Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss #2- June 2009

[Sunbeam]

Hey cherished- I know exactly how you feel one m/c is bad enough but to go through it again feels totally unfair. I can honestly say I felt much worse and much more cheated the second time so I know where you are at. Big hugs babe

Milly- good luck with the exam.

[Sunbeam]

Anila- cd45 is long but I o'ed and still made it to cd47 hang in there babe, a/f should be just around the corner. Hope she hurries cos given my long cycle we can still be in the TTW together then.

[Cherished]

maddison, Anila, milly & Sunbeam thankyou for your hugs girls they really do help even though you may think they don't

Smallfry don't be a DONKEY up until 10 days ago I was still posting in this thread and the ttc 6+ mth thread because I would have missed everyone! Hugs from you are just as welcome as hugs from everyone else and even better your's are surrounded by Rainbows Thanks beautiful girl and I know this one will be a forever baby for you xoxoxo

[milly5]

Hi ladies,
just a quick post, because I know I said I was studying...

Someone else I know just told me they were pg. Yay them, boo me.
sorry, just had to do that.

[Cherished]

I love you milly If it makes you feel better I am having a crap day too

[Sunny Love]

ok everyone.....seen as were all having crappy days lets do something to make ourselves laugh............hysterically if possible...........until we wet our pants!
Im going to........
.....go thru a Macdonalds drive thru (on my bike this time as ive pulled this stunt many times before) and ask for a takeaway order! hehe stumps the young kids at order box each time. You should all try it!

What will you do to make yourself laugh today??????????

Oh and SMALLFRY......Cherished is right.....DONT BE A DONKEY! Having success in the thread is wonderful, even though we don't see your ticker its good to know things are going well for you and can for us one day too. Eeee-Orr! (Donkey noise impression!)

Milly....keep up the studying (whats it for again sorry?) and good luck with those exams. So glad I dont have to worry about that stuff anymore.

Sorry if I missed anyone....go try and make yourselves laugh!

[Sunny Love]

Anila.....maybe we should start waging bets on which one of us will have the longer cycle. You're in the lead so far....but im catching up. Only way I can make this LOOOOONG cycle have silver lining is to compete now! Such a contradiction as I want a shorter cycle, but hey, thanks mother nature- WITCH!

[Anila]

we could all put bets on who will have the longest cycle!

What does the winner get? Obviously the looser gets af, maybe the winner could o early instead.

Anila, hope af comes, or is the EWCM you ovulating now??Are you just in case??

yep we have been bd just incase, but im soo lost the only thing i can think of is that maybe its a second o, but isnt cd45 a tad too late for a second o, and i havent had any real cramps, but i have had a real horrid metalic taste in my mouth, i have had it before in pregnancy and with af, so still in limbo.

ooh dinner is here, chinese, will come back and do perssies later

[ferrals5]

Morning ladies
It must be the weather i have been feeling miserable aswell to the point DH and i went to see a councilor yesterday i just felt i wanted to give up on the whole baby idea everyone around me is pregnant and i'm not copeing with it i also had a bit of a temp drop so RB is on the way i don't feel pg and have a huge mountian growing on my chin so i feel like crap.

Sunny09-you made me laugh i had a visual of you on a bike at macca's lol

Smallfry-you give us hope it will happen so don't go and the kitten story had me and DH laughing so funny i'd love to see it.

Milly-study yuk!!! you poor girl good luck with it.

Anila- your still going i'd be going nut's your are a strong girl lets hope it's a BFP for you and not a really long cycle.

Sammy-you made me teary eyed with what you said to cherised.

Cherished-i hope your bleeding settles down for you and you can avoid a d&c that just make's having a m/c even worse hang in there.

Coco-yummy you sound like you enjoy cooking

KM1- i know how you feel no one was pregnant around me and then when i lost abbi BAM!!! every ladie and her dog is up the duff gggrrrrrrrr!!!!!

TinaR-hang in there hun it's hard i know i would be going on maternity leave next week and have about 6 week's to go but i'm still at work a constant reminder every day that i'm not pregnant and yes we have the weekend to look forward to even though i'm working.

[India's Mum]

Hi Cherished

Some days are harder than others, that's for sure! I have just come back from organising a few things for DD for Christmas and it's brought it all back to me. My baby had been due on Christmas Day and I couldn't help but mentally pick out a few things I would have bought for baby. It really must be so hard for you to have to go through this again. But this is just a bad day and good ones will soon follow and then when you (we all) get our wish some really amazing days after that.

