Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ June/July 2010

Good Morning All..

So today is doctor day.. i have woken feeling alot better, mayb i am just excited to finally be getting some answers!!!

Clairesmummy- Congrats on the BFP. A line is a good sign no matter how dark it is.. CONGRATS!!!! Hope ms doesnt hit you too hard x

SpringLola - Your story is definatley one of a kind!! I hope everything works out for you. Wish you all the luck with your IVF. I wouldnt worry bout your age (Your just a chicken) My mum was 39 when she had me and 40 when she had my lil sister.. Your only as old as you want to feel!!

Reet- Bleeding has slowed down alot today. It is only like a quarter of what i have been having. I have no clots anymore (sorry if tmi) altho i am not sure if i have passed the sac (again sorry if tmi) as i stopped investigating after about a day, it all just got too much for me. I started m/c on saturday night so hopefully they might give me a scan on Friday or Monday?? Guess i will wait to see what the doc says. I am definately going to take your advice and write everything that i want to know down.. just my luck i will forget the most important questions and the last thing i want is to come away without the answers i need. I think i will wait one full cycle b4 ttc A) to give my body time to repair and B) Mostly for my emotional side. Just hpoe that af is nice and comes only 4 weeks later...

Iona Macca- I think i will wait one cycle until ttc. As i said above mostly just to give me time to emotionally prepare so i give the new little one the best start.. I have had really bad cramps with my m/c. I have a really high pain tolerance and still rate them around a 7/10 so i know they must be bad. On the positive side i seem to be on the last legs of it now. I just hope my body has done what it suppose to, and everything has cleared out itself.. i dont like the idea of a D & C. Plus with the luck i have had in the last week i just know something will go wrong..
(I manage to lock myself out of my house last night :doh: ) lol.
Oh by the way how r u feeling??

Im sure i will fill all of you in about my doc appointment tonight. lol

Until then im wishing BFP on all of you!!! :pray:

Mrs Macca- Thank you for the congrats, wishing you all the very best at your dr appointment this afternoon hope all goes well for you and your DH, I too was totally terrified of having a D&C but luckily for me my body did all the hard yards and I never needed one. Good to see you are keeping your chin up it's hard to remain positive after losing something you want so badly. No matter how many times you hear it has happened for a reason and you know in your head it has it just doesn't make it feel any better. Having a great forum like this one and lots of support from your partner is what got me through those horrible times.
Springlola- Welcome and huge hugs for your loss darl, I wish you all the very best of luck with your IVF and look forward to reading how it's all going for you.
Reet- Good luck with your clomids hope it all goes well for you, and I too am hoping this bub is sucking the energy out of me and can continue to do so for the next 8months hopefully.

Iona- your symptoms sounds promising and very much like mine atm, i spent yesterday doing nothing and feeling like crap feel a little better today not much though.

congrats Clairesmummy

Sorry to hear of your loss Mrs Macca I just read it then. :) I feel for ya!!

Hi Everyone,
Congrats Clairesmummy! Hope that line keeps getting darker!!!
Welcome to all the newbies! Sorry you had to join here but feel free to share anything, chances are we have felt it or thought it :lol:
Reet - Yay for the crazy lady! My furbaby is ok, i fixed her up myself, just puncture wounds and grazes, she is all good now!
Iona - Hope you continue feeling sick :D yay for sticky bubs! xxx
Forshelby - Let us know how your scan goes!!! hope your ms gets stronger :lol:
Dory, Alice, kellbell, loops, Dampyre, minnie and possum hope you are all doing well xxxx
AFM - Holy **** it is cold down here of a night!!!! I was in thermals last night and still frozen, had to BD to warm up :D Well according to my ticker Im due to ovulate tomorrow....hope the egg is ready! Saw Dr this morning, he is not willing to do anything for me for another 5 months so here is hoping!, He said go out and have a few drinks and get my sexy on :lol: he makes me laugh.
Big hugs to you all xxxx

forshelby - thank you so much for your understanding. So happy to read that you are pregnant!! best wishes for a healthy 9 months! :)

reet - isnt it funny how we know it'll only depress us by knowing how far along we SHOULD be, but we cant seem to help doing it? i like to tell myself that seeing as its only recently i have been diagnosed with endo, that once i get my laparoscopy, things will be different. i will be more in the know about what is going on it there, and hopefully, FX all goes well and after that time i am able to concieve quite quickly! however, if thats all unsuccessful i guess i will be forced to result to other options, IUI. i was lucky that my body did get back into its rhythm right away, 5 week cycles. O'ing on day 20. its been that way right from the date of the m/c. i guess that a plus. BEST of luck for you on the clomid rollercoaster! and its nice to hear that your doctor is being supportive with the repeats! can you explain clomid to me in a bit more detail? im not sure i completelty understand it..

