Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2007

Satya - just read your post and am sending you a HUGE cyber hug xoxo
It's amazing how some weeks the "stuff" just keeps on getting piled on top of you. I had one of those weeks too. All I can say is blah blah blah and pour myself a nice glass of wine and sit with my husband-to-be-in one-week and talk. He saves me from myself!

I worked out I'll be ovulating if not on our wedding day, then the day after or after....... but I think it best to sort of 'let it go' and then, usually, things come back at ya.....

I feel very positive for you about your Mum - that is giving her something to live for. The whole concept brings tears to me eyes. You are the best daughter a Mum could have.

Try and stay positive, even in spite of the sometimes insurmountable adversity - it's our choice how we react and feel and deal.... (sorry if that sounds like a lecture, it's more a reminder to myself aswell).

Thinking of you.

Lee xo

Satya so sorry to hear about your mum big hugs to you and your family, it must be such a hard time.
mummyto1 I am so happy that all went well at the scan, I feel confident that this will be a sticky one for you.
saltprincess no didn't test again, temps and spotting say it all really. I definitely have my :crossfingers: for you though.
Bun have been feeling extremely down today, I really thought this was it because my temps had that rocky mountain look to them again, which I only got when I was pg the last time, but with the temp dive this morining and then spotting this afternoon I know I am out.

I am starting to feel really cheated and extremely p'd off with my body, I really thought this was my month, but noooooooooooo the B***H just couldn't stay away. I have had a HUGE temp drop this morning, and spotting and cramping this afternoon so I know she's on her way. I just don't understand the faint +ves because how the hell can you get false +ves on 3 different brands and have the faint lines come up well before the 10 minutes, well actually the lines where there at 5 mins, I just want to friggin scream! crying hasn't done me any good :angry:

Sharon - hugs to you hon. Is AF heavy and did your temp drop below your cover line? Have you tested again? Maybe you should go to the docs to have a bt and find out what your hcg levels are. You could still be pregnant and have a light AF. My thoughts are with you hon.

BekZ AF was "light" on Saturday night, but when I woke up on Sunday morning she definitely made her presence known LOL so I know I am not pg I will be going to the Dr over the next week or so just to let him know about my 3 faint +ves and the +ve last cycle too just to see what he says.

Well, AF isn't as bad (heavy) as last cycle (thank goodness)and I am going to guess that she will more than likely be on her way out tomorrow. Now I just hope that things go a little better this cycle.

Satya - I am so sorry about your Mum. Fingers crossed she will get through it again. My Mum was given 3 months to live about 8 years ago & is one tough cookie also. She is still here today as I hope your Mum will be. I too get a bad pain in my chest through to my back in about the same spot as you. The first time I got it each breath I took was agony. The doc told me I had pulled a muscle in my chest (howI don't know)& it went right through to my back. Deep tissue massage heat & rest were the only things that helped. Hope you are feeling better soon...
Sharon - damn cow is af. I will have it all crossed for you for this cycle! Maybe you need something to keep your hormone levels up towards the end of your cycle to maintain pg? Worth discussing with your doc.... I only say this as I always appeared to be O'ing on my own but seem to need clomid to get me a sticky pg. Maybe it was the boost in hormones or something that I needed towards the end of my cycle?
Lee - how appropriate O'ing around your wedding day - bd is a given at this time isn't it ;) Good luck!
Hi to all you other amazing ladies - look forward to reading some good news in here soon!

Morning girls,

Mummyto1 - yay on your scan!!!! I am so glad to hear all is going well.

Sharon - sorry about AF appearing. I agree with mummyto1 - I think you may need some support in the last half of your cycle to help a bub stick. Hopefully your dr will be able to help you and you will be on your way to a h & h bub!! Let us know how you go.

Satya - so sorry to hear about your mother. It sounds like you have way too much on your plate at the moment. I am glad though that you have decided to make a FS appointment. Here's hoping it will help you get a sticky little bub and that your mother will fight even harder to be around to meet the little one! Let us know how she is going. I am thinking of you - you have had a pretty rough time lately.

Lee - yay on O'ing on your wedding day! Sounds like it is meant to be!

