Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ December 2006 #2

Thanks Shan! I am glad you haven't given up and are on the temping wagon. I hope santa brings you exactly what you want!!

Megan-- I meant to say GREAT TICKER!! How proud you must be of your technological wizardry!!

Howdy party gals, definitely getting some festive vibes from in here tonight. It must be all the good news!

Whooooo hoooo Tanya... So thrilled for you hun. CONGRATULATIONS! :thumbsup:

Shan, Mako, Bun - I suspect there may be a bit of a bd fest happening this week. Good luck guys, sending tones and tones of :bluedust:

Lisa- So pleased to "see" you on cloud nine... here's cheers hun, soak it all up!

Missy & Belinda, my heart goes out to you both. While we have all been through similar experiences, they have all been different. We all react to loss in different ways and there is no right or wrong way. Take time to greive and remember you can always count on all of us for support at any time. Sending you huge :hugs:

Cinamon -Where are you?? Where are you up to in your cycle hun?

Hope- Thrilled to hear you m/s is causing you some grief! I never thought I'd say that to someone!! Sending you tones of :stickyvibesgirl:

Hi to anyone I may have missed, enjoy Hong Kong Kerry - you don't get to take a trip like this very day so live it up! Hope everyone is taking care,

Hope - DH was reading your post over my shoulder and wants to know what i've been saying about him to make you think he's a sweetie.....heheheh....sssshhhhhhhh....lol. It'll give him a big head...

Hey there

Megan - love the ticker!!

Shan, Mako & Bun - good luck with catching the egg!!

Well I am still waiting for AF and my temps are like the rocky mountains. Did anyone else temp while waiting for their first AF after m/c? Were they all over the place?

I don't know if you recall me recent mentioning how I had my follow up appointment with my ob and how he didn't mention my blood results and just said the foetus had a chromosome abnormality 22. Well tonight I get a copy of a letter in the mail tonight from the Alfred Hospital to my ob talking about a gene mutation I have and discussing whether a certain treatment will help in reducing future m/cs!! Perhaps if I am ttc it would have been a good idea to let me know these results?! So I think I'll be giving him an urgent call tomorrow!! I can't understand most of the terminology used in the letter so have been searching various terms used on the net!! I just hope everything is okay.

Looks like I will be joining you actively next month! I just talked to my midwife and she said to wait 1 AF and then we can begin. I am also to start to take more folic acid and take 1 baby aspirin/day when my bleeding is gone to reduce any blood clots. I feel so good about things right now. I know she is going to take care of us. She has gone through 5 miscarriages herself and so she knows the heartache and will do anything to make sure we have a healthy baby although she really feels like this is a fluke.

I also had the same question morganj had about temping. I want to start but don't want to get disappointed by not seeing something concrete on O. I ordered a bunch of IC so that I can make sure that my levels are down to zero.

So I won't be going anywhere and I hope to get to know all the newbies here. I know I was only gone for a month but it's amazing how many of you are here. I hope none of us are here and jump over to PAL for good!

Misskg - that's great that you have such a supportive midwife. You certainly need someone like that during this time. Can I ask what an IC is? Also does anyone know where I can order some OPKs in bulk from? Have a good day everyone!

Fantastic news Lisa and Tanya:D
Hopefully I'll be joining you, once I get the courage to test! Still no sign of AF and my boobs are killing me. Good sign if you ask me!
Have you tested yet Susie? still no sign of AF either?? I am due but who knows,it may not be regular yet.

Sorry I am not being more regular here, I just dont have the time and when I do I keep forgetting to pop in:oops:
:stickyvibesboy: to you all

IC-Internet Chepie- I order them from ebay and they worked well for me. I ordered OPK and pregnancy tests.

Morgan - I hope you get things sorted out with your OB...hopefully now they will be able to set you on the right path to a viable pg...good luck hun. Let us know how you go.

