Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 2010

Forshelby....You poor darl with you're headaches

Glenglen...im glad you rang and spoke to you're ob!!! he sounds like a good one at least.....as long as you feel a little better then thats all that matters...and yes it would be too early to see heart beat....hopefully next week comes around quickly so you can get some answers..

Iona...thanks

AFM...........well im slowely sending myself crazy with every hour...god im so impatient....i wish AF would come if she is coming or find out if im pregnant..my head keeps saying, yes i am, no im not, yes i am, no im not, yes i am......LOL LOL....i just cant concentrate.............

Im getting what feels like burning, ovary pain....and i have had it for the last week or so...it feels like AF sometimes...but not really...anyone had this then found out they were pregnant??? i keep checking and no AF yet...

iona macca - thanks i'm feeling quite patient/relaxed at the moment... which is very weird as i'm the most impatient person in the world and almost DIED during the 2WW.

forshelby - hmmm not sure about my OB but am OK to wait until Monday. i'm really fixated on seeing the baby and hearing a heartbeat. i will feel so happy once that happens. i read that once you've heard a strong heartbeat at 6weeks+ then the rate of miscarriage is under 5% so i'm just waiting for that... i still have really sore Bbs and my skin has broken out in pimples (could be all the cookies i ate though LOL) and i feel positive (if that counts for anything??).

clairesmummy - how was your weekend? did AF visit??

Melster - oh sweetie - such exciting, anxious times. I remember them so welll.... you know what? Embrace the craziness and the possibilities but HOLD OUT TIL Wednesday to test... you will be so proud of yourself if you do. Stay away AF!!!

Glen Glen - I am glad you got some reassurance. That is the main thing. It is not an exact science at all - obstetrics. How you manage this depends on you. Some women find a lot of relief in having their HCG levels tested... I have to say I've been there and done it and I was just plain miserable, the whole time I was testing, and in consultation with my Obs, we decided to discontinue it. So it really depends on what you think you need. If you think you need it though, put your foot down! I've hear a similar statistic too.... hoping that the next week to your u/s is not too harrowing and you get to see a fabo little heartbeat next Monday and then you will be on top of the world!

Iona - glad you got to share your news with your fam - were they excited?

Forshelby - bugger about another headache, but good work on sulking on the lounge. Ha, you had me in fits of laughter, trying to imagine you contorting yourself to get yourself anywhere near the poses your puppy can do... it is always so cute when they put their little paws over their eyes. Our cats do it all the time.... it just makes me go "awwwwwww".

I have trouble tying my own shoe laces, putting on foot cream ( can't have crackled old lady heels at a time like this!), getting dressed, getting out of bed, off the lounge, up and down off the loo, in and out of the car, walking up stairs.... it is way too funny ( and a wee bit uncomfortable at times). How far the mighty have fallen.... just in terms of what I could physically do before to now. I used to run around playing sport for a couple of hours at a time.... now my best effort is a snooze for a couple of hours.... and I am struggling to see what the attraction with the exercise was. LOL. I have had what feels like indigestion/bloating right in between where my ribs join most of the day.... I hope this little one isn't confused about what direction they need to be heading in. I might go see what Dr Google says.....

Howdy all we have arrived home safe and sound from our week end away in the rain yet again and OMG it was sooooo freezing cold out there it was just yuck. And yes I did have a few drinks for everyone over the week end but no headache the next day thank goodness...lol....:clap:
Hope everyone is happy and healthy in here, Welcome to our newbies I hope your stay in here is short and sweet girls.
Melster- Sounding a bit promising if AF is late for you, hang in there darl it's a hard long slog but it's all worth while in the end darl. Keep yah chin up.
Kell,Reet,Iona,Forshelby,Glenglen- How are you all travelling I hope MS aint hitting you all to hard, and thank you all for your lovely words of support I adore you all.
Dory- wow I can't believe you are so very very very close now to holding your little bundle of joy, thinking of you everyday darl and I really hope and pray your birth goes wonderfully for you darl, but I know it will.
AFM- Feeling pretty much alot happier than I was Thursday/Friday when the old witch AF arrived on me, going to be taking the great advice I got from you all and finding a new DR and also getting some vitamin B6s into me, I was devastated that AF arrived Friday had a good cry Thursday and couldn't believe my body had failed me yet again but while away over the week end I come to realise that the end result of TTC is really out of my hands, I can't force myself to get our long awaited BFP but I will see what's going on with my cycles, I haven't temped this month yet and not even sure I really want to. I've been feeling like I have put my life on hold with what if's and maybes' but i don't want to keep living like that I want to make plans for our future and be happy not obsessed with TTC and getting lucky enough to hit the jackpot. So after I have been to the doc and had tests done and I have our results I thinking maybe I will just leave it all up to mother nature from here on in.

