Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss May 2010

Hi lovely ladies

Sorry haven't popped in for a while - inundated with schoolwork that I'm super far behind in. Have been lurking and keeping tabs on you all, and couldn't resist replying to Ferrals.

I'm sorry that you have to encounter b!tches like that. It's true what Possum Magic said, she's got no idea about the real world, and she's obviously just an insensitive little cow. Try to stay positive, and know that you are doing so fabulously, and that YOUR TIME WILL COME! Don't let what she says get to you - she's so not worth it. You are beyond her, and really we should pity her for being such a clueless skank. Sorry babe - big hugs for you. Shake yourself off and move on. And give your DH big cuddles, he sounds like a great guy.

AFM: I'm not sure when I last updated? I had my HCG levels at 21 one week, then a week later they came back at 807. Last week I had an u/s and the little bean measured at 6w1d, making it due 21 December. Also saw the heartbeat fluttering away at 122bpm. I felt a bit reassured after that, as when I had the m/c last year the dating scan showed a hb of 90bpm, which apparently wasn't enough to keep it going, and I lost it that week. I'm still super nervous, and check every time I wipe when I go to the toilet. Every twinge I have has my heart racing, and I'm TRYING to not stress about it all, but it's so difficult. Bloody m/c has put the fear of God into me. I've also had more definite symptoms this time around, feeling nauseous all day unless I eat, very sore and bigger boobs, amazingly hideous pimples and extreme tiredness, so I'm trying to be positive.

I'm going to join up a Belly Buddies group, but plan to lurk & keep an eye on you all. Can't wait to hear all the BFP's that are coming up this month for everyone. Thanks for all of your support, you're all amazing women and I really appreciate all of you! Big kisses & cuddles & baby dust to everyone.

Ami
xox

Hello Everyone,
I am new to this so you have to be kind :D My name is Lizzie and my DH and I have been TTC since december '09, We had a miscarriage in January '10 but since then my AF have been all over the place at one point even having a 55 day cycle!!! I tried the ovulation kits but i never got a positive (because i was testing on the wrong day) and now i dont know what to do... I know I should take a breath and let it happen when its supposed to but I have 10 pregnant people around me and it is sending me bonkers!!! I was wondering if anyone had any advice... AF came 23rd of April but was only very light lasting about 48 hours... So i dont know if i should even count that... I went to the doctor and had scans done to check my ovaries which are fine and blood tests to check thyroid which is also fine but my gloucose level came back slightly elevated... Could that have anything to do with anything??? Would love if you guys could give me your advice as i seem to be just :wall:...
Thanks :hug:

hi every one ,ferrals-hugs,your turn will come,remember what crafty said'may is your month'...murraycod-happy jabbing,keep us updated...betty-welcome to the thread,sorry for your loss,it is hard with so many pregnant ladies around you,hope you'll be able to join them again soon,with your cycle,it is common for it to be so mixed up after a loss,it is hard but seems to be a wait & see thing,frustrating i know,i had af's that only lasted 48 hrs,so i would consider 24th as af...ami-thanks for the update...kitfarie-hope that line starts getting darker in the next few days...alice-welcome home....

Hi everyone,
Ferrals-some people dont know how good they have got it! Be brave, we all know you will be getting your forever baby soon xx
Alice-its ok to fall off the food wagon! I hope you are well hun, enjoy a soy hot chocolate for mexxx
Crafty-glad you are getting back to being yourself, its nice to hear you positive and determined!
Kitf-hope your testing gives a bfp in the coming days x
Mathewsmum- how are you doing in your cycle?
Jelly- hope everything settles down for you at home, dh and i go through little periods of argueing then it settles, so i hope it is the same for you.
Big hugs to everyone i have missed.
AFM- now in the tww and not feeling like we got the egg this month cuz dh had to go brisbane on sat, right in the middle of everything! I really hate waiting games!
Xxx

Ferrals- I am so so sorry that ur shift at work had to be completely wrecked last nite. That girl has no idea whatsoever. I hope she has a really painful birth and urs is a breeze! :) Just know that ur not the only one out there finding it a little difficult ttc.. we're all in it together.. and theres nothing 'wrong' with any of us. It will happen for everyone here.. and this month is ur month!!!!! :D

Kitfaerie- Oh my god! i think u will be the first may BFP!!! YAY!! i hope so! keep on testing daily and let us know. exciting exciting exciting!!!!! :)