Missy - I'm so glad to see you back here. You are a very strong woman. Good luck sweets. xxxx

Cinamon - Nice to see you too.....your symptoms sound very promising...please test..hehe...we're dying to know...good luck..xxx

I'll be back later girls...got stuff to do at the moment..xxxx

Thanks Shan! I just wish he'd told us about this and that he was going to be making such enquiries as we have started ttc again. It just wasn't a nice way to find out that there could be other problems. At our last meeting with him he said the foetus from the last m/c had a chromose abnormality and that there was no reason why this should happen again. Now I find out he's making further enquiries, which of course is a good thing, but I guess now I"m a bit anxious.

Hi Cinnamon,

Test.... are you crazy! You can't hold out forvever.... I'll have to stalk you from thread to thread!! hehehe. Sore bb's are a good sign..can't wait to hear an update! :goodluck:

Hi girls.

Cinnamon - test!! I certainly don't have your will power!

morganj - I can't believe your ob didn't mention that earlier - I would be annoyed by that too. What further investigations are they going to do?

Shan - that is so cute about the booties!

Missy - your midwife sounds great! It must be so reassuring to have someone taking care of you like that. Good luck with TTC again, hope to see a BFP soon!

Well, DH and I did BD last night, and my temp isn't up today, so I am assuming I am O'ing today... but who knows really. The only cycle I have temped before this one, I got pg, and it was our first month trying, so who knows what my cycle is like, esp after the m/c. I will just have to wait and see what tomorrow brings...

Hey Ladies,

Just wanted to jump in here & say CONGRATULATIONS to Tanya!

WOO HOO!!!!! WTG!!!!

Love Jayne xox

Hey ladies. Thanks to you all for your kinds words. The ob said that the feedback from the Professor at the Alfred as positive and that there was no need for treatment etc. So he just wished me a Merry Christmas and sent me on my way - he wasn't concerned at all about the lack of AF or O. I don't think I'll go back to him again. My GP said that she is going to take my spotting last week as AF and do a 21 day ovulation blood test and order an u/s for early January. If everything doesn't sort itself out very soon she is going to refer me to a good local FS. We have been trying since April 05 with very long cycles so am really pleased about this as I"m not convinced I O each cycle.

Glad to hear you got 'something' out of it Morgan. I hear you on the long cycles. I'll have normal cycles for a month or so, and then the next cycle will go for 3 months, then the next 3 months, then back to normal...it's so frustrating. Sometimes even on clomid i didn't O, so yes, it is frustrating. Good luck hun, and i hope your GP and new FS does wonders with you...xxxxx

Thanks Shan! You ladies are wonderful. I'm sorry to hear that you have long cycles too. Are you still on clomid?

Hi
Morganj I'm so pleased that your gp is taking control for you sweet. Ttc is hard enough without worrying about your specialists. I'm sorry to here that you have such long cycles too. Before I started clomid my cycles ranged anywhere from 28 days to 65 days and since I've been on clomid my cycles are usually about 35 days although the last one was 47 days.
Anyway good luck to you this cycle.

Missy your midwife sounds lovely. I'm wishing you all the very best for your next cycle of ttc.

Cinnamon Have you tested yet?????? I have everything crossed for you hun.

As for me not much is happening atm. I think I'll start the bd fest tonight as I'm on cd 13 today.

Hi to everyone esle. I hope you are all well. I will pop back in tomorrow and do my best to catch up with you all.

Morgan - I haven't been on it for about 6 months. It was really doing my head in and i put on a LOT of weight whilst on it, so even though it was suposed to help me, it made it worse in the long run, coz the weight then became a problem. I'm still heaps overweight, but i'd lost 16kg before i started on the clomid, and all that came back on within a couple of months, so i stopped to give my body a rest. I still have some in the cupboard, Enough for one cycle, but i'm not sure if i'll use it. It'll get back into temping first and see how it goes from there.....xxxx

Shan - good luck with the temping. I'm sorry to hear the Clomid caused you so much grief. I pay VIP membership on FF and find that really useful. Although my temps are all over the place at the moment. I am also seeing a chinese herbalist so am hoping the herbs will sort my cycles out soon as they had done before the m/c. Have you tried this path at all? I couldn't believe the difference, although it's taking a while now since the m/c for them to do their thing this time. I hope you get your BFP very soon!! xxx

Mako - good luck with the bd fest! I hope you get a New Years BFP!!!!

