TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ August 07 #2

Hi,

I am new to this website and to forums, I had a m/c and d & C early august (10 weeks). Firstly, could someone please tell me what all the AF, DPO - all the shortened words. I understood some, but not all.

Secondly, we are trying again, I have noticed white thickish odourless mucous for the past 3-4 days. I am waiting for my period, I understand from previous posts, this can take a while. Is this normal, after a d/c, I have slight tingling in my nipples as well. I have done 2 preg test both came out negative - which I suppose means the preg hormones are no longer.

Honestly, I think I am trying to make myself think I might be preg again. But, the chances I suppose are very unlikely.

Anyone help?

thanks

Hi there mumstar, welcome.
Im so sorry for your loss hun, but you are definatly in the right place for support and understanding.
As for the abbreviations -AF = Aunt Flo or period. DPO is Days Past Ovulation, Bd is Baby Dance or intercourse. I will find a link for you to a thread that has them all.

The white thickish mucus sounds very much like your ovulating, or have ovulated.
I know how easy it is to lead yourself into believing that you may be pregnant and it has happend to some, but i would say that its just your hormones getting back to normal, and some ladies do get sore and tingly BB (breast) around ovulation time. I would see it as a sign of your body getting ready for you to start trying again (if thats what you want to do) Some dr's say wait, some say your more fertile straight after a d&c, so maybe if your ovulating now, you may just catch the egg if you bd today and tomorrow.

good luck hun
treelo

I'm so sorry for your loss, Mumstar. Welcome to the TTCAML thread. It's good to come in here and be amongst people who understand what you're experiencing. It can be pretty confusing and hard. As Treelo said, there is a thread that explains all the acronyms we use: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ead.php?t=2055 It took me just over 8 weeks from my D&C for AF to return. Some are able to start TTC straight away, others need a cycle or more to build up the emotional and physical strength to go again. It can also depend on what you're advised. If it's your second or third m/c in a row, you've never had children and you're in your late 30s like me, then it's likely that you should have blood tests done to see if there's any reason for the m/c. Hope that helps. *Hugs*

Beaksie, you're right! I think most of us must be in that waiting zone of the TTC cycle where it's a little bit boring! I've got another eight to ten days before I ovulate, I think. I've just started taking vitex again to see if that helps lengthen my luteal phase and improve my chances!

Leila, that's good news that there's nothing to stop you from TTC as soon as you feel ready. The ob who did my D&C told me to *have another crack at it* when he checked on me before I went home. He was really lovely and quite funny.

Hello to everyone else - I'll try to catch up properly after lunch! :D

Hi Ladies, I am new to this forum but needed somewhere to share my thoughts. We miscarried at 5 weeks just last week. We are very keen to start trying again. There is some blood still hanging around. When can start baby dancing again?

Welcome Wowzer, im very sorry for the loss of your angel.
In answer to your question, when your ready. My doctor told me that there is no physical or medical reason why we had to wait one or two cycles, and that we could try straight away if we were mentally ready to do that. Others say wait. If you had a D&C then you are very fertile straight after, hence the reason not to wait for a cycle.
Please take care of yourself, and your partner and keep posting, its the best way to start healing.

hugs
treelo

Hi Treelo, how's your Sunday going? I'm presently enjoying a midstrength beer, after a morning of washing, ironing, washing and more ironing. It's a balmy 32ish degrees here today, so we're gearing ourselves up for the summer, which in our part of Aus, will probably be in full swing by next week.
On the TTC front, getting seriously bored with the whole waiting to O thing. Is it just me, or does 28 days go sooooooooooooo slow when you have babies on the mind??
To Wowser- So sorry about your loss. Hope you feel better soon, and get a Bfp. Big Hugs going to you XX:hug:

Welcome Wowzer, I'm sorry for your loss. Most doctors recommend you wait until after you stop bleeding to decrease the risk of infection.

Hi mumstar - I'm sorry for your loss. It's very common after a m/c to imagine yourself pregnant soon afterwards. I've been in this forum since March and I can't remember anyone getting pg the first cycle afterwards so I don't think it is all that commone, but it can happen. Your symptoms could be after O ones or they could be early pg ones.... you will just have to wait it out.

Welcome Leila - I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I hope your time here is a short one.

Lizjessie - I'm going fine thanks. When my work friend came in the other day she actually asked me if I had any news for her (meaning am I pregnant yet). She also asked this over the phone the day I had first tested positive and I said nothing yet. This time I said, well you know the last time you came in to visit and I wasn't at work, well, I had another m/c that day. You could tell she felt really bad for asking. I had my BTs done..... 3 huge vials of blood they took. Now I just have to wait for the bill..... I know the karyotyping one alone was costing $500 and I have no idea how much the others will cost.

ems - the work friend smoked throughout her pregnancy and both her kids appear to be healthy.... she also didn't change her diet or take vitamins or anything. She also fell pregnant while her husband and her were having troubles and had decided to stop trying..... it's just typical of what goes on.


:)

Had to get out of bed twice last night to pee. I don't think it's an early pg sign as it's just way too early for that. I think it could be the fibroid causing it.... or else maybe just old age....lol. Had another vivid dream last night. This time I was at the hospital to get my lap done and I was on the bed and everything when the doctor told me they weren't going to do it - ever - and sent me home. I was so upset in the dream. I think that's my mind telling me I am thinking I will never get to the end of the damn waiting list. 5DPO and counting down..... 7 days to testing or more than likely AF.