Salt - I think your BD timing is ok. It only takes one spermy!! Luckily it is winter, so no one notices the constant marks on my arm. I only have one good vein and I bruise really easily, so it is not a good look at all! The nurse who did my BT this morning said I will be taking my own blood soon, I am there so often! Oh well, at least BTs don't bother me anymore, although some days they really hurt! I am really getting sick of trying to fit all this in around work - I am always leaving home really early in the morning, or leaving work early, and it is actually quite stressful, it's like every appointment and BT is a reminder of what we have lost, and I get quite emotional about it all. The doco was about a recurrent m/c clinic in the UK and I think focussed mainly on a girl who had had 7 m/cs, and others who had had more than 3 recurrent m/cs. The main girl ends up giving birth to a little girl, but I am not sure if they follow up with the others. I think it discusses all the research and treatment for recurrent m/c and I think would it be quite interesting.

Well, I had a pretty good weekend. Went go karting on Sat (but I was pretty slow, esp against my super-competitive DH has has done it before and just kept lapping me!). Saw Spidey3 which was ok, and caught up with some friends. Had lunch with DH's family (and hence, the new grandchild) yesterday, and I was struggling. I just can't handle a table full of adults clucking over a baby; all I can think about is what we have lost and my fears that we will never actually have a live baby. Some days it all just gets too much, and with my first EDD being tomorrow, I am v fragile right now. I will find out from the clinic today whether I am going to O soon and have to go in for yet another scan. I am getting so sick of this process. I am starting to feel like we will never even get pg again, let alone actually manage to carry a baby to term. I just really wish it didn't have to be like this. Some days I think we should just give up on having our own baby and just adopt. Even the thought of being pg terrifies me; I don't know how I will ever manage to get through a pregnancy, if it actually happens.

Anyway, hello to everyone else, I hope you all had a good weekend.

Hi, just a quick drop by. Sorry no time for personals.

Thanks for your support ladies. We find out more about my mum tomorrow, so fingers crossed the news is not too bad.

I'm feeling a lot better today both with my back and emotionally. CD7 already!

I still haven't made the FS appointment. A couple of friends have suggested I should just see a gyno as that worked for them. What do you think? Right now I think I'd feel less pressure by going to a gyno. The whole FS thing is really scaring me plus as my DF is in a new job I think it will be really hard to get him to a FS appointment with me... and I've heard they all want to see you both. He already has a child so I'm pretty sure the problem is with me (almost 10 years of ttc with two different partners).

What do you think?

Hi everyone,

I can now officially join this topic.. AF came today 5 weeks after my D&C.. yay!!!!! Next month I'll be hoping *not* to get AF but for now I'm so happy that my body is moving on :)

Can't wait to hear all your BFP this month... I am feeling v optimistic for everyone right now :)

Rachel

Good morning girls,

I have been laying low this last week because I havent been feeling too positive about things. I have had cramps and spotting ever since the O.
I am now 13DPO. I tested two days ago with the cheapies I brought from ebay and there was a super faint positive. I then tested this morning with first response and it was a faint positive.
I dont know whether to be happy or not because I am still having AF cramps and they have not stopped...... I guess I will wait another couple of days. AF is due tomorrow.
I would like to be happy but there are doubts in the back of my mind too.

Bun - I was starting to feel like it was never going to happen either. You just have to keep pushing forward & play the waiting game. It is hard to enjoy the pg after a m/c but you have good days & bad.
I called my FS yesterday to tell him about my BFP & asked him what it could be about me needing clomid to get pg when I was O'ing naturally. He said it thickens the lining in your uterus & increases progesterone (or was it eostrogen) so it sounds like that is what I needed. I just want you girls to know that their are options out there that you can explore....
Satya - hope the news about your Mum today is positive.
Jenjams - all sounding good. Remember the af type cramps are normal in early pg so fingers crossed for you & will wait for an announcement in a few days!
SP - hope the next week flies by for you - good luck - I didn't have any symptoms either!
Kiwigirl - good luck getting your BFP this cycle.
Good luck to everyone else & hope your BFPs are just around the corner!!

Sharon - I'm so sorry sweet, sending you a big hug, it's so not fair to be teased like that :(

Jenjams - I have everything crossed for you...keep us posted on how you go.

kiwigirl - yay for AF finally! I bet you must be relieved! Good luck with this cycle.

