thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 2009

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  1. #1
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    Jan 2009
    A Pirate Ship
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    Hello again girls...

    WOW what a fantastic day I have had! Watched 3 movies and than decided an afternoon of self pampering was in order!!!! soooooo I put in a semi hair colour, whitened my teeth, slapped on a thin layer of fake tan (all of which I do once in a blue moon!!!) AND I painted my toe and finger nails Then I blow dried and straightened my hair all for no other reason than to feel good... And it worked

    Ahhhhhhhhhh if only I wasn't on those dam antibiotics I would crack open a bottle of red wine to have with dinner to top it all off oh there is a silver lining in every cloud... Just look at all the things I could do today that I wouldn't have done if I was pg

    Abbey B sorry for being naive but what is preseed?

    greenslw Good luck starting the new job, is that the international student teaching thing or something else?

    Toccara50 So happy you like your new ob/gyno... The ob we saw on Monday was lovely under the circumstances and very compassionate, we will be seeing him from 8 weeks when we get pg again

    Thanks to everyone for your support and well wishes.... I am actually doing really well today considering how much I was crying yesterday... God just thinking about everything that was going through my head makes me wonder I wanted to just run away... I asked DH if we could move OS away from everyone and everything! I just wanted to retreat and never see anyone again, than I started thinking heaps of bad stuff like which of course will not happen... Anyway I am in a much better place now thanks to my sweet hubby and the support of you girls letting me come on here and ramble of whenever I feel like it

    Have a grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr8 night everyone xo

  2. #2
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    Jan 2009
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    hi everyone... just a quick one from me tonight coz its late...

    I still haven't been able to find out about the magnets.. but thanks to all who replied. I am hoping that it is my body doing it naturally and not the magnets because we had to take them underlay off the bed tonight... sorry for tmi - but... we bd'ed tonight and guess who decided to show up in the process - AF! so the magnetic underlay is soaking but mum said i can't run it through the washing machine... i knew I should have put a mattress protector over the top *sigh* hindsight is a wonderful thing...

    so... no pregnancy for me this month - but I had thought we kinda missed the boat there anyway. Onto next month and praying for a 28 day cycle again like this one was. was great to have the 28 day cycle instead of a 35 day one!!!!!!!!!! and if I am really lucky, I might even fall preg - and if I am lucky enough for a 28 day cycle my due date will be the 26th Dec - come on.... christmas present

    goodnight. I will be back either tomorrow or monday afternoon for some persies.

    Love to all

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    Mar 2008
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    Good morning! I have a whole page of persies to type up, however, DF distracted me this morning and now we're leaving for the day. Promise I'll be back later, I've been a slacker, I know.... sorry, but I will be back! Oh, and I got my coverline today! I didn't even have to bully ff this month by overriding it like last mo! So today I'm 3 DPO--Hannah, looks like we're cycle buddies!

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    Hello again everyone and "top of the morn'n to ya 'al" hehheheheh
    Well I woke up from the best sleep after my totally relaxing day yesterday and saw some more silver linings in my dark cloud! In my heart I truly desire to have at least 12 months off work when I have my first bub... As it was I would have had 6 mths, than hubby was going to have a month off so we would have got 7 months solid looking after them before juggling grandparents looking after them while I go back to work 2-3 days a week.... In many ways we are blessed to be so flexible anyway and to even have 7 full months with bubs.... AND would have been totally blessed to even just 'have' them!!! Anyway the silver lining you ask?... Perhaps now I will get my 12 months (or more) with that little bit more time to save and perhaps bring in some extra $$$.

    I am a true believer in actively creating my life and co-creating it with my hubby... Time and time again I see evidence of it and it blows me away... Then other times I see evidence of it showing up in ways I hadn't really expected just to find that when I had manifested it I hadn't been 'specific' enough! SO, I am going to do some meditating and clear visulisation of getting my period back in 4 weeks and ovulating 16 days later than 'hey presto' get pg, then give birth to healthy and happy twin boys in Feb 2010!!!! so that works out to be early May for the conception date.... If it does happen to take 6 weeks it'll be mid may... sallyk61 will you be strating to try again in May?

    Ok so I might be stretching it a little bit with the twin boys We would like 3 children and had wanted a boy first and twins but I wasn't ever 'really' sure about the twins, I have a romantasised vision of one baby at a time so wasn't really sure but now I really would like the twin boys and I know hubby would... BUT then on the other hand I see so many adorable little girls so we don't really mind what we have! However I do need to visualise something and make the image clear, so it does need to be one or the other so it'll be twin boys!

    Regardless of the outcome I know everything is perfect and this tradedgy in the midst of it must have happend for reasons I can see now and for MANY more that we will discover later and don't have a chance of knowing about right now either.... Girls my positivity may drive you all crazy at times so feel free to tell me to go away if you are in the midst being so disappointed that you just don't want to hear it... AND I pray I am not TTC for too long and have all my positive vibes slaped out of me with some harsh reality YICKES CANCEL CLEAR that comment! I will conveive in MAY!!! We will all conceive VERY VERY soon!!!!! heheheh I haven't seen many of these happy bounce little faces on this thread.