Does anyone know of a good website to purchase bulks opks from? I found they really helped us with getting our BFP last time too.

Just crashing to let Morgan know that you can get good, cheap OPKs from Lullaby Conceptions online. Their service is really good, and I even won some freebies once! Lots of the girls on here really like their products.

Missy, sorry you have to be back in this thread but it is nice having you. Glad to hear you are looking to the future in a positive way - it helps having understanding, positive people around you!
Morganj - what a shock getting news like that via the mail -hope you have a healthy BFP really soon!
Shan, glad to hear you are back charting - I am 2 days in now & feeling really good about it!
Cinnamon - for goodness sake test girlfriend!!It all sounds good so......
You girls with long cycles.....I take my hat off to you - as if it all isn't hard enough. I'm pretty much 28 days lately & even that tests my patience. Soemone else said they are not sure if they O every month - I'm not sure either - I suspect not! Guess temping will answer that question. Hi to anyone I've missed....

Morganj - Give Lullaby Conceptions a go. They are a BB sponsor and really speedy with getting your product out to you. I haven't bought OPK's from them, only preseed as I have quite a lot of OPKs that I bought through ebay a few months ago.

Good evening ladies,

Tanya - OMG Wow that is just brilliant news babe :confetti: you must be excited!!

Lisa- Babe hows it going? :D

Missy - I am truely sorry about your loss xxxx Though you seem positive and that is wonderful to hear

Shan - Hey sweetie hope you are going well, wow you do have long cycles I though mine were long 30-40 days!! It must be frustrating... like I said before you are very strong woman :cool:

cinnamon - GL hun I hope you get a BFP

Bun- Hope you caught the eggie lol

Sez- how thing gong with you?

Well as for me I still have the very sore (.)(.) and constantly feel sick and I have a lot of watery stuff going on (TMI sorry) so I am hanging out to test tmw or sat.... hmm not sure what to do

Big hello to all of the wonderful ladies xxxx

Hope - I meant to mention I love your new ticker!! Its brilliant

Kez-- I've got everything crossed for a BFP just for you!!!! xoxoxo

Tanya - Great news!
Keep us posted. Roll on August!

It is so remarkable that I have got such wonderful support from people all over the world. I just had a major meltdown this morning because I know I have to go work tomarrow and all I want to do is stay home in bed under the covers and wish this all away. I just know that around Christmas time, someone I know is going to announce a pregnancy and I am going to be so jealous because that was supposed to be us!! I know a couple of my friends that are TTC and I know that they deserve it just as much but how am I going react to them? I had such a good outlook yesterday and now today I am just down in the dumps. I already had a major cry and feel like I need another 1. I know we will be okay but I just hate feeling like I'm back having feelings like we did after we lost Dawson. I just feel like my hope has been smushed yet again. Sorry for the rant but I know you all understand the emotions I'm going through. All I wanted was 1 more child. Is that too much to ask? Why does this have to be so hard? Thanks for listening!

Morning girls.
Missy i hope you are feeling a bit better today.. don't know what to say :hugs: we are all here for you..

i feel a little guilty posting this, I have been feeling really off since I O'd and have had very similar symptoms as my pg before the m/c.. today i caved in at 10 DPO and tested.. it was a very faint (but there enough to see in half light) positive.
i don't want to get too excited because I don't want to jinx myself like last time.. I'm scared and nervous. I'll tell my parents and DH's mum when she comes down from QLD this weekend but thats it. I'm not telling anyone else but you girls and my sister and my parents.. not until everything is ok. I'll retest Monday to make sure..:crossfingers: I feel really guilty because this has happened the cycle after the m/c.. (And we didn't wait to start trying again)..:neutral:
Oh well- off to get ready for work. Will pop in tonight if I get a chance

xx

WOOHOO LIND.:happyforyou: CONGRATULATIONS on your BFP. I can understand how worried you must be feeling right now but try to think possitive thoughts sweety. I'm so happy for you and pray that you will have a very happy and healthy 9 months. I'm sending you lots and lots of :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl:

Congratulations Lind on your BFP - that's wonderful news!!!