Ami- Ive been wondering about u.. was hoping everything was going fine.. so glad it is! Good on u! :D Hope u have a h&h pregnancy. Drop in occasionally! But i guess we'll be seeing u on the other side soon anyway! hehe x

Betty- Sorry for ur loss, its awful isnt it.. ESPECIALLY when u want to start ttc straight away and ur body isnt doing what its meant too! Frustrating plus!!! I had a mc in feb and didnt get af for 10 weeks til i went back to gyno and he put me on provera to bring it on, I am now taking clomid to make sure i ovulate in the next couple weeks. Maybe you cld see if u cld go on clomid? That will make u ovulate and u will be a lot clearer as to when u will be.. it will also make ur cycles close to 28 days.. it will basically sort out what ur going thru. Thats just my advice anyway.. it cld be wrong.. im all for clomid though!!!! :D Good luck and let us know how u go!

Bons- I hope the tww goes quick! I reckon u will join the may club too :D

AFM- i have moments where i am so full of despair! its awful.. i get myself quite worked up that im not still pg. Every day that ticks past frustrates me. Its almost half way thru the year and im still trying. its annoying cos ive only really had 2 months where i cld actually try because all the other months since sept my body has been crazy. its so annoying. It will be our 1 yr anniversary in sept and we will probly still be trying! my dream was to fall pg on our wedding nite.. frustrating frustrating frustrating!!! :wall:
So much for my positive thinking haha.. always easier said then done.
This better be all our month! FX xxxx

Ferrals Babe, just think, she obviously has nothing more importaint going on in her life, and must have a very LOW self esteem if she has to make herself feel better, by torturing you XX
Either that, or doesn't have enough brain cells in that head of hers, to think of something more 'Adult' to talk about.
Huggs to you babe, don't waste your energy on her for one more second.

Audax!!!:rolleyes: Hmmm, wet nickers hey?! EEEEEEWWWWW!!!!!:lol:
I'm going through about 6 super pads a day, beat that!!!!! Lovely to see you pop in X

Reet, IKWYM hun, I hoped to have my family by the time I was 30, so I guess I wont be popping out 2 or 3 kidds in two weeks at this stage. Huggs X

Bons, spermies can live for a suprisingly long amount of time in there, so enjoy your TWW, hope it is a fast one for you XxX

Matthew'smum how are you?? Whay cycle day are you on? I hope this month goes quick for you, and me X

Ami, it is nice to hear that you are doing so well. Enjoy your Bellybuddies group, it was a pleasure to have you aboard, even if only a short stay (lucky girl!) XxXxX

Kit, much love right back at'chya XXXX Bet you are glad to get this assignment off your hands today! And as for the HPT, best wishes for you tomorrow darling !!!!!

Possum, I'm heari'n ya babe!! Made perfect sense to me!:clap:

Hmmm, Jellylove....I have the worst imagianable vivid picture in my head right now, thanks :o

Alice, no need to feel guilty about falling off the bandwagon sweetheart, theres nothing in the rule books that say we cant actually enjoy our lives every now and then. And considering you are popping those contraceptive pills each day ATM, you deserve to have some fun. So good on you :clap:

Dory darling, I hope you are well XXX

Ric, missing you XXXXX Stop lurking and drop me a hello woman!!!!

AFM, first needle was a bit, uuuh, well lets just say, DH was out of practice...... He had to stick me twice because he got so nervouse putting it in, he yanked it out just as quick without actually administering the Puregon!!!!! GRRRR.
No matter done now, didn't really hurt that much but laying it on thick was fun and I got whatever I wanted for the rest of the night!!
He will be a pro again in a couple days the poor love!XXX

Betty, welcome to BB :welcome:
I am sorry for your loss darling, know that you are not alone, and we are all here to help in any way we can, even if is just to make you smile again XX

It is lovely for you to feel comfortable to join in, we are more than happy to have you, even if for the sad reason you are here in the first place, we will make your stay a supportive one.

My body was totally out of controll for months and months post M/C, actually in saying that, it still sort of is!
I know saying go with the flow is kind of making you feel useless, but in saying that, your body needs time to readjust also. Just be kind to your heart, enjoy your DH, and take it easy. If it was AF you had in Late April, you may have some more of an idea at the end of this month.

