thread: Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 2009

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  1. #1
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    Jul 2006
    Melbourne
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    Angels 1&2, or should I say Dr Angel?! – TTC certainly does put a strain on the relationship, although things seem to be better, we are joking a bit more & it’s a bit more relaxed. Not sure if that is good or bad as I don’t want to be too relaxed to the point where I don’t get pg! Thanks for the info re the Chinese Herbs.

    Boble – I think it is me just going through the motions because DH asks what I want and I am like, no I’m ready to go! (sorry TMI)
    I’ll have to read the maybe baby instructions, but from what I can remember you put your saliva on this glass thingy, wait til it dries then looks through a microscope. If you are ovulating it shows up a fern pattern and if not, it shows a pebble pattern (or the other way around). I am happy to post it to you – it is in good condition. Hope you get your bfp!

    MO3 – I hate AF too - hopefully she skips my house around the start of April.

    Cherished – I work part-time – a 5 day fortnight. (Mon, Tues & every 2nd Fri) Sorry to hear that you are sick with colic. I didn’t know antibiotics could cause colic!

    Sally – OMG, I didn’t realise you work 6 days a week – sheesh!

    Coco – I’m not sure about the cyst question, but I know I have…. ummm…. not cysts but like when I am suppose to o, the egg doesn’t always leave my ovary. I can’t remember what the sonographer said, but the naturopath gave me something to help with that. If I think of what it is, I’ll let you know. I don’t think it would affect your chances of pg, but maybe check with your dr. I don’t know how soon you can get a bt – I would assume the hcg would show up fairly quickly – you can get early poas tests that test before af is due, so you would think a bt would show hcg even sooner?

    Jen – You always are checking up on us, but rarely do I hear how you are – so, how are you?

    Charm – GL with the o kit. I never got that hang of them, so no tips from me are forthcoming!

    Mel – Glad you enjoyed Melbourne! Trust AF to find you – what a witch! Yay for retail therapy, you should have squeezed in a massage or facial!

    Marnie - Hello!

    Shortcake – No AF. Yay for getting an earlier appointment, hope all goes well.

    Toccara – Hello!

    Hello to everyone else.

    AFM – Going to see Naturopath next week; get more drugs, if not pg next month, I am going to get an appointment with the Chinese Herbalist for May. Thanks everyone for their continued support, it means a lot to me in more ways than I can express. xx

  2. #2
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    Mar 2009
    Inglewood, WA
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    Good morning ladies!
    What a start to the week. I can feel this is going to be flat tac the whole week, good and bad, FULL of appointments that all have positive outcomes so thats a plus!!

    DH started acuptunure last night and slept so well, Im feeling very positive with this maybe being a good path for us to take.

    Have 2 appointments after school today, argh, its going to be flat out but I guess the up side is I dont have to make dinner!!!

    Mel - so glad your trip was fun. Im starting to feel maybe my best course of action is a bit of retail therapy too!! Thursday I think will be the best day for that....
    The lady said put it on you finger but I found it worked much better (clearer) when i licked the glass...

    Rhichichi - its not too bad, the outcome will be good, to take the pressure off when we do have a baby!
    Good luck with the herbs, like I have said before after all this happened so many people have said chinese medicine/acupunture is the way to go. Surprisingly LOTS of people I thought were a bit to straight laced for that kind of stuff.
    I have my second appointment tonight for acuptunure. YEAH!!

    Shortcake - glad you can get in sooner, no point waiting if you don't have to. There are enough things were all waiting for and dr'c shouldn't be one I thinK!! Good luck!

    Mannie - maybe Im not awake enough but what is an opk? Is that the ovulating stick?

  3. #3
    mummy_of_3_boys Guest

    Hello Beautiful BB Ladies,

    Today I have 3 DS at home. They were all pretty sick yesterday evening but are full of bounce today. I just thought after their power chucking at school it was best not to send them today. I hate gastro!!!! My house has a lovely aroma right now! Tomorrow I will be buying shares in disinfectant and carpet shampoo lol.

    Righto here I go at persies, lets hope I get this right.

    Shortcake- I am glad you called your GP and was able to get an earlier appointment. Waiting til April for answers would have drivin anyone batty! Fingers crossed you DO get some answers soon.