    Have a great day everyone xo

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    Toccara - Its great you have found a doctor you like and who will support you. I hope she helps you to get your sticky BFP real soon.

    Abbey - Glad your feeling more positive. Hope the preseed helps.

    sally - Its great you get to attend a ceremony to farewell your angel. I hope it brings you some closure .

    greenslw - You have had a busy weekend! Goodluck with the new job.

    cherished - Good on you for taking the time to pamper yourself . Glad your feeling so positive.

    boble - Sorry AF showed , and with such bad timing. I hope she's not being too hard on you.

    jen - cycle bud!

    AFM - I've started the sertraline and am feeling pretty doped out. I'm in another kind of TWW, waiting for the side effects to stop. Thankfully they aren't too bad, just enough for me to feel sh**ty.

    Hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.

  6. #6
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    Mar 2009
    Inglewood, WA
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    Good morning Ladies,
    Had such a fun night last night. We had our 18 month nephew sleep over last night. Had a lovely picnic at the park for dinner, he loves watching the other kids!! Poor baby has a bad cold but our house has this calming effect on him (apparently their is a very old soul here and they must be very calming).. Poor thing was in a coughing fit at 12 last night then slept till 7:30!! He is such a good boy for us now. Just chilling drinkning milk and watching Mary Poppins now (he LOVES musicals!!).

    Hannah - I am really looking forward to Thursday, so so nervous and know how tough it will be but so good too. i spoke to a lady at work who had a similar thing to me 16 years ago and she was such a mess talking to me last week. I felt so distressed, like how was I going to cope if 16 years later her wounds are so so raw still?
    Ive now realised although we have had terrible luck, we had it in a time were help was expected to be taken and readily avaliable. even this ceremony shows how the views have changed so much!! That is a huge saving grace I guess!!!

    Cherished - Hopefully I will get my cycle started very soon. Started Acupunture last wednesday so hopefully I'll have my period in 2 weeks or less.
    It is so wonderful your so positive, you should run with it and never worry!! you sound a lot like my girlfriend!! I cant quite turn things but I get there in the end just takes me 10x longer then her!!!
    I reckon well be mid to end of April. I think we worked out if we get preggers 1st time well have an early feb baby too. Perfect for us, I'll get the long school holidays paid then straight into being the best mummy ever!!

    Greenslw - Good luck tomorrow. Im sure our mantra will work with that too!!!

  7. #7
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    Jan 2009
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    yoohooo - AF.. where did you go????

    well... im not sure what is going on with my body. AF seems to have gone MIA??? After last nights efforts, i woke up this morning and there has been no spotting (so far) and no AF in any way shape or form... i know i should be glad about this... but it scares the heck out of me because a similar thing happened last time I was preg.. and you all know how that ended up.

    guess I will just wait it out and see what happens. I dont' know if I am for a bfp or for af to show up quickly so at least I have the "my cycles are shorter" silver lining *sigh* oh well... one or the other will happen soon enough and at this part of the game there isn't anything that i can do to sway it one way or another.

    Sally - glad to hear you had a good night last night. he sounds like a cutie

    Hannah - i hope the side effects ease up soon

    Cherished - I love your positivity! i think we often need a bit of that in this thread, it kind of balances us out at times when we need some chucked in there, im sure everyone will agree - so don't you go anywhere... at least til you get your bfp in May

    Jen - glad to hear FF is being good this month.

    to everyone else i hope you all have had wonderful weekends xx

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    Mar 2008
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    Toccara--Thanks, hon, I keep looking for my BFP, too! Maybe ours are hiding somewhere together! I'm really happy for you that you like your new Ob, keep us posted on your BT results!



    Abbey--Glad you're enjoying the Preseed... looks like it came just in time! You sound very relaxed and positive-- my you caught 'Miss Eggy'!



    Greenslw--I should've known that your students were adults! No child in their right mind would choose a nap! Good luck with your new job on Mon--I hope it's enjoyable for you. More good luck for your BT results on Tue!



    cherished--Forgot to tell you: Well done on your day of self pampering! We should all take the time to pamper ourselves sometimes! (myself included! ) I'm glad that it made you feel better!




    Mel--Hope you're enjoying your Melbourne trip! Hey you--get off that table! LMAO



    Big for Angels 1&2, plc, fifi, MO3B, Mannie, meh, jackjack, coco,Possums, WTH, babymiracles, Easha, chappas, Krystie, tutmae, jenushka, smi, issy, &
    Tam



    Hello and *hugs* for everyone else not mentioned! You're all in my thoughts and prayers!

