Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - June 2009

melly - you go girl! Catch that egg!

janie - sorry you missed out last month and good luck for this month :)

milly - hope you don't miss out with all the overtime for DH. :crossfingers:

sunny - wow! I hope it's a real one for you! Can't wait to hear tomorrow!! Being so early, it's quite possible that it's a faint bfp so here's hoping it gets stronger over the coming days!!!

ferrals - so stoked to hear you say you had those pains too and that it was placenta implant. That fills me with more hope! Incredibly proud of your positive outlook too. Shows such strength of character and makes me feel happy to have the chance to share part of your journey.

Good evening to everyone else :)

AFM - wow, the nausea I'm feeling this evening is driving me nuts. My sis reckons I'm UTD (not that she'd know cos she never has been) and I reckon probably too but I still can't handle the thought of testing before monday morning so no confirmation til then.

Morning girl's

Smallfry-you are killing me with waiting until monday now i'm counting days for you to.

Sunny-what's happening with you anymore 2nd line's.

My tww wait is actually not bothering me this month as we were told to try to wait 2 months so if i'm not UTD that's ok but it always seem's to happen when you dont want it to or are not trying, my DH and i tried for 4 month's with abbi then i had to have surgery on my knee from a car accident so we didd'nt really try or temp and i found out i was pregnant the week after surgery anyway my temp is nice and high in between 36.7 and 36.6 so we will see
Well im off to work see ya's later

hey ferrals, it's starting to kill me too! lol My temp is up and fairly steady (drop yesterday but I waited too long to take it so that's understandable) and the nausea has genuinely hit in so either I have mild food poisoning or... I kinda want to test but want to wait as long as possible to get an accurate as possible result cos I couldn't take the bfn! I hope you are UTD cos that will mean they try and push your tests through quicker and you will have results that much quicker as well. I reckon you've had the 1 in 4 with Abbi and now it's time for one of the other 3 to be with you. :hug:

Anila, haven't seen you in a couple days, hope everything is ok with you. How was your little girl's birthday? did she get a party?

cherished - hope you're doing well hun :hug: stay strong, we're here for you.

Good morning to all :) I'm off to do an exam shortly... my first uni exam ever and I'm convinced I'll fail it! hahaha

:D Oh Sunny I hope that is a :bfp: !!!!!

Ferrals - I am so so sorry and I pray your CVS will bring you great news and 75% is strong odds of success honey.
SmallFry - I am getting so hopeful it is good news for you! I had little cramps to in my side when I fell pg with Charles so I am keeping everything crossed
Sunny - Darling hang in there it could be great news. I had an really faint line and it turned out to be a chemical pregnancy but I was in with a chance until then. Sending lots of hope your way.
Cherished - I am thinking of you honey.

AFM - in TWW and keeping my head down...supposed to be studying and avoiding it masterfully.
Much love to all
Delly

Oh my gosh I'm so excited I can't wait to see all those :bfp: flashing.

Truck loads of :pink-babydust: and :stickyvibesgirl: to all those testing in the next few days.

BFN this morning using a First Response Early detection test. Sooo disappointing. Thanx everyone for all your positive thoughts! Means a lot! xoxox

Janie, with all of the spotting you are having I would be getting onto some clomid or progesterone support. Spotting prior to your period is usually due to low progesterone. As you know we need a nice solid level of progesterone to maintain a pregnancy... Just a thought honey... :hug:

dellydoo - what are you studying? I just got home from exam number one for a social science youth work degree. Thankfully it was quite easy... Worried about next weeks though.

sunny, sorry for your bfn :( will you be trying again? Maybe it's too early, only 11dpo afterall...

AFM - nausea nausea nausea... thought I may have to run out and hurl during my exam this morning but managed to hold it together. Bring on Monday morning. I want to test so badly!!!

TEST TEST TEST!!!!!! :pray::pray::pray::pray:

I agree.... Test Test Test.... The suspense is killing us!!!!! :goodluck::crossfingers:

Hi all

I am sitting here in tears reading your positive post because I just cant seem to get it up.

My DH keeps saying he will get his swimmers tested but has the WORST memory, so I had to book the appointment MYSELF and i hate that! I HATE IT!

I have now officially been trying for 20 months and into the 21st month and NO help from my doctors, NO offer for refferal to fertility specialist, NOTHING. I have had to do it all myself...as usual...