    Sallyk61- Wow you will be a busy bee today, at least you are off dinner duty. Goodluck with your appointments and make sure you take a few minutes to relax somewhere in your busy day.

    Rhicicici- AF SUX AF SUX AF SUX Fingers crossed April is your month Hun xxx

    Jen Jen- Are you still around or did that horrible wind blow our Jen Jen away I agree that you keep forgettting to put in your AFM section!! We want to know what's going on in the land of Jen. If i don't talk to you before, I will meet you in the gutter on friday. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoxox oxoxxoox

    Mel- I think dumb Af has gotten herself a GPS. She needs to stop tracking us down. A big WOOOHOOOO for the retail therapy.

    Mannie- iphone eh? That's a bit snazzy Fingers crossed you will have caught that egg! I hope your 2 week wait flies by and has a great outcome!
    NO AF NO AF NO AF NO AF

    Molly- What's this about cake??? Hmmm WHERE'S MINE???? You have been very quiet this week, I hope all is ok. Miss you. XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

    Fi- Your EDD is almost upon us. Omg it is so exciting. I can't wait to see pics of bub's room and of bub. I am sorry to hear you were feeling useless, big hugs hun. Tlk soon.
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

    Charm- Bet you have fun using your ovulation kit teamed with your new bed just becareful, you don't wanna break it. LOL

    Cherished- I am sorry to hear you are in pain, I think it's time you got a break hun. The bad stuff has to end sometime, just hang in there.

    Angel- Always so supportive, you really are amazing! I hope you are taking care of you. Hopefully we will see you in the gutter Fri. xxx

    Plc- Missed you last week. How is little April doing? Is mummy getting enough sleep? *hugs*



    I know I have left a lot of you out, but my DS's are calling. I AM thinking of you ALL.








    OMG DS 4 has lego up his nose

  4. #4
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    Jan 2008
    South Australia
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    Hi Ladies,

    I just wanted to pop in here and spread some more

    I also wanted to let you know that I had my scan yesterday and I am over the moon to report that we are having a VERY active and healthy little BOY!

    Bubs is looking wonderful and was putting on quite a show for everyone. He was particularly active during the scan and kept kicking the scanning thing (dont know the technical name for it), he also kept flipping over so the sonographer took ages getting the shots he needed due to bubs being a little uncooperative. He was however, very cooperative in flashing his privates for all to see, I didnt need to be told what 'flavour' we were having as I could quite clearly see the little 'willy' sticking straight out between bubs legs...typical boy !

    Anyway, take care ladies,

    Issy

  5. #5
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    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
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    Hi everyone, Looks like alot of us are here for another cycle I just got a call from my dr re: BT and came back -ive didnt expect much but I needed a difinitive answer. I want AF to hurry up & come so I can have some closure to this awful month.

    I am so annoyed listening to peoples "im pregnant" stories and seeing girls with bellys or new borns and they look like they couldnt give a s***t about how lucky they are. It hurts to hear peoples news and joys that they are pregnant while Im feeling depressed, lonely & useless after a miscarriage

    That's my rant anyway. Anyone got tips on how to bring AF on???

  6. #6
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    issy-- CONGRATULATIONS on your little man! :itsaboy:

  7. #7
    mummy_of_3_boys Guest

    ISSY- Wow a healthy active little man That is wonderful news, keep us updated on how things are going.

    Coco- Rant away sweets, we all have had days where it seems which ever way we turn there are pregnant tummies and newborns. The best way I know to bring on AF is to either not want her to show up or plan a romantic night in . Lol!
    I hope things seem brighter soon


    AFM (again, you are probably all really sick of hearing from me) I successfully removed Lego from DS's nose without the need for medical assistance!

  8. #8
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    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
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    Angry Idiot!!!

    OH MY GOD I AM FUMING!!!

    My dr just called me and it went like this
    DR: "Eliza, I have your ultrasound report back and it does look like there's a baby there! You had an ultrasound a couple of days ago??"
    ME: "WHAT??"
    DR: "There is a baby there, you had your ultrasound a couple days ago didnt you?"
    ME: " I had one this morning? You have it back already?"
    DR: "Yeah....ohh no, sorry ive got the wrong persons name...I have someone elses here.. im sorry"
    ME: "Yeah" Hangs up....