[Cherished]

Thanks girls, you are lifesavers...

sunny you are too funny... Can you order me a choc sundae?

oh Sammy those kind of dates are the hardest I think... You will always remember them

As if things couldn't get any worse... I am bleeding and it is getting heavier again I called the place where I got my D&C last time and they said to come in and they will do a scan and see if I need a D&C... I am booked in for next Friday

[KM1]

Cherished, Anila and Milly I know exactly how you feel...I am having a crapola day. My sis just gave me the list of who she would like invited to her baby shower, hosted by me at my house..she doesnt know I mc'd so how could I say no? Found out from her 2 more of our friends are pg, one due on my woulda-been due date. And that a friend of a friend who does drugs and drinks like a fish is apparently 13 weeks pg but didnt know til now.

Could anyone else possibly get pg that I know? *sigh*

Anyway, sorry for the whinge but felt like joining in....

[GIVENUPHOPE]

Hi there ladies,
I happened to stumble onto this web page and cant believe what im reading...
For the past 5 years i really thought that there was something wong with me and that i was the only person that was dealing with miscarriages. Let me take a moment to explain, I am 25 years old and i have had 6 miscarriages. Each time i have been able to carry between 8-12 weeks and no longer. I have been for hundreds of differnt opinions and each one has said the same. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS BUT I CAN SEE NO REASON WHY YOU HAVE LOST THE BABY......
I have gotten to a point in my life where i have to try and stop myself fom looking at ever pregnant women that i see and asking,WHAT MAKES HER A BETTER MOM THEN ME!!!
I have given up all hope and i find myself avoiding my friends(all are married and are starting to fall pregnant).
Please if there is someone out there with a bit of advise or even a hopeful story please i am all ears.
Ladies i must admit you have a wonderful suppot group and as a outsider i must for you.

[zstar]

top of the morning to you all!

there seems to be a lot going on!

sunbeam - yah for you!!! Go the TWW!!! i have everything crossed for you. i no nothing about compluters and HTML codes - dooh

eliselouise85 - great news from the doc - bring on af

hubba_bubba07 - sorry for your loss and don't be too hard on yourself about the little green monster that arises in all of us at times. hopefully it will pass soon.

catgirl - big welcome - you are in the right place. my sil started trying at the same time and her little girl was born 2 wks ago and there was a time that i couldn't look at her and i was so jealous but that soon passed and she is still one of my best friends. hang in there

tinar - good luck and i'm glad you have recovered from your 'down day' - geez - we all have them!

sammyp - hi, my first cycle after m/c i also noticed a little tissue type and very pink so i was glad i didn't fall in that first cycle. i personaly can't see how 2 years would make a massive difference in eggs. just my opion. i was talking to a mate on the wk end about how the stats go up so much after 35 and i was saying how can there be such a big difference between 34 and 35. i think age is just a number and when you are ready go for it.

givenuphope - one thing this site will do from the moment you start reading is make you feel surrounded by support and you will never feel alone again. there are women on here with so much strength and courage it blows my mind and when i'm down i think of what they have gone through and I keep going. i am so sorry that your ttc journey has been filled with so many upsets. please please keep up your posts on here about your feelings and the girls will all reach out to you and help get your through. stay strong. you should change your user name to 'ihaveheapsofhope'...... xxxxxxx

anyone else i've missed - i hope everything is going as good as can be expected!

afm - cd19 - battling with the tww this month more than other months. i am finding it hard to concerntrate and get motivated at work. had a blow up with dh this morning which is very rare. told him i was battling and he said in a typical male style 'stop thinking about it - you worrying is not helping our cause'. so then i blew up deluxe..oh dear. i just want to know now. not next week. now now now. arrrggghhh!!!!!!! my work is suffering and i really need to rely on my buddhism now and practice patience. easier said than done. i hate the tww wait today!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anila]

hubba_bubba07, catgirl and GIVENUPHOPE, i am so very sorry for all of ur losses, there are no words to express how sadded i am that u all have to join this group, but as u can see u have to come to a wonderful place, everyone here, has in one way or another, been through a loss, so everyone here, will understand all of ur joys and frustrations.
This is an amazing group of ladies, with whom i have learnt to become stonger and accept that my baby is with the angels, but have learnt that its ok, to always feel love and sorrow for that baby, and thats its ok, to talk about what what we are feeling.

So welcome not only to bb, but to this group of supportive ladies, we are here for u in any way that u need us, if u need to vent, cry, laugh or just a chat we are here.

Good morning to everyone else