  9. #9
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    Sep 2008
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    Kazaraz - I was diagnosed with PCOS last year and used fertility drugs (clomid) to concieve. I was told by my ob that it doubles your chance of twins (normally about 1 in 80 but with clomid 1 in 40).

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    First and formost.... Jen Jen.... you stay in that gutter girlfriend..... you have great company with MO3B and FIFI....... Mollycat myself will stay on the sidewalk where we can help you up when you see the error of your ways


    RhiChiChi... one of the hardest things about TTC is the strain it puts on relationships. You get uptight about "will it ever happen" "is it this month" "please make it be this month" Making love with your partner becomes BD...... and he knows it and feels the same way most of the time. I dont have the answer for you.... I didnt have it for myself... but just know that it is so normal its rediculous and try to find some way of spicing it up again and remembering who you are to each other and have been to each other before TTC.
    Now as for the chinese herbs..... I had been on them for about 18 months. DH was also on them and they improved is swimmers mobility BIG time. Unfortunately they type of swimmers are still being worked on but at least now they do swim and make it there they just arent shapped the right way to make it in. I ve also used the chinese herbs for colds and stress...... both are great........ This is Dr Angel Reporting.... for further information please visit Doc Angel Dot Com........

    Mandy..... Ditto to Jen s welcome and double ditto to Mollycats post too. The biggest biggest thing about being here is that you can TOTALLY be yourself... no trying to be happy when your not, not having to put a face on.... nothing... you just be you and its one of the only places in society we seem to be allowed to do that. So relax, put your feet up ..... when its your turn to cook the cyber cake come up with something that will make our mouths water but other than that... just enjoy being you without the mask.

    Boble... well if you dont know if you want it to be AF or not then thats got me stumped... I dont know what to wish for you.... Ok... maybe I just wish that you get what you wish that you get....... there you go.... clear as mud.

    Cherished.... I m so glad you have your beliefs on your side to help you through this tough time and I was soo happy to see you giving yourself some quality time. Glad it was a wonderful day for you

    Hannah......When you start new meds or swap meds it sux.... I soooo wish that there was a faster way of working out which medication or combination is the right one for each person... maybe in the future there could be a way of doing a blood test and it will tell them exactly what combination to use. I cant even be of any use to you to tell you what combination worked for me because it would be pointless information to you. All I can say is dig deep to get through these 2 weeks and if you dont notice a huge difference at the end then go straight back to them and say something and dont put up with any standard line of "give it a month to see how it goes".... If you do have any questions Hannah you are welcome to PM me.......

    Well thats enough for me for one post... just bout run out of smilies anyway....

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    Hunter Valley, NSW
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    Jen - what can I say - it's a lovely invitation to join you in the gutter, but it's more fun on the sidewalk with Angels1&Angel2. Just remember when it gets too much for you, we're here to help you out.


    I don't think there's many left from when cyber cakes were handed out regularly, so I'll go first (and it helps that I'm on holidays this week so plenty of time to cook those yummy cakes (low cal too)

    Slices of an irrestible gooey chocolate mudcake, lathered in fresh cream, topped with flakes of the most yummiest chocolate around. Everyone take a piece.

    and and to everybody (I'm just hopeless at names)

    Smi - what wonderful news of a little princess to join your family CONGRATULATIONS

    Megsmum - thanks for answering my other post - I may pm you for more info once I twist DH's arms

  12. #12
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    Jan 2009
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    thanks everyone for the replies..
    angel 1&2 - i guess a bfp would be nice - so long as the spotting stops (its scares me too much)... so if wishes are what you are offering... can you wish for a bfp AND for the spotting to stop i hope that isn't asking for too much hehe.

    Mollycat - that cyber cake sounds delic! *takes a piece* mmmmm yum!

    Rhichichi - Its so hard when you feel as though as though you are going through the motions.. sorry if tmi but dh makes sure I REALLY enjoy it too (usually involves lots of foreplay ) because if it feels like I am enjoying it too he feels as though it is "us together" and not just him "banging away" then he enjoys it more anyway. so it works out well for both of us - but it is so hard when you are both focusing on that one outcome rather then what it used to be about - iykwim. I hope you find some sugar and spice in the bedroom again soon xx.
    How does the maybe baby work?? if nobody else has wanted it then maybe it is something i should try?? i haven't really heard much about it before.
    I am hopeful maybe the bleed could be implantation.. (although i was kinda expecting af sometime between friday gone and this coming tuesday) last time i fell preg i had a strong implantation bleed.. i thought it was af arriving early.. even used a tampon but then when i went to change it (sorry, big on tmi today aren't I) it was only like a "light" part of af.... i thought that the little one had implanted in there good and proper so it was sure to stick... unfortunately not

    Jen - you are always so dedicated with your persies.. wtg wish I could keep up so much lol.

    Still no spotting or af... so i am hoping maybe it is a sneaky bfp??? maybe.. although not getting any symptoms at all - fake or otherwise oh well, shall wait it out.

    Hi there to everyone else!