Anyways, nice to meet you, hope you make some great friends here X

bons-hope your still in with a good chance...reet-hope may is your month...murraycod-does the puregon come in the administrating pens like gonal-f? hope dh nerves settle..afm-cycle day 20,got to ring ivf clinic on day 1to start monitoring cycle for one of my little frozen bubs,i was reading the other day that their has been cases where none of the frozen embryos survive the thaw,that scares me,but got to take it a step at a time,and 1st step is getting af.We did b'd at appropriate time,so theoretically in the tww

Yeah our darling little Blasties do it the hard yards to even get to Blasty stage, then only 50% survive the thaw. Is definately a numbers game. That's why in the end we didn't opt to organise another FET, we lost the nerve only having 1.
I do pray that we get a better number this time round. I was happy on 150iuPuregon and getting 9 fat eggs, but now I am feeling greedy, knowing I am on a much higher dose.
The Puregon is exactly like an Insulin Pen for a diabetic, just dial the dose and do the jab X

I am so so so upset/ angry/ frustrated. My DH found out today that hes going away for 3 weeks on wednesday for work. WHAT??!!!!!! I ovulate next wed!!! :( :( i was so sad when he told me but also really angry, i cldnt even talk to him cos i wld have cried and cried.. and then when i did it was something nasty. I know he understands its a big deal for me but i just dont think he understands how much of a BIG deal it is for me.. i think about it everyday allday. I wldnt have even wasted my time going to sort my body out this time if i knew this was going to happen. Why pump my body with unnecesssary drugs??!! I will be so frustrated next week. I wld have flown to him but where hes going u cant fly.. and the drive is dirt/ mud for 10 hrs. OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD!!!
I sent his boss a text before cos DH is too embarrassed or something to talk to him bout it! GGGRRR i just asked if theres anything that can be done. Oh i hope there is... please please please!! i wld rather live in poverty for the next 3 weeks and have him home then him go away. Will find out in the morning.
Please everyone pray for me!!!! :crossfingers: :crossfingers: :crossfingers: :crossfingers: :crossfingers: :crossfingers:

GRrrr! Just typed beautiful long post and lost it all. WIll try to resurrect from memory:

Betty: sorry for your loss and welcome to BB

Dory: Thinking of you. Hope all goes beeeeeutifully for your 20 week scan.

Murraycod: my favourite pin cushion! Brave girl. I'm superimpressed you are taking needles for the cause and even more impressed you are letting DH perform them on you instead of nurse. (Kudos to him to for being brave enough to do it. Does he need to close his eyes?!)

Mildez: you deserve bravery award for services above and beyond the call of duty (delivering babies on your EDD). I hope your sticky baby comes along soon.

Kitfaerie: I know how you feel in trying to find ways to POAS to avoid disappointment. I POAS in the middle of my cycle this month because i had crazy thought that cramping i was getting just might be pg symptom and the 6 day AF of two weeks before might be implantation bleed?!!! Actually i just wanted an excuse to get rid of the last of a nasty three pack of POAS which had already given me two BFNs. I'm planning on buying another pack which gives me the right answer at the end of this week!

Sunbeam: Impressed with your exercise plan (i'm pretty haphazard about exercise). Hope you had a good day yesterday.

Reet: praying you get better news tomorrow.
Jellylove: Sorry for your troubles. Hope you are feeling better soon.
TTCALC: GL for surgery and DH's test.
Ami: good news, keep it coming
Iona Macca: Gave me the giggles seeing your smilies cuddling! Good luck!
Bons: IKWYM. I don't have any pg vibes this month either.

Alice; Glad to have you back. Oh, the diet wagon: it's made for falling off my dear! I hope you enjoyed lots of good food (I do :D)

Mathewsmum, craftymummy, Saffy: hello there
Ferrals: Hope u feeling better today.

AFM: Just waiting (as you can tell by my lurid new ticker. I should tone down the colour but was too lazy to work out how to fix it. One day...). I don't think this is my month somehow. No cramping like i had ten days before BFP with DD. Can't remember what happened with last pg (Have blocked it from my mind i think). Has anyone else had totally different symptoms from one pg to the next (including NO symptoms pre-AF due)? Well... actually i do have some boob twinges but i think it's a wicked trick to try and fool me and probably AF coming not pg.