springlola - life can be cruel can't it! so sorry for your loss and the continued pain you are going through. hopefully just a little story to give you a little hope: my DP's sister is a result of a "failed vasectomy" she was concieved 11 months after the vasectomy occurred. she is a beautiful miracle :)

clairesmummy - congrats!! hoping the drs appt went well.. and good luck with the giving up smoking. i guess it makes it a whole lot easier when they start tasting like crap :)

AFM: FF says i O'd on day 18, however, i think i O'd on day 20 as usual, temps were a little wacky this month as i've had the flu, so i guess im currently on day 5 on my TWW! FX... so wonderful to see a few BFP popping up.. good luck to the rest of us!

Clairesmummy: Congrats to you.....time too definately give those fags up, I did last year, best I've felt in years.

Mrs Macca: So sorry this has happened to you, you are such a strong person, I opted for the D&C don't think I could've done it otherwise. Give your body and your mind some rest..be good to yourself.
Hope everything went well at the Dr's.
Thanks for the vote of confidence too...all these Dr's keep telling me 'because of my age' the chances of this and that..But Thanks made me realise that I'm only as old as I feel.

AFM: Went to the dentist ****..10o'clock app my face has only just got feeling back in it now..I'm so never getting botox...$1300 poorer and sorer but I lived.
I guess my recent life story is a one off..Its funny I knew it was alot of twists of fate (or Idiot'isms) when I went back and read my first post, I guess it does sound unbelievable!!!
Some days I wonder if maybe I should just accept fate and get on with it..but now that I have felt those feelings again (DH included) I can't imagine life without another child, I think DH was a bit shocked how much the MC got to him (you know being tough and all)

But guess what only 8 1/2 weeks til daylight savings...now thats something to look forward to. Get out of Darks Disease or Winter as some call it.

Hope everyone is well and feeling fit :D

Kezzy: So sorry I missed your post, Thanks for failed story..My girlfriend and I were having a laugh the other day..imagine if we go through IVF, manage to make a baby, then 2yrs down the track DH's Vas decides to find its way home and I get pg again..we laughed so hard, but in light of everything at the moment...it is just my luck.:o
Sorry to hear of your loss, only people who have been through a MC can empathise..others can on sympathise.

Thanks again for your little ray of hope for me ;)

Thanks everyone for the congrats. Went to Dr this arvey to be told I have a bit of a viral thing going on atm and if I get any worse Im to start taking antibiotics. Dr never gave me a preg test said to wait until next week when she will do a BT but to take another HPT before then to make sure that line is getting darker for me. She told me its a waste of time doing one now as I would only be 4weeks PG.

:leap::happyforyou: clairesmummy so happy for here's to the lil bub sticking!!

Mrs Macca - Your Dr should send you for a scan, and take blood tests until hcg reaches <5. Bleeding is a variable. Mine lasted 2 weeks from start to finish. I find your DH's comment about doing the 'right' thing a bit strange though..... being unmarried has no effect on your risk of mc. Not that I've heard anyway hehe...

Iona - I told my mum the day of the bfp! You're strong to keep that secret.. I joined the bellybuddies thread, but I'm not liking it very much. I feel all weird and out of place for some reason. I hope that's not an omen. DP laughed at me the other day for taking 4 hpts lol. I told him I was having fun, and thought I might as well use the last few. He thought it was very amusing. So happy you've had no spotting, and lots of dark dark lines! Hopefully your cold goes away quickly, too. Rest up, love!

Reet - Tell your DH a horror story if you like. DP and I have only DTD once since I got my BFP. That's right, ONCE. I'm not fussed, and neither is he. TBH I was pretty scared to do it... but all was ok. No pinking afterwards, and just a bit of cramping. Hopefully after your horror story, DH should be grateful to receive it every 2nd day. lol.... Oh and G/L with the clomid! I hope your side effects are minimal. I've decided this is your month, and that is final young lady!