    My Dr is normally so good! I am speechless!
    Just thought I would share that with you..

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    Apr 2007
    NSW
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    Issy - Congratulation on your little man Would have to be a boy putting on that display! Now mine however must be a girl, she won't show off anything!

    Jen - Still no decent pics, we we totally uncooperative again yesterday even worse than last time. I'm back again next Mon for another try so fingers crossed for then. Will keep you posted

    coco - Sorry this is coming from someone who is pg, but trust me when I say I DO understand you feelings I guess at least I do know how very lucky I am and I don't ever whinge about being pg....Don't worry about ranting here either. Here's heaps of AF vibes! And ETA, OMG at your doctor!!!

    MO3B - LOL at your Lego! So glad you got it out without assistance! We once had a corn kernel LOL so I know how you feel. DD actually snorted it out when asked to and it flew across the room at high speed it was the funniest thing I have ever seen!!! But at least we didn't need a doctor.

    everyone else, hope you are all well today!

  10. #10
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    RhiChi~Hello sweetie

    Issy~ huge congrats on having a boy and such a great scan...

    Shortcake~good luck at the doc's today...

    Coco~sorry this cycle didnt end in bfp for I'm praying next month is it for you...

    Jen~

  11. #11
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    coco--Oh, honey, I would be fuming after that phone call, too, if I were you! What the hell kind of freakin' idiot mixes up his patient's names? I'm so sorry, not that it helps much! Did have to LOL at MO3B's answer as to how to bring on AF... it's really true! Sending you some AF vibes to get things moving along!



    MO3B--Gotta love those tiny little legos! I wonder what DS's inspiration was for that one?.... hmmm, I wonder if this will fit in my nose? Are the boys back to school today? You sound like you could use a vacation after your last couple days! Oh, btw, we could NEVER get sick of hearing from you!



    Toccara--



    megsmum--Sounds like you have a modest little princess in there! Hope she's a little more cooperative on Monday!



    boble--Sending lots of vibes your way! Glad to hear your swab results came back clear! Fingers crossed for a sneaky BFP!



    Mel--I'm sorry to hear about your meltdown Feeling sad and stressed out makes us feel so flat and defeated... I really hope today is a better day for you! I'm grateful that you have such a supportive DH to give you those extra cuddles! Keep that chin up!



    Shortcake--Glad you got in for an earlier appt! Keep us posted on how things went! *hugs*



    Rhi & Sally-- I'm so sorry, but I'll have to finish yours later.... have to leave in 20 mins to get DS to school, and neither one of us are even dressed yet! Oops--it's all bb's fault! lol.... Will also do AFM when I get back!

  12. #12
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    Oct 2007
    Hunter Valley, NSW
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    Issy - CONGRATULATIONS on your little BOY Sounds like such fun at that ultrasound. Imagine how much fun he will be when he arrives.

    Coco - I'm sorry that your Dr did that to you. How awful. I'd be totally fuming as well.

    Mel - I know exactly where you are coming from. I know that I have my two beautiful boys, but that longing hasn't gone away in over ten years to add to my family. You have such a wonderful husband that sounds so supportive of you.

    Now that my cakes all gone - who's the next cook?

  13. #13
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    Dec 2008
    NSW
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    Hi all,
    Woiw , I have some serious catching up to do lol
    Well still no AF but I got a ticker cause I think i may have ovulated and of course we used protection then got told the day after o that we didn't need to worry about it and should have been trying this cycle..arrrgghh.
    I am looking into IVF at the moment as my time bomb of August is stressing me out big time.. feeling very pressured at the moment.
    Bought a Kia Grand Carnival aka the bus...
    Send me some more AF vibes please as I have a brandnew packet of clomid just waiting to be opend

    Gald to see everyones doing ok.. Big :hugs: to thoe who are needing them at eh moment ... I undterstand .. have those days myself.
    Em

  14. #14
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    Mar 2009
    Inglewood, WA
    120

    Good morning ladies,

    Day ended up being Manic!! Left the house at 6:50am didn't get home till just after 7pm!! It's not right!!
    but acupunture was good, another tonight then on to weekly.
    It probably makes me sound silly but I didn't know to look at the discarge and the temp. things and people keep asking and I can't answer, I haven't really checked...

