thread: Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss Jan/Feb 2010

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  1. #1
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    Feb 2009
    In the poor house...
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    Hi ladies,

    Have been away for the weekend and we are absolutely pooped so this will be short...

    I think we need a big in here - looks like everyone is feeling a bit flat.

    I hope you are all well though and Sunbeam - I am glad to see your levels are rising !

    AFM - Its our 13th Wedding Anniversary today and we can both barely keep our eyes open. Takeaway for tea - couldnt even fathom getting dressed up and going out for a nice meal. Maybe another day...
    Today is our cutoff for DTD so DH has been kept quite happy over the last few days.

    Take care ladies, i will BBL to catch up

    xoxo

  2. #2
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    Sep 2009
    866

    evening all ,emmy-hope you don't have to wait to july..scarypinkfairy-glad you found your way home..ferrals -sorry about bfn,hope the naturepath can help turn it around for you..craftymummy-you've only got a couple of years on me,come on we can do this...sarahrach-good luck...ttalovechild-hope you feel more comfortable with dr next visit..ric-good idea on seeing specialist...mummyof4-glad af is over for you...sunbeam-great news...murraycod-boxing gloves in check,you too...jahzara-hope your anniversary bought some good luck...afm-seen new fs today,he was very nice,seemed to know his stuff,isn't going to do lap as he said at my age,have to get things started sooner than later,he said hsg i had could be accurate or not in showing tubal blockage,but what it came down to was 14 months ttc and no pregnancy,he also took into account before i suffered losing Matthew i didn't have trouble conceiving,so he has started the ball rolling,need to ring clinic tomorrow for interview app & book dh in for a trial sperm wash,hope that goes okay,last time he had to produce a sample i had to help,men can't trust them to do anything!

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jan 2010
    Ohio
    156

    Good Morning Ladies,

    Ric... your welcome sweetie.. hang in there, ill be praying for ya!!

    Mummyof4... thanks.. df is having ahrd time doing what he got to do..lol he said "Anita i cant do it like this..lol" but he is really trying
    and i know what you meant about the wait!! hang in there you will get thru this

    Crafysmummy... u about made me cry cause i was doing the same thing counting the days it would of been .. but i had to stop that cause that was killing me.. Hang in there dont give up just yet

    Sunbeam.... Im soo excited for you!!!

    Ferrals... Dont give up stays trong and keep at it..

    Murraycod..yes we do gotta put our boxing gloves on and kick butt

    Jahzara....happy anniversary!!!!!

    matthewwsmum.... thanks sweetie i sure do hope so to..

    Kitfaerie.... no its not and thanks sweetie!!!!!

    Kristen... tell DS Happy Birthday!!!!'


    AFM im waiting

    Much love and hugs to all!!!

  4. #4
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    Nov 2009
    In the hills - south east of Melbourne
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    I know what you mean Kirsten, when I told MIL that we'd had an early MC she told me she'd had one also. Its amazing to hear things like that, and to see how much the memory still affects her.

    AFM, still bleeding at the moment, so that's 7 days now, just when I think its slowing down I get a heavy day...

  5. #5
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    Sep 2009
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    morning everyone ,kitfairie- careful in that rain,let us know you get back okay...kirsten,kellym&sarahrach-every 2nd or 3rd person was opening up to me about their experience with loss after i had mine,it has definitely helped me being able to talk about it,older women stories show how much more support is available now,read a story about elderly lady who was in a nursing home,couldn't remember any of her personal details about herself except could remember her experience with loss ...ferrals-welcome home!..ttcalovechild-conserve your energy,you'll need it in a weeks time...jahzara-a bfp would be a great valentines present..thinking of you all,posters & non-posters good luck with whatever stage your up to in this hard journey were all on..

  6. #6
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    Jul 2009
    93

    Hi all.