Clairesmummy - sometimes I reckon there' a lot to be said for understanding your cycle through temping etc, and then with that knowledge, BD'ing when you can during the window of opportunity and not fussing too much..... if only for the fact that you get your life back rather than obsessing. I had always hoped I could be like that... but it was a work in progress for me, some cycles I was better at it than others, and I had the luxury of never having to endure for too long. There were years of charting and tests, but that wasn't when we were intensely TTC. But it has to be what works for you? Glad you had a trip away and relaxed with a drinkie... pity about the weather! I haven't even gone outside today because I couldn't be bothered getting wet. What a sookie la la I am.


So now you have to find a new doc? are you going local or going to go into town?

Oh - thanks for the vote of confidence. It feels so very close but still so far away.

Dory- You are more than welcome, you are such a huge inspiration to us all in here and I am just so happy for you, can't wait to read your BA darl.
I always feel bad about complaining about our TTC journey as there are so many more families out there doing it tougher than us. I'm thinking I will try our new local DR first then if she can't or won't give me what I want I will have to travel any where from 1-2 hours away to find a decent DR, if there's one out there for me....lol.....but I can only try and see what happens I guess.

Arghhh Dory am I in the right place hun. I am not recognising anyones names...it has been a couple of weeks i think. Feels a bit like the world has flipped. I will have to go and search through the last few pages, sorry everyone...bit disorientated. I dont; have time now and will be back soon. xoxox

morning ladies...

well this is the second day that im late........but i got a bfn this morning still......dont know whas going on......i have either ovulated late and implanted late.....or af is on her way....and hopefully soon......i swear when i saw the line go over it was pink and then it went over the control line....swear i can see a shadow that looks gray....probably coz im trying to swint so hard to see something lol.......

heres to another day being impatient...hopefully i get my answer soon so i can either do the happy dance or deal with af.....limbo is even worse

surely it would show up by now wouldnt it?

Don't give up Melster hope mine took four days to show up after AF was due - hope AF stays away.
those darn preg tests i reckon they do go pink as the wee crosses it then it disappears better to pee and flee i say :lol:

got my scan friday morn girls have been laying low holding my breath just hoping it is all good. im so scared it will all go wrong

thanks kellbell.....i keep thinking i will get a positive tomorrow for some reason..........im hoping and praying....so do u think u ovulated late as well?

im glad u have ur scan friday....i will hope and pray everything will be alright with ur bubba

Dory - Oh yeah, Mr puppy was great to snuggle and sook with. He's the master of the sulky pose, for sure. I had a good chuckle at all the things you're finding difficult with your belly in the way.. very cute. A friend of mine once said she felt like an easter-egg. Haha. I'm sure bubs is heading in the right direction, perhaps there's some feet in your ribs?

Clairesmummy - We adore you too, hun. And as I always say... keep on truckin'! Not sure what that means, but always makes me laugh. Leaving it to fate is always a good plan. It's always served me well, anyway.

Gigi - That made me laugh! Poor hun, getting all lost in cyberspace. :)

Melster - In my experience, grey is an evap line. :( Doesn't mean a bfp isn't on the way though! FX

Kellbell - I did the pee and flee thing! would never look at it until the time was up. Good luck for your scan!

AFM - Being a lady of leisure is not as fun as I predicted. It's actually really lonely and boring! I just wish I could find the motivation to do something with myself. I feel nauseous just thinking about housework. Oh, and something I've noticed over the last few weeks. I used to be an awesome typist. Now I'm constantly spelling things backwards, reversing letters.... and just mis-spelling and having to re-do things. I call it preglexia. :) Not sure what is up with that but it's frustrating!

Hi Lovely Ladies
Damprye ~ So glad you guys are going to try again and very pleased things are good between you and your DP. All the best hun, FX!

M Mum ~ have a good break off the meds hun, hope it does your body the world of good and GL with the tubes!

Melster ~ FX AF stays away and you had a late implantation and hence no BFP on POAS yet. Hoping you will get a 2nd magical line hun.