I got my period 2 hours ago and Im feeling really very very depressed and like a complete failure that 21months in and all I have to give my husband is a tree out the back with a poem to our dead 7 week old baby under it, some baby clothes in a bag hidden in the cupboard and a swarovski crystal dummy I gave him when I got my bfp

maddison, sunny, it's killing me too because I'm 99% sure it wil be a bfp but emotionally need to wait til after sunday. Easter Sunday I MC at 5 weeks and if this is a bfp then Sunday is 5 weeks and I can't handle knowing before then and then having AF arrive just after... it's like I can actually feel it inside though, like a marble sized thing and if I lay on my side it's there... am I imagining things?!! lol perhaps.

coco - I say again what I said in the other thread, be strong. It's hard having to push all the time but just imagine what it will be like pushing out your baby and it will be worth all the pushing now to find answers :hug:

coco - :comfort:
is it that DH is not so much forgetting to make the appointment, but perhaps a bit afraid to? either way, it doesn't matter, and you have now taken the steps to get seen to. Fingers crossed this will bring you the answers and that BFP before too long. :comfort:

Coco im so sorry that you are feeling so upset and that you are having to do all this on your own. You should speak to your husband and let him know that you really need his help.
I think having something to visualize is really important so i have my small supply of baby clothes hanging up in the spare bedroom at home. Usually the door is closed but i often go in and imagine what it will be like in the future. I find it helps gets me pumped for the future and some days it helps me to cry when i need to have a cry. Dont hide your baby stuff in a cupboard. Be proud of wanting a baby.
I hate ringing for appointments and asking people for things but just remember why you are doing it. Take charge of your medical care. Demand a referral to who ever you feel you need to see and demand they help you.
Use this sad time to make you strong and go after what you want. You WILL have a beautiful baby!!! And im very sure your husband is so in love with you and doesnt think you are a failure at all beacuse you arent.

Coco hun I totally understand your frustration. I'm now into month 27 of trying 2 m/c later and still no baby. But maddison's right we have to take charge. I'm very proactive though (and maybe a bit demanding ;)) so I asked for the referral to the FS our second month of trying as I new from charting that I needed help to ovulate. Thankfully, I also went in armed with knowledge from net research about what I wanted as they wanted to start me on hormone injections and start IUI straight away without even one proper cycle of us trying on our own. I've also made all the appts. for donor daddy and told him when and where he needs to be. Even for a gay guy though I'd imagine a semen analysis is a bit daunting (though he'd never say so) it's a real manhood sort of issue having good swimmers. I guess most guys would also feel they are letting there partner down if they can't give them the one thing they so desperately long for.

This is a horrible and hard journey so I hear you loud and clear, the longing is definitely over whelming sometimes.

Evening all, sorry for the mia, but i have been having net issues, i have read through quite a few pages now, so too many to do personals for for, except..
ferrals, awe hun, i really wish i could have been here for you when u posted ur results.
Im glad everyone else was here to give you the support that u needed.
Coco, im so sorry that af has arrived.

afm, no af, still spotting on and off, mostly tinged cm, except today was more brown, got a bfn yesterday. cd39.

Smallfry-i think you are pregnant the one thing i have learnt through everything i have been through lately is that when it comes to pregnancy and what goe's on in our body it is something that you really dont have much control over if it's meant to be it will be and i think nature takes it's course when we are pregnant if baby is healthy and all is good it will stick so try not to get yourself worried over the dates of previous M/C consentrate on being healthy happy and destressed for that baby that i'm sure is on it's way.AND FOR GOD SAKE PUT ME OUT OF MY MISERY AND TEST( lol )

Dellydoo-thank's i think my odd's are worth the risk it's just going to be the awlful 12 week wait to get the all clear when we are pregnant and i'm in the tww to but i'm not to worried about it this month i think we missed the egg.

Sunny-sorry hun you diddn't get your BFP this month.

Coco-i'm feeling ya hunny i can give my ex a#####e 3 beautiful boys but the love of my life had to watch our stillborn daughter being born and he feel's that he cant give me a healthy baby either i feel like i have failed him and he feels he has failed me.
But after 21 months you should be looking into the reason why so you can get some answers and i have all my baby stuff set up and waiting except a few thing's that were ment just for abbi but it give's me hope and i go in the baby's room and look at them from time to time.

Anila-good to see you back thank's for thinking of me the girl's gave me some encouraging word's and i'm trying to be positive we have to be i want to give the love of my life a baby so i will do what it takes to do that sorry to here your spotting and got a BFN i guess we will be here to keep each other company a bit longer.

I'm going to have a shower i will get back to you girl's i missed