Hi all,
sorry this is going to be an all about me post...
I have been away and enjoying this time, sadly though it is ending...I started bleeding again yesterday and it is progressively getting heavier. I have a scan this morning but I have to say I am not hopeful....I am so very very sad...as most you know but may not remember, we are only trying until June...so unless I have miracle occur, I am out forever, I am struggling so badly to comprehend that at the age of 32 I will never have another child....I cant express how broken I feel, but I know you guys understand this pain...What am I supposed to do???
So Sad

Oh MillyD, love, at the moment you just feel as sad as you want, it's gonna hurt, but there is every chance of a miracle. They do happen. Just know that we're here for you, and your family loves you.

Reet: Hope you can get that boy to stay home! Catch the eggie!

Possum magic: Every pregnancy is different, there are lots of people caught unawares!

Murraycod: So do you have a magic egg number in mind? (this is part of the believe it and it will happen thing!)

Betty: Sorry for the loss that brought you here, but I hope you find some comfort.

AFM. Oof. I'm shaking a bit. Ok. I don't know why but it's actually quite hard to type this. :bfp: on day 12. Faint, but visible and came up around 6 minutes. I had a bit of a cry last night cos I wanted this to be my month (yay for may!) and I was so scared, I had really achy boobs and I just hate being tricked by my body, but I did the whole believe it thing. Spent the waiting time for the test in another room pacing. I wanna keep this one so badly. Had to show DH that POAS website so he understood than the line is allowed to be faint, lol. He's swapping between ''oh i knew you were pregnant'' and ''really? are you sure it can be that faint?''

So - yay for may! and yay for affirmations!

Oh possum magic: I actually have a list of my symptoms and the days I had them from Splat, and this time it was totally different, so it does happen.

OMG Kit - congratulations sweety, praying that line gets darker over the next couple of days

Will be back 2 do catch up and persies

Kitfaerie-CONGRATZ you deserve it so much good luck for a happy healthy 9 months.

Murrycod-woo hoo the jabbing has started.

Millyd-Sorry this is happening to you i know the feeling of excitment and joy and then it turns into heartbreak and devastation.

Thanks to all the ladies who made comments on the skank who i work with or should i say skanks there is a few of them where i work makes going to work agony.

AFM-Do you every have the feeling that this thread is a great help but also a source of dissapointment and pain i feel the need to come in here to get things off my chest and also to see how everyone is doing and give some support but lately i have been feeling this site is doing more harm than good it is a reminder of what i fail at every month it is a reminder of how long i have been in here and a reminder of how long i have been trying to have a baby.
Don't get me wrong i am happy for everyone who gets there BFP everyone in here deserves it i just feel i cope better without the constant reminder if i stay away then i am not constantly thinking about who has a BFP who hasn't these last few days i have been busy and ttc has not consumed my every thought and i have enjoyed it so i guess what i am trying to say is i need to leave it is not you ladies you are all great i just am not copeing so DH and i are going to tell people we have thrown in the towel to get people off our backs and maybe we will get a sneaky BFP when we least expect it.

I wish you all the best for the future and i will miss you it will be hard to stay away but i need to.
And Murrycod you and i will still be in contact via email you will understand why i need to do this.

aww ferrals, do what is best for you sweety. We will always be thinking of you and do drop in to let us know how you are going. Mwah and take care, we will miss you around here xoxox

Congrats KitFaerie! So excited for you!

Good luck Ferrals - you'll be in all of our thoughts. xoxo

I am leaving too ladies, its too sad, love to you all and best of luck.
Congrats Kitfaerie xxxx

morning all , millyd-sorry about the bleeding,hope the u/s gives you reasons to hope,be watching for your updates....ferrals-thanks for being part of this thread,take care....possummagic-my pregnancies have differed from each other,i think your still in with a chance....reet-hope you were able to sort something out with dh boss,we do enough waiting when were ttc,must be frustrating for you...kitfaerie-congratulations,our 1st may bfp!!!

milyd-sorry,missed your last post,will be thinking of you

oh millyd - so sorry to hear your leaving to sweety.

You beautiful ladies will be surely missed by us all, take care and look after yourselves!!