Starr84 ~ Welcome and good luck! Sorry for the loss of your twins :hug:

Glenglen ~ F and TX its not a m/c. You do hear of many woman bleeding throughout their PG's so hoping its just a bit of old blood finally coming down or something - stay pos!

Garfield ~ Welcome and good luck to you. So sorry for your loss :hug:

Dory ~ All the best with the birth and everything else - very exciting you will finally have your miracle in your arms :D

Forshelby ~ Ive read its pretty common to get headaches at your stage of pregnancy. I think you can take Panadine just not Nurofen. But probably best to check with the docs. I did find a thread on here once about headaches during PG - perhaps search it. I hope you get rid of them hun.

Clairesmummy ~ Glad you are a lot happier and that you enjoyed your weekend. All the best with finding a new doc etc.

Kellbell ~ GL on Fri! FX everything will be great, im sure it will be amazing :D

AFM ~ Getting very excited now, getting very close. Also my body is mental - i have bit of brown bleeding again (sorry TMI), even though im on the pill etc so could be just an early AF it's very very early for me. I couldnt be PG if Im on the pill could I?? - ive been on it since CD1 on the 4th Sept (so about 17 days) for the up-coming IVF.

Ahh yes, Sorry girls. I was in the wrong place- that was a strange experience. I have been away for a couple fo weeks and thought i was coming back to the same place and didn't know anyone Ha- so funny. I have found myself now. Thank you for your brief hospitality. Love and luck to you all. xoxo

Loops - Ah headaches. All part of that second trimester glow. LOL. I'm pretty sure you shouldn't be pg if you've been on the pill since cd1 but I'm no doctor. Maybe it's some kind of breakthrough bleeding? So exciting your IVF is so close now.

Gigi - Feel free to crash the party anytime :)

Gi - I wasn't ignoring you sweet - just didn't log on til late today and you'd found your "sat nav" by then. If I don't get the email notification I never remember where I need to be. LOL

Hi girls I will do persies but have to ask a few questions first please hoping some one can give me some advice before I get tp the drs hopefully tomoro. Ok here's where i will start since coming off the pill in Sept. 2008 my cycles have been all over the place very erratic and never consistant by any means, I started charting after my MC in April of this year and my LP has been from 5-9 days long usually 9 days. I have been trying to google some info on the net about short LP's and what problems occur from them. Well to my amazement on one site I read a short LP will cause early MC, I had my MC at 5.4weeks PG. :o I am so peeved at my "OLD" DR now for not investigating my problems earlier when I asked them too which was way before i even fell PG. Now I'm sitting here thinking that my MC could of been maybe been avoided if they had only listened to me when I asked them about my cycles while I was in for my pap smear. So I guess my questions are has anybody else had this problem with thier LP and if so what can I do about it, as in treatments ect ect. Any advice is appreciated thank you. I'm making my appointment at the Drs tomoro morning with the new local lady dr and if she won't help me I'm going to our nearest town to try to get help there and if that don't work well I dunno. I really feel our TTC problem has something to do with me not my DF I feel it in my heart and I want it fixed and we will get our BFP soon.
Forshelby- Sorry to hear you are getting headaches darl, I suffer with them a bit and migraines so darl you have all my sympathy, a nice hot relaxing bath always helps my headaches darl.
Loops- Good luck for your scan darl, be thinking of you and can't wait to read all about it, and thank you for the good luck in finding a new DR darl, I'm going to need it I think.
Gigi- Feel free to pop in anytime darl, nice to meet you in a cyber kinda way.....lol
Melster- How are you going darl, hope that dreaded witch AF stays well away from you darl I really really do, I have everything crossed for you.
Dory- You are definately no sooky la la darl, I also don't like going out in the rain and try to avoid it like anything if I can. And I really must say a HUGE thank you to you cause after reading your last post darl, I am now more determined than ever to get this sorted out and find out what's going on with me and I want my short LP turned into a longer healthier one if it's at all possible.

clairesmummy....just explain the whole story like you have and that ur dr wont investigate...and if she doesnt just find one that does....you know ur body and what u have been through....there should be someone that can help. and its not like u have only been trying for a couple mths.....i thought they say that drs normally look into it when u have been trying twelve months or recurrent miscarriages....i hope this lady can help u....fingers crossed....

