Awww Thanks everyone for your kind words and thinking of me yesterday, it was so sweet of all of you and im really touched!
We were not sure what type of plant to get, so Cameron suggested a lemon tree as each type i use the fruit i will always remember, so i thought that was good and thats what we did and its was really lovely the three of us planted in a big Terracotta pot together (just incase we move one day we can take it, Thanks Jayne for that advice!) Now its over i can move on as i was dreading this day from the moment i had the m/c and im glad that i held it together and i was expecting to be a mess!
Thanks again everyone for all your thoughts i really appreciated it. for all of you!