Ferrals I understand why you need to leave this thread. I too have been thinking the same. I think there needs to be a LTTTC thread after m/c and loss. I don't mean any offence to anyone in here and I am not saying a pregnancy loss is any less painful if you haven't been trying for long but when you have been trying for a long time (meaning years) there is alot of different grief happening that alot of people do not understand. The infertility is the worst pain imaginable for me and there are only a few in this thread who have experienced both. Ferrals I wish you the best in the future and praying hard that a BFP comes your way soon and results in a healthy bub for you and your family. And I am extremely sorry if this comes across wrong to others as its not my intention and like Ferrals I do wish each and everyone of you a BFP very soon with a successful outcome (meaning a healthy pregnancy and baby at the end of it)

millyd I am so sorry you are going through this. I am praying that the outcome isn't what you think it is.

Tested BFN for me. No surprises there. Just waiting for the new cycle to start and one more cycle before we start IVF. To be honest it can't come soon enough.

mildez-sorry about bfn,even when were not surprised,it still hurts to see that one line...

I think there's definately a need for a LTTTC after m/c and loss. There's a lot of stories here that I can't comprehend, and you do your best to offer some comfort but I know it doesn't always work. I know I grieve for Splat, but so far I've been lucky enough not to grieve for years spent TTC. I know we all try, but there are some things you don't ''get'' til you live it, so trying to offer comfort isn't always comforting. So I can see how it would hurt when others who maybe haven't hurt as much as you, or who've hurt in different ways, move on before you. I know that I've felt sometimes that the things I say must feel so insignificant, I mean them wholeheartedly, but it can be hard to get across, especially when others have had different journeys. But the brilliant thing is we all try so hard, and we all mean it, even if we don't understand. I've cried for you guys as well as myself, getting the BFP this morning is bittersweet cos last week I was imagining a belly buddies group with Ferrals and Crafty in it. So yeah, there are some things I dont understand, that I can't understand, but I try, I know we all do. So I think a LTTC thread could be good, but I woulden't wanna retract from any of the support that's happened in this thread. And I'd totally stalk.

Thank you for your beautiful post KitFaerie. It does mean alot to me as I am sure it does to others. You girls are great and I do love all the support I have been offered which is why I am still on here 12months on. I feel terrible writting my post but at the same time I wanted to voice to Ferrals if she comes back and reads it that some of us are in the same or similar boat (not late loss for me or having the same concern Ferrals has told us about when she does concieve again) but suffering from the grief of needing assisted conception or not been able to concieve again after an extended period of time.

Congratulations on your new pregnancy KitFaerie and I am very happy for you and send you loads of :stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesboy:

Hi ladies
Sorry Ive been MIA for a bit, was away at Mansfield on the weekend and then busy with work etc. I'll try and write more tomorrow on my day off.

Ferrals ~ So sorry hun, I completely understand your pain and I see the reason you feel you must leave. I will be always thinking of you and have FX that you get a surprise miracle, perhaps when you least expect. All the best sweetie.

Millyd ~ So sorry for you too hun, that's really devestating :hug: I wish you every success too and that all your dreams come true very soon. FX and will be thinking of you.

AFM ~ Still no AF :wall: and did HPT Sat which came up neg. Then checked it a day later and there was a faint line but it could very well and most likely be evap line. Might do another test just to make sure. But not holing my breath. Nipples been a bit sore so if AF coming hopefully soon.

Hi to all and much love and babydust
xoxo

Kitfaerie-:dance: congratulations on your BFP-:stickyvibesboy: to you sweetie, even though it feels bittersweet, please enjoy it!!!

Milly- :crossfingers: for your scan hon xxx

Ferals-best of luck with what comes your way, you deserve the best and give those skanks at your work hell! Enjoy your little kittens too xxxx

Mildez- I know exactly what you are talking about, I have found the infertility absolutely devastating. So sorry for your BFN, it doesn't get any easier but hopefully the ivf can help you xxx

Loops- hmmm...sounds promising, quietly got my FX for you xx

Matthewsmum, Iona-hi there, hope you are going well

Reet- how did you go with the boss? I can imagine the frustration!

Possum- hoping for a sneaky BFp for you sweetie, i loved your bright ticker!

Betty- welcome to the thread hon, so sorry for your loss, hope you find some help here.

Murrycod- how are the jabs going?

AFM- bit depressed recently, teary from clomid and have a face full of pimples now- great! This TWW has no chance so I'm not even going to pay attention to it and will concentrate on getting ready to start IVF.

Hugs to all, especially those feeling down, we've only just started May and got a BFP already so lets keep them coming!

