Trying to Conceive After Miscarriage or Loss October 2010

Loops - Damnit. :( I'm still holding out hope until the fat lady sings though. I know how you'll cope, the same way you always do. I know you have the strength and courage to face whatever is coming your way. :heartbeat:

99.95% sure its a BFN once more - More AF headaches, more bleeding and a temp as low as 65.9. It started creeping down from 37 a couple of days ago. :( :'( thats about all I can say
Thanks again for your support - would not get through any of this without such kind and thoughtful people.

Thanks heaps Forshelby ~ really means a lot xoxo <3

oh loops, so sorry to hear AF is on her way, sending you a bunch of hugs xoxox

Loops: sorry to hear things aren't looking great for you at the moment, sending big hugs your way

So sorry, Loops. I don't know what else to say. :hug:

loops...im sorry darl..how u holding up..?

atm....had my daughters bday and got very drunk lol we all had a really fantastic time and my daughter had a blast...kids loved the jumpy castle....we have been bding...been using opk twice a day...and im on day twelve now...theres a line but not as dark as the control......maybe i might have that massage today.....i just am dying to see that positive opk

whooooooooohooooooooooooo i think the opk test is actually positive..........tooot toooooooooooottttttttttt

its as dark as control line.....

I'm so sorry Loops :hug:

Goodluck catching the egg Melster!

Forshelby, I am going to the Dr on Wednesday (for a variety of things!) so i may POAS in the morning before i go or i might just get her to do a quantitive blood test then so at least if i am PG that can be my first quant to go off ITMS. I will be having lots of monitoring when i do finally get PG. I *think* i'll either be 10 or 12 DPO on Wednesday so it should show up by then. I got my BFP with DS at 8DPO.

Hope everyone is having a lovely Sunday! xx

Thanks for the hugs ladies
No sign of blood now but still defintely wont be getting any hopes up, particularly with that temp this morning. Also if Stoked got BFP at 8DPO then I probably have no hope at 11DPO.

Stoked ~ GL hun, FX tight it is a BFP!

Melster ~ have fun B'Ding and goodluck.

Hi to everyone else and I hope you're enjoying the sunshine - im stuck at work but Im busy which is good - makes the day go quicker

Loops, don't lose hope just yet.. One of the other girls in here (Kellbell I think) didn't get a BFP til after AF was due. I had quite high HCG levels so that's probably why mine showed up at 8DPO.
Sorry.. I feel bad for saying that now! But it was very early to get a BFP in anyone's books! Xx

Loops~ Oh darl I just wanna give you a really big cyber hug hun, Stay away from Loops Plz AF plz stay away. Good sign that there is no more bleeding though, and please don't stress yet darl I don't get any BFPs until after AF is over due either, when I do get em.....lol....Still praying that you get your BFP darl and like Forshelby said it aint over until the fat lady sings darl. Hang in there hun. xox
Forshelby~ Hello our dear lurking floating friend hope you and bub are all good you must be nearly halfway now....awesome darl just awesome.....
Melster~ WooHoo great to hear about that fabulous +ive on your OPT, keep up your BDing......and catch that egg of yours darl, good luck.
Stoked, Joeve~ Have my fingers crossed tightly for you both how are you going? Any symptoms yet?
AFM~ It's CD38 today and no sign of AF just yet today is 4DPO so I usually get AF anywhere from 5-9days after Oing. Feel really bloated today and still have very tender sore BBs but that's been going on now for 2 weeks. Not much happening in my neck of the woods got my DRs appointment tomoro not looking forward to it at all but what can you do but be brave and face reality. lol....Hope everyone has had a great week end. And I can't wait to read all the up and coming BFPs this week. Just to put some positive thoughts out there for everyone in the TWW. xx

Stoked ~ Oh im so sorry hun I didnt want or mean it to sound like I was upset by it or anything because Im not at all - very sorry for making you feel bad, please dont feel bad.
I guess its more that I keep thinking that if I do end up with a BFP later that it might not stick i.e. might end up with a m/c like last time, but then thats not necessarily going to be the case. I think I just over-analyse everything way too much, dont I lol. Ive always been like that. I truly hope you will get your BFP and :crossfingers: tight!

Clairesmummy ~ :crossfingers: tight for you too, definitely your turn I reckon, good luck

AFM ~ I am feeling a tiny bit more hopeful. Because when I think about it Ive really only had bits of pinky/brown mixed with the Crinone gel (sorry if TMI), so that could have very well been implantation blood. Also my temp has gone back up again this arvo to 37degrees. I do have a headache but I guess that could be PG related, not necessarily AF headache. Thanks for encouraging me everyone - you ladies and others on BB are the reason Im not giving up all hope just yet xoxo

Loops~ I'm not even thinking about me at the moment, to excited about reading all the BFPs that you are all going to announce soon. So it could be implantation you had then, I so hope it is. And they all sound like PG symptoms to me darl. FX

Stoked - Ooh, good luck.... can't wait to hear your results.

