Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss October '08 #2

[tutmae]

Hi rach!
Don't stress too much hon (I know, easier said than done). Each cycle is different. Sometimes we don't o at all!! The cycle I conceived this little one I was told I hadn't o'd, so really take it with a grain of salt. Your body is probably still getting back into gear, and unfortunately it takes a different time for everyone. But patience (sigh) and perseverence will get you, and all of us, there!
Big and I TOTALLY understand the frustration!!

[RuthiePCOS momma]

Omg Af has NOT kicked in full throttle. It's just this stupid spotting. Today more than yesterday..so please can you keep sending AF vibes my way??... UUGHHHH I just want to have a normal period!!!


Rach78: I'm sorry about your loss. Tutmae is right.. sometimes it takes a few cycles for your body to kick back in gear.

Now I do have a question for you. Do you have PCOS?.. If so then even if you have all the symptoms of ovulation..it is very likely ovulation does not occur..even if you feel like you did. See many women can have their periods like clockwork and with or without the diagnosis.. it doesn't ensure proper ovulation. Many women Do ovulate.. but the egg it;self is not good quality..result in in early "flushing" or early miscarriage (many women don't even know they are miscarrying cuz it all happens so early and right away)

I did use OPKs with my Angel bubba ( I miscarried on Sept 11th this year) and for the looks of it.. I ovulated WAAAAYYYYY later on... my cycles range from 44 days to 150+
My first hint of a BFP was on cycle day 60 and I was around 3 weeks preggo..meaning I ovulated like on Cycle day 40ish ....CRAZY!! But I have Infertility I have PCOS.

That being said... women who have longer cycles ovulate later on.

I hope the OPKS do work for you. If not have you thought of seeing a specialist??..sometimes you don't have to have any diagnosis.. many doctors are giving many women w/o infertility Clomid to help with ovulation.

Good luck TTC girly. I hope to hear news soon from you ♥

[Where there's hope]

Mannie - I am really sorry about your test results. I know the stress they cause and doubt you got much sleep over the weekend. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me. Take care hon' - just hoping your numbers are a little low because of a late ovulation

AFM - As you can see by my new sig I got a BFN for my OI (which was never mean't to happen anyways). The whole process had me really fooled because last week I had the strongest PG-like symptoms I've ever had before a BT. So now I understand how IVF girls get their hopes up so high each time. You really do feel PG! Then I had a massive hormonal crash Friday and was greeted by AF. Spent the weekend in Sydney having some wonderful escapism. It was just what I needed. Am now on Day 3 of my new short cycle on a higher dose so will be curious to see how it goes. Does not feel as exciting this time around. Just hoping we get some embryos to biopsy (and hopefully transfer) so we have a better idea of the quality of my little eggies.

[Possums]

Hi everyone, just here reading and lurking still... sending hugs and hope to you all

and to the ladies who have tears when they don't expect them...me too...yesterday I was driving home from mum's place and bang...out of the blue, I think of our last ultrasound scan and the hopes and happiness I had had before it...and next thing I am sobbing again... I guess it's healing for us

[Mel1979]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the long post but I need some help!

Just a question if anyone can help? I am currently in the TWW *sigh* and I am due to test on Friday (if AF doesn't show up before then). I am charting my BBT on FF (this is my 3rd cycle charting). Yesterday I had a huge temperature dip (went from 36.89 to 36.10) which was 10 DPO. Today I went back up to 36.91. I was reading on FF that you can have an implantation dip between days 5-12 which statistically usually results in pregnancy (but of course not all the time). This have never happened to me in the 3 cycles I have been charting (not long I know) I usually always stay above the coverline in my lutual phase.

I am trying not to get my hopes up and I know everyone is different so what happens for one person may not be the same for me but does anyone have any feedback?

I have just started getting headaches, sore bb's, going to the toilet heaps and I have had a little dizziness, these can be normal AF signs for me though so nothing to count on. Ever since the m/c I seem to get pg symptoms each month before AF - it is so frustrating!

I would so love to be pg this cycle (October was my lucky month last year) but at the same time I wonder if it would work out fot the best to wait and see the FS after this cycle to make sure everything is ok. I am so scared after TTC for 12 months that there may be something wrong with me that caused the m/c last time. Irrational I know, I am blaming my hormones!

Yesterday was one year since the m/c and I was ok, we went out for the day so we didn't stay at home getting depressed. I am actually more upset and emotional today which is strange. I have visitors coming soon so I had better pull myself together.

Sorry to ramble on, just needed some feedback and advice if anyone has any?

Mannie - hope you're doing ok.

Angel - where are you?

WTH - Sorry to hear about your BFN.

Possums - cry when you need to. I often shed a few tears when I am driving by myself because I find that is when I have the time alone to think about our loss and our hopes for the future.

Ruthie - As you requested - sending AF vibes your way (you can have mine for this month!).

Mollycat - Thanks for the hug.

Rach78 - but wish you didn't have to be here. Sorry for your loss.

Big Hi to Jen, plc1805, tutmae, fificlaire, flowerchild and anyone else I have missed!

[rach78]

Thanks Tutmae and ruthie for your replys!

Tutmae - patience was never my virtue! This is only my 2nd onth ttc after my d&c - I really should give myself a break, hey??

Ruthie - I don't know much about PCOS so not sure on that one?? What are the symptoms? With my m/c twins we conceived the first month we tried - I wasn't stressed about it, didn't use ANY type of fertility/ovulation monitoring at all and just had to take a guess as to when I might have o'ed as my cycle varies in length a bit usually. having said that, I must have o'ed around day 15 that time around with the EDD that we were given for those baies (which is why I'm weireded out by the day 23/24 ovulation this onth!). So I think i'm panicking way more than is warranted!! I don't know why i am fussing around with OPK's etc. this time -maybe because I'm desperate??? I'd love more info on PCOS though- is it something I should be concerned about????

Thankyou both for the advice and kind words, big back to you two!!
xxxx

[Tuesday's Child]

Hi everyone. I just got back from Melbourne. WICKED was awesome! My friends and I got all dolled up and made a real night of it. My new shoes were killing me by the time we walked back to the hotel, but it was so worth it. Also caught up with a friend from high school. The funny thing was she flew to Adelaide the day after we saw her. But it was the first opportunity she'd had to show us the restaurant/bar culture she's always telling us about. Now I think I need a holiday to recover. LOL.

I haven't had a chance to catch up on whats been going on around here the last few days yet. But Mannie I just want to say that I'm so sorry for you and that I'm thinking of you.

Also thankyou to everyone for all your prayers and thoughts for my cousin. She's having another scan either today or tomorrow. that there is some good news.