Im not sure what to say.. feeling very sad for some of u ladies :( Makes me feel stupid for worrying so much about DH not being here next week.. the sadness and frustration im feeling wld be nothing compared to what some of u are feeling. Im so sorry for what ur going thru millyd and ferrals :( and like kit i cant begin to imagine what it wld feel like ttc for such a long time. I dont think i cld manage emotionally, u are very strong ladies x

Kitfaerie- I knew it! Woohoo!!! Congratulations!!!!!!!! see.. positive thinking!!!! :D so happy for u.. i think we needed some light in here :)

And loops - You too! Hopefully its a bfp in the next couple days!! Good luck!!! :)

AFM- Well im feeling a bit silly now for making such a big deal out of all of this.. like im trying WAY too hard ttc this month. Dh called me before to say he was working out with his boss what cld be done, the plan will probly be that he drives his own car where they will be working and then when im about to O he drives back for a couple days and then goes back to work for the remainder of the time. Is this being ridiculous???! I wld love for this to happen, but im thinking maybe its just not meant to be this hard.. things always seem to go wrong when u push for something too much. Oh i dont know... I get all embarrassed now thinking about DH and his boss talking about it.. coming home for constant bding for 2 days! Would u guys do this or just say goodbye to may and hope for the best in june..??

Another question i have is for anyone that has been on clomid.. what cd do u normally O on? day 14?? When i was on clomid last year i never took any notice when it happened. If i use a OPT from day 9 onwards does it usually give me 24 hrs notice?? I wld hate for DH to race back for it to be all over and done with or too many days early.
Thankyou.

Big hugs to everyone.. as much as this thread can be sad.. it has made me feel so supported and not alone in this big wide world. Thankyou x :hug:

Reet even though DH and I have been ttc 2years now we have and still do make sure we least 1 BD so at least I have a chance of been pregnant every cycle. The least we have done it was only once about 3 days before O but we still figured there was a chance (DD was concieved 6days before I O'd so I know 3days before is possible even if not ideal) My second m/c 12months ago was concieved on O day in a motel as I drove there as DH was working and it was easier for me to visit him then he to come home. It was 300kms from home lol.
We will continue to do this even if its just once in the fertile period so we still have a chance every cycle even if that chance is very small (its small anyway with lots of BD)

Stay away for a few days and come back to this !

Ferrals I am with you all the way thats why im not on here very much, taking over my life and making me miserable its not good, try and try your hardest to be postive and think good things when in the back of your mind you just know its a waste of time and energy ! if I was 20yrs younger then I would not have to worry so much but time is about running out for me and I feel like I am flogging a dead horse !

Kitfaeri :crossfingers: you get to keep your bub this time around its not always bad news for us even though it feels like it at times, you are young and deserve to have a long and healthy pregnancy and I wish you all the best CONGRATULATIONS !

Millyd sorry its not too good for you, but it happens another blow after being so happy life is just so cruel sometimes, I really think you need to talk to your DH about this time line as you are young and have a lot of years ahead of you thinking about not being able to have more when you could infact have more, I think it will slowly destroy you ! none of us are that brave ! NOT me anyway.

Murraycod thinking of you have everything crossed for you I know how hard its been for you but the light is at the end of the tunnel I just know it is ! so keep stabbing and keep positive you so deserve this !

everyone else sorry I can't do more personnels but like I said its hard being on here been 8mnths for me not that long compared to some but I guess I know my time is running out and I probably don't have the energy for this TTC lark and another pregnancy, anyways had a dreadful nightmare the other night that I got seriously ill and had a small baby that I knew I wouldn't see grow up ! scared me to death and think its a wake up call for me !

So I wish everyone well and will keep checking for BFPS and post every now and then but I think I will hand it over to the younger ones of you and tell you that being a mum is well worth fighting for whatever you have to do its just the most fantastic job in the world and I feel so privalidged that I was able to spend most of my life looking after little ones ! now all of you keep going and remember its worth fighting for the end prize I mean !:goodluck: TO YOU ALL !

Reet- I'm not 100% sure but I think you just O on the day you normally would. Since I've been on clomid, I have been doing OPKs and they are saying I O on CD10-11 whch is my normal time. The OPKs are a godsend I find, once you get a positive you will most likely O in the next 24-36 hours so you would have warning (just). I would definately try them.