Atm......well no af yet...keep feeling wet so keep checking and nothing yet....went to the drs but didnt do test...just requested a blood test for a few things to see whats going on as i have been so so tired and no energy and getting him to check hormone levels....ill test tom or thur and see whats going on with my period...im not normally ever late but i think all this ttc and miscarriage has really shaken things for me....so it might also be a possibilty i have or have not o'd late due to stress......

They say stress can cause you to not o and not gety pregnant....id like to see them not be stressed after lossing a baby....

Hi All!

Sorry i havent been around much.. been feeling rather crap lately.. tired.. sick feeling.. but all worth it!! :)

Clairesmummy- All i can suggest is Maca, Vitamin B6 or Vitex. They all work wonders for ur LP phase! Pop into ur local health food store or naturpath. Ask ur dr too.. they might have something u can try.. they wont know anything about the things i have suggested tho.. most drs are anti-natural! :) And honestly u may as well get ur df tested.. theres no harm in checking.. u shld be able to just get the form from ur dr. Atleast if everything comes back fine then u know it is something u need to sort out.. whereas if ur dfs little swimmers arent too good theres heaps of things he can do too! My cycles were really messed up for months and months and i was always blaming myself.. but then we got dh tested and found out that even tho it wasnt exactly his fault we werent able to conceive since it was my body not doing the right thing for so long, that when my body was co-operating it wld have been really hard to fall pg since his little spermies werent the greatest. But yeah just a suggestion! :) Good luck!

Melster- Oh isnt limbo land awful! Did the dr suggest any reasons why u are so tired etc?? When do u find out bt results?? Stay away af!!!!!!!

Forshelby- Oh u poor thing with ur headaches :( i reckon do what Iona said and drink gatorade and lots of water.. try and drown them away. Does ur pee say that ur dehydrated most of the time?? (sorry if thats tmi!!) Otherwise get urself into a chiropractor.. i cant imagine feeling sick and tired PLUS have a headache too :(

Mum22- Where are u?????!!! I hope things are ok xxx

Kell- I understand completely how ur feeling.. i get to see baby again on monday and am absolutely freaking out that things wont be ok.. i hope this feeling eventually goes away as time goes on cos its awful! Im sure it will all be perfect tho.. especially since ur feeling so crappy still. Can ur dp go to ur appointment with u?? Hope so! Good luck xx

Loops- Ooooh wld it be a good thing if u were sneakily utd or not good since ur on bcp's and ivf just about to start?? Have u already had to pay for it?? Will this spotting affect ur ivf.. ike if it is af coming?? Hope not! My f are x for u for the upcoming weeks!

Glenglen- How are u feeling now?? Sorry to hear of more bleeding :( Did it completely stop after sunday?? When is ur scan..monday?? If it is not long to go now! Is ur dh going with u??

Anyway thats all from me.. sorry to everyone i have missed.. hi to the newbies!

Like i said earlier havent been feeling too good.. no vomiting but just yuck feeling and exhausted! Dh got home last nite from working at Airlie Beach and suprised me with a gorgeous big diamond ring! Its beautiful :) he said it was an anti-natal present! hahaha what the?!! funny boy.

Nite nite all xxx

Hello girls, sorry for sitting in the bushes, but I am shy :redface:
I just wanted to write something to Clairesmummy because I know a bit about the LP. So here it goes:

The LP has to be at least 10 days long to support pregnancy. If it is shorter, then yes, it can cause an early miscarriage. If it is short it usually means that you have progesterone deficiency and you need progesterone to support pregnancy. I was reading your posts about 6 days LPs and I could not believe that no doctor wanted to check this yet. It is just not right.
After my first miscarriage, my doctor checked for the LP defect, because it is the most straightforward thing they can check. She did an endometrial biopsy - to check for the thickness of it about 5 days past ovulation. If it is not thick enough, I think this is one of the indicators that progesterone may be lacking as it makes endometrium thicken. (Lucky for me, everything was fine.) It is very unpleasant test, as they did it with just local anestesia, I swear D&C is less pain.
What they can do for it - I believe if you really have progesterone problems, they can give you progesterone supplements. It is best if your doctor prescribe them, since they will know what the dosage should be. I would certainly INSIST on the LP defect test. Good luck, I hope you get some answers.

Clairesmummy - I can't say more than Luna did.

Welcome Luna - it's ok to be shy and lurk.... hope you start to feel comfortable enough to post regularly soon.

Reet - I like your ANTI natal ring.... and I always feel like that in early bfp land.... and the anxiety does get better .. sort of.. I found it almost unbearable, overwhelming and all consuming in the early days... the things i worried about changed but for me real relief came after 24 weeks... but now it's back again. Thank goodness only 2 more sleeps, at most for me.