SP - hope the next week flies by with a wonderful result...everything crossed for you!

Bun - your weekend sounded like a lot of fun. I understand your apprehension and it's incredibly hard living with all the mixed emotions :hug:

Satya - I would only suggest to do what feels 'right' for you. If you feel better about seeing a Gyno, then do that and see where that takes you hun. I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, sending you all lots of love....

I had something happen this week that made me sit up and take stock of a lot of things in life and we are going to make a few changes over the next few weeks.....but did also decide to cycle again this month. CD 3 and I start Clomid today...after feeling so flat about this upcoming cycle, I'm feeling ready to tackle it head on and not let things beat me....

Hi to everyone else :)

Hi girls,

Well, today is my first EDD and so far I am doing surprisingly well. Maybe I will have a meltdown this afternoon when it hits me, but so far I actually feel in pretty good spirits. I didn't sleep much last night and I think I am coming down with the flu or something. I had planned to take today off work to be on my own, but, as always happens here, a partner came into my office late yesterday to give me urgent work to do today because he is playing golf! Typical! So, here I am at my desk, when I really don't feel like working. I think I am feeling ok because the clinic phoned yesterday and told me to come in for a scan tomorrow morning (at 7am!), and that means that I am about to O. I noticed some EWCM today, so O is definitely on its way, and that's really good! I will be O'ing much earlier on clomid than naturally, and I am really hoping that will do the trick. I guess I feel like I have some hope again (false hope though it may be), and am feeling a little more positive about things working out, if not this cycle, then soon. At least clomid is making my cycles more normal. Today is CD14, so I will still have a longer than 28 days cycle, but it will be much shorter than my usual cycle when I O anywhere from CD20 to 26!

mummyto1 - thanks. I am so glad you keep popping in - it gives me hope! I now think clomid is fantastic! (not that it has worked yet, but I am hopeful!). Did you get any cramping around O? Last night and today I am feeling a little uncomfortable, which I assume is because O is approaching. It's nothing bad, but definitely there and I haven't felt that before.

jen - that sounds good to me! Have you still been taking your temps? It would be usual to get only a faint line this early, so all sounds alright to me! I can understand you not wanting to be happy yet, but do another test tomorrow, and hopefully that will reassure you! Yay!

kiwigirl - glad to hear AF has finally arrived!

satya - how are you? Have you heard anything more about your mum? I'm not sure re whether to see a gyno or FS. I have heard that a FS will know more and maybe be better to see, but I have never seen a gyno, so I am really not sure how helpful they would be. My first reaction would be to see a FS so they can get to the bottom of it asap, but maybe a gyno would do the same thing?

Salt - I can't believe you are 5DPO already! I know it must feel like forever to you, but I think that has gone really quickly! I sooo hope this is the one for you. You deserve it. Are you going to test at 13DPO? You are right - people who have never m/ced really have no idea what it is like. It is so hard being around babies and sometimes I worry that it will always be like this. DH and I can't handle seeing babies anymore, and I hate that. We are usually great with kids, but these days it just hurts too much. I hate it!

hi YA GIRLS
I just wanted to come in a give you all a big scarey hug from me.
I really hope that this month brings out lots of Stick vibes and BFP.
I think of you all often. and although I dont post much, I do lurk.
Your all in my heart
xxmaz

Hi! I'm Heidi. My fiance and I just lost our first baby on May 12th. I had been on the pill for 7 years and got pregnant the month I quit taking it. I never really had morning sickness, just really sore boobs and very tired. I started bleeding at about 8 weeks and the ultrasound measured the baby at 6 weeks and 5 daysand they couldn't find a heartbeat. I miscarried naturally the week after. It was awful. My best friend (her IUD was out in january) had found out that she was pregnant the same day I did and miscarried at a little over 4 weeks, so I didn't think that I would miscarry too. She just found out that she is pregnant again (she never got a period after her miscarriage). I am jealous, but I really would like to wait the two months that my dr. recommended.