Don't feel silly, its just natural to feel frustrated if you miss a whole month, it feels like such a long time. For my first month on clomid my DH was admitted to hospital over the time i was Oing, inside I was furious at him, ridiculous I know, luckily I managed to keep it to myself!!!

If your DH's boss is up for it, so to speak, then go for it I say, it would be awesome if it worked!

Craftymummy-yes you have come back to some turmoil! I hope you still pop in to let us know when you get your BFP, good luck and thanks for all your kind words xx

Thanks Crafty, I wanna be a Mummy so so much xo

kitfaerie-such a lovely post,look forward to hearing your updates...reet-i had bt to determine'o' when on clomid,it varied with me(different months i was on different doses)yes i would me asking my dh to come home for a couple of days,i have used opk as well & found they gave me the 24-36 hr period of time...craftymummy-thinking of you,i'll still have my fingers crossed for you...saffy-will this be your last cycle with the clomid?..loops12-be watching for your next poas result ...big hugs everyone

oh gosh, I feel such conflict tonight reading this thread.

But first:

:leap:

CONGRATULATIONS KIT!!

:loveshower::leap::birthday2:

What wonderful news you lovely woman - hugs and congratulations to you and I wish you the most happy and healthy and trouble-free pg and that you enjoy your little earth baby in your arms in nine months. Lots of love to you.

:( Now for the sad bit.

Millyd - I had to read your post twice...so sad that this might be happening to you and like Crafty, I think 32 is so young to be told no more, I really pray your DH changes his mind. Please keep up with us so we know how you are doing.

Kit, I'm gonna miss you! Please drop by and say hi - will feel a bit lonely here without your cheeriness, you've been so generous and loving in the support you've given to me and others, I really appreciate it.

Sigh...Crafty, you too? It's meant a lot to me to have someone my age in the thread - feels tough being over 40 and TTC. I'll miss you muchly but understand and wish you all the very best no matter what you decide. x

Ferrals, I know you've been through such a lot loosing your little Abbie and to have this as well, well it must be very hard for you. I won't ever forget the tribute you made for Abbie - you are a strong woman and I so hope you and your DH get to experience the joy of another baby very soon. Sorry to see you go but I understand.

Mildez - so sorry for your BFN. It's not fair that it is so hard. I hope your IVF brings your longed for baby. About what you said earlier - it is a different type of grief dealing with both MC&L and LTTTC and sometimes it has been hard for me here and I've had to step back a bit. But on the other hand, I had a very lonely journey until I found this forum and this thread is really the only place in my life where I feel others 'get' how hard this is, even though we've all had very different experiences. I have felt very supported here but I know what you mean. I'm sorry you have had to live with the pain of infertility too - I feel like a part of me will always be missing if I don't get to be a mum and stupid things like friends not inviting us to things because we don't have kids really hurt (like a recent camping trip where they all went with their kids 'cause then the kids can play together and they can have time out - would have been nice actually to have some time out with them but they don't even realise what they are doing or saying that hurts) - you miss out on so many levels.

I think we need a :grouphug: I feel so sad for everyone tonight.

MurryCod - I hope you'll stay - I would be lost without you here! You were so welcoming when I joined it was a life line to me and I hope I can give you support back for your cycle. Hoping with all my heart this one will be the one for you. And if you and Kit and MatthewsMum end up in the same BB group I'm just going to have to go lurk there xx

Girls I know there are others I haven't mentioned personally and please don't think I don't think of you or aren't interested in what you are going through - I am. I read every post, it's just hard to get to everyone each time but know I am always wishing you the best and wanting you to get your BFP.

Love to everyone
Alice xx

Betty - I'm sorry, I haven't even welcomed you to the thread. Sorry to read of your loss but hope you can find some comfort and support here. We have sad times (as you can see) and sometimes we all loose it and have a good laugh. Anyway, hope your stay here is short and your body settles down soon - it can take time like others have said.

Hi Ladies

Kitfaeri - Congratulations on your BFP. Hope you have a H&H pregnancy and it's totaly uneventful (in a good way).

It's sad to hear that we are losing some ladies. I understand why you feel you must go. It is such a terrible road we all must travel and we all need to do what is best for ourselves. You will be missed greatly and the advise you have offered will also be missed.

Betty - Welcome. I haven't been here long but I have found great support here. I don't always reply but I do read all the posts and they do comfort me when I am struggling.

