Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - June 2009

:sick: did I REALLY say that the nausea was gone??!?! far out... have had it hit me real bad over the last half hour to an hour. I strongly suspect that it's because I have a migraine coming on and not because I'm pg. The migraine will, of course, also be related to the onset or soon arrival of AF so... yeah... I so don't want to let go of the possibility of a bfp this month but the more time passes the more likely I think it will be an N instead of a P after my BF this month :(

:hug: Cherrished no words can say how sad I am. Be safe and look after yourself my :pray: are with you :comfort:

Hello girls :hello:

I am very teary today. I keep thinking about what cherished is going through and what we've all been through, it is all so unfair.

Maddison and Anila, thank you so much for talking about holding your babies. If I had been at home I would definitely have done the same but I was in hospital in the emergency department and to be honest I'm not sure it occurred to me that it was my baby in the toilet until after I'd flushed as it just looked like more blood. Over a year ago now and it still feels like yesterday, I still hate to think thats where my precious baby ended up.

Dellydoo- I'm glad you have joined us though I'm sorry you need to be here. I hope you feel as much support as I have from these wonderful women.

Janie-any news? You must be day 14-15dpo :crossfingers:

Maddison-good sign that your temp still going up:crossfingers::bluedust:

coco and smallfryplus fingers crossed for bfps'.

ferrals4- Very good luck I hope tomorrows genetics appointment brings the best possible news, thinking of you.

ferrals - go well tomorrow. Have been thinking about it all day today. My prayers will be with you tomorrow at 10am for the RNS (I spent a month there when I was 16... I found the nurses and doctors there to be very friendly and lovely).

sunbeam - missed your post, you're so right, it is incredibly unfair to see another tragedy take place. :hug:

:grouphug: for all, cherished, we feel your pain and I hope that by being able to share it here, it helps to reduce some of it.

ferals: good luck for tmo hon, will be thinking of you and waiting to hear from you!!!

Cherished: hope you feel better tmo :hug:

Sunbeam: I was teary too...the whole TTC thing sometimes seems like a lost cause doesnt it??

I am so glad to hear others have held their babies after passing them, even if its gross/weird...I did it, I cried and said goodbye. I was having lunch with my mother in law before the scan... :( was awful!

I am expecting a temp drop tmo if my cycle is a :bfn: and then spotting late tmo afternoon..or just tmo sometime...if not then, then on thursday :( I am going to test tmo morning with FMU. Im sure that a bfp would come up with the first response or discover one step by this stage wouldnt it???

Hope everyone is having a good sleep. Im going to snuggle up with DH and bring on tmo morning for temping

love love love xxxxx

thanks girls.....

I got very drunk last night... THANK GOD! I have a dr's app today to get another HCG test but it is pointless as the scan showed no signs of pregnancy.... Is it worth having so that I can compare them for my next pregnancy? I kinda think that each pg is different and why bother iykwim? I had a HCG test on Monday (the day I actually miscarried) and if the scan had of been ok the one today would have showed me in the HCG was going up or down.... obviously it is going down! What do you all reckon?

I am off to work now for 3 hours than I have the day off with dh again....

Cherished - I totally get you getting drunk last night - sometimes we need to just get loose. It might be worthwhile to have the test - I had a chemical pregnancy and even though I had started to bleed I had to have a second BT to compare - it's to make sure the HCG is dropping correctly.

Coco - I hope you get a BFP - sometime the HPTs don't get it right first time

Smallfry - Fingers crossed nausea is a good sign!
Sunbeam - I know what you mean - it just doesn't make sense
Best of luck to us all
Delly

Cherished, i did the same thing too, had a few drinks, i was advised to have a bt to see if the hcg levels were dropping, but i didnt see the point, i didnt want to have to wait around at the drs, to hear what the scan had told me, so i just poas a few days later and it was bfn, but it depends on you and what ur dr recomends, the day before i mc my bt was 73 at 6 weeks 1 day, so we knew it was going to happen, didnt want to accept it though.
If u need the results to compare or to say good bye well, u should do it.
buts its totally up to u hunni.


afm, cd37, no af, no more spotting, no positive test!

cherished - I agree, it's very much up to you if you feel the bt is needed. As you say, the scan already confirmed.