    Thank you for your kind words and support. This is a wonderful place.

    sunbeam - as long as you hcg doubles that is what matters so it looks like a huge congratulations to you. I don't think we will ever be stress fress till we have our little in our arms.

    murraycod - Good luck with Harvey 2 - All we need is one to stick and this could be the one...

    t-hopes - Af for me after our m/c lasted for over 2 weeks and threw my cycle right out of wack. But have af again now and will be trying icsi next cycle. I was hoping that af wouldn't arrive as we tried naturally but that didn't work (although was fun trying). I wanted to go again straight away and my fs said ok but have switched fs and so have to wait till next cycle. That is all we seem to do is wait for one thing or another. But at the end of the day when we finally get that BFP it won't matter. I love what you said about looking at the big picture. It is just so hard when each month we want the two lines.

    kitfaerie - Good luck this cycle and praying for a librian baby for you. My DP is the same. He tends to be happy with what ever I want to do as long as I am ok. He would be happy with just the one we have and would be thrilled to have another so he said he will do what ever I want as long as I am ok.

    kellym - I have read quite a bit on here about just needing low dose asprin. How good would that be if that is all it took. Good luck.

    scarypinkfairy - Less than one week to testing now - i have all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

    ttcalc- only one week till you will be in the tww. Have fun trying.

    matthew's mum - Good luck with your fs appointment.How funny that you had to help dh.

    emmy83 -Heres hoping that you wont have to see your fs. You will make the right decision. Can i ask if your dd's were concieved prior to your ep?

    craftymummy9- Can i just say - Wow i find you such an inspiration. I hope you get your bfp this month.

    saarahrach - Good luck this month. I didn't wait before trying again. I figured they would be able to tell the age of the baby by ultrasound.

    ferrals4 - we go through so much each month. You are an inspiration to us all. Every month I reasess what we are doing. I go from one minute thinking this is it we should be happy with our dd to no i really want to try for another one. I think you are amazing and admire the strength you have.

    mummyof4- I am sorry you are feeling down. One of my best friends is pregnant now. We would of been having our babies one day apart from eachother. I am so happy for her but stil have moments of where i feel angry and disappointed that I am not having my 12 week scan and the rest of the pregnancy with her. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I pray that you get your bfp this month.

    kirsten - WHOOhoo so glad af has stopped. Are you trying again this month? And congratulations on your sons birthday.Three is a great age,

    to everyone else hi and good luck with what ever stage you are

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Member

    May 2006
    Port Melbourne
    1,448

    hello all,

    Jilly: it's annoying when you feel like you're just waiting and waiting for the next cycle the next af, the next O...and then you have to wait for the next FS and the next and the next and the next...such a long road sometimes isn't it?

    Matthew's Mum: that story about the elderly woman remembering her loss, so sad, I can't imagine it is something that ever leaves you.

    Sarahrach: I had that issue too, you just think that the bleeding is all over and a fresh round comes upon you...

    Jahzara: Valentines day testing sounds like a good idea, hope you catch the egg!

    Ferrals: rant and rant and rant! Go ahead! I love a good rant!

    Anita: DH's are funny when they have to "perform" I just don't tell my DP when it's O time, although he pretty much knows, but it makes it less...clinical, I suppose

    Kellym: it is terrifying isn't it...I'm almost too scared to BD at the moment, almost!!...good luck, lets see if we can get in the same BB thread again!!

  8. #8
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    Oct 2009
    surrounded by textbooks, cat toys and love
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    Rock out Murraycod I completely agree though, I dont think any of us should ever regret hope, we hope at O time that we caught the egg, and we hope at the end of the TWW that we get a BFP, if it happens we hope everythings ok, we dream our dreams and we talk about our fears, if we lose, we lose, but those dreams were real, and we should never regret the time spent dreaming about our babies, the ones we've lost, the one's we have and the one's we dearly dearly hope for. I wont ever regret the hours I spent talking to my baby (we'd nicknamed him Splat) and the dreams I had, it was worth it. And I'll do it again. My life at the moment is built on fear and hope, but the hope is nicer

    Oops, that was a bit Ranty McRantRant. Ranting with love though

    Ok!

    Sunbeam: Wheee! for levels rising, lol. Looking good

    Jahzara: Happy Anniversary! Take-away is still special, lol. Are you in the TWW now?

    CraftyMummy: It sorry your feeling sad, but your time will come! The next 35 week mark might be bringing you a baby.

    Mummyof4: So go insane, seriously, take some time and go crazy. Cry, scream, rant, you deserve it. Have some insane time, and when your done, take a deep breath and start counting again. Never underestimate a good breakdown

    Ric: I'm desperate for a baby too, lets all be desperate together Really hope you get the answers you want!

    Thopes: A really good lining sounds like the perfect place to start for a sticky bubba, fingers crossed!

    SPF: LOL! I'm sure the bumps will be fine DH and I both take natures own conception support (well he takes the boy version, lol), it's got peony extract in it to help regulate cycles. It worked last time!

