Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss October '08

JEN - Java works :clap::confetti::leap: i'll be able to join you in chat now.......

Thanks everyone for your support of my idea. I think I was just concerned some people would think an email was impersonal (bit like breaking up with someone via text message). But Angel described it best by saying that it allows me to compose exactly what I want to say and gives people time to think about it.

Angel - I plan to include the poem "A pair of shoes". It sums everything up so well.

jonisteve - Sorry you've had to join us here. I see you've already found that we're a very supportive bunch. I hope you're stay here is a short one.

mummyof3boys - I'm sorry about your cousin. It isn't easy for us to deal with other pregnant women, but I think its even harder to see someone else go through the pain we have. I don't know what to say. :hug:

dellydoo - I hope your FS can give you some answers soon. I still feel a bit guilty for having a glass of wine or two.

Krystie - Great to see you're well enough to check in. :bellyrubs: for little chyan.

Easha - Chocolate is exactly how I get through AF. And maybe a glass of wine if I'm feeling strong. Give yourself a few days to feel disappointed, then you can focus on next month.

Tam - Hope the clomid works.

:bluedust::pink-babydust::stickyvibesgirl::stickyvibesboy: and :hug: to everyone else

Which of these tests can the dr do and what are just simple bloodtests?
Angel and Tam have convinced me to be more proactive with what is happening with my body and I want to be armed when I go see my dr!

* coeliac disease
* MTHFR homozygosity
* anti- beta II glycoprotein
* prothrombin gene mutation 20210A
* anticardiolipin anitbody
* plasma homocysteine
* antinuclear antibodies
* prothromin 3
* protein C
* Free protein S (antigenic)
* RVV test
* Delta KCT
* Lupus anticoagulant
* Factor V Leidin
* Chlamydia
* Mycoplamsa/ ureplasma
* Chromosomal analysis

Hi all,

I'll def be lighting my candle tonight in rememberance of my angel that was not meant to be part of this earthly world and for all my friends including all of you ladies who have also lost angels!

Big :hug:to you all for today and tonight!!!

Quick Question as you may notice I now have got myself a TTC ticker, can someone tell me if the ticker updates daily or if I have to manually do it every time?

thanks sorry for no persies will def come back and do that tonight since hubby is off playing touch footy and I have the house all to myself!! yay for me time!!! :D

Happy October 15 everyone! God bless all our little :angel: babies!



WTH--So sorry to hear your iVF was cancelled, I know you're SO disappointed! :hug: Hope the trigger injection helps you in catching that egg Good luck on Friday with the FS! Chin up, hon.... saying lots of prayers for you!



hannah--I think your e-mail is an awesome idea! I don't think it's cowardly at all, I think it's brilliant! :hug:



larz--You know you're welcome to stay as long as you need! :hug:



Krystie--No, no, no.... Angel's the schmuck, not me! You must have some preggie brain going on! I'm pretty sure that Auntie Angel is the one teaching little Chyan to flip the bird! You better keep an eye on that one! She insists she's a prune, but we know how she really is deep down... you should have heard her in chat today... she always said we were corrupting her, but let me tell you.... poor Tam got to see Angel at her finest! ROFL

plc--What a beautiful thing to say! Thank you! :grouphug:



megsmum--Aww, cycle bud, hope these *belly rubs* help your cramps go away! Hugs...



Shouting a big hello's to dellydoo & Milla! Sending big hugs to you both!



Easha--Good luck with the chinese herbalist! *HUG* Really hope it helps, glad to hear you're being proactive--you're such a trooper! Hang in there, hon!




Angel--Hey schmuck! Guess what? I got my pin! :leap: It's so cute, it has little feet inside a heart with a teardrop, and says "Always in my :heart:"

Thoroughly enjoyed chat this am! ROFL Did you ever find you voice? Hope it gets better soon!

Oh, btw, you actually spelled innocence right! But nobody here believes you're innocent! Nice try.... they should include brainwashing as a forum rule/reg! ROFL



mollycat-- ROFL at you calling me a cheat! Yay for getting java to work! Now you just have to stay awake to use it!