Loops - Remember everyone is different. I didn't get my bfp with my first preg until after af was due. This one was only a couple of days before it was due, so even the same person can be different :) Keep on truckin', hun. I'm hoping it was implantation, too.

Clairesmummy - Yep, halfway tomorrow actually. I left my ticker all hanging out for you :) How are things going with your new dr?

Forshelby~ WooHoo for the halfway mark to parenthood how awesome hun. Can't wait to see how big bub is now on your ticker.......what's after the mango??? I will have to check it again. Not long now and you will be holding your precious little bub in your arms darl. Things with my new DR is going ok apart from having problems trying to get a referral off of her to go and see an OB/GYN. She is pretty certain there's not much wrong with us as I have had 1 healthy very happy DD before and she said to me obviously you can do it and you will again, DF hasn't had his SA done as yet as when we went in there for him to have it done the only room he could get his sample in was the toilet at the hospital and after a good half hour/hour of trying he just couldn't get it done as he was freaking out about someone wanting to use the loo and being in the loo wasn't exactly enticing to him at all....lol....so next time which will hopefully be in a fortnights time we shall go a little more prepared for him and get him in the mood first IYKWIM.....lol.......DF was pretty annoyed that he didn't get it done and I had to reassure him that it's all ok. DR told him not to stress to much he has got me PG twice before so there can't be to much wrong with his swimmers. So we shall see what happens when we finally get in there to have them checked. FX all is good and maybe it's just my body not cycling properly just yet.
Hope everybody in here is heading for a great new week, I'm feeling pretty nervous about going to the DR this morning just feel like hiding and pretending nothing is happening. So scared that I won't get that referral today from her.

hey ladies...

clairesmummy good luck at dr

omg i have the darkest opk yet this morning.....its darker than the control line whoooohoooooo but i have my obs app this morning...should i tell him or do u think hell be annoyed.....

Clairesmummy - i hope your dr gives you the referral and you can start getting things rolling. Oh your poor DF, having to hang off for another 2 weeks but here's hoping he can get his sample for the next appt

Melstar - go get that eggy and I would tell your ob, better for them to know where you are at in your cycle. good luck

Clairesmummy - We have a room set up as of yesterday now... it's all very strange feeling. I got up this morning and peeked inside and it was all still there. :o This is happening! Poor DF not being able to get the job done, although I don't think I could do it under those circumstances either. I agree with your dr, it will happen again, it's just a matter of when. Good luck with your appointment and I hope you get your referral. :) (Oh and btw I don't know what comes after the mango.. it's all very exciting lol)

Melster~ Good luck with your OB appointment hun, I would let your OB know as they need to know all details to get good results. Let us know how you go there this morning.
Iona~ I hope she does as well but I have a sneaking feeling I won't get it today I just feel like she wants to wait a while longer before taking that next step, IYKWIM. Frustrating as it is I'm secretly hoping and praying maybe we won't need that appointment and my fertilised egg is travelling it's way down my fallopian tube as I type to snuggle in nice and tight for the next 9months. Here's to hoping and lots of praying anyhow....lol......
For us all to keep going through this we all must be pretty strong women when you actually sit down and think about it.....we keep going through the same thing over and over and over again only to get to the next TWW and still be holding onto to hope that we will get our BFP and no AF. So I say raise our glasses to all the women in the world who are TTC and not having much luck with it all atm. WE are all a huge power to be reckoned with, that's my thought for the day. lol....Have a great day ladies.
SToked,Joeve~ How are you both going? Hope the wait's not driving you insane to much........Keeping my FX for you both.