    Sarahrach: Welcome, hope charting goes well!

    Ferrals: I'll echo everyone else here, dont give up!

    TTCALC: 9 days isn't too far away!! Good luck!

    AFM thanks everyone for your advice and for telling me about your experiences heading into the first TTC cycle after mc, it really helped DH is feeling more positive about the whole thing and I'm going to TRY and not give too much info. So everyone on here be prepared for waaayy too much info, lol. There's not much to report at the moment though, on day 4 (woop!) and doing well, pretty average AF. Driving to bris tomorrow in all this rain, so not looking forward to that!

  9. #9
    BellyBelly Member

    May 2006
    Port Melbourne
    1,448



    Sorry ladies I have been missing in action from here and there is so much to catch up on...it's DS's birthday today, which is lovely, he's 3.

    I agree with Jahzara we all need a big group hug in here



    It makes me so sad to know that there are so many of us in here. And it is also so sad how many people have lost their little babies. When I tell people I have had a miscarriage, so many stories are coming out about their losses as well. it's frightening how many people are living with this and not talking about it, that's why I feel so lucky to have found this thread, so much love and support in here. What a wonderful bunch of lovely women you all are! I wish that you could all be pregnant this cycle and all have lovely happy and healthy pregnancies and get to hold a beautiful little baby in your arms.

    Well, finally my bleeding has stopped! Finally! I suspect that the past week has actually been my period, but there was no break in the bleeding and no real way to tell, so I can only go on my hunch. So I might actually be on CD8, which would be exciting. I was bleeding for all of January except for Jan 1.

    <------ because I can't give enough of them in here!!

  10. #10
    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2006
    Melbourne
    843

    Hi Kirsten.. well written.. I completely agree with everything you've said... it really is scary how many people don't talk about m/c.. and I hate it. I'm so open about everything for that reason. Glad to hear your bleeding stopped.. we're back on the ttc journey again too.. it's terrifying but exciting. All the best.

    Kel xxx

  11. #11

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    See this is why i have trouble staying away you girls go and be all logical and say the right things i tried another forum and it's just not the same i tried to stay away altogether and have a break because i needed it but that didnt work i have been a bit down since i got back from hoildays i noticed i have over 500 post's and was thinking back to all the wasted waiting i have gone through we lost Abbi in march and had to wait until june for all the test results then we had to wait until november for our ivf then after that nightmare we have had to wait for my cycle to get back to normal and then got a BFN it is now February and next month on the 20th is Abbi's birthday one year since we lost her time is just getting away from me so i keep popping in to check up on you girls to reasure myself that i am not alone it helps.

    Mummyof4-read what you wrote i understand completely it isnt fair is it.

    Craftmummy-time might be an issue for you and maybe other women here but you were pregnant not that long ago that is a good sign you still are fertile don't give up just yet.

    Mathewsmum-i have a month until my naturopath appt i am looking forward to it and good to here your FS is going to get things moving for you sooner rather than later.

    Murrycod-THANKYOU you are my lifeline.

    Hi to all the newbies sorry if i missed you but i will get to know you all hopfully not for to long.

    So i guess seeing as i cant stay away i might aswell come back and post regularly if you don't object to my ranting and raving and carrying on when AF shows her ugly head.

  12. #12
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    Feb 2009
    In the poor house...
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    Ferrals good to see you back ! Rant away xo

    Kitfaerie - I think i am due to 'O' later in the week so not quite in the TWW - actually its more like a 2 and 1/2 WW - aaaah ! Thinking of testing on Valentines Day. xo

    BBL

    Have a great day everyone

    xoxo

  13. #13

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    Murrycod-goodluck with your appt you know what you want so go in there and tell them what the next step will be you are paying for their service so don't let them talk you into somthing if you know you want to try with harvey 2 first.

    Crafty-we need to get our butts into gear and be positive and get pregnant asap i'm sick of this mucking around and wasted HPT's and and sooooo sick of tampons i don't want to see let alone use them for the next 9 months.

    Hi to everyone i have missed i just woke up after working until 1am and have to get my ferrals off to school.

    AF was due yesterday i wish she would show up already so i can start useing my new bute fertility monitor i have my appt with Catherine chan on march the 1st she has a 90% success rate so hope she can get me prego quicker than us trying without all the herbal stuff i am still on vitex,macca root, royal jelly, coq10,iodine,and elevit so every morning is the same thing get up have my Decafe coffee gag on my tablets until i almost throw up and get on with my day lol what us women do to have a baby hope you all have a good day.

