Sorry for my absence but I probably won't post again until AF arrives, whenever that will be. It's been about 11 days so I've probably got another good fortnight or so before then.
Good luck to you all - I hope this thread is cleaned out a bit by the time I come back.
BTW, seeing friend's baby went okay, I am just a bit glum and way better than I was.
Miss Belinda - hmm.. now that I look at your avatar again, it does look like a shark In my family/culture the tradition is to buy nothing for a baby until it is born. I now understand why, but it is hard. When I was pg, I had asked my mum to buy a few little cotton dresses for my niece, but I decided to keep one of them for my baby, then I m/ced. Even though its irrational, I wonder if I brought it on because I was selfish and kept a little dress (that's still in my mum's drawers somewhere). Maybe if I get her to burn the dress or give it away, I'll get a BFP?
Sharon - I've never heard of overweight mums having a higher rate of m/c. But I have heard (on TV and from a GP) that overweight ladies have trouble falling pg. But if you get AF (which can stop if ur overweight), and especially if you ovulate, then your weight is fine. If you were able to fall pg in the first place, then also your weight is fine. Its so frustrating that men seem to play one small part in the whole pg process, but it is so hard to get them to perform it. Not sure if punching his lights out is going to motivate him though! Maybe try talking to him?
Shoegal - :hugs: You're doing really well, especially coping with all the social things that are expected of you, like seeing friends with babies. Take the time you need and I hope AF comes when you want her.
Going through this stuff really separates your fair weather friends from your real friends, doesn't it? Unexpectedly, my best friend, whose been there thu so many ups & downs, abandoned me on this one. To be fair, she was trying to cope with going back to work (to a new job) after finding childcare for her 4 month old, and recovering from post natal depression. But it took her 3 weeks to even call me (she lives in the US, so we haven't seen each other). I've spoken to her a bit since, but I've sort of held a grudge, which I think I should do something to resolve. I feel petty for holding a grudge cos we really have been through loads together, and its not like the last year has been a walk in the park for her either.
But I'm a bit annoyed with DH's best friend, who was really thrilled when we told him we were pg, but then when we said I had m/ced, he sent a txt and never mentioned it again. Except to ask DH why I wasn't drinking last week (as in trying to probe & get DH to admit that I'm pg, which I wish I was). Makes me feel like he's a fair weather friend. Again irrational, cos he and DH have been friends since they were 5, and have been through loads together.
But all the emotional support came from totally unexpected people. I feel so lucky to have BB and the lovely people who stood by DH & I when we were struggling.
Whew, don't know where that came from. Was supposed to be a flippant and short post!
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In my family/culture the tradition is to buy nothing for a baby until it is born. I now understand why, but it is hard. When I was pg, I had asked my mum to buy a few little cotton dresses for my niece, but I decided to keep one of them for my baby, then I m/ced. Even though its irrational, I wonder if I brought it on because I was selfish and kept a little dress (that's still in my mum's drawers somewhere). Maybe if I get her to burn the dress or give it away, I'll get a BFP?
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