Tam--Enjoyed our little chat this am! You could really give Angel a run for her money! You fit in rather well with us, I'd say! Could be lots of trouble with plc and Krystie! But lay off the smart arse pills, will you please? ROFL *whip*

Thanks for counting down my TWW with me! :hug: Ooh, and enjoy the temping! Don't forget that I warned you first about how addicting it will become! Are you already becoming a fellow chart stalker? Really praying that the Clomid works for you! Best of luck, will be here to cheer you on!





joni--Big *HUG* for you, hon. OMG, I SO vividly remember those feelings.... when you don't feel like doing anything but crying, forcing yourself out of bed, being impatient to just BE pregnant again! I so feel your pain! *HUG* I pray that your heart begins to heal.... time will ease your pain... each day will get a little better than the last. Just hold onto that!




smi--Wow! So that's why you've been so cheery lately! So does this mean you're back to TTC?


missbec--Sorry, I'm not sure about the BT's. Hope someone else around here can help you out! Good luck!



Mannie--Yes, the ticker will update daily. You usually have to make a new ticker at the end of each cycle.... some of them automatically update, but mine I always have to change. Hope that helps! :hug:

Thanks Jen darling - I needed that hug!
Hannah honey - I feel no guilt about the wine; I feel guilty for things that are intangible. The email was just so well received. What a great idea, thanks.
Mollycat - thanks for Ruthie's post; that is just wonderful news
Tam - I hope this is your cycle my darling!
Smi - I am so so glad I made you smile.

AFM - still waiting to hear back from FS - my ovulation is all over the shop so it might be next cycle before anything happens. Sigh.
Hugs
A

Just a short note on this Day of Remembrance.
You each have made our pain that little bit more bearable.
A heart-felt thank you.

Hello to all you lovely ladies, today is a day for us so I think we should all make a promise that tonight when all our work is done we will sit down with our angel candles burning and do something for ourselves.
It is strange that today is the day my DH cousin is giving birth to her :angel: she may have had him already, I haven't heard yet. My MIL & FIL went to see her last night, they put her on the maternity ward (where she could hear babies crying)to be induced. We are hoping the autopsy gives a reason so she will know why.
Thank you to all who replied to my post yesterday, I thought I was the biggest b**** for the way I was feeling, but your replies made me realise that yes I am the same with pregnant friends and new babies. Thank you for making me see that I am not weird for reacting the way I did.
I am thinking about calling in search and rescue, AF still is missing. 13 days late. Maybe I am, I dunno. Getting another HPT tonight to do in the morning. DH did ask if maybe AF came but didn't notice!! :wtf:
Thinking of you all :grouphug:

Jen - thanks for the reply will make sure to keep an eye on it...by the way I've been stalking your chart this cylce and the rise in temp on 7DPO looks very promising luv....this could be your month!! :bluedust: am :pray:for you!!

Miss Bec Tam is a doctor I'm sure she will know what most of those tests are goodluck with it all, I'm a banker and have no idea what any of those tests are, not even sure if I've had them myself....

ok back to work for me.....persies tonight...ciao ciao

Jen - problem no. 1 fixed - now to work on staying awake......

Mto3B - Don't you love it when they pop you in maternity. I had the same thing after my m/c. It was that or stay in the emergency dept. I must admit the hospital staff (except for the obs) was wonderful. Maternity found me a single room at the opposite end of the ward from the babies, the woman in the room next to me had her baby in the special care nursery so I didn't have to hear it. I had nurses sit with me during the night when they found me awake.

Wouldn't it be great if doctors, emergency depts or hospitals could hand out information on support services. I know when I left the hospital, I felt so empty. I had no idea of where to look for support. thinking back, it would have been good to have someone to talk to that had been there during the first few weeks.

I've had a reply from one of my emails from a work colleague apologising that she didn't offer more support. She was one of a few people that did.....

To all the wonderful girls on this thread (and the ones that have moved on) -- thank you for your support during the last eleven months. Without you, I wouldn't be where I am today. Thank you.

Angel and Hannah - I included "A pair of shoes" with my email. I agree, it sums it all up doesn't it.

