Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 2009

**MistyFying** · March 28th, 2009, 02:38 PM

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**Easha** · March 28th, 2009, 02:43 PM

Yay !!! looks like I'm first

Hey lovely ladies,

I know I have been MIA for awhile - time goes by so quickly

Had the NT scan last week and it was DH first time seeing the bub, he is more nervous now than before !!!

The results are I have a very healthy bub with 1:4000 chance of an abnormality (which is good)

The scan dated me 5 days later than we thought although the lady said this is normal for it to fluctuate between each scan. So I am between 14-15 weeks.

Got to tell everyone finally last week - which is a relief. My team know I love to have a drink with them every now and then so were suspicious when I wasn't drinking.

Any more BFP's since I have been MIA??

Hope you are all well

**sallyk61** · March 28th, 2009, 03:04 PM

Hello Ladies.

Is it terrible that I can't wait to go to sleep so this day just ends?

Feeling a bit sore, like I might be getting my period but so unsure!!
I've been watching a bit more closely and it seems my cm has a slight brownish colour to it (sorry if TMI).
I thought I had 'o' last maybe 8 days ago and thought I might get my period this coming weekend.

Trying to stop feeling so angry and upset that other people seem to be pregnant and its so easy and lovely for them and my only experience just keeps breaking my heart...

Its the weekend god damn it I should be happy!!!

mummy_of_3_boys · March 28th, 2009, 03:54 PM

Here is some

for the new thread!

Take care all you beautiful ladies and have a good weekend.

**jen805** · March 29th, 2009, 02:38 PM

Hi girls!

Today has been such a busy day, I'm sorry for not being able to post sooner. DF went skydiving first thing this morning, then I helped him for 6 hours on a side job replacing our neighbor's water and sewer line! He made some extra money, and even paid me for my work--$250!!

Hmm.... now what to spend it on?!

Right now I'm in need of some

so will have to do persies in the morning. I hope you're all enjoying your Sunday--Sat. for those US girls!

**RhiChiChi** · March 29th, 2009, 04:08 PM

Hey all,

Sorry I haven't come on earlier - I had such a busy weekend and only just getting some down time now.

I have lurked through the last few days and caught up on where everyone is at.... as I am strapped for time (I have to cook tonight), I'll forego persies.

Not much to report from me, other than I have sore bb's but, sometimes when af is on her way I get them. I told dh & he thinks it is a good pg sign. AF is due on the weekend (28 days), but my cycle varies, so for good measure I'll test from Saturday onwards. We missed a good few days dtd due to dh having to start work early plus we had a bit a blew about him being ready to 'go' and not getting me in the mood (sorry if tmi)... anyway, all is forgiven and sorted.

Had some sad news early this morning, my great uncle passed away from cancer. We saw him last weekend and whilst he looked sick, he was in good spirits and sharp as a tack, he went down hill really quickly and they pumped him full of morphine for the pain. We expect the funneral later in the week.

Spreading lots of af for those who want her & baby dust & sticky vibes for the rest of us.

Be back either later tonight or tomorrow.

xx

**Cherished** · March 28th, 2009, 04:00 PM

Hi girls!

Easha congrats on your little bub! Hope the ms has gone (if you had any) and your are feeling well

Sallyk perhaps an early night will help you to feel better tomorrow too? Providing you sleep well that is???

AFM I had a great time shopping YAY

and I only spent $200 and got heaps of stuff so am really happy plus my house is clean! I really didn't like many of the clothes out there... The fashion is like straight from my nanas wardrobe

but I did find a few things to buy so it's all good! The only complaint I have today is due to all the running around I have done I am bleeding again

I really just want this part to be over so that I can start charting my cycle and get af again and get BFP!!!!! (BTW, Jen you are totally welcome to stalk my chart) Well I'm off to try on all my clothes!

**Cherished** · March 28th, 2009, 04:45 PM

"I'm back" hehehhe Just tried on my clothes and GOD IT FELT GREAT!! This is the largest I have ever been and to be wearing clothes that actually fit feels fantastic! I actually look slim in them YAY YAY YAY

I was a little hesitant to buy new clothes as you all know I intend to loose weight.... However I thought I will probably end up this size again but hopefully at the END of my pregnancy not at the start... Still so annoyed I put on weight only to loose my bub

Anyway I'm totally happy with the purchases.... you chicks must think I am the queen of self pampering, with my makeovers and shopping sprees all in less than a week ahhahahahhhah

Jen I keep forgetting to ask you.... What are you doing all the way over in the states???

