thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - November 2009

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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Jan 2009
    Perth
    276

    first of all sorry if i miss anyone. the thread has spiraled out of control!!!

    lol muraycod, sounds like my dh, he is off work at the mo with a headache, but he's feeling very sorry for himself. i can sympathise about the tetanus though, i had to have one last week after a mouse bit me that i was trying to save from the cat. see what thanks i get!

    greencake is your dh taking any kind of supplements, you can get them like blackmores or ultivite that increase production of well at least in our experience they seem to have made a difference lol

    craftymummy9 that's good news about the new house. we almost moved when i was pg, but we could not sell our house, i've just had so much bad luck. what have i done to deserve it?!?! hope you get your +ve opk soon

    milly5 hope you are ok, i'm no where near my edd but dreading it. hope the clomid works for you.

    ferrals4 that is a tough decision to make there. maybe just talk it through with dh, good luck on deciding what you want to do.

    Cookie36 and Hosebeastess sorry for your losses. Hope you take some comfort in posting in this forum x

    eliselouise85 you are only human, and everyone has times when they have to let their feelings out. hope you feel better now after the wedding.

    ric hope your cycles settle back to normal soon. have you tried vitex? i am taking pms essentials by nature's own which contain vitex and other stuff to try and sort my cycles out. maybe give this a try?!

    budgi is this your first af since m/c as lots of people say the first one after m/c is much heavier than usual, and can pass clots. i know how you feel about feeling sad and ripped off, and try to do things to help pass the time and not dwell on my m/c. i could see i was getting more and more depressed and introverted, but i am trying to stay positive.

    afm, counting down till i hopefully get my af on friday then we can start ttc i am surely due some smidgen of good luck.
    Last edited by scarypinkfairy; November 30th, 2009 at 08:22 PM. : adding more :)

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Aug 2009
    Murray River Victoria
    649

    Budgi my first AF after MC was just as heavy and painfull as MC itself. Was a terrible reminder. It's your bodies way of starting fresh, even though your mind might not be yet X
    Take one day at a time, and have love and patience for eachothers different greiving process. Getting prof-support is a good idea X
    Each of us here have some sort of idea what we are each feeling and going through, but men can be very hard to read, they don't talk about this stuff to their mates like we do X

    SPF.....lordy lord our boys are trouble!

  3. #3

    Apr 2009
    central coast
    2,298

    I spoke to the accounts ladie and so far we have spent $3000 on work up fees and medications not coverded $895 for EPU and the cycle fees of $11,000 come out of my bank today we get back $8,000 on medicare so all up we are out of pocket almost $7000 so we wont be doing anymore ivf we have to go with nature and hope we get lucky

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Sep 2009
    866

    Hi all,Ric-Sorry your cycles are mixed up,hope they get sorted soon.i agree with craftymummy about the opk,wait till the test line is darker...Craftymummy-my fs said wait until see darker line ,bd that night,miss a night,then the next night bd again,he told me he thinks i depleted dh swimmers last time i saw him,as my dh is getting up(no pun intended) in years ,like me...Eliselouise-no chance of you being forgotten,sorry to hear youve had a rough weekend,nothing to feel silly about,i think it's healthy to get emotional than holding it in too much,glad your sister was supportive.i've find going to councilling helps me,i think their trained in a way that they help you open up.I also go to support groups,sids & kids and bears of hope have pregnancy loss meetings.The links should be on their site,also i found sids & kids 24hour telephone helpline really helpful.Naturpath sounds like a great idea as well,you can only try...Ferrals-what a hard decision for you to make,surely this thread will get some luck soon...Cookie-sorry for your losses...Murraycod-thinking about you...Greencake-fingers still crossed...Milly-we get it,it is yet another day of what should of been and it hurts,good luck with the clomid...Budgi-hugs to you & your dp.Ifind my dh deals with our loss different to me..Scarypinkfairy-Hope af co-operates,good luck with this cycle...afm-still waiting for that darker test line on 'o' stick,think my eggs are on the slow boat to china.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Nov 2009
    Melbourne
    65

    I think I've figured out how this forum works - the replies come in so hard and fast, you're so busy trying to keep up with everybody else you don't have time to think about your own problems.
    Murraycod - he was just jealous about all the attention you were getting - I remember in the middle of of the tests and medical visits for K.T. having to race DH off to the hospital with a nose that had been bleeding for 2 hours. Only to stop the instant we went in to Triage!
    Just had a scan to try and find out if there's anything left over. Hope not, otherwise it will be another d&c for me Had some tears this morning (I was hoping the random tears were done) so I'm feeling surprising peaceful right now.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Aug 2009
    Murray River Victoria
    649

    Cookie that is exactly how it works!!!! Glad your feeling better after a cry, I always do. Yeah DH is a bit on the emotional side of the male gender....it's the Greek comming out in him (they cry a lot)

    Ferrals that is a decent hole in your bank account. Imagine what it is going to be like as of 31stDec. You know it's really not fair, I hope I don't offend anyone when I say this and sorry if I do, but if you are on the (not going to work) side of things, we pay taxes to support the non workers and under age pregnant rabbits of the world, but when it comes time to look after ourselves....well stiff. It is not fair. Sorry guys for the rant
    Just get sooo frustrated, Ferrals babe I'm so sorry you can't get to have another try, and I pray that all your strength and patience works out well for you naturally hun XXXX

    Matthew'sMum go catch that egg girl, when you find it!X

    ATM i'm still waiting for AF to show up, got a few niggles earlier in the day, so hopefully that it's her knocking at the back door. I'd really like to have AF by Thurs, not on Thurs cuz the cramping I get each month is very severe, I would hate to get that driving to Adelaide and back in one day (5 1/2hrs each way). Who knows, my cycles can range to 34days so time will tell.

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Nov 2008
    525

    Hi Ladies,

    Thanks craftymummy, cookie, greencake, murraycod, scarypinkfairy, matthewsmum for the hugs. I was a bit better today.

    murraycod - your DH story had me ROFLMAO!

    Hi Budgi - my first AF post m/c was really painful too.

    Ferrals - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the odds are in your favour now

    cookie - sometimes the tears just pop in, seemingly out of nowhere, don't they?

    murraycod - it seems strange saying hurry up AF doesn't it?

    Hello to all the other ladies, and sending Babydust*babydust*babydust