Missbec - I'm not sure about the tests. I know after my m/c my gyno sent me for a huge list of blood tests (can't remember what they were for now). They cost a fortune and all came back clear. It's worth asking though

missbec - I might be able to help you out a little, I used to work in Pathology in my former life ;) I should warn you though, you'll be getting a LOT of blood taken for all these tests....HTH

* coeliac disease - don't know about this one....
* MTHFR homozygosity - blood test I think
* anti- beta II glycoprotein - blood test I think
* prothrombin gene mutation 20210A - blood test
* anticardiolipin anitbody - blood test
* plasma homocysteine - blood test
* antinuclear antibodies - blood test
* prothromin 3 - blood test
* protein C - blood test
* Free protein S (antigenic) - blood test
* RVV test - blood test
* Delta KCT - blood test
* Lupus anticoagulant - blood test
* Factor V Leidin - blood test
* Chlamydia - blood test
* Mycoplamsa/ ureplasma - blood test
* Chromosomal analysis - otherwise known as Karyotype - blood test

A quick hi to everyone else today :) I have DD at home today so no time for persies, but WTH I hope you are going OK today :hug:

I'll just add this too seeing as today is Remembrance Day, massive thanks to everyone on this site who supported me through my m/c and subsequent TTC problems. At least when it seemed that no one else cared I could still come here - thanks so much everyone :grouphug: I will be thinking of you all and of all our angels when I light my candle at 7pm tonight :(

I've already had several responses to my email. It was quite humbling to receive all those supportive responses. I think there was an arrogance in my unwillingness to tell people because I assumed they wouldn't understand. I guess it goes to show that you should give people a chance because they WILL surprise you.

Thankyou all for your support over the last couple of months. I really don't know how I would have coped without you all. I've bought a candle especially to light tonight for all of our :angel: babies. I have a work dinner on tonight (can you believe it?) so it won't be lit at 7pm in Adelaide, but it'll be 7pm somewhere.

Angel Babies- your site is amazing, touching and beautiful

Only 3 hours until candle lighting time for me here in Tas.

I think this day not only is good from the point of view of educating others..... it is also good for us..... We get to a point where its "under control" and we keep moving forward day by day.

For me today, I have taken the time by myself to really listen to the songs... read through the poems..... sing the songs (not a good sound considering i lost most of my voice last night)..... but sing them anyway... and the tears have just poured out..... not in a crappy way but in a memorial way....if that makes any sense at all.

So today I have spent the day with my little angels..... I love them as much as ever... I miss them as much as ever.... They are my little angels and today is my day just for them.

While I can I want to thank everyone I have met on this site since I first logged on.... the 1st January this year.... the day after I lost Krystal and the day I lost Cameron...... I have met so many amaizing ladies.... some of which i am waiting to hear the good news....NICKSTER.....yes... singling you out...I was at the most down point I had ever been....If I was to read back on the posts I did back then I think I would just lose it..... But these wonderful ladies were there... they understood....and even though most of them have now moved on.... I now have another group of wonderful ladies that I get to be with each day.... they are there for me and I m there for them..... So to all of you... thankyou for making this journey just that little bit easier. Huge hugs to you all :grouphug:

Thanks for the poems Angel. Absolutely lovely and very touching, they brought tears to my eyes again for mine and all of our angels....

xx

Just to let you lovely ladies know - posting poems and songs is welcome and lovely. However this thread is for chatting about TTCAML and we ask that it be kept to that. You will see we have a thread specifically for sharing poems/lyrics etc. I have moved AngelBabies contributions there.
Also - when posting please post just once with all your messages - consecutive posts for different messages creates extra load on our site - a long post is absolutely fine...

If somebody has any problems/queries/concerns you can contact myself Mistyflying or Niliac.

You will find the poems HERE

Once again we are reminded. But NOTHING can take away from today.

Well its 5pm my time (QLD) and I confess.... I lite the candles earlier today. I have one sitting on either side of the TV...... But for those of you sticking to the rules :redface: its starting to come up to 7pm.... well actually if you were over in NZ it would be 7pm.... so betty boop.... if your still lurking... time to light..... :)