Forshelby~I will have to stalk you to check your ticker.......lol.......it's all so very educational your ticker......lol.....would love to get myself one of them one day at least....;) And while you are here hun I must say a huge thank you to you as I was so ready to give up on TTC the other day but when I read your post about how would I feel in 20yrs about it all I had a really good think about everything and I come to realise that if I was to give up I would regret it down the track as I have never given up on anything in my life. No matter what it is I have wanted I have always worked hard until I got whatever it is I was wanting. And still do to this day always striving to get where we want to be. So that all said if it wasn't for all of my friends on BB I couldn't keep going through all this dissappointment and not getting any where with out the support and understanding of you all on here. :grouphug:
Poor DF was sooooo cranky when he couldn't get his sample I never thought he would of got cranky over it but he did, so now I have realised he may say if we get PG great but if we don't it's all good to but seeing his reaction the other day made me realise that he wants this as much as I do. Why can't men just say what they mean....lol

Thanks ladies xoxo
Clairesmummy ~ thanks for your excitement about me. Sorry about your DH's hard time, I know mine also really struggles with that - so he's not alone. I know what you mean about men never saying what they mean, thats mine down to a tee. I also know that he wants a child almost as much as me but it was very hard at first to know what was going through his head thats for sure. You're welcome hun - you have been here for all of us too and I know I def wouldnt get through this without you xo

Forshelby ~ thanks for the hope :) xo

Melster ~ excellent! Goodluck and have fun.

Hi to everyone else today - hoping everyone is well

AFM today ~ still just brown in the Crinone that comes out and probably a little bit brighter last night on the Crinone stick (sorry again if TMI) which was a worry. My temp is back up to around 36.8 but the worst is that I have a splitting headache/migraine I cant get rid of with panadol. Usually these type of headaches mean AF on the way. If she's not here by tomorrow I might get a little more hopeful again because I usually get AF on Sun/Mon and generally no later than a Tues. If she doesnt come Ill probably test again on Wed. Still crossing fingers. Thanks everyone for your support once more - :grouphug:

Clairesmummy - :) I'm happy to be of service. Keep at it, and you WILL get your baby. Most men don't say what they mean, but I think I'm lucky, as DP is pretty clear cut with everything. He doesn't like to beat around the bush so to speak. Just remember, every disappointment is one step closer to those two beautiful lines.

Loops - Keep those FX hun!

went to the ob and he wants me to get my bloods done and come back in twoish weeks....hopefully ill go back to him pregnant.....im trying to be confident this time round....and it helps with a positive opk test finally.....we bd this morning and then the next couple days...i dont know whether i should keep testing just to see or whether i should stop so i dont stress over the lines......opks r normall positive between one land two days arent they?

Clairesmummy...i cant believe he had to try and do it in the toilet....hopefully u get a sample next time...

Loops...i hope u get ur bfp and it comes quickly

Hi again everyone thought I would give you all a heads up with what's going on with me now. Been to the DR spent the last 3 hours in there waiting as my DR had to rush off to the hospital to see a very ill patient. Anyway I finally got in there to see her and all BT came back -ive for Ovulation and for Pregnancy so she has now given me my referral to go and see a OB/GYN. I have just made my appointment to go and see him and it's on the 8th of November at 12pm so it's gunna be a long wait, I could of got into see him this Wednesday but I want DF to be with me hence the long wait to get over there.
Quick question to anybody who can answer it my DR put on the referral that I now have secondary amenorhea WTF is that? Got the results of my BTs on the referral but I have no idea what they all mean, I'm totally clueless.....lol......Oh and to top it all off I have been having problems with my right ear the last couple of days it feels all blocked up IYKWIM and got my DR to have a look at it and she said I can't believe you aren't in alot of pain and it's severely infected, so woohoo for me. lol On antibiotics to clear that up.....:wall::wall::wall::wall:

Melster - My opk's were sometimes + for 3 days. Ok, one time but I'm sure it would've happened again. Good luck!

Clairesmummy - Amenorrhea is the absence of a period. I'm assuming secondary means it's for a reason other than pregnancy?? This is just me stabbing in the dark though. I hope your ear infection clears up fast, and good luck with the next appointment :)

Forshelby~ Thank you for that I was so worried when I read that about the secondary thingy...sounds scary...I hope my ear infection clears up real soon too hun it's driving me insane not being able to hear much with it.......feels horrible always having to say sorry I can't hear you.......feel like a lost cause again....lol....DR said it should be cleared up in 3 days but to keep taking the anti biotics for 3 days after that as well.
Forgot to say in my last post to you about you and your DH setting up bubs room, that is so cool I remember setting everything up for DD before she arrived but I would change it all around every few days......lol...must of been a nesting thing and I won't tell you how many times I washed all her bubby clothes before she arrived......lol....it makes it feel so much more real once you start setting everything up for bub.

Loops: Fingers crossed AF stays away!
Clairesmummy: Disapointed for you your BT didn't show 'o' but at least your GP finally coughed up the referral! Poor DP! I agree with FOrshelby: I don't think i could get in the mood in a toilet either. Brave man to try.
Melster: Glad you got your +ive OPK!
Minniemouse: How are the tingling ovaries?!
Stoked: unusual pg symptom but you know your own body... hope you get good news this week.
FOrshelby: Hello little canteloupe! We miss you!
Iona Macca: Nice to see your name in here. Miss you too. Hope you are doing well.