Melster - FX .... don't stress about the stress... I think it's more than feeling stressed/anxious about a bfp... I think it's more a long term & unrelenting stress issue.

Loops - oh oh not too long now...

Forshelby - people don't believe me when I say being a lady of leisure is much harder than it seems. They think I'm bonkers... it is very lonely and it takes a lot of inner fortitude to get through. There are going to be days when you get angry at the world for seemingly leaving you behind - don't they know how tough it is and don't they care, are some of the thoughts I have had. BB helped me no end. Maybe it is time to go and find something new you can do - either a hobby or project? Are there some friends that you can set up a regular date with? If I look back on my time it' hard to know what I did - rested a lot and spent a lot of time on BB but also just quiet time with the cats, watching tv, watching dvds, reading, and doing puzzles and cooking. There are times when I thought I would go mad from boredom. Sometimes I just hid away from the world and others I went out and took steps to manage my boredom. In all honesty - I enjoyed the time just to be with bubs and if it hadn't been forced on me, I doubt I would have done it. I will never have this time in my life again... it taught me to actually slow down.

Morning ladies!!!!!!!!!

Dory....how you going, i see you only have 1 day to go???

ATM.........Well is day 3 of no AF!!!!!! but still a BFN...i have been having what feels like period/ovary pains for the last week and half...i feel quiet wet so i keep checking and nothing..................so what is going on then?????? I am never late, and i always have a 28 day cycle and have always been regular..it just seems after the miscarriage everything has gone pear shaped.....i hope i am not going to have problems with my cycles now. I have a feeling that i geared up to o and it didnt happen then a week later it might have....maybe that could be causing it??? I have pregnancy symptoms but i did last time and i wasnt pregnant....god this is driving me up the wall....especially now if i am going to have cycle problems...

The dr said my tiredness could be due to depression from the miscarriage, and although i am upset etc...my tiredness doesnt feel like its coming from that...it feels like its something else...like a deficiency of some sort....he is going to check liver, thyroid, hormones etc etc...He said the more i stress about getting pregnant i could be causing myself not to o and have late period etc....( i feel like saying yeah thats real easy after a miscarriage i just wont stress) he didnt do a ptest or anything because he was busy and i was only in there for my mums app and he just happened to talk to me about it. Ill get a blood test friday i think...

Someone i know has passed away aswell, so i just feel so crap at the moment...and so emotional....

Hi Ladies

Melster ~ I know this may not be what you want to hear but my cycles have been all up the putt since I had my m/c in April/March. My AF before last came on time and then the last one was all up the s*it again. So it may be your body still trying to adjust from the m/c hun. As time passes I think your system will get back to normal - hoping not too long. Im still :crossfingers: for you though! I hope you have a nice little surprise with the BT results, GL

Forshelby ~ thanks hun, I think you're right. Id say the spotting is just my body not used to the pill ect ect. So hopefully it wont affect any of the IVF - shouldnt. I feel for you with the headaches as Im one of these people that gets hormonal migraines. I hope they disappear.

Clairesmummy ~ thanks hun for you kind wishes. Im sorry I dont really understand LP's at all but I hope you find some answers - perhaps from a new doc, GL!

Reet ~ As I said to Forshelby I think now the spotting might be just from the pill but I might ring my nurse and talk to her about it anyway. I dont think if its an early AF it would affect the IVF because I finish the pill soon anyway and start on the hormone injections. Thanks for asking and caring. Thats so sweet your DH gave you that ring and cute!Hope the yuck feeling goes.

Well Ill probably chat to you all when Im back from my week away at the show. Take care everyone and for those still TTC wishing you the best of luck!
:grouphug:

Luna-- Thank you for coming out of the bushes and giving me your advice darl it is truly and greatly appreciated. The testing to check the thickness sounds scary, I was so petrified of having a D&C but thank goodness I never needed one, but I guess if that's what they have to do to find out what my problem is I will have to deal with it some way, just not sure how I will cope with that. I have my Dr appointment tomoro after lunch so I'm going to be as nervous as anything. Thank you again for your advice and please feel free to jump on in here at any time darl, don't be shy. Sending you lots of hugs to say thank you.

