MissK - oh sweetie. I am so sorry that you lost your precious bubs and even more so that you have carried such a heavy burden of guilt for so long.
What happened is just a sad and heartbreaking coincidence. I think all of us who walk the path of loss have those thoughts and feelings of guilt, and "if only I" did or didn't do something. I for one have a bucketload, but thankfully, I was able to resolve any residual grief I felt, and in some cases I now make different decisions about some things and about others, I haven't changed what I do.
Each woman during a pg makes her own assessments of what risks we can and can't take and for each woman, the identified risks and conclusions will be different. For a woman who has a loss this task becomes even more overwhelming. I was, by comparison to now, much more blase in my first pg than the subsequent ones. Like someone said though, all the care I took in each subsequent pg didn't alter the outcome. It's almost tempting just to throw caution out the window and be wild and reckless -at least that would be a lot of fun, but that's not me. I couldn't live with myself if I did that.
But, ultimately, you are the one that has to resolve those feelings for yourself and work out what is right for you. We can all give you advice, but you have to do the hard work of sorting through how you feel. Hopefully the advice you receive helps you with that.
I honestly refuse to believe that for most women that we and our pg are so fragile that it can be interrupted by daily life activities. It's just a heartbreaking tragedy that some of us experience loss of our precious pg.
I waited at least a cycle before getting back into TCC after the first 2 m/c, but a lot longer after that. You will know what's right for you. I knew I was up for TCC when I was actually really excited about the prospect, rather than only totally fearful.
Loopie - oh my sweet blossom. I am so so sorry to hear of your most recent loss. It doesn't get any easier the more you have huh? it hurts just as much if not more, the only thing that perhaps is different is that you no longer have as much shock that it happened or that it happened again. As much as we hope for the dreamed outcome, I think we "recurrent-ers" almost expect a sad outcome. Well I do.
I read a book called Is my Body Baby Friendly by Dr Alan Beer. One of the theories he pioneered is about natural killer cells in the uterus, which it seems leads to early m/c It is very controversial, but there are a couple of Dr's in Sydney who investigate this. One is Dr Sachs ( I think he is at Sydney IVF Bondi Junction, but he does telephone apps). There is a another Dr in Sydney but I can't recall his name - it begins with a W. The difference between them is primarily the treatment they use. I understand from my own enquiries that a uterine bioposy is taken at a certain stage of your cycle and is NKC are high, then you can be offered treatment. My GF had a bioposy taken by her FS and the pathology was sent to Sydney for assessment. I would recommend you call and at least make some enquiries. I am not a medical expert at all but the book and my own enquiries opened up my mind to a whole range of possibilities.
Knowledge is power girl. I know its hard. It took me ages to summon the courage to call them, but once I did I felt so much better. It doesn't seem to be an option for me, but anecdotally a lot of people have had success. 60 Minutes did a feature on a woman who had endured an amazing( incomprehensible) number of m/c before she was treated by Dr S, and now has a bub.
KIT - hugs sweets. Hope it's not just a long cycle.
FERALS - enjoy your day!
TTCALC - good to hear you got a break from the snow? How are you doing?
RIC - Poor you, poor DH. Get better real quick so you can be BD'ing very soon again. Make him so extra healthy meals and make him rest so he keeps some good health up and load him up with Vit C and antioxidants. He'll think you are pampering him but really it is your cunning plan to reduce disappointment.
Mildez - Bugger. Did DH say why he wasn't keen? For some blokes they use money as an excuse to cover their fear. There are no guarantees with IVF, but a lot of people have success. You might be one of them. Maybe if you talked to him about how important it is for you and try and get out of him what he's really thinking?
Murraycod - how you doing? IT"S MARCH!!!!! I am vicariously excited for you. I know what you feel about being unmotivated. I think I am living proof of it. Whilst I am really glad to have given up work and whilst I know my job now is to rest, I can't be bothered most of the time doing anything much at all except sleeping and watching tv and resisting the temptation to come on to BB twice a day. I can't even be bothered to go to the video store or to read a book. I hope I can get my mojo back when I need it.
Hi to everyone else. I miss you, I think I have exhausted myself in this post and need to go rest. Ha! Have a god day.
To all our newbies I'm very sorry you're journey has not been good. I hope this site and thread brings you as much care and support as it has me over the last 10 months.
Louie- I am so sorry you've lost your fourth. I totally understand how that feels, it's heartbreaking. Do you know what tests they have done for you? There is a very comprehensive list on the TTCAMAL main thread. Maybe there is something they have missed. Do you have a fertility clinic? Often they have a recurrent m/c unit that might be able to offer some hope. Again I'm so sorry
Hugs to everyone More persies later.
AFM-I'm just off to start my blood tests to see if they can figure out a reason for my recurrent m/c. I'm hoping they find something but at the same time I hope it is something easily fixed.
Just popping in to say im doing ok.. Just been soo Busy getting this ready for court on the 4th for my step son & his sister( hoping for full custody that day)
Welcome to all newbies and soooo sorry for loss .. you in my prayers
Dory im doing ok yeah finally got away from snow .. now there talking about March might be a snow month.. no way im not ready for it at all..
Ric miss seeing ya in here!!!
Everyone else Best of luck and ill get back in here soon Been crazy around here
Hugs and love to all!!
I'm very sorry you're journey has not been good. I hope this site and thread brings you as much care and support as it has me over the last 10 months. 
More persies later.
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