Springlola - What a story. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so sorry to hear of the twists of fate that brought you here. I hope IVF of ICSI works for you. Another ray of hope..... I myself was conceived after a failed vasectomy. Sadly dad died before I turned 2 though... poor mum.

Clairesmummy - I knew it! Congratulations again!!!! :dance: Was DF stoked?!

Bons - ms is definitely stronger today... thanks for that, LOL. Your dr sounds amusing, too.

Kezzy - Thanks :) Here's hoping this one is super sticky! Get yourself some OPKs to pinpoint your O. I credit them for my swift bfp.

AFM, Nausea was pretty intense this morning, and lasted most of the day. I thought I might have to bail from work it was getting so bad. I found a cure though.. Roast beef sandwich. LOL... don't ask me why, but meat makes me feel better. After that, I felt just fantastic. :) Ms is starting to kick back in again though tonight.... and here I was wishing for it. Ok baby, that's enough. Mummy knows you're in there and alright now. Behave or you're grounded! LOL I'm off to cook some random vegetables now. I've been letting my tummy make the meal decisions lately. Whatever tummy wants, tummy gets. It's not working so well for my pants though.... so tight.... I had to wear them undone today! I'm going to be sprung in no time and news of my pg is going to be public in no time the way I'm eating.

Have a good night everyone!

Forshelby- Wowee no sex in like 3 weeks!! My dh defintely wldnt be able to stand that! But yeah he shld be happy with every 2nd day compared to getting none! haha :) One of the jobs got cancelled so he got back this arvo.. and he hasnt stopped hassling me since he walked in the door at 5pm! its so annoying!! I am still bleeding a bit so im like 'no!!! we are not doing it! Stop hassling me!!!' He hasnt tho.. blood doesnt scare him anymore.. especially after having af for 3 months last year! Its yuck! And oh i hope ur right and this is my month FX! Yay for feeling sick! Hope it sticks around!!! Not long now til u see ur little babies heartbeat :)

Clairesmummy- Congratulations on the darker line!! :) Can u tke antibiotics when pg?? Do u just have to make another appointment in a couple weeks time to confirm pregnancy??

Springlola- Aw u poor thing having to go to dentist.. i havent been in ages.. for that reason! I hope ur feeling better xx

Kezzy- When is ur laparoscopy?? Oh good that they have diagnosed u with endo.. not good but u know what i mean..atleast u know what was wrong and can get serious now!! I bet ur utd in no time at all :) Clomid are these pills u take to help u to ovulate.. they are usually prescribed to ppl that have pcos or just arent O'ing on their own.. they also help to stimulate more follicles which means more eggs being released which increases ur chance of conceiving! I was prescribed it because after being on the pill for 8 yrs my body had no idea what to do and all my hormone levels were messed up! Yay for being in the 2ww! When will u be testing?? early or wait til af is late??

Bons- U go and lay that eggy tomoro! Woohoo!!! I hope theres a little spermy ready to penetrate it as soon as its released! So have u been only doing it every 2 days?? If it works for u then i am defintely going to stick to only every 2nd day around O time in a week and a half.

Mrs Macca- So how did ur drs appointment go?? Get all ur questions answered?? Feeling alright today??

Mum22- Oh i dont know how u have done it.. not telling anyone. I told a few of my friends and family at 6 weeks that i was pg and then ofcourse had to tell them all when i m/ced. I am glad that i cld share it with them tho otherwise i think i wld have gone insane all by myself. Have u coped alright?? Dont be embarrassed. xx

Hello Iona, Possum, um um mind blank!! Sorry! Hello to anyone i have missed :)

AFM- Started on clomid today.. its really weird.. all my bleeding from af had basically stopped and i was just getting a tiny bit of browny dischargey stuff (tmi!!) but after taking the pill this morning i had a lot of bright red fresh blood tonight.. its happened with each clomid cycle i have done.. i really dont understand why! It shld hopefully go away by tomoro. No crazy emotions yet.. thank goodness. They will probly start kicking in tomoro or the next day. I know last month i just felt like crying the whole time i was on it.. and if dh and i have an argument it goes way too far and i lose the plot!! Lets hope that doesnt happen this time!