**Shortcake** · March 28th, 2009, 11:34 PM

Throwing around tons of

and

for the new thread!!
I pray this thread has a bunch of BFP!!

**RhiChiChi** · April 1st, 2009, 01:00 PM

Jen - I don't know much about temping, but I assume a drop in temp means af is on her way? ETA - just saw your next post - that answers my q. Thanks for the no AF vibes...

plc - thankyou for dropping in. I too read your post and had a bit of a teary moment.

andy k - hugs hun

possums - knowledge is power!

cherished - whilst I didn't have a d&C, I know how consuming ttc is. One lady asked me the other day when we were adding to our family & I said soon hopefully and walked off. I felt like saying quite frankly, it's none of your business, but I didn't cos overall she is a nice lady.

charm - Sorry, I can't answer your q about the d&C. I hope you are ok & there is no infection or anything like that. Maybe it's just your body wanting you to slow down?

sally - good on you! it should be all about you. Most people rant because they don't know what to say, so they should just shut it!

Hannah - sorry to hear the meds are causing disruptive sleep. You probably feel so terrible now cos its been ages since you've had good sleep and it is all catching up with you. Hopefully the dr will be able to prescribe something to help.

mel - hugs hun. damn it is such an emotional time ttc. why does it have to be so hard?

Eliza - So glad you are feeling better. Hanging for our holiday in May - seems so far away...

Boble - Will try to get to the post office today, so you get the Maybe Baby for the weekend.

AFM - Well I am feeling emotional again. Thank goodness I have a naturopath appointment on Friday b/c I think I need something for my emotional wellbeing. I keep thinking I am out for this month, that if AF is going to show up, just get here already. I hate the tww - it sucks. Why does ttc have to be intense, such a chore? I want to be one of those women who claim to dtd once and be pg. Also, I feel like I am in competition with the mums in my mums group. I know some of them are thinking about #2 and I don't want any of them to announce before me, or at least me be pg when they announce. That is such a horrible thing to say but only 1 knows of my m/c & ttc and I don't want to have to explain to the others anything. I hate feeling like this. It makes me seem like such a cow and then I think maybe me not falling pg is punishment b/c of what I am thinking. arggg!
Sorry, that was such a negative post. I am off to find some inspiration.

Hello to everyone else.

**Liz3021** · April 8th, 2009, 10:33 PM

Hello ladies,

I'm new to forums, this is the first one I've joined. Just feel the need to share and discuss with people who understand. In August 2006 I miscarried at 8 weeks after conceiving on our first try. It then took us two years to conceive again - last August - I held on and held on but when we went for our anomaly scan at 20 weeks they discovered my lovely little one had stopped growing and was not going to live. I delivered him on January 5th and we both got to hold him which was amazing.

So, it's been a rubbish start to the year and now we're on clomid again trying to conceive. I'm on my second cycle of Clomid since I lost the baby and I'm on day 20 with no ovulation but my ovulation predictor has been giving me 'high fertility' since day 9. What's going on? Have any of you got similar experiences with clomid?

**LittleOnes** · April 16th, 2009, 01:10 AM

Hi,
First time post here but I have been reading for a few days now. Hubby is very keen to have a baby, I have two from a previous relationship. Suspected for almost two weeks that I was pregnant only to get a positive test, tell the family (I had no probs in the past) and then miscarry two days later. Feel quite the fool for telling and getting everyone excited.

Can anyone direct me to a place I can start to decode all the txt talk in here? most of it I have guessed at contextually but I realistically have no idea what most of the abbreviations mean/stand for.

Anyway, from here I'm trying again and I think I will be using this space to list my suspicions in future instead of talking to friends out 'in the real world' and getting everyone frustrated at me. Seems somehow a lot safer in here.

**Shortcake** · April 16th, 2009, 01:14 AM

smallfryplus- Welcome! I'm so sorry you have to be here. I hope your TTC journey is short. Here is a link for all the abbreviations! I hope this helps.