If we keep getting a BFP in here every 2 days, this room should be empty soon lol

Lind sweety - whooo on your bfp! We are on a roll in this thread! Im so happy for you babe :) dont feel guilty hun, this is what is meant to be.

A big hi to everyone else - will bbl for some personals.

Im good - went to see my NP and she said everything is perfect - and baby is nice and strong (she checks some sort of pulse energy of the baby)!

Wishing we have another rush of bfp's in here before xmas!

Lisa

Lind - Congratulations!! How exciting! And don't feel guilty!! Wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months ahead!!

Kez - I have everything crossed for a BFP for you - symptoms sound great!!!

Missykg - I hope you are feeling a bit better today!! Big hugs to you hun.

Not much to report here - just waiting for O or AF. Ten weeks today since the m/c. How much longer should one have to wait??

Morning Girls.....

Firstly.....:confetti: YAY LIND :confetti: Congrats sweetie. I'm trying not to get too excited for you yet, as you want to be sure first, but i can't help myself....Whoo Hoo...xxxx

Morgan - Thanks babe. I've thought about getting VIP from FF, but there is this thing in my head that for months has been saying 'if you get it now you'll get a BFP straight away and it would have been a waste of money'...same with getting bulk HPT's and OPK's....hhhmmmm...maybe if that's the case i should go get them all. I'd rather have a BFP than the money...now there's a thought. I've been considering a chinese herbalist. There are a couple in town here, but i just haven't taken the plunge yet. I think that will be my first step in the new year....good luck hun..I hope you get your BFP soon..xxx

Mummyto1 - Good luck with the charting. I hope it does wonders for you...xxx

Kez - Hi lovely!!!. I'm doing okay at the moment. Just taking each cycle as it comes. I'm not that strong, but i know that there are so many more women here who are so much worse off than what I am, so that helps me stay a bit more positive. How are you doing???

Hope - How are you hun???? Hope things are going swimmingly for you..xxxxx

Missy - Big hugs to you sweetheart. You'll have your good days and your bad days, but know that what ever day it is, we're all here for you....xxxx

Lisa - I'm so happy to hear that your NP said that you have a nice strong bubba...Can't wait to follow you on this journey..xxxx

Hi to everyone else....sending you all lots and lots of cyber hugs...

Well, I'm on CD7 today (and if i could figure out why i'm having trouble to get my ticker working you'd all be able to see my chart) and so far, so good. I was contemplating DTD every second day from here on in for the rest of the cycle jik. BUT...i did a pg calculator to get the EDD 'if' we were to convieve this cycle, and it came up the exact same day as my angels EDD. I don't know if i should take that as maybe waiting until next cycle, or taking it as a sign. What do you girls think????

Hopefully i can work this ticker thing out soon....it's doing my head in.

Take care everyone....xxxx

Shan sweety, dont worry about the $ just go out and get whatever you think you need to help get that bfp, and you can always sell any lefft over stuff here on bb. Sweety, I also think you should try this cycle, and let the universe decide what date you will actual have a bub. If its your destiny to have your baby on that date, then you will. Believe in yourself and in your little angel, as it might be the same little soul and wants to be born on that same day.

You are such a special woman, and I know in my heart you will be a mummy real soon :)

Thanks Lis. I never really thought that it could be my little angels soul coming back to me. That thought gives me so much hope, so thank you. You are also a very special woman and i'm so pleased to have 'met' you one here....xxxx

Shan - I agree with Lisa on everything she said. Saved me typing it hehe.