On a side note, a really weird side note. Following my miscarriage, my energy returned to normal, my boobs quit hurting, my acne went away and everything was normal again. I quit bleeding on wednesday, May 16th. We had sex with a condom that night. The next day my face broke out like when I was pregnant (I broke out right away), I am extremely nauseated, I am exhausted, and my boobs are hurting again. Is this somatic? Am I crazy? I can't really be pregnant unless the condom failed, but really how? I am lost, I don't feel like there is a life in me like I did when I knew that I concieved. Any ideas would be appreciated.

I would love to get to know people that are in the same boat as me and I think that this website is terrific.

Hi Heidi!
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby:hugs:
I dont think you are pregnant for a few reasons. The first is that after a miscarriage it take from two to eight weeks for the pregnancy hormone to leave your body even though you are no longer carrying the baby and secondly four days are to early to tell if you are pregnant from the night you had sex. I stopped bleeding quite early after my miscarriage but still had alot of the sytoms including a BFP unitl my pregnancy hormone levels went back to 0. Maybe go to your DR and ask for a blood test to see what your levels are at and then you can follow them back to 0 so you will know when your body is back to its self again.
I hope this helps a little and take care of yourself.
You have come to the right place there is alot of caring ladies in here who have helped eachother through their losses.

Thank you for your response. I dont think that I am pregnant, it is just weird to feel like this again. Last time I concieved I felt like something was inside of me and I was sick almost instantly, it was really weird. I almost knew the exact moment that my baby was created. We were trying for a girl so we BD three days before I thought that I would ovulate. The day after I was supposed to ovulated, I felt like fireworks going off inside of me and instantly knew that I was not alone. I dont feel like that now.

I really hope that we get pregnant in july or when ever my 2 cycles are over.

Evening all,

Bun: I stopped taking my temperature after I had a big dip. I started to get really disheartened and thought it was over for the cycle.
Salt: You never know. We both might get that BFP this month and be buddies.

I am still cramping this evening. I had a shower when I got home from work and felt nausea and nearly threw up.
I will test again in the morning and see if that line gets darker or not. I am very fearful that if it is positive, the same thing as last time will happen. I have had very different symptoms this time to when I was pg before. Last time I craved cheese and that was pretty much it. This time I have had cramps since O, nausea and sore BBS.

Will keep you posted

Hi everyone,

Sharon - so sorry your AF turned up. Things had looked promising. I hope you have better luck next cycle.

jenjams - they are good symptoms so don't lose hope yet.

bun - glad you coped well at work today. I hope you stay positive for the rest of the day. You are so like me - whenever I really need a day off something always seems to come up and then I can't take it... it's so frustrating.

Imwiththedj - welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. It seems that it is quite common to get pg symptoms when you start to ttc after a loss. I've had them in week 3 of both the cycles I've had since mine and from reading on here it appears to be pretty common.

salt - I hope your AF stays away.

las - I hope everything is OK with you.

welcome back kiwigirl - I hope there's a BFP for you soon.

:pray:

My mums news was not exactly great. They believe her 2nd lot of chemo has not been successful so they wont do any more. She's aready had radiation therapy in between the chemo treatments. She's been sent home with some new drugs and we just have to wait and see how it goes.

I had a really sad day again today. Completely lost it at work today. My DF was nagging me about why I hadn't bought petrol.... I was behind in my work as I'm finding it very difficult to concentrate at work.... he's going on about something that to me is so insignificant in the scheme of things.... he ended up hanging up on me. I got off the phone & burst into tears.... open plan office. It was awful. We quickly made up but not before I'd got so upset.

Still haven't made an appointment for a FS. I am trying a few natural things in the meantime. Started drinking green tea. It's helping with my sugar cravings and I'm finding I'm eating less so hopefully it will also help me lose weight in the long term. After I O I'm going to be drinking pineapple juice and taking low dose aspirin. I've done so much research I'm willing to give anything natural a go.

Sorry to anyone I've missed.

Jenjams - everything crossed for you! Hope to hear a wonderful update tomorrow.

satya - sooo sorry for your mum. Hugs to you too. Can I be daft and ask what the pineapple juice does??

Thanks everyone for your msgs to me :) How do you all keep track of where everyone is up to in this topic?!

las, I am also curious about the pineapple juice - satya can you fill us in please? So sorry to hear about your mum.