  14. #14
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    Jan 2010
    Ohio
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    Hey Ladies I dont got time to thank each and everyone of you so i will say thanks to all of you for all the good luck's and best wishes.. we sure do need it..
    We got a Appt. on the 10th to get the results of his spermy test
    im very nervous and scared.. but im sure everything will be ok
    hang in there ladies

    anita

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    May 2009
    Gold Coast
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    Hello Lovely Ladies,

    Ferrals- I am so glad you decided to come back to us. It is so good to have you here you are so inspiring amd besides you could not let us miss your BFP. I hope the herbs make all the difference. If you think the tablets make you gag wait till you see what kind of disgusting mixture a herbalist can mix up for you, mine was just foul!

    TTCALC- so glad you are back on track and ready to start bd'ing. I hope the FS can give you some good news.

    Murrycod-you go for it girl, ferrals is right you are paying them so they need to do what feels right for you. Bring on Harvey 2

    AFM-I'm still pretty calm. Have another bt on friday. Going to pg yoga tonight, I started back in october and i love it we do heaps of breathing and meditation and it is sooo relaxing.

    A friend of mine had a dream last night that she had drawn a picture of my baby in my womb and it was surrounded by yellow light blending into purple it sounded lovely.

    Hope everyone has a good day.

  16. #16
    Registered User

    Sep 2009
    866

    hello all, jilly&kirsten&sarah-how's today treating you?..craftymummy& ttcalovechild-thinking of you both...sarahrach-it's scary,it'll be worth it in the end,their is lots of paml success stories...murraycod&kellym-congratulations on being rak'd...murraycod-sorry you had to endure that physical pain again,don't ever apoligize for a me post,great news about app being moved forward,stick to your guns,you know what you want & need to do...ferrals-spoke to one of catherine chan clients the other day,she has been put on a detox program & was on the lookout for organic cosmetics..sunbeam-enjoy your yoga..afm-waiting for ivf registration papers to come in mail before i can make any app's

  17. #17
    Registered User

    Sep 2009
    WA
    508

    Morning !

    Hi ferrals hurry up AF and get it over with ! sounds just great the breakfast your having ATM I have had to stop taking vitex and also the prenatal vitamins as they made me feel so sick and gave me a real bad headache so I am back to just the usual folic acid once a day ! don't know why they make me feel so S##T but I guess they did the job for me and got me back on a regular 28 day cycle so thats the main thing.

    Murraycod I think you have to tell them what you want and there is a very good chance for your harvey no2 after all his mum and dad dare to give it a shot so why should it not work ! I have everything crossed for you !

    Matthews mum hope the posty hurrys up and you get a apt soon !

    everyone else hope your still feeling positive and ready to catch the eggie or get a BFP which ever part of the month your in !

    AFM well had a quite a few AF cramps the last 2 afternoons and followed by very mild spotting I mean really mild only on the tissue but never had this before so not sure whats going on ? not due AF for another 8 days ! oh well time will tell

    enjoy your day speak later !

  18. #18

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    Sunbeam-lol yeh i'm not looking forward to it the liquid form of vitex is horrendous all the other stuff is tablet so i just throw it down but i will do what ever it takes to make it happen quicker i'm glad your doing ok and i hope to see your levels have increased on fridays BT.

    Mathewsmum-ive done the organic thing it is very difficult i did that to get my estrogen level down and it worked but i will wait and see what catherine says when she looks into my eyes iridology i think thats how you spell it and she looks at your fingernails and tongue to see whats going on with me if anything as this was really my 1st month ttc after all that waiting so i shouldnt jump the gun and think it wont happen it didnt take us to long to fall pregnant with abbi so i need to tell myself to relax only a year has past a year that i regret not ttc while we waited so if i was nice and fertile a year ago there is no reason that it wont happen now (easier said than done) good luck on your ivf journey hope its not to much waiting for you.

    Craftmummy-maybe implantation bleed not much longer for you to wait and yeh the vitex is great for getting cycles regular mine were always 28-29 days until the ivf now i'm not real sure today is day 29 and i have had the sorest boobs they are also huge at the moment and have been getting AF cramping so i think my estrogen is high that is why my boobs are so sore and AF is not here yet i am taking vitex to try and balance out my levels but i think my hormones are excuse my language are f###ed up at the moment.