Goodnite xx

Welcome to Springlola and mummy22 and Kezzy and Mrs Macca (i think that's everyone new?): sorry for your recent losses. Hope we can help while you work on your next BFP.
Clairesmummy: Woo hoo! Well done on the BFP.
Reet: good luck with the clomid. Hope your body is kind to you.
Mathewsmum: how did you go today?
Hi to everyone else (sorry, will do more persies next time. Too late for tonight).
AFM: Feeling a wave of affection for everyone here. So good to get on here and see all the chat. I'm sorry i've been having trouble keeping up lately but i'm still here.
Minniemouse after seeing your post i was expecting a 'dracula' marathon when i went to have my 'recurrent miscarriage' blood tests today. But you still hold the record. The nurse took about 12 vials of blood. Didn't get up to 16. My nurse was not as smooth as yours though. She had some trouble with the first vein she tried and bandaged me up impressively (looked like she'd done me a major injury!) before moving on to the other arm. So both look pretty bruised. But it wasn't too uncomfortable and i'm glad i'll get some answers maybe. Nervously waiting for the HCG result in the next day or two: I've still been bleeding on and off so dr is checking that my HCG has fallen to nearly zero. It should have by now (even if there is a tiny bit left from the m/c) and I reaaally hope it has (or else i think i'm in for some pretty heavy drug treatment which i'm not keen on). Wish me luck.

hi everyone,again welcome to the new girls,sorry you've ended up here....afm-fet has been cancelled,next cycle my dr is thinking about putting me on some hormone replacement meds,i'll know in a couple of days what the plan is...big hugs to everyone

Aaaaawwww matthews mum :( thats so frustrating and disappointing. How are u feeling?? When is af due? Not too far away i hope. xx

reet-i'm feeling okay about cancellation,would rather they cancel than transfer when they think embie has not much chance of implanting,my little ones seem to have trouble implanting even when my levels are good.Things are pointing to this being a long cycle for me,so i'll probably got a couple of weeks till a f shows.thanks for asking

Hi all and welcome to the newbies - Kezzy, mum22 and SpringLola - sorry you've had to join us in this thread but we have all been through a similar experience and can be here for each other which is great. Hope you get the comfort and support from these lovely ladies as I have - Im positive you will. And all the best on the next part of your TTC journeys - :hug:

I can't believe how much has happened in here just over couple of days. And how many of us have had the rotten flu or similar - yuck

Clairesmummy ~ Congrats on your BFP tests!! :dance: All the best, hope that 2nd line keeps getting darker and bub snuggles in!

Matthewsmum ~ So sorry your cycle was cancelled :hug: Hope they can sort something out before your next attempt. Good on ya for keeping your chin up xo

Sorry dont have enough time to do persies for everyone but :pray: for BFP's for everyone! GL xoxo
And thanks so much everyone for all your lovely wishes and thinking of me.
AFM ~ Im on about CD27 and my cycles are normally 34days, ive had sore bb's on and off now since a few days after O'ing. I o'd around CD20-21. I dont normally get sore bb's until right before AF so its a bit weird for me to be sore so soon - although its mainly the left one (the slightly bigger of my bb's LOL). My tummy has felt a bit different at times - mainly tight in the lower tummy. Ive felt a bit nauseus at times but think that's probably more due to the flu. But this morning i woke with bit of a headache - normally a sign for me AF coming but then again I had headaches when I got my BFP too. So really not sure and dont want to think about symptoms too much - because AF and pg symptoms are so similar. I may test on Sat - will see how im feeling but if not probably wont until say Wed next wk.

Matthew's Mum- I am so sorry to hear that this cycle hasn't gone to plan :hug:

Hooray for all the stickies, who is next I wonder ;) :crossfingers: everyone will be gone from here soon, for good reasons of course lol

I'm going a lil nuts atm cos O day is supposed to be coming soon and it is the first time in nearly a year that I wont know what is happening and we are going to try to avoid DTD the next few days, my resolve is faultering though lol

Monring all.

Doctors went ok. I got some answers i was looking for. Dr gave me a referal for blood tests to check my hCG levels next Wednesday, so i guess its just waiting for me now. She also told me to wait one full cycle to let the lining of my uterus rebuild so baby has something to stick to. ;)

As for how i am feeling, im still not entirely sure. I think i am doing fine, I am keeping myself occupied at least. I just know its going to be a long couple of weeks ahead.. i think i will be one of the only ppl here wishing af to arrive early lol.