AFM: AF came Friday. It's been a rotten cycle with 10 days of feeling cr*p before AF and then very headachey during. Think AF is mostly finished now thank goodness. But DD is sick so not having a fun week. Looking forward to 'O' next week and 'ding! ding!' round two of TTC (Well, round two of our third attempt at a sticky pg).

Hello everyone
Possum - sorry Af came for you and she was horrible
Loops -crossing things all over for you
Clairesmummy -yay for specialist appointment it will come around super fast!

AFM still hanging in the TWW boring.....

Joeve: Hi! How much longer till AF is due? Hope your TWW ends more happily than mine!

Hi Ladies
No BFP coming from me Im afraid, started to get bit more blood last night, then about 1am cramps started coming, this morning more blood and BFN on POAS. So im out and pretty devastated :'(. Dont really have any confidence left now all I know is I will be getting smashed next few weekends with parties on and then Im going to focus on losing my belly Ive gained with all the stress and try to just have fun with DH. Thats about all I can do right now.

I wish you ladies much more success then us, good luck!
Joeve ~ goodluck hun, crossing everything for you
Clairesmummy ~ And crossing everything for you too.

Hi to everyone else and Im sending out lots of babydust, stickyvibes!
Thanks once more for all your wishes and support, means so much to us and I would never get through all of this without you all. Big group hugs!!

Clairesmummy - I've had lots of ear infections in my lifetime, so I feel your pain! They suck! The ab's will clear you up fast though. I think we've got the room set up just right so no need to change it...........yet. :)

Possum - Hi hun, I miss all of you guys too. :) Sorry AF was such a bugger..... here's hoping for a no show this cycle!

Loops - Stay strong hun. Enjoy your parties, and your DH *wink wink*. I wish it didn't have to be so hard for you :(

Loops~ Hun I am so sorry the wotch is arriving for you I wish you could send her to me so you could get your BFP this cycle, I would be glad to take her away from you. Sending you lots of cyber hugs darl. And like Forshelby said let your hair down darl and have fun at those parties and even more fun with your DH........Hope you are feeling better soon. Thinking of you.
Possum- Hi there, sorry AF has been such a witch to you hun. Hope it all settles down soon for and you get your BFP this cycle. Good luck.
Joeve~ How long until you test darl? I'm glad you think my appointment will come around fast darl cause I feel like I'm gunna be waiting forever for my appointment....lol...
AFM~ Well today is now CD40 and still no signs of AF arriving at all. God this is sooooo frustrating and driving me insane....:wall: If I have O'd I think it would of been on CD34-35 would my BT picked up if I was gunna O at all? Or should I take the BT results and say I haven't O'd at all???? I had very +ive OPT on CD33-35 then back to -ives, temp rise on CD35-40. I'm so confused and so worried why have I O'd in all previous cycles and not this one. I have always got AF on CD26-28 never later unless I have been PG. :wall::wall:

Thanks Forshelby ~ surprisingly I am staying pretty strong, must be thanks to you lovely ladies xoxo

Clairesmuumy ~ thats is so gracious of you, means so much to me, thanks from the bottom of my heart. One of us has to get positive news and I reckon it deserves to be you, NO AF for you!! Hang in there xoxo

Ive just gone out and drowned my sorrows in McDonalds LOL - had to do something. Dont want to drink grog until after the BT on Fri - just in case.

Possum - I am CD30 and I usually get AF CD28 or CD29 so I am one or two days late I realised after consulting with FF today! Ha ha not testing can't face a BFN I feel like AF is coming and I have been dashing to the loo every 5 minutes to check as you do.....

hey ladies...

Pm......heres to u o'ing and having a good next cycel

joeve...hows the 2ww going....u nust be ready to test now wouldnt u

loops......im so sorry......words just wouldnt be enough....im sorry that it wasnt successful.....sending u cuddles....

Clairesmummy.......so sorry about the ear infection and all ur worries at the moment....ur cycle sounds like its doing some pretty wiered things at the moment....i really do hope u get some answers soon

atm.....well my test is lighter today....so its lookin positive this cycle....maybe just knowing i was going to see my ob relaxed me anough to o......well what ever it takes and even a sixty dollar app....i wanted to bd this monring but hubby is having some kiddie problems so i am hoping he will be in a better mood this arvo or tonight....then one more try the next day and here comes the two week wait for me.........