Anila - sorry no outcome... frustrating isn't it?

AFM - temp went up today to highest yet this month, I guess that's a good sign. Still no AF. Still waiting for the weekend to test again.

Ferrals - you'll be at the specialist appointment now. Hope it's going well.

Sunbeam, coco, maddison, how're you all going?

Janie, everything ok? Haven't seen you in a bit. Hope you're good.

Hi tinar, dellydoo, km1 (has the bleeding completely stopped yet?), zacsmum (how did the naturopath go?), milly, juleswa... :grouphug:

As predicted im spotting...and im out again..so feeling like TTC is a lost cause..

:rolleyes:

Sorry to have been so MIA recently. Lots of thoughts and emotions with this TTC shiz!
Coco: Hugs hun for damn RB!
smallfryplus: when did u last test. i think uv caught that eggie perhaps?????
Ferrals4: Good luck with the appt.
Cherished: Did the sun rise?? Good on you my love. xoxo

AFM: BFN on FMU today. Startign to feel like RB is on the way. Just blinkin' great! Just want (like everyone else) to see those two red lines....:rolleyes:

Peace out guys! :D

awe coco hunni, we can just sit in the corner together and have a cry.

Hi Coco,
TTc after loss takes all the fun out of trying. Have you seen a gynacologist about what might be happenning? I remember you saying awhile ago that you were having a blood test to see if you are ovulating? Seeing a gyno was the best thing I ever did. I felt better just knowing that I was "doing something". Maybe they would put you on fertility drugs like I was? or at least be able to give you some answers about why your having a hard time. I'm thinking of you Coco. Let me know if you want any more info about tests and stuff that specialists can do! Big hugs

Anila: do you chart? Would you mind if we saw it? I cant belive you're still going without answers...Im starting to think it was implantation bleeding you had hunni!

coco - sorry you're spotting hon... no possibility that it's implant? Temp dips with that too doesn't it? anila is our rebel without a chart! hehehe I've been dying to see hers too because I'm becoming obsessed with the whole thing.

sunny - good to see you back here after so long! (or is it just so many pages and not really that long at all?!!) I last tested on Monday morning. FF was telling me I ovulated cd26 which is bollocks so I have revised the O date on my chart to where I feel it happened. Now I'm being told that even though I have a 28 day cycle, AF isn't due til this weekend?!! hahaha so I'll either test this weekend or probably next Tuesday before my last exam... though perhaps that's not the best option as either way, I will be too distracted to think about the exam!!

coco - yes, I've looked at your chart and recant... you're probably right :(

there was no need to get another blood test anyway my HCG at 6w 2 days was 650... at 4 weeks 3 days it was 840 so it had dropped heaps already... Didn't need to get it done to compare with anything anyway.

I am so depressed Sunny.... The sun did rise but it's still a crap day :crying: we got a referral to get dh's swimmers tested other than that I would need to see a specialist for any other tests :( I also got a referral to get another ultrasound done after the next af just to make sure it's all back to normal.

Sorry for no persies I am just not up to it.... All I can think about is that I am depressed and everything is so unfair!!!! :crying:

I don't even want to try again... after the March mc all I wanted was to be pregnant again now I just want to curl up and never move again..... I feel like I mustn't deserve to have a baby so I may aswell not want one....

cherished - to add to the post in the other thread... I felt the same way you feel now after my last mc. Spent several days on the couch not doing anything then joined BB. That was my life saver. Up til then I didn't trust myself at all. Please don't think this is because you don't deserve to be a mother. Get the referral to a specialist, even without tests, they may have some great info for you.

It is unfair, it is incredibly unfair, but please, don't let it make you give up your dream to be a mummy.

I know that this has been bought up in here before but I want to know...

I am going to ask my gyno about that operation where they "flush" your tubes? Or the thing when they check if they're blocked? Anyone had this? How is it done and what r the details? If there's a site or something could you pass it on? Im wondering if this is something that it worth looking into..

:think:

PS...The stockbroker on SATC season 6 disc 1 episode 1, has a very nice hiney...thought you might like to know ;)