:30 in the morning to use the toilet, and contemplate logging on to see if there's any good news that can't wait until morning!

23. You wake up at 3 a.m. and have to pee so bad, but you know you'll wake up at 6, so you hold it for three more hours so that you don't ruin your temp!

24. You toss and turn every morning waiting for it to be time to take your temp!

25. When DH comments that he's your family, not the girls on BB! (What does he know, anyway? lol...)

26. You sign on from your mobile phone to let off some steam!

27. You post 3 times in a row, and twice was just because you ran out of smilies!!!

28. Your dreams are filled with reading and typing posts!

Jenushka - Thanks for the sweet compliment :hug: I checked out your pic and both you and your DS are gorgeous! Your DS is such a cutie but he also looks like he could be a terror when he wants he! :ROFL:

Tutmae - I would also love to have two babies from 2 separate pregnancies, but I haven't managed to convince DH on a second baby yet. If I just popped them out at the same time though... ;)

Joey - Apparently you can ovulate as soon as your hcg drops below 5! And I've heard of cases where the hcg has still been about 25 when ovulation occured. I don't know what my hcg level was when I first ovulated because my levels weren't being monitored. Looking back on it, I kind of wish I had known though.
Thanks for the site with the free tickets! I printed one out!
And finally, I think you are extremely brave for sharing the story of your daughter and her angel-twin with us. It is a deeply saddening story and must have been very hard to share with us. Your earth-daughter must be such a strong little girl to have been born at 28weeks and only 1.1kg and to be a happy and healthy almost-10-year-old. :D
When you are pregnant again (which I'm sure will be soon!) will you choose not to have ultrasounds again? I don't mean to pry and you don't have to answer, I'm just curious :)

Toccara - You know you addicted to BB when you sign on from your mobile phone to let off some steam!

plc - Have just got your pm and am about to reply to you! :hug:

Ruthie - Hi sweetie, welcome to the thread. Although you have found yourself under sad circumstances, I promise that all the ladies in here are amazing. Everyone is compassionate and supportive, and we'll all hold your hand through your TTC journey and pray that it is a short one for you! :hug:

OK, too many smileys for one post for me too!!


pbstar - Have you ovulated yet?! Hope the soldiers hit their target! Lol, I can't imagine ever asking any of my friends a question like that in real life! :ROFL:

Angel Babies - Huge hugs to you sweetness :hug: It's so devastating when our bodies give us all the "right" signals but then af turns up. Hopefully your body was doing a practise run for an April baby!

Tina - I'm going to the Melb meet-up SOLO! No baby or preggie belly for me. I'm usually pretty shy, but everyone was nice to me at the pregnancy center open day so I figure they'll be nice again, lol. I'm going to get there around 11-11.30 so I hope to see you there!

Jen - I'm sorry, I was too busy sitting outside you house and looking in your windows to stalk your chart and post on BB ;) :ROFL: Ok, it's 1.50am here and I've just scared myself a little because it's windy and dark and I heard a noise outside the window... I'm a bit of a scaredy cat!
I put another "You know your addicted" in Toccara's message!

And here's another too:

"You know you're addicted to BB when you post 3 times in a row, and twice was just because you ran out of smileys!!!"

AFM - I'm still in the land of unknown. My miscarriage must have messed around my body more than I thought because I still wither haven't ovulated yet, or have ovulated really late and my temp hasn't even gone up yet! Poor DH isn't keeping up too well. I never ever thought I would hear him say "Do we have to have sex again tonight?" in the hopes of me saying "no"!! :ROFL: I've let us go back to BD'ing every second day instead of every night, because in all honesty, my hips are starting to hurt!!! :cryinglaugh:

Krystie--I thought you were a member of the granny's club, what are you doing awake at almost 2 a.m.? :lol: Have to admit I thought you forgot all about me when I finished your first post--was like, "What? Maybe she didn't like my comment about being hand-cuffed to the bed!" But I feel much better knowing you were sitting outside my house, looking through the window the whole time! :rofl: Sorry to hear about your temps, I know how frustrating it is when you're waiting to see that coverline! Poor DH, he sounds like a trooper--don't forget option B, you can always put a movie on to help spice things up! :lol: Unfortunately, it will only make your hips hurt worse! Wheelchair, anyone?

Oh, added those to the addicted list! Thanks!

