Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss #2- June 2009

top of the morning to you all!

there seems to be a lot going on!

sunbeam - yah for you!!! Go the TWW!!! i have everything crossed for you. i no nothing about compluters and HTML codes - dooh

eliselouise85 - great news from the doc - bring on af

hubba_bubba07 - sorry for your loss and don't be too hard on yourself about the little green monster that arises in all of us at times. hopefully it will pass soon.

catgirl - big welcome - you are in the right place. my sil started trying at the same time and her little girl was born 2 wks ago and there was a time that i couldn't look at her and i was so jealous but that soon passed and she is still one of my best friends. hang in there

tinar - good luck and i'm glad you have recovered from your 'down day' - geez - we all have them!

sammyp - hi, my first cycle after m/c i also noticed a little tissue type and very pink so i was glad i didn't fall in that first cycle. i personaly can't see how 2 years would make a massive difference in eggs. just my opion. i was talking to a mate on the wk end about how the stats go up so much after 35 and i was saying how can there be such a big difference between 34 and 35. i think age is just a number and when you are ready go for it.

givenuphope -:welcome: one thing this site will do from the moment you start reading is make you feel surrounded by support and you will never feel alone again. there are women on here with so much strength and courage it blows my mind and when i'm down i think of what they have gone through and I keep going. i am so sorry that your ttc journey has been filled with so many upsets. please please keep up your posts on here about your feelings and the girls will all reach out to you and help get your through. stay strong. you should change your user name to 'ihaveheapsofhope'...... xxxxxxx

anyone else i've missed - i hope everything is going as good as can be expected!

afm - cd19 - battling with the tww this month more than other months. i am finding it hard to concerntrate and get motivated at work. had a blow up with dh this morning which is very rare. told him i was battling and he said in a typical male style 'stop thinking about it - you worrying is not helping our cause'. so then i blew up deluxe..oh dear. i just want to know now. not next week. now now now. arrrggghhh!!!!!!! my work is suffering and i really need to rely on my buddhism now and practice patience. easier said than done. i hate the tww wait today!!!!!!!!!!!

hubba_bubba07, catgirl and GIVENUPHOPE, i am so very sorry for all of ur losses, there are no words to express how sadded i am that u all have to join this group, but as u can see u have to come to a wonderful place, everyone here, has in one way or another, been through a loss, so everyone here, will understand all of ur joys and frustrations.
This is an amazing group of ladies, with whom i have learnt to become stonger and accept that my baby is with the angels, but have learnt that its ok, to always feel love and sorrow for that baby, and thats its ok, to talk about what what we are feeling.

So welcome not only to bb, but to this group of supportive ladies, we are here for u in any way that u need us, if u need to vent, cry, laugh or just a chat we are here.

Good morning to everyone else :hello:

:hello: Morning all, hope everyones day is going ok so far, the weather is beautiful where i am today so that always helps. Have just taken my puppy for a walk and im feeling really good now.
:welcome: Welcome hubbabubba, catgirl & givenuphope I know its not nice to have to meet in here but youve definately come to the right place for lots of support and people to talk to.
zstar thats no good you are struggling this month, its so hard not knowing when all you want is to know right now, but hopefully the wait will be well worth it and yeah maybe the buddhism will help you through it. Dont you hate it when dh says to get over it and stop thinking about it, they have no idea how hard it is to actually do, its always in the back of our minds. Hope this is your month :crossfingers:
Sammyp no good you still have AF. I dont think 2 years could make too much difference to your eggs and just think there are women older than you who fall pregnant and go on to have h&h pregnancies and bubs
TinaR hope you are feeling better today, we all have those down days were we just want to forget all about it but as long as we pick ourselves back up and keep moving forward we will get through it. Thats great that db will be around on your o day, very exciting.
Sunbeam cant help with the HTML code no idea about computers either sorry, hope you figure it out so we can see your lovely little ticker :)
:hello: Hello to anilla, maddison, sunny, coco and anyone else i have missed
AFM no changes so nothing to report.
Talk tomorow bye bye

Hello girls,

Welcome Givenuphope. I just wanted to say you have shown amazing resilience already, I'm not sure I would have been able to keep going through 6 m/c. I think you are stronger than you may realize and I sincerely hope you find the answer to why you continue to m/c as I understand it there can be so many different reasons. Maybe Flowerchild will be the best one to give some advise on this.

Welcome catgirl sorry for your loss I hope your journey back to a BFP is short and that we can offer you support and understanding in the mean time.

Zstar- I'm only 2 days into the TWW and I so know what you mean I want to know NOW too. I felt nauseus this morning which was a bit odd and my uterus felt sort of heavy and a bit crampy but who knows whats going on, really should be too early for anything. :think:

:hello: to all my other BB buddies

hey sunbeam

our pregnancies last time were soooo close together its freaky - so - lets do it again this month and bring on our :bfp:'s!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:dance:

Zstar-that would be really cool :bluedust:. I would also really like to be pg this month because if it sticks I will not be pg over Anzac Day next year which has been my m/c day for the last 2 years so :crossfingers: for both of us.

Afternoon ladies

Welcome to our new ladie's i am sorry for the reason you are here but i look forward to getting to know you and i hope you journey to your BFP is short and sweet.

Sunbeam-i have a good feeling about you this month you and your donnor daddy have really put a 100% into catching that egg let's hope this is it.

eliselouise-good to hear the doc think's all is ok i hope your AF returns to normal soon.

Catgirl-my SIL is also pregnant and is due 8 week's after my abbi was and i still cant bring myself to see or talk to her it is to painful for me.

TinaR-sorry to hear you had a bad day we all have them and we will most likely have a few more to come but i hope we can help you get through them.