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-acronyms.html

**jen805** · April 16th, 2009, 02:43 AM

Wow, this place was like Grand Central Station last night! Busy, busy! I love how good news brings everyone together!

cherished--I feel exactly the same: closer to all the girls here than any IRL! I have acquaintances at the school that I see daily, and they're great for some adult conversation... but as far as friendship goes... my best friends are here! I still get a nervous butterfly feeling every time I log on--like knowing you're coming home at the end of the day to be surrounded only by people that completely understand you! It's my comfort zone!

boble--I had a feeling the other day when I looked at your chart that your next temp would give you your coverline. Looks like we're cycle buds--I just got my coverline this morning!

Hope you have a brighter day!

Hannah--Best of luck at your dr's appt. today!

Big

for sally, megsmum, WTH, erybery, Rhi, meh, Krystie, AJC, & chappas!

plc--Hi! *hugs* Did you get your pics that I e-mailed you?

fifi--I saw your post on fb about getting induced today after lunch... hopefully that means you've got bubs in your arms right now!!! I'm so excited for you!

mollycat--Hey, YES! I forgot about your plans to ruin the wedding!

Couldn't stop the tears yesterday--every time I thought about it, or saw someone post their congrats to you... I don't know, you just SOOOO deserve this--I'm so happy for you! *tweet tweet!*

coco--Hope things are better today with you and DH! *hugs* Love the pic that you have on your ff chart!

Hey Toccara! BIG

for my little cyber sis!

**jen805** · April 16th, 2009, 03:18 AM

I'm baaaaaack!

Mel--Congrats on the new car!

How sweet of DH to get you Demons tix--seems like he's always thinking of ways to cheer you up!

MO3B--Hey my beautiful other half! *hugs* Don't forget our pact when you get your package!

Greenslw--Welcome back! I'm glad you're feeling like you're in a better place after your time of reflection. Best of luck with the next FET!

jules--I can't believe the rude, insensitive comment that your MIL made!

I certainly hope that your DH set her straight! More importantly, I hope that you don't take heart to what she said--this isn't your fault, and I'm sure there's nothing you could've done differently that would've changed the outcome. I wish you all the best with your decision... know that we'll support you no matter what! *hugs*

Mannie--I can't tell if you're my cycle bud, because you don't have a chart for me to stalk!

Where are you at in your cycyle?

smi--Good morning! I had a change of heart.... Nahla is beautiful, but I'm pretty keen on the name 'jen'

What do you think?!?!

jenushka--Hope things are going well with the GD! *hugs*

megsmum--Big

for yesterday for your angel's EDD!

AFM--Not much to report... just that I got my coverline!

3DPO today!

**Cherished** · April 16th, 2009, 06:31 AM

WOW there is heaps to read from last night! I think it's funny how when I log on Jen is usually the most recent post (due to the time zone I guess) than anyone who was on last night (while I was in bed) and than I post all the time LOL but mainly early in the morning heheheh. Anyway....

Welcome juleswa and I am so sorry you are here

I had a D&C on March 20th and my bub was 8 weeks. I didn't want to go through the physical stuff of a natural m/c and I wanted to get back into ttc straight away. There's many opinions on how long to wait to ttc (as you have heard) We started ttc straight away and I am waiting to test (as you can see from my chart). The lining not being thick enough (and emotional issues) is the reason many people are told to wait to ttc. However I was told that if your lining was not thick enough to hold the pregnancy you would have an early m/c like when your period would be due so unless you had tested early you would never know you were pg anyway. Good luck with your decision xoxox

Jen YAY for the cover line!!! OMG I would loooove us to be belly buddies, in fact I would looooove us all to be belly buddies

AFM Which leads me to my chart and I can see many similarities in my chart to the one where I got pg. Only prob is that I have never charted when I didn't get pg to know the difference

Is there anyway I can upload my old pg chart, perhaps in my profile or something? so I can get all your opinions? Or is that only a feature for people with special memberships?

Thanks xo

**Cherished** · April 16th, 2009, 12:06 PM

awwww I feel horrible! smallfryplus I didn't welcome you! There were so many posts to look through this morning... ahhh excuses, excuses hehehe. Honey I am so happy you have joined us and terribly sorry for your loss

Here's a link which can help you decode everything https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-acronyms.html

Beautiful boble I hope it's you're month too... I think we can expect our temps to be a little strange after a D&C or m/c. I just can't wait to find out if we are pg