Loops~You are very welcome hun, I am trying to hang in there I reallly don't even know what's going on with me if I did O the other day or not, or this is just one weird whacked out cycle for me....But love the idea of the maccas to drown your sorrows sounds like a great plan. Hope you are holding up ok darl, thinking of you and sending you some cyber hugs.
Joeve~ How are you going darl? Hope the dreaded AF is staying away from you.
Stoked~ How's things going darl when are you going to test? Stay away wicked AF.
Melster~ Good Luck with your 2WW hope it all comes out trumps for you darl. FX tightly keep up the bding.
AFM~ Ohhhhh I am so over everything right now, if I did O I would be 6DPO today temp is still up a little and still no sign of AF. Today is the day I usually start a little spotting after O time but so far nothing. So either I will have a real LP this cycle or I still haven't O'd as yet. Ah who knows I just wish I knew what was going on with my cycles it is really driving me insane. I only thought the 2WW was horrible but now I'm at CD41 and still no idea WTF is happening with me this is the worst waiting I have ever done in all my life. Give me the 2WW any day at least you know when AF should arrive by and if she don't you POAS. The joys of being a woman.....I'm over it.......lol......:wall:

Morning ladies..

Its very quiet, were is everyone..?????

Clairesmummy...you're having a rough time at the moment arent you! It must be very difficult and i feel for you, i would be going insane myself....i am probably worse than what you are LOL LOL.............I guess all you can do is try and distract yourself the best you can and keep busy...is there any hobby, or work, or socialising you can do, any sports, or reading.....just something to keep you're mind relaxed.........they say it really helps bring things on................I have been trying to think what i could do to keep me occupied during the 2ww...and the only things that have kept be busy is drinking (only before the 2ww) and socialising and going to parties..my daughters bday was a bit of a distraction..reading helps to some degree...working helps a little bit....i know the thoughts never really go away but we just need a bit of relaxation..do something nice for yourself, a hot bath or massage or foot massage..that really helped me the other day getting that massage and a massage from hubby and some cuddles....best $35.00 i spent and think it defiantly helped relax me to o...

atm......well i am hoping that i have ACTUALLY o'd....i have had quiet alot of sensation in both my ovaries...kinda a heavy pulling aching type feeling on both sides....hope thats normal and i have actually release an egg...one more bdance tonight and then im on the 2 ww...FUN FUN FUN..im so excited..........NOT!!!!! LOL LOL...i have an achy back and feel a bit sicky, and headachy today..but it could be anything but probably hormones....We go away on holidays next week so that should be VERY interesting..i want to drink but i cant and dont really know the people going and i have to test over there away from my family..and with the skids....so i am kinda not that excited about going!!!!!!!!!! i suppose it is a slight distraction though with all the organising and packing..

Clairesmummy- Oh u poor thing :( hey just wondering if u know what ur progesterone levels were at at ur last bt?? Or if u can call up and ask? Knowing them will maybe tell u if af is on her.. if u have O'ed or if af is not coming anytime soon. Ive had a few bts to find out these things so i kinda know what ur levels shld be at. xx

Reet~ I have both BT results and levels on my referral for the Ob/GYN. I'm still nearly convinced I O'd the day of or the day after my last BT. The levels in my first BT was FSH-23, LH-9, Oestradiol-134 and Progesterone-0.9 they were taken on CD19 the next lot were taken when AF never arrived so they would of been on CD34 and they were FSH-9, LH-6, Oestradiol-182, Progesterone-3.8. I think this is the day I O'd on as I had the very +ive OPK for 2 days in a row then on this day they were -ive then I had my temp rise 35.9 morning of BT 36.1 the following morning then 36.6 the morning after that and temp is still up today it hasn't dropped any lower than 36.2 since the morning I got the 35.9. I have no idea what my levels should be in my BT results but if you can work them out for me that will be so appreciated hun thank you so very very very much for helping me.....xoxoxox

hi Ladies,

I popped in before but was still going through my miscarriage At the time so we weren't exactly ttc yet.
I have been back to normal for a little over a week now and would you believe it, I started testing for ovulation a few days ago, just to see when I was getting back to normal and four days ago, nothing, three days ago nothing, two nights ago light positive on ovulation test.... Yesterday dh and I had a day of stupid fighting so I didn't bother to test but it seems I either ovulated yesterday or today, so yay !!!! We will see what happens .....

Just a question though, I looked at a website and it said you are most fertile BEFORE you ovulate.
I am, confused, I thought it was the day before, the day of ovulation and the day after we were aiming for????? Any help ladies..... This doesn't HAVE to be our month as I haven't had AF back since the m/c yet but we will still try ........