I HOPE YOU GET THAT EGGIE AND COME BACK WITH BFP NEWS!! I would be so happy for you!!!
My story is very long...My son is 3 now and a true Miracle. Since I have PCOS My periods are so irregular last year (2007) I only had 2 the first one was o n Aug and it lasted all the way to October. And the second one was Dec12th. !!! I have been with my husband 7 years and never used any type of contraceptive ever in hopes of getting pregnant and nothing ever worked. My family never understood just like I read many women here..people always said,
don't stress it ..it will happen".. NO IT WONT!! I DON'T OVULATE I HAVE TO STRESS AND WATCH MY BODY SO I KNOW WHEN I DO I CAN BABY DANCE AND GET THAT EGGIE!!.. SO after a doctor finally diagnosed me they look at me like "poor poor infertile Ruth"..She is the only one who can;t have kids everyone else are fertile myrtles!!.. It gets to me so much. Well my sons pregnancy was a blessing but also a true nightmare i away.. He was very wanted as I underwent fertility meds to have him.. that month my doctor told me to start testing from week 3 of that LMP..BFN..week after that BFN.. I was so frustrated...one more week after that BFN.. Doc finally told me to get a blood tests and if it didn't come back + then the meds didn't work...so I did a blood tests.. NEGATIVE!!..So doc told me to see him..he needed to see if my tubes were ok and why I wasn't PG.
He did a "you know pelvic exam and went hmmm.."..did an ultrasound AND I HAD A BEAN!!!.. I WAS PREGNANT!!!!!! Beautiful heartbeat ..that was the most amazing sound I have ever heard!! I was 6 weeks..and yet that day my HPTS were still negative?.. Doc said that my hormones were very low and I was at risk of m/c so I got a progesterone shot and a week later.. BFP!!!
at wee 28 I had contractions and my baby had punctured the sac.. I was slowly but steadily losing the amniotic fluid..so I was put on extreme bedrest..then my blood pressure went dangerously high..they put me on a heart monitor till the day I delivered. it really sucked...
My doctor said that at week 28 my baby was probably not going to make it and he gave me a steroid shot to mature babys lungs as he was not going to make it full term. Doc said Ihe had to prolong my PG as far as possible. It worked..but at week 34 when the nurse did my first check up in the AM.. The baby wasn't moving...and the heartbeat was so low... I was so scared. He was still alive but no one knew for how much longer..so they called docs and I had an emergency C-Section. He was 4 and a half pounds and he screamed for life!!! he made it!!!!! He was so healthy that the docs only kept him in the NICU 24 hrs and the next day I had him in my arms...!!! No TUBES!! HE BREATHED ON HIS OWN!!.. A true miracle!!! That was a true happy ending..but 9 months later I underwent fertility meds got PG and again BFNs till week 6....before I even made it to my first docs appointment I was already contracting and bleeding. I went to ER but it was too late my baby was already passing in my cervix. Doc said that since I was only 6 weeks I could TTC again in 2 months..so I did. Nothing...a year later in 2006 I went fert. meds again..and again.. I got PG and m/c due to low progesterone. What's hard is that I don't show a BFP early ..it's always at 6 weeks and it doesn't give me time to know that I'm PG so I can get a the Prog. shot! It really sucks...

So here I am almost 2 years after my 2nd m/c still hoping I have another miracle. People have called me selfish for wanting another child. OMG it makes me cry so bad. Why does that make me selfish???

No one understands..and it seems like wonderful women online whom I don't even know understand much better than those I know.
I'm so looking forward to make friends here...
I will test in the 4thof July (I will be 6 weeks then) and see if I finally am PG!!.. I will let you know. I have had so many heartache.. I just want all this to end and I could fast forward to the amazing moment that I'm delivering a healthy baby (girl..LOL)
I hope I have a girl this time..but a healthy baby boy is so welcome too!!!
Good luck to you and **sprinkle sprinkle with baby / BFP dust*****:pray::pray::pray:

hugs,
Ruthie:)

I really look forward to knowing all of you!! I see already I will be very blessed to know you girlies!!!

if you want e-mail me so I can give you the link to myspace page (if you have myspace) Just let me know you are from BellyBelly
I'm always on there and you can see pics of my miracle baby and us.

Good luck to all of you I'm sending my best wishes and of course.....
***BABY DUST******
hugs,
Ruthie