Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ February 2011

[dory]

Melzi - Thanks for the welcome and heads up on the OPK's and HPT's.... going to send me broke going to the chemist.... LOL.

[phebee]

Welcome dory and first of all... ENORMOUS HUGS for you. I am so so sorry to hear of all your precious losses I've only had one but that was bad enough. I can't imagine going through it so many times!! GL for your current TTC and I pray you have a lovely sticky BFP soon

AFM: Well the witch has arrived! So now I will be officially TTC. That one wasn't really official, though I was still obsessing by the end (lol). But now I can obsess even harder! I've made up my mind not to test until AF is late though. It's hard when you think it may be happening and you have no idea, but in not waiting, I have now wasted 2 HPTs. I have 2 left so I will try to save them for a REAL BFP. Hopefully the end of this cycle!

[WannabeMum]

dory, you welcomed me to the pregnancy after m/c thread, so now I'll do the same here - the girls know I've kinda got a foot in each camp at the moment because I'm still so nervous! I hope this journey to ttc your second earthside baby is a simple, happy and healthy one with only a sticky pregnancy.

Phee - it's a bit disappointing even when you're not "officially" ttc - but at least now you get the chance to get your diet back in order so this bubs can get the best chance - and so can you!

I think the website I found is the same one Melzi's talking about for opks and preg tests. I think it was pregnancy.com or something - I just googled and bought a pack of 10opks and 5hpts. Lol, I've still got some opks, but no more hpts!

Good luck with the gyno Shan - so glad they could get you in so quickly!

[phebee]

Yes WBM, that's another good thing, since I STILL wasn't sticking to my diet properly! Now I have another 11 days to get it right before trying again, lol.

I'm looking forward to a nice glass of wine tonight too

[mummytotwo]

Thanks ladies for the congrats on the bfp - I am trying to be quietly optimistic!
WBM - yep will go to the docs in a week or so if the bfps stick around! How have you been feeling the last few days?
Dory - holy cow matey - you have been to hell & back & I can only admire your faith in the future & your desire to have another littlie. All the very best on the tough journey ahead - even if you get your bfp first go we all know about the agonising months ahead!
shan - how did you go at your obs? What did he say/ do about the bleeding?
phebee - all the best for the next cycle - lets hope it is the one for you!! Good luck getting your diet on track too.
Melzi/ Dory - lol about going broke. Between last month & this month I have spent a FORTUNE on chemist/ supermarket pg tests. I really meant to order some internet cheapies but it didn't happen.....Fertility Friend was one online co. I think I used.
MummyDeb - temps still looking good? Hope things are still on track for a BFP this cycle.
MM - whats happening with your levels? Hope it's all coming together for you!
Well I think I am starting to get few little tell tale symptoms (.)(.) starting to feel larger & I have had a tiny bit of reflux. Still not counting my chickens though for at least a few weeks & certainly not until that dreaded 12wk scan is over with. How I will get through it this time I have no idea. I will be going with the 3rd time lucky Mantra BIG TIME!
All the best to everyone else & hoping this thread is about to explode with super glue sticky BFPs. BBL all x

[WannabeMum]

All the best to everyone else & hoping this thread is about to explode with super glue sticky BFPs.

Definitely!

I'm feeling ok, tired, but that's also cos DS isn't sleeping well. Went to the dr today, had lots of bloods including hcg. I'll get my results on Wednesday. I've made an appointment in two weeks (31 March) for an early ultrasound and my Ob the next day. But I also know there is nothing I can do to make this baby stick if it's not meant to, so I'm trying to relax as much as possible.

Dory, when I read stories like yours, I feel selfish for feeling like it's been hard. I know every m/c is tough, but I just can't imagine it, you're one very strong lady - all of the girls in here are. I am in awe of every single one of you.

[dory]

WBM - the thing is, a loss is a loss and any loss involves heartache and a loss of a dream. If I am feeling sorry for myself, I do think "oh wow you've suffered so much", about myself. But really I honestly don't feel that way, because I honestly feel blessed. Sure there's heartache there and I a don't always have good days, but I am blessed. And it's really only when I am having a bout of self pity that I even think like that for a moment. Life is too precious and too short. In my opinion it's vain and arrogant for me to think that my loss is "worse". It isn't a competition and our emotions and responses to loss are valid and important in their own right and what is important to each of us is how we feel & respond not how someone else does ( though sometimes the way they do helps us through). Actually it makes me sad when people minimise their loss. But the funny thing is, I do it too from time to time. I honestly don't think I'm anything special, just trying cope with what has come my way in life. It's kinda crazy to just condense so many feelings and experiences of the past 3 years into a short paragraph. It is sad, what's happened and it's a tragedy. But also, birthing my children and getting to meet them, and hold them, has been the most profound, and amazing experiences of my life. I can't ever say I wish it didn't happen either, because that statement asks me to make a choice that I can't make. It goes something like this, if not for my first m/c there would not have been Amelia, and if not for Amelia, there wouldn't have been Nick and Sophie, and if not for Nick and Sophie, there wouldn't be Hannah. How can I choose between them?

Hope DS gets some better sleep tonight and that your results come back as they should. Sticky Sticky.

MummytoTwo - your symbol for sore BB's had me ROTFL. Thanks. Might use that one myself one day.. it's a really hard journey, pregnancy after loss. One thing that I have learnt and I do try to put into practice, is to be grateful for the now and to live in the now. So how does that work? Right now my dear you have your BFP and YOU ARE PREGNANT!.. We each have to find our way through, and my way wouldn't work for everyone. A friend of a friend of mine just ignored her preg. Went to scans but never acknowledged the baby at all. One of the things I do try to do is actually try to acknowledge and be thankful for what I have now. It's kinda useful in all aspects of my life. I do get swept up though from time to time in the hum drum of everyday life, but who doesn't.

M2T -