I had my appt today to follow up on the m/c. I posted most of this in the TTC Clomid/Met thread, so sorry if some of you have had to read this twice, but thought I would update my friends in here, and see if it makes sense to you all.

I really wanted to know where to go from here and what the plan of attack is. So my Dr said that I should have a 2-3mth break from TTC, stay on metformin, keep taking my vitamins, try to lose 10-15kgs, have my BP monitored regularly and come back to see him in 3mths. Then we will start the Clomid again.

He said that my lining wasn't thick enough for the placenta to stay attached to the uterus, but it's not a recurring problem. I asked if this had anything to do with taking Clomid and he said that it's not the Clomid causing the thin lining, it's the PCOS. I asked what would happen next time I fall pregnant and he said they will send me for weekly BT's, and I'll have fortnightly visits with him and depending on the BT's he will see if I need any injections or medication.

My DH also asked if he could tell us the gender, but he said he couldn't.

So after the appt, my DH and I discussed it - especially the not TTC for 2-3mths and I said that I'm not not going to try.(does that make sense?) The way I look at it, it took 3yrs last time and only worked on our 5th cycle of clomid, so the likelihood of it happening without the clomid is bugger all anyway - so why should I go and spend money on buying condoms lol.

Does that sound crazy? I'm feeling confused about what I want. I want the best possible outcome, so maybe I should follow the Dr's instructions exactly, but I just feel like we are forever putting things back a few months. My next appt with him is 27th March, so if I wait til then I won't be having a baby in my arms til the earliest 2008.

Lind - congratulations! :happyforyou:
And don't feel guilty for this being the first cycle after the m/c - just be happy! I have done LOTS of research, and there is nothing to say that you have to wait anyway.

Belinda - I know what you mean, and I say go for it! My dr said to wait 3 months to TTC again, for no particular reason, and I was really confused too. But you're right - it can take ages to happen, so why not try anyway? Otherwise you feel like you are just treading water until you can try again, and you feel so helpless and like time is just passing by... anyway, I know what you are going through. And no, you do not sound crazy!!

Shan - I agree with Lisa, I think you should try this cycle too! I second everything Lisa said. And Lisa - I am glad everything is going so well!

Hope - I love your ticker!

Missy - :hug: This is such a hard time, and I too have friends TTC and I await their announcements with trepidation too. I agree - why does it have to be so hard? We are all here for you and understand what you are going through. We all have our bad days, our 'why me?' days, and you will get through it and have another healthy bub.

chepie - I can't believe you have still not tested!! I will be hanging out for an announcement over the weekend...

morganj - I am glad your ob explained the results. I know how you feel about waiting forever for AF - I had to wait 4 months for AF after going off BCPs and the wait is so annoying when you are TTC!

Hello to everyone else.

Well, I have still not O'ed. I have only been temping the last 4 days, and my temp has gone up today, but not enough. I have had HEAPS of EWCM for the last 4 days and am feeling a little crampy and bloated, as I usually do when I O, but I have only temped one cycle before, so I don't have a big charting history to go by. Oh well, will BD tonight and hope my temp goes up tomorrow!

HI

I just wanted to pop in and wish each and everyone of you a very happy christmas and new year. I'm going away for 3 weeks on Monday so I thought I'd better get my butt in here b4 I go :cool:
I hope when I get back I see heaps more bfp's in here including 1 for me lol.
C'mon Chepie TEST sweety b4 I go away so I know, PLEEEEASE TEST. I have absolutely everything crossed for you hun( except legs of course) lol.

Oh Bel sweety, I say do whatever comes naturally and see what happens, you just never know with these things. I wonder if there any natural remedies that can help with the lining? Have you thought about perhaps having some accupuncture to give your body a bit of a boost? Part of my treamtent with my NP was accupuncture, and Im also using progesterone cream to help bubba stick. Hugs to you sweets for whatever you decide.

Shan - im glad ive given you some hope sweety and really its been 'my' pleasure meeting you, you are such a sweety and so supportive and so helpful and so happy for everyone. Your the best!

I want to see all of you gals graduate!!