Clairesmummy - cycles can be rather erratic after coming off the pill. And you're right, a short LP can be a big problem. I'm not sure what can help to rectify that problem.... I think I heard B vitamins somewhere? I like the hot bath idea for a headache but I'd need to give it a good scrub first. I washed the dang dog in there and it's all fuzzy... hahahaha. Gross. Good luck at the drs tomorrow!

Melster - It's all so confusing, isn't it? I don't know what to tell you except to hang in there, and perhaps make a giant chocolate cake to drown your sorrows. You have every right to feel sad and stressed out. :( But we're all here to pick you up. Sorry to hear about the death in the family/circle of friends. :(

Reet - No, my pee is just fantastic, thanks for asking LOL. I've missed you! Never go mia again or I'll hunt you down, woman! :) I LOVE the anti-natal present, that's hilarious. A friend of mine once got a 'push present' something diamond laden after the birth of her first baby. DP says my push present IS the baby. True but a baby isn't as shiny.. lol

Luna - Hi! No need to be shy, hun. Feel free to join in anytime :)

Dory - You make so much sense! It is harder than I thought. My adopted Grandma (DP's grandma) asked me today how I'm finding it, and I said very lonely, and harder than I thought. She understood, having gone through it herself way back when she was first married. In those days the woman didn't work, and she said it was hard, so it was nice having her understanding. And I have been kind of hiding away from the world.. I just don't know what to do with myself. I feel guilty for wanting to go out and go shopping, or to a movie or whatever, so I do nothing. I wouldn't go as far to say I'm depressed, but I definitely think I'm having somewhat of an identity crisis. The guilt is the worst part. How did you get past feeling unworthy? I feel like what I do here (which isn't much because I feel down) is pretty menial, and doesn't really matter. Afterall the house didn't implode when I was at work all day..... I just feel like what I do isn't important, and I don't have the right to want things, or ask for things which require money. It's silly, I know... but I'm so used to being independant it's a real shock to the system. Enough about me though, HOORAYYYY for only 2 more sleeps! Can't wait, hun!!! Thanks as always for your great advice, you always make such sense.

Loops - Thanks, it helps to know I'm not the only one with a thumping headache. I had a coffee this morning and it seemed to clear it up so that might be my weapon of choice for now! Have fun on your adventure away at the show! :)

AFM - Eager to go to my appointment next week and hear bubby's heartbeat. That niggling fear is coming back and I keep what-ifing myself..... hoping all is well. Surely the little flutters would be enough to comfort me, but no, I manage to what-if those away too! I'm dying to have another scan to see how bubs has grown, but that's at least a month away at this point. *sigh*. Other than that, we've got a trip to Melbourne booked to go and visit DP's Grandma in a couple of weeks, so that's all very exciting. She's so excited, this will be her 6th great grandchild. Yes, she's a trooper... at 91 she's still got more energy than me. :) It's really nice to have her in my life especially with the loss of my own Grandma this year. I hope everyone is well and looking forward to hearing some more bfp news! Go team!

melster - as long as AF hasn't arrived i would say that's a positive sign (and the only real non-easily-misinterpreted sign anyways) so stay optimistic. the waiting is the worst though so not sure what else i can say. FX for you hon and sorry for your loss. hope you start feeling better soon.

clairesmummy - fingers, toes and eyes crossed for your search for a thorough doctor. i hope you find someone good who will throw everything at it (as you have done for the last 2 years). just keep your eyes on the prize (to use a sporting analogy (sorry)) and imagine how wonderful it will be when you are pregnant again :)

forshelby - give yourself some time (and then some more!) to adapt to your change in circumstances. it's a massive shift. i understand about the not being independent anymore, i took some time to get used to combining finances etc... but you will get used to it. don't feel guilty about seeing a movie or doing something fun... do it and enjoy it! can you set yourself some little fun projects so you feel like you're a bit productive ?? like gardening, craft, shopping to find that perfect piece of furniture/clothing for yourself/baby's room, ebaying some junk you have in the house, doing something for your DF (ask him if there's something you can do/buy/make for him), have lunch with friends (go meet them at their work and you will see how jealous they are of you - the grass is always greener LOL).

AFM - i'm just hanging out for my first US on Monday... waiting waiting... but feeling good. i started feeling nauseous last night and still do today and am so happy and proud of it haha... so strange !

Forshelby...i ate two mini muffins!!! YUM.....now i just feel lumpy LOL I know the scans were the best thing with my daughter...although now i am not sure what they will be like after the miscarriage.....i can understand you being a little worried..im sure everything will be ok tho.