Hi everyone

Kiwigirl - the way I keep us is I read the thread and write down notes on each persons comments as I read that way I can easily work out what to say when I post. Sometimes I just do this by scrolling up and down while typing my post but that gets a bit tricky.

Las & Kiwigirl - I've been reading up on American ttc sites and have found a number of references to pineapple juice being used after Oing. Apparently it helps with implantation. I came across a number of women who said this was one of the things they did differently on the cycle they conceived so I figured it was worth a shot. Not sure how much you are supposed to drink but I'm just going to have a glass every day and see what happens.

This site had a whole stack of women stating what they did different on their successful cycles. For anyone who is interested the common things were:
drinking pineapple juice after O
using low dose aspirin after O
using pre-seed when bding
drinking green tea.
I also found a number of successful cycles where women used a certain kind of cough syrup. This was often being used by women on clomid to reduce the chance hostile mucus which is apparently common when on it. I've since read on belly belly that this is not recommended as there is a possibility that it could cause birth defects.

Finally I read that drinking more water can improve CM so that's probably a good idea too.

I'd better get off here and go get ready for work.

Bun - I had a bit of mild O cramping on clomid - I would describe it as a slightly tender feeling. I hadn't had O pain for ages before this so think it could have been due to the tablets. Good luck & remember to drink as much water as you can to help with the CM & maybe try a glass or two of pineapple juice.

Hi Girls,

Just dropping into to say hi!!!! There is a lot of posting going on in here, that is great to see. Sending you all :bluedust:

Morning lovelies,

Bekz - thanks for the babydust! How are you going?

Satya - sorry to hear the latest news about your mother. I hope these new drugs produce some good results. I have also recently read about drinking more to increase CM, so am trying to do that as well. I hadn't heard about pineapple juice before - maybe I will give that a go! I have heard a lot of people saying to be careful with aspirin if it's not prescribed by a dr, as it can cause complications such as excessive bleeding in the event of a m/c. That said, I can understand you wanting to take it to help your chances - I have been tempted too on hearing of it helping others who have m/ced before.

mummyto1 - thanks. Hopefully this will work for us this month. I am definitely feeling a little tender, and I have been told I am about to O, so something is happening in there! It's nothing too bad, actually, overall I have found clomid fine. It would be so great to be able to join you soon!

jen - did you test again today? Those symptoms and the fact that you have had a few BFPs sounds great to me! Let us know how you are going.

Heidi - welcome, and sorry to hear of your loss. I think it's normal to feel a little strange after a m/c, and also it can take a while for the HCG to leave your system, so you may continue to feel pg symptoms for a while after a m/c. I hated that - I still had all the symptoms of pregnancy for ages after my first m/c, and it felt like a cruel reminder of what I had lost. I hope you feel better soon and that we can help you. Just feel free to vent away and say whatever you like here - we all understand what you are going through and would love to help you :hug:

Salt - I think your last LP was out because of the m/c and the clot, so I would expect it to go back to normal now. Only 6 days til testing - that is soooo close! Wow! I so hope this is it for you. I have definitely heard of people getting symptoms this early, so you never know - it may not all be in your head!

Well, I had a very early start this morning, I left home at 6.30am (and I am NOT a morning person), to get to the clinic by 7am, then had a BT and had to wait 45 mins for my scan. I have one follicle that is fully grown and ready to pop! Apparently I should O in the next couple of days, which means DH is going to be busy! I had wanted to BD last night, but was tired and DH was home late, so hopefully we will be able to tonight and tomorrow night before I O. We last BDed on Sunday, so that was too long ago. Hold out little follicle until I can seduce DH!!! I was v late for work after waiting so long (and I am getting so sick of it...), and I am really tired. I may say I am sick and leave early today. I had a minor meltdown last night when thinking about my EDD (while watching a tape of Grey's from Sunday night that was about Addison's EDD of a baby she aborted - I can't believe I managed to watch that ep on my EDD!), but overall it was one of my better days. I nearly started bawling when having my BT this morning as I started thinking about it all, but I managed to get through it. I also got annoyed at one of the nurses at my clinic. She was v nice, but when she asked how I was going and I said I was getting a bit sick of this, she said I am just at the beginning! I know that would be correct if I was at the clinic for infertility, but I am not, I am there to help me not m/c, and I have been through a very rough road with 2 m/cs in the last few months, so for me, this journey has already been a long and tough one. I know it is only my first cycle of clomid, and for many women this would be the beginning of their journey, but my situation is different. I don't know why it annoys me so much, but I am always getting annoyed with them for saying things that clearly indicate they have no idea of my situation. My situation is different from most of their patients, and they have my file in front of them, so I just wish they wouldn't treat me like that. I have never said anything to them, but it frustrates me. I know it shouldn't, but it just does.

