thread: Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage/Loss August/September 2009

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  1. #1
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2008
    525

    zstar - I had missed your post - how are you doing?

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jun 2009
    Brisbane
    132

    hi girls

    i'm going ok. brown stuff has backed off and now its just speckled dots some times. hard to explain. my hcg levels came back yesterday normal. ms is back - not to the fullest but back. the news that emmy83 has m/c has upset me terribly. you have to be so strong and brave in this game. i guess i'm upset and angry but you get on this site and see so many have m/c 1, 2,3, 4, 5 and so on times. everyone shows such massive strength. i have a client who is having her 2nd in 2 weeks and still heavily smoking and then there is everyone on here that is taking the best care of themselves they possibly can and no baby. i'm emotional and angry. i just want you all to know that we must keep going, stay strong and lean on eachother, this will all be worth it when we have our own babies to love and care for. some of us are going to have to fight harder than most to get the end result. I know i have been through nothing compared to a lot of you on here. you all give me strength. i feel better after that blah blah blah. i hope everyone has a good day.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    Melbourne
    423

    Zstar - so pleased to hear you are doing better. I felt as though I was holding my breathe for you. I know what you mean about seeing pregnant women smoke. When I see it I literally have to put my hand over my mouth and walk away because I feel like screaming at them.

    AFM - The bleeding seems to have almost stopped. I don't want to talk to my doctor now as I know she will tell me to wait a cycle before I try again but I don't want to - it didn't prevent me miscarrying a second time which was the whole point behind it. I feel very angry today.
    Last edited by India's Mum; August 21st, 2009 at 09:51 AM. : Forgot a bit

  4. #4
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2008
    525

    glad your doing OK zstar, and blah blah blah away.

    Sammy - sending you huge cyberhugs.
    I know what you mean about seeing pg women smoke. My key trigger is seeing "skanky ferral" (to steal someone elses words) people swear and yell at their children.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Jul 2009
    188

    is it true you have to wait a cycle if you have a chem pregnancy mc?? Im not sure..

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jul 2009
    188

    Yeah it ****es me off too! I understand yelling sometimes to an extent.. Not screaming at them but raising ur voice i think is ok if there acting up.. but swearing at them putting them down screaming and my biggest pet hate is mothers who smack there toddlers! what is that supposed to teach them? That violence is ok? WTF! I use the "go to ur room" or "naughty corner" option and it works quite fine, ive even got him saying sowwie, when he comes out and giving me hugs to make up for naughtyness.. hes so gud tho! got such manners for a 2yo (i no im bragging but hey)


    So im takeing each day as it comes for now... and enjoying every moment I have a bundle in my belly-- hopefully it will keep up till about 30th of april.. which is my due date according to my last af..

    Sammy - I always thought u were more fertile after a mc, is that really true that u have to wait a cycle?

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    Registered User

    Apr 2007
    Melbourne
    423

    Kyra - To be honest I don't know if my doctor will say I have to wait but I don't want to ask her because it means another frustrating 6 weeks of not doing anything if she says no (LOL - I could go against her advice of course but I confess to being a little afraid of her, she's tiny but tough!)

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    Registered User

    Jun 2009
    Camperdown
    421

    I have just been reading a few things on the net about temping for ovulation as i have never done it before and wasnt too sure what to be looking for. It says that when not fertile temp stays about the same, pre-fertile phase (generally around 12 - 24 hrs before ovulation) it drops about 0.2 - 0.4, and while the egg is being released or just after it rises again by about 0.2 -0.4.
    Does this sound right, i have no idea and want to be able to use temping to know when i am???
    The last 2 days my temp has been 36.2 & 36.1 and this mornings temp was down to 35.8 so im hoping that means im in the pre-fertile phase and my eggie will be released tonight or tomorow and we have plenty of time to BD, being the weekend and all

  9. #9

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    The day i had been dreading and trying to avoid came today my not so nice SIL spotted me at the shop's i tried to look like i hadn't seen her but she spotted me and made a bee line straight for me i havn't seen or spoken to her since i lost abbi and she was a b##ch to my mum she invited me to her baby shower and just went on about how she has had enough and just want's the baby out and she's sick of being sick and she has a list of what she want's people to buy for the baby shower and blah blah blah all about poor her i just said don't be offended but i wont come to the baby shower as i don't think i will cope to well and i need to be as stress free as possible for our IVF and she said it's been 5 mth's now isn't it time you moved on maybe it will do you good to come and be around some pregnant women to help you get over it i saw red and said i don't now if it's just hormone's or you are just plain f##ked in the head i said when you have your baby in 8 week's and you are holding it in your arm's imagine it is dead and you have to organise it's funeral and cremation than you tell me how long i should take to get over it i stormed off rang my mum and told her i will never go to a family avent while she is there what a cow she has shown my family her true colour's now my poor step brother married to it
    Sorry to winge all about me.

  10. #10
    LladyR Guest

    Hi ladies,

    Another newbie joining :-)

    We're currently TTC following our recent loss of 'Fuzzy' in July. We lost our beloved at only 4 weeks 4 days...

    We were told by the GP that since it was so early we should have no problems with starting againstraight away so that is what we've chosen to do. Fuzzy will forever be in our thoughts,hearts, mind & spirit, but having been TTC for close to 2 years, we're eager for our own little bundle of joy & have decided to try again this month.

    I have just O'd,and we've been BD'ing every day accordingly, so we are dearly praying this month will be OUR month, alongside all of you lovelies as well

    Does anyone keep an online Blog of their journey? Mine is at Our Journey To 'Sticky Bun' , and I plan to start to record Vlogs (my Channel is YouTube - LladyR's Channel) very soon as well so be sure to subscribe, and follow my journey.

    We live on the Sunshine Coast, and are being married in just 28 short days in beautiful Noosa :wub:

    We also have a 7yr old as well, who is my fiancee`'s from a previous relationship whom lives with us full time.

    This is TTC#2.

    Looking forward to sharing.