Glenglen...thanks....im so glad you're feeling a little positive...

Luna....come on here anytime!!!!!

ATM...still no af...trying to stay positive.....its not working real well :) ....i would just like an answer either way now..my impatience is getting to me...and my eyes are hurting from all the gooling i have been doing and the lack of work at my job LOL......i even checked my cervix becoming desperate for an answer..........which is low and hard which they say its like that before af...and pregnancy it is a bit higher....but then they say in pregnancy you're cervix can change when AF'sdue but it can also change throughout the first trimester so cant be relied on....so i am still here waiting.......and i am now having trouble laying down at night and relaxing...so so annoying.....

yeah we need some BFPS!!!! some happy news...

Glenglen - It's not so much a combining of finances as me having none to contribute to the pool. Kinda depressing. Also we really can't afford for me to be seeing movies and shopping etc as we've got a trip away in 2 weeks and need to put money away to cover the bills while DP is on holidays (he doesn't have paid leave). I have started ebaying some junk.. and that is sort of working, but I find it tedious and pretty boring. I also had lunch with the girls at work once but it just felt weird being there. Everyone said I looked a lot less stressed though since leaving that awful unfair dept I was in, so that was a plus. I think it's just going to take time, like you said. After this trip away to Melbourne we can start spending money on baby stuff. I've opted not to get anything big until 20weeks or so. As the irish would say, to be sure to be sure. Good luck for your u/s on Monday, and nausea is a great sign. I just wish mine would go away now, LOL but I do remember being slightly excited about it. Oh the things we get excited about hehehe.

Melster - Now I want a muffin. Or something cakey. Mmm.... cakey/muffiny goodness. FX you get your answer very soon!

AFM - heartburn. Ouch. I feel like I've drunk a fizzy drink while dangling upside down. Not that I've ever tried that but it's probably the best way to explain how I feel right now!

Hello ladies..
Sorry I haven't contributed in ages. I have been reading though.
I was feeling a little 'afraid' of the whole TTC thing so decided to put it all out of my mind and not focus on it. I am feeling a little better and more 'ready' now... Although, DH has started working away so it may be a little difficult to catch the eggy at that all important moment! I am on CD12 and DH is away til Friday evening so I don't know what our chances are!
I got AF a week early last month so I think my body is still recovering from the d&c.
I wanted to wish Dory all the best for tomorrow. Like everyone I too can't wait to hear the news!
Have a good evening girls xx

Morning ladies.....

How is everyone.....?

Stoked i hope you catch that eggie!!!!!!

Well i am now on day 31...and no af still..and the period/ovary pains seem to have gone away for the moment...what the..........havent tested yet as i am going to wait so i dont completely do my head in. No point testing everyday if af is actually on the way...im having a blood test friday, so by monday/tue i should hopefully know whats going on and if im pregnant or not.....im trying to relax myself to bring af on if i am not pregnant and its not working LOL.....maybe i did actually ovulate late and thats why my period isnt here....its never happened before tho....(grumble grumble)

Good Morning All- Hope everyone is staying dry as it's raining here again, luckily I got most of our washing done and dry yesterday but a few things got caught on the line now they are stuck there until they dry....lol
Melster- Good Luck with no AF arriving be keeping a look out for your BFP FX for you.
Stoked- Great to hear from you, and wishing you all the very best with catching your eggy darl, FX for you.
Forshelby- You really must give up drinking those fizzy drinks upside down darl.....lol......don't you hate it when it runs up your nose....lol.....just jokin darl, hope that heart burn is feeling better today for you.
GlenGlen- How are you travelling today darl hope all is ok with you, Monday's getting close now, FX for a very sticky little bub for you.
Loops- October is approaching quickly best of luck for your IVF darl, thinking of you and FX for your BFP as well.
Sorry if I have missed anybody but I hope you are all safe and healthy and enjoying the wet weather if you are getting any of it that is, me I'm over it and want my warm sunny days back please.....lol
AFM- Well I have made my DR appointment and it's today at 1:40pm, I'm nervous, I'm scared poo less and hoping I can get it all out there and she will listen to me and take me seriously. I have my cycle charts ready at the door and wishing DF gets off work early today and can come in with me to hold my hand. I am so so so scared right now about what they will find and what they will want to do and test, but I guess it's better to get answers than live in no mans land and have no clue. So that's what's happening with me today girls so I've got my FX and saying my prayers that we can sort our problems out and get our long awaited BFP before Xmas would be wonderful.......

