(I tried to edit my post but ended up deleting it .....)
here's what I wrote:

Thanks Kyrawolfe. Your ex-friend sounds like a right-royal-*$%#@!!!!!! That's pretty severe to warrant a kidney removal, that poor baby. It's tragic, and what all of us would do, and how much we all would love her if we had that little girl. WTF???

and what I wanted to add ...

and good luck with your testing - but i try not to test until af is due or at least late - because of chem pg (would rather not know) and then the times i was pg, did not get BFP until af due anyway. besides, it saves money not buying a dozen tests each month!! fingers crossed for you!!