    Mrzbaby - Yeah for the car!! Hope your keen on the new car smell! Could be just the thing you needed!!!

    Issy - Wonderful news. CONGRATULATIONS!!

    Coco- That is awful. I can't even want to imagine how that would of made you feel. I'd be so so so angry.

    Jen - GOod luck with your morning!!

    Mel - thats what they are there for! My dh is so good at coping the blow with hie puppy dog eyes desperately trying to figure out what the (normally NOTHing) trigger was so he can help..... Thats love for you!


    Boble - good luck, with what has happened I would always check out EVERY otpion and think you should too if you want!

    Hope everyone has a great day!!

    xxoo

  15. #15
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    Jun 2008
    Cardiff Heights
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    Hi all

    Thanks for the support, I am feeling better today but going to see him today, I didnt go to work last night I was in too much of a worked up state. Ive decided to go away to my grandparents for a few days if I can get 2 days I need off work nxt week, short notice but Im casual so shouldnt be an issue..I just need to not be here at the moment. DH isnt even coming with me, just want to be alone.

    MrsBaby As soon as she comes to me (which i think is going to be today) Ill send her over! I went for a walk hoping to bring it on and It did a little bit in my CM so maybe go for a walk/run and jiggle it around a bit


    Appologies for no personals right now, I just got up and (decaf!!) coffee is calling my name..

    Toodloo and have a great day xx

  16. #16
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    Jan 2009
    A Pirate Ship
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    Hello everyone... geeezzzzze you miss heaps when you don't check in for a day!

    Coco Dam stupid Dr!!! I would be like and I totally know what you mean about seeing the pregnant mums and bubs everywhere.... I've only been back at work for 1.5 days and I have had 6 people ask me when my announcement will be and another say "ohhhh, you will be a mum soon, wont you???" OMG JUST GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have they no compassion!!! I will tell people I am having a baby when I am GOD DAM HAVING A BABY..... Like when I am about 20 weeks or something and know I am 'safe' ... DH and I were so happy we had only one person (a care giver) to tell that we lost the baby, I feel for anyone who has a whole list to tell. I was so tempted though, thinking oh I am 10 weeks now and than oh I'm 11 weeks, nothing will happen! Glad I didn't,.... so next time around I wont be telling until I have to... Not that there is anything wrong with telling people and nothing wrong with telling people about a MC wither but 'I' don't want to have to deal with everyone else, I have had enough worry with just me and DH

    AHHHHHHHHHHHH thanks for the rant!

    Not sure who was talking about the OPK sticks... I got mine from ebay and they are not very expensive at all... Plus they work good for me

    My stomach is still sore plus I'm pretty much having a period... Hope that stops soon too, perhaps I will be on the mend from Sat... Hubby will be away for 4 nights over the weekend and I will miss him like crazy...

    Hope everyones day is better than mine!

  17. #17
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    Dec 2008
    Melbourne, VIC
    46

    Hello everyone,

    I've been sitting here reading and catching up going "fantastic!" "oh, he didn't do that?!", "I know what you mean" "oh, poor you" "projectile corn is impressive"!!! I'm sorry for not being specific with persies. Our small boy is rampaging today so I'm quickly typing before lunch and sleep time.

    We're back in the TWW again. To while away the time (???!!!!!!) we have bought a new house, and will move in early May. More space inside, more space outside, and near-ish to good kinder and school. Fingers crossed the $$ stretch far enough for a water tank, vegie patch and a few chooks. Now, how to pack with a rampaging toddler?! I have mentioned before that we were going with the low-key approach to TTC this month, and whilst we haven't been completely focussed on BD'ing, we have been pretty busy with other things!!

    It's funny, now I've stopped today (no work, house purchase definitely on) that damn nagging emptiness is persisting. We're supposed to be focussing on a new person making their presense felt (we would be 19 weeks now), instead we're making a life changing turn because I won't be going on maternity leave in the middle of the year, and we'll be able to count on my income at least until September-October (even if this is the magical cycle). What an ungrateful cow I sound like!! I have so many wonderful things, and I'm so terrible because I still want more. I sound so awful and self-indulgent.

    Yeah, so this isn't a fantastic post. Sorry.

    Thinking of you all. Take care,
    M