Hi girls,

Thank you for the warm welcome. We went away for a couple of nights & had no internet access, but we're back home now :-) Af arrived last night, but Im feeling okay, I had a gp appt booked in for this morning, either for a beta or a referral & referral to monashivf it was!. I was a bit worried he may make us wait a little longer but he was great. So I called up & ive got an appt in 3wks, ill be on cd22, so fx will be able to start some treatment or tests the following cycle!!

Ill catch up on personals later tonite

Renae

Hope you get some answers clairesmummy how did your appointment go?

Im hanging out waiting for a BA for Dory - how exciting i hope shes having those wonderful newborn snuggles as we speak :)

Got my scan in the morning im freaking out big time wish it was here already :hide:

Kell- Haven't got any any answers yet darl, but hopefully will have some in a couple of weeks time, FX. I have to go back in on CD19 for BTs, she's going to do a full hormone check as well as thyroids, so that's happening on the 5th of October and I get the results back a couple of days later. DR said she wants to make sure I am O'ing if not she is going to prescribe some tablets for me to make me O, then she said that if my BTs come back all good we will be sent over for DF to have his swimmers checked then if they come back all good they will do a test on me by putting some dye inside me to see if my tubes are blocked in any way. She doesn't seem to think DFs swimmers should be a problem she's more inclined to think I have a hormone problem and she wants to get to the bottom of whatever it is asap, so that made me feel so much better knowing that I now have a DR that is listening to me and wanting to help me. So now I'm just hanging out till CD19, but I did get some Vitamin B6 today to start taking tonight and hoping that will help my short LP problem and DR said to give it a go if it helps that's great she said and she also wants me to keep taking my folic acid tablets so I will start rattling when I walk soon......lol.....
Good Luck tomoro darl for your scan I will be waiting to hear how you go, I'm sure everything will be great for you and you will get to see a healthy little bub in there.

So glad you have a plan Clairesmummy your doctor sounds great. It all gets you closer to that BFP!
I think its really really close for you.
Thanks for thinking of me
ill i can hear is there is no baby - it could all be over tomorrow i hate the fear of the unknown so wish the scan was this minute
no sleep for me
Dory is keeping everyone is suspense as well!

the wicked witch arrived.....so im out ladies....

clairesmummy im glad ur getting things sorted now

Kell - good luck for ur scan today will be thinking of you

melstar - sorry to hear af arrived, hope she comes and goes quickly

xoxox

Kell- Thanks darl, Good luck today I will be here for you to give the good news to darl you must be so scared now I'm sending you lots of cyber hugs darl and sending you lots of sticky vibes darl and have everything crossed for you that you get to see your healthy little bundle today. I got to have a good chat to my DF last night about my DRs appointment and he has agreed to a SA which is wonderful news to my ears, I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful supportive DF, I love him to bits.
Melster- So sorry to hear that wicked witch AF arrived, hope you are ok darl.
Iona- Thank you again for your advice darl, I got myself some Vitamin B6 yesterday and have started taking them last night, so here's hoping we sort this thing out and get our BFP soon.
Reet,GlenGlen- How are you both going hoping everything is all good with you both, thinking of you both.
Forshelby- How's everything going for you, hope the HB and HA have settled down for you darl, how's that cute little baby bump going for you?
AFM- Well it's official I can't leave the house, it's raining here again and the drive way is way to slippery to even think about driving on.
Sorry if I have missed anybody brains got water on it from all the rain we are getting.

Here's hoping clairesmummy - I only had one cycle with the b6 before I got my BFP so FX the same happens to you xoxox

We can only hope and pray that it works Iona, if not at least now I have a DR that is going to do some tests on us to see what is happening, so I don't feel so stuck in a rut now and I now know we have options. So if vitamin B6 don't work for me I have a full hormone BT on CD19 then if they come back clear DF is off for SA and I get my tubes checked. So at least at the end of it all we will either have a brand new little bub or we will know we gave it everything and there was nothing else we could do. But eventually I know and feel we will have a bub one day.

GL Clairesmummy- it's brilliant you're on the road to investigating what's going on. that's great your DF will do a SA and you are getting prodded and poked lots too LOL.
AFM - i'm all good. just lurking around and feeling pretty good. i'm having lots of feelings in my tummy (like stretching, poking, and a general 'awareness' of something going on there... not really pain but definitely something) - i hope this is normal??