KIT FARIE CONGRATS!!!!!

Hey Ladies i thought i stop in here and say im doing ok.. in some pain .. came home yesterday and went to bed and was pretty much up all nite with pain and it hurt when i took a breath..

So i went down to the ER and they did a chest x-ray and comes back that i have air on my lungs from the procedure. and they gave me some more pain meds to help with the pain and if it gets worse for me to go back down.. right now im doing ok.. but when i lay down it hurts.. so i might be setting up in the recliner tonite to sleep. :(

I really dont know the results only what DF said.. bt he is soo forgetful about things.'
but he did hear her say that i will be able to have a baby..( well i knew that cause i got prego) and she flushed my tubes with blue dye.. i keep peeing it out..lol df said what is that..LOL

I go see her for my checkup on the 14th so i will know more details.. and know what she actually said..


so Sorry no personals :(

I do wish you all best of luck
and welcome to any new comers and verysorry for your loss
and sticky vibes for the ones that got BFP and very sorry for the ones that didnt get one this month..
hang in there ladies..

xoxoxo anita

morning everyone ,ttcalovechild-sorry your in pain,hope those meds do their job,results sound good so far...porshe-where are you up to?..alice-are you back on track with naturpath plan now your home?..betty-how are you?...mummy of 4-how did your scan go?..

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morning everyone ,ttcalovechild-sorry your in pain,hope those meds do their job,results sound good so far...porshe-where are you up to?..alice-are you back on track with naturpath plan now your home?..betty-how are you?...mummy of 4-how did your scan go?..

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Hi Matthew's Mum

For the last couple of days I've had EWCM so I'm really hoping that I am Oing naturally. I hope I get a + OPK tonight and then 2 days later I would hope to have a temp rise so then I know when to expect AF. We are TTC this cycle even though it is straight after M/C but we aren't if that makes sense?

I'll just be happy to get AF so we can start really trying on clomid again. FF has given me a guide as to when AF should be due. So hopefully it all works.

I really really hope my body is doing what is supposed to and not just tricking me. I hope the PCOS is being nice.

Firstly Kitfaerie: I am so happy for you! :dance: Please keep us posted with how things are going. I'll miss your cheery funny posts.

Saffy: sorry you've been visited by the blues. I can sooo relate: it's hard going through all this and i'm sure extra input of hormones- the clomid- doesn't help matters. I hope you exit the fog really soon. Hugs.

Like Alice i feel rather conflicted about everyone leaving. I'm scared of saying the wrong thing so I think i'll just keep it simple and say: good luck to all the ladies who are moving on. Sorry you aren't leaving for happier reasons. I hope you'll pop back from time to time but regardless, wish you all the best on your journey. (Alice thanks for saying things better than i could).

Millyd: hugs to you. I hope that your bleeding didn't mean bad news but if it does, i hope that in time, it might be something your DH is willing to reconsider or that you will find some peace with his decision.

AFM: Feeling horribly hormonal since yesterday. Cramps on and off. Headachy. Sore bbs. I think the wicked witch is coming...though i think it's a bit much to have symptoms kick in this early: i'm not due before Sunday at the earliest. Not happy Jan.

Just wanted to do a few more persies:

TTCALC: I hope you feel better soon. My friend had a similar procedure and said it knocked her out for a few days too. (She got pregnant the next month after 12 months of trying and without any reasons being found by the lap procedure for her lack of success before then!)

Reet: I can totally understand why you would be upset about missing a month. When you're in TTC mode it just feels like you desperately want it to happen and you want it to happen now! It feels like a month is a long time. (On the other hand, if you find that you have no choice but to miss a month or more of trying, it is possible to find ways to manage. I was in "It must happen now" mode but then was forced to wait three months to try again for medical reasons. It felt like a long time in one way but in another it took the pressure off for a while which wasn't a bad thing).

Porsche: Hope you pop that eggie soon!

Dory: Hope you are ok. Thinking of you.

Mathewsmum: not sure where exactly you're up to in your cycle but hope all is well

T-Hopes: Make sure when you come back you bring the sunshine with you (figuratively speaking. It's a bit gloomy in here... well except for Kit who is a sparkling ray of it all on her own...mwah!)

Iona Macca, Sunbeam, jellylove: Hello!

Sorry if I missed anyone.

xx