Satya - that's fascinating! I knew about the low dose aspirin, but didn't know about Green Tea either! If it's all natural it's certainly worth giving it a go. Did it say how long after you 'o' to drink it, just a few days or until af/pg????

Hi all,

Well I tested this morning with a cheap ebay test again and I only got the faintest of lines. I then caved in at work and bought another first response test (The same I used yesterday) The test line is darker than yesterday so I am guessing its a positive.
I still have it that it wont last. I guess everyone who has had a m/c is going to be very scared until they reach that magic 12 weeks....
I am going to book into the docs for a blood test and to check the hcg levels.
Its funny you know, we Bd'd more last month and this month seeing as O came earlier, I really thought we missed the boat. Then the spotting came and the temp dip and I thought here we go again another wasted month..... I guess that tells us all there is hope yet.
I am still cramping and that worries me. Everything in my body will worry me in the next 12 weeks.

I gave up alcohol and coffee about 3 weeks ago. I like drinking green tea. I actually like the mint green tea. I find it tastes better than the normal green tea.

I hope this one sticks. I know DP is excited but we are not getting too ahead of ourselves so we dont get too disappointed down the track.

Bun: Maybe you will be like mummyto1 and conceive on your first clomid cycle. DH will be getting a workout in the next few days! Baby dust to you
Satya:I know how you feel about with your mum. My mum has heart disease so I want to be able to give her that grandchild she really wants. That will perk her up a lot.
Salt: Lets hope you can join me in 6 days time. I felt "symptoms" ever since O so you never know. All the positive vibes I can muster.
Las: Thanks for your crossed bits. I hope it works out! Baby dust to you too

Good luck to everyone else. I hope you can all join me in the PAML thread.
:bluedust:

Hello, I am new here too... though I have been reading for a while, I have been too shy to post... but you all seem so lovely, and while I have met lots of ppl online who have been through this, this is the first place I have been where there is a great forum for ladies who have m/c'd and are now TTC... I am so sorry you all have to be here... but so grateful you are...

I had a MC in March this year... and have had AF about 20 days ago... and a BT that says my HCG levels have gone back to <2.... yet... this cycle my temps are all over the place and it looks like I have not O'd.... did anyone else find it took a while for their cycles to go back to "normal" or did anyone else not O and then go back to O? I am so worried that this is sign of other problems... :(

Thank you for reading. I look forward to getting to know you all.

Oh and my name should be Trying to be Positive... stupid typo! hee hee

Satya - Sorry to hear about your mum. My thoughts are with you and your family.

SP - Don't test until you are due hon. It will save a heap of stress. I had heaps of cramping when I feel pg, to the point that I thought af was coming for the whole tww and beyond. Fingers crossed.

Jenjams - Congrates and I really hope to see you in PAML. As above I had heaps of cramps in my TTW and for about one month after. Goodluck and I hope you get a +ve bt, all looks really good for you. I am 11.1wks atm and yes the 12WW is stressful at times. Although I did make a point not to stress too much, and I decided not to do hcg level testing etc. I think I am the most stressed now knowing that I have a 12wk scan in 6 days and I so want to see a heartbeat and healthy baby there.

TtbP - You'll find the ladies in here super. Good luck with your TTC journey.

Hi everyone,

Welcome Trying. I am sorry for your loss. I wonder if you can get your typo in your name fixed up by the mods? I hope you find the support you need here. I don't know what I would have done since I had my recent m/c (also in March). After mine I had my first AF 29 days later (didn't temp so don't know if I Od) and my next was a 24 day cycle with me Oing on CD13. I'm now into my third cycle since it happened so it will be interesting to see how this one goes.