SammyP-it is true that fertility declines dramaticly as you get older and over 37 it take's a big nose dive i am worried about my age i'm 35 but my professor said that the vast marjority of first time mums are now in there mid to late 30's and he said i still have a good few year's yet i guess for you the fact you got pregnant at 40+ is a good sign your fertility is still good all you can do is stay healthy and dont stress and it will happen i have a friend at work pregnant with her 5th at 41 seven mths after her last baby .

Givenuphope-sorry about your loss i was wondering have you had any of the babie's tested after you lost them it can give you a reason if it is genetic or chromosonal or at least rule it out.

AFM-I'm just trying to get through each day trying not to think about my fertile day's and the what if's i hope oct just get's here quick.
Last night at work i was thinking it would be 4 week's and my abbi would be here and i wrote a poem to put in the timber photo frame we made to put abbi's tiny pink cardigan,beanie and bootie's and ultrasound's in i hope you like it.
ABBI
Not a day goe's by that i don't think of you
What you would have looked like
What colour was your hair
Did you have my blue eye's
Was your skin real fair
I felt you move inside me
Like an angel dancing around
I couldn't wait to meet you
And hold you safe and sound
But heaven had other plan's
You were to good for this place
I'd never get to dress my girl
in all the frill's and lace
My heart and soul are broken
And beyond repair
From the minute you left this world
Life became so unfair
What i would give to have you back
And hold you in my arm's
To be your loving mum again
and protect you from all the harm
My only comfort that i have
Is knowing that someday
We will be together again
and my pain will fade away

great poem Ferrals4, im hoping you and dh have plenty of strength for the next 4 weeks,im sure its a very tough time for you hun.
welcome to all te new ladies! :D
AFM: Im completely bunged up with the flu! Hence why I havent been around posting! Getting a fair bit of BD in,hoping its my month (and everyone else's!!) like DH said!

Take care, be back when I feel better!

Wow - thanks for an amazing welcome! There's something about talking to people who hae been through the same thing that is so comforting :)

Good luck to you girls in the TWW - I wish I was there with you, but I had screwy cycles before I got preggers, so who knows when/if I'll ov!! OPKs are still very negative!

Lovely poem Ferrals4 - big hugs to you... hope you're doing ok

I'm going to see my doc tomorrow for my first checkup after my D&C... got lots of questions for him!!

hi all,

Ferrals - that poem is beautiful..it bought tears to my eyes.

Given up hope - Just for some inspiration..when I lost my fourth just a few weeks ago my boss spoke to me to give me hope. he and his wife lost 6 angels then had a boy lost another angel then had a girl. While it is hard and heartbreaking especially when they (docs) won't give us a reason why they leave us there is hope for all of us.

Thanks everyone for the uplifting 'hope ur better' messages. I'm doing great. I'm really looking forward to bd next week (I'm chasing :pinksperm: ) and then that painful tww. I've still got 37 of those 40 hcg tests so I can waste a few testing early :)

I've got a bridal expo to put together in 2 months...I'm freaking out!

Hey to everyone...fingers crossed and :bluedust::pink-babydust: to everyone....:pray: we all get out of here this month and move together into the due date.

oh ferrals, that poem was wonderful.

ferrals you are amazing and inspiring

Hello everyone,

I have been in Melbourne the last few days attending a bra fitting course and havent had a computer to check out whats been happening. I am officially out of the TTW. A/F arrived right on time yesterday which i feel fine about. I am all back to normal. A 28 day cycle... Fantastic. Im going to stop charting my bbt this month. Just bd when we feel like it, no pressure, no stress and see what happens. Feeling really good about it too. Like a weight has been lifted.

Ferrals your poem was beautiful. Im glad i didnt get any customers while i was reading it as it brought tears to my eyes.

Welcome to all the new ladies. I hope you find all the support you need here with all the wonderful women on this forum.

I hope everyone is well and having a lovely morning.
:bluedust: and more :pink-babydust: to everyone.

Hello Lovely ladies,

Ferrlas-that is such a gorgeous poem and shows me yet again how strong you are to carry on and cling to the hope of a beautiful bundle of joy. I'm sorry if time is dragging but it will all be worth it when you know you are pg with your healthy baby.:pray:

maddison- I'm glad you are happy to see af and that your cycle is back to normal. I think not charting and just going with the flow is a great idea. Donor daddy and I have taken months off completely before just because we needed a break from thinking about it the whole time. Its hard but it feels better the next month.

catgirl- I really hope you can get some answers from your doc today.

sunny09- sorry to hear you are sick hope you feel better really soon ready to chase the egg. :hug:

TinaR- happy egg hunting :fertilise:

afm- i was freaking out this morning as my temp is still only up by .1 (36.6) which is unusual for me in an ov cycle but then I went to the ovusoft website and looked at some other bfp crazy temp charts and felt a lot better. Because of the low temps I have started to use the progesterone pesseries already in case it means my progesterone is low figure I can always get more and it can only help. Still having strong o pains at odd times. Crazy freaky body!!

HI ladies,

It's been a while since I posted, but just wanted to let you know I was still here.
WAY too many posts to catch up on all the persies, so sorry if I don't mention you directly.

Welcome Givenuphope & catgirl, and any other new ladies I may have missed, sorry you have had to join us, but the ladies here are great?

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I'm not sure about how others my age feel but at 43 I am very concerned about my ability to have a healthy baby.

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Sammy I worry about this too. I am 37, no living children, and now, since the m/c I keep thinking that my mother had a very early menopause for her age, so maybe I am "older" than my age, and wonder if that's why we have had so much trouble TTC??

Sunbeam - so you're in the 2ww - as am I from today, so you never know, fingers crossed we will get to be BB together!!
Zstar - also in the 2ww - fingers crossed
who else is in the 2ww wait?

It's time for a new thread my lovelies... Keep chatting HERE