Bun - thanks for the info re aspirin. I probably wont do that anyway as I'm pretty sure I'd forget to take it anyway. Life is pretty hectic & stressful at the moment and my memory is suffering right now. I hope your follie holds on til you manage to BD.

Las - I believe the idea with green tea is to drink it before Oing. As Salt pointed out you need to watch your folate intake when drinking green tea as something in it can hinder your absorption of folate, so you have to take a folate supplement if you are going to drink it. Seeing that most Chinese people have been drinking green tea for centuries without any obvious increase in abnormalities I don't see that it can be too dangerous in moderation. Maybe the Chinese diet is also high in folate.... who knows. What I read suggested as little as 1/2 a cup of green tea per day can double your chances of conceiving..... that's probably an exaggeration but it sounds pretty good to me so I'm willing to give it a try.

Jenjams - things are sounding promising but I've lost track of where you are in your cycle.... what CD are you at now?

:)

I've had a pretty good day today. Work kept my mind off things. Had the FIL over for dinner tonight so cooking & tidying up distracted me as well. It's my birthday tomorrow so I have a couple of nights of dinner out planned which should be lots of fun..... but first I have to get through the load of work I have to do tomorrow.

Hi TTBP, welcome to the site... I'm pretty new here to and people have been so lovely to me over the past 6 weeks since my D&C. Are you charting on FF? (See my signature for mine).. my temps were wonky last cycle (the one after my D&C). I don't think I O last cycle but my hCG was 45 about 10 days ago so I'm not sure when/if it's hit 0 to compare. I got told it can take a little while for things to go back to normal and not every woman O each month.

Hi everyone, just popping in to say Hi and that I read your posts everyday but don't usually have much to add.

Satya - Sorry to hear about your mum. I hope you have a good day tomorrow though. Maybe just treat yourself to something nice like a massage on you birthday. You deserve it.

Trying to be Positive - Welcome :) And I like your name.

Rachael - Great to see you in here! And all the best for this month.

Jenjams - Congrats! Sounds like a BFP to me. Hoping this one sticks for you.

Sorry to all the lovely ladies I've missed, and hope things are going well for you.

I'm starting to figure out things, like was really chuffed to learn what EWCM means and that I can maybe tell when I'm fertile. Now in the tww and keep seeing (or imagining) pg signs every where. Trying not to get my hopes up, but they're sky high already.

Morning all,

I have added a ticker now trying to be positive :)

Satya, I am on about 15DPO or about CD34. My BFP test yesterday was darker than the previous day. I have been showing them to DP and he said yesterday it was definately darker.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Bekz, I will hopefully be joining you in the PAML after my BT. I know a lot of people have cramps but I am still a little scared.

Spreading the baby dust to all....

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Hi ladies, can I join your thread?

Here's my story:

Sadly, I miscarried on Tuesday of this week, 22 May. I was 5 weeks and 5 days. It was our very first month of TTC.

We saw our GP on Monday, was sent for a blood test to confirm and she called me later to tell me my HCG was only 13 when it should be in the 100's. I'm having another BT on Monday to check my HCG again to ensure it gets back down to 0.

I've told my boss my whole sad sorry story and he has given me the rest of the week off work, he is wonderful.

My GP has suggested we leave TTC until AF returns next cycle. I am trying to be positive but feel sad at the same time.

In the space of a week we have experienced incredible highs and incredible lows. DH has been wonderful, this is a shared experience and although bad, has brought us even closer than before.

I guess the good thing is that we know we can get pregnant. It just wans't meant to be this time.

I called my FS also and the nurse also told me to take precautions this month and then have a HyCoSy next cycle, we will also start BT's for ovulation tracking again.

So my question is: I don't think I'll need a D&C, so how long until AF should return? Also, I've read that some GP's and FS's say you can TTC as soon as you finishing miscarrying, yet my directions are to wait until AF returns?

:heartbeat:
shoegal

Hi Shoegal, :hug: sorry to hear of your loss...you have come to the right place...

It is a good sign (IYKWIM) that you bhCG is as low as 13 already, mine is still at 29 and that is 7 weeks after my D&C but in saying that AF came for me yesterday!!

So when AF will come is like guessing how long a piece of string is...it differs so much for everybody...

Yes, there is a lot of differing opinion about when to start TTC again, and whether to wait for AF...my GP says wait for at least one AF as this gives the lining of your uterus a chance to rebuild nicely, and my ObGyn said wait for one AF as when you have just lost, your uterus can be a little 'irritable' and not as sticky.....but in saying that plenty of people have conceived straight away and have had problem free pgs..:D

I guess the usual advice is to get as much advice as you can then make a decision thatis best for you and that you feel comfortable with..

You are welcome to join the Waiting for AF after MC or D&C Club, in the M&L Thread - lots of ladies at the same stage as you...very welcoming and superbly helpful..

Take care of you
Love Alex
xx

Hi girls, sorry I've been out of touch. Just had a quick read - and it's nice to see that mostly everyone is feeling positive!!!!!!!!!

I have been busy getting ready for my wedding this Saturday. We are getting married in our garden, amongst the lavender and roses, and having a nice lunch with a few friends and our children (except our baby boy, very sad). But, I'm sure somehow he will be with us, he certainly has a strong presence in our hearts and how we go on....

I did an OPK this morning and it was pretty faint. Should I just keep doing one every day till they get darker (and then assume I'm about to O). I'm on CD12, so expect to O in the next couple of days. I know, the timing is perfect, and I pray we will have a permanent reminder of our wedding. Also, should we start the BD now? What would you girls do re the timing of it all?

On a sadder note, our baby boy, it seems, contracted pneumonia after birth - most likely from something aspirated, which then turned into pneumonia. I thought he may have had an infection, it's tragic that it was some gunk that went down into his lungs that killed him. Even more tragic is that he could have been saved if he'd been monitored and checked, the doctor and hospital have much to answer for, and we will be pursuing this line till the end.

I'll report back in soon..

Much love,

Lee xo

Hi TTBP
I just wanted to let you know that I have just experienced the same thing as you and had my first af on the 22nd of April and have had blood tests done and I have still not o'd. My ob/Dr reckons this is fine and it may take a couple of cycles to get it's self back in order but if you are concerned as I was I would talk to you doctor and see what they say.
Good luck TTC and Welcome!

Hello,

I'm sorry, I don't really know what to write.

I'm just having trouble understanding why, if what we are all designed to do is have children, is it so difficult to actually have them?!

I can not believe how much 'bad luck' everyone has had and the thought never crossed my mind that it could actually happen to me!

It's only after it happens that you realise it's possible for things to go so badly wrong; I guess that's how we all protect those who do manage to concieve and have a normal pregnancy, keeping the innocence and all that jazz.

Anyway, I've been reading this thread for so long, actually becoming quite accicted to scanning each new entry with the hope of discovering that someone on here has actually fallen pregnant, that I thought I should perhaps make my presence known :)

I suppose I just find it so comforting to know that it does actually happen :)

Sorry for the interruption, but I just wanted to thank you all and wish you luck!

XO

Hi Lovely Ladies,

Shoegal - Welcome and I am sory to hear of your loss. I have had 2 m/cs now. The first being most relevant to your situation. I m/c at 5/6wks and did not have a d and c. I got AF 2wks after the m/c, but it took 3 cycles for everything to go back to normal. My cycles were all over the place, long, short and Oing and not Oing. In saying this I had also just stopped breastfeeding DD and I think this delayed my body going back to normal quickly. Everybody is different and you may just find that your cycles will bounce back, all the best.

Patience - Welcome and sorry for your loss. I am sure you will be made very welcome.

Hi to everyone else.

Sharon - Haven't heard from you in a while, how are you?

We can't start TTC yet and are waiting to until after two cycles. This is driving me crazy, my best friend that miscarried right before I did is pregnant again and that is all that she talks about. I am happy for her but I am jealous. I know that waiting will increse our chances of it being a healthy pregnancy next time. My fiance and I are getting married june 9th, so i am trying to focus on that for the time being, but after that I am going to go crazy. My other friend from highschool just called me all excited because she is "pregnant, too", and I had to tell her that I a not pregnant anymore. I feel awful. I keep thinking that maybe after I have my next period that we could try again, but the dr told me to wait. So I know that I should. Sorry for my rant.

Good luck to everyone here and I hope that everyone gets pregnant soon.