Thanks for the warm welcome girls. I didn't have a d&c just letting it all come out on it's own. TBH we tried BD yesterday and there was a bit of blood but we will give a miss for a few more days so not to get infection.

Hi everyone......I haven't been here for ages as work and Family have kept me very busy! I just wanted some advice though.....how long after ovulation do you wait to do a HPT.....or when does HCG show up in a blood test I believe I was ovulating 14th of this month......I did A HPT yesterday not sure why espescially as it wasn't a morning wee one so I just knew it would be negative (and that happened last time too deeerrrr you think I'd have been more patient) I am feeling very irritable and frustrated and impatient and my DH doesn't understand why???? just says oh don't stress it....we'll just wait and see.....Grrrr I wanna be able to test NOW!
Oh well some advice pleeeease....sorry for the vent......
Satya: what stage are you at?? do you think you could be pg again yet? (sorry haven't read past threads so don't know what I've missed).
Hi Treelo: how's things with you? I hope you are all okay and do the BDing thing hahaha I will so get all these abbreviation things huh!
Take care then
Bye for now Dawneeee -x-

Dawneee go buy another test. When I fell pregant that was how I was feeling VERY moody, way more than PMS.

Wowzer: Hahaha Thanks....my DH has said I am rather more irrational even for me before PMS! Just not sure when to test I'm thinking at least Wednesday this week as that is two weeks PO......A funny story though with our last Pregnancy My DH and I went away for a romantic four days and we concieved it was wonderful....well my DS 7yrs old said to us this morning that we can go back to that place next weekend and get another Baby please as his soccer is finished and we don't have to take him hahahaha! now thats too cute!

Ouch! That bill is as painful as the actual BTs themselves satya!
If you ever need to talk to anyone, I'm always here :)

now cooper has chicken pox, can someone get me a straight jacket...cause im going insane!!!!

Dawneee - I don't test until the day my AF is due, and it appears most ladies don't get a result til then anyway, so try to hold out..... it will save you money and nerves waiting for that damn line to come up. The first couple of months after my second m/c I thought I was pg and kept wasting tests. I've now learnt to wait for pg like symptoms on the day my AF is due and only test then. I've actually only had one cycle like that since my second m/c and I got a faint positive I think on 12DPO and a stronger one on 13DPO. I am 6DPO now I think. I'm not 100% sure about this as my temps were all over the place before I O'd and there is a slight possibility that I could have O'd 2 or 3 days earlier but I'm going with 6DPO as it fits in better with my average after O temps and with my usual cycle. Cute comment from your DS by the way.... if only it were that simple.

Thanks Lizjessie, I will remember that. How's things with you?

treelo - you poor thing, I can't imagine how hard that must be to deal with, I remember having it when I was a kid and I bet it was a nightmare for my mum.

Hi to everyone else.

No dreams last night.... Yay.... and I slept right through. Bleeding gums again this morning. Another temp rise this morning. My temp is where it was the day I found out I was pg last time, but I can't think anything of it unless it stays up there as I've been there before only to have it start dropping. I don't feel like I am and I'm pretty sure I'm only 6dpo anyway so I will wait and see how things pan out.

Huge Congratulations to SHARON.....
hope you have a good problem free pregnancy. BIG HUGS 2 U

take care hun, xxx:)

:)best of luck to all those who are currently TTC right now, hope it happens real soon and that successful pregnancies will follow.

I know how disappointing it is to ttc following m/c
I lost a baby last August at 6 weeks........and it took 9 VERY LONG MONTHS for this baby to be conceived, with so much heartache along the way.

Hope your wishes will soon come true girls. I wish you well xxx

Jay Jay- Thanks for your support. I'm glad you have your baby now.

Mumstar & Wowzer- welcome to this very supportive thread. I hope your stay here is brief. Wowzer, as the girls have already said, people get told different things when it comes to TTC again. Sometimes it's recommended to wait one cycle (so that they can date the baby more easily) but surely they can measure it in the ultrasounds (as they do anyway). If your doctor says it's fine to start TTC again and you are ready emotionally, then you go girl! :dance:

Beaksie- it's not just you. i find that everything seems to be a long wait....waiting for mc to stop...waiting for AF or O.....waiting to do HPT.....waiting for 3 months to pass.....6 months to pass.....9 months to pass. I know it'll all be worth it in the end, but this waiting makes me anxious.

Satya- it is typical of what happens. It just seems so incredibly easy for some people. I thought it would be easy for me too. I never even imagined that I would MC, let alone twice (i'm sure you're the same). The tests are soooo expensive. I feel like I will have spent my baby bonus before I even have a baby! :)

Treelo- you poor thing! Chicken pox are the worst. I still remember having them myself. Not fun for Mum's to deal with either. I hope they don't last too long.

Dawneee- Your DS is so cute!!!! I find it hard not to test. It is a difficult thing, that's for sure. My DF (soon to be DH!) is exactly the same..."don't stress, we'll wait and see" If only they were in our shoes.... (Not that I want him to wear my shoes!! :lol: )

Hello to Lizjessie, Kbowman, Leila, starrysky and anyone else I've missed. how are you all going? I hope you had a great weekend.

As for me, I'm still waiting fro mc to stop completely. Just spotting now. I'm seeing my ob tomorrow morning, so I hope he gives me the all clear.

Love EMS

Hello,


A big thankyou to everyones kind words and advice, it is very comforting.

Mumstar

Satya fingers and toes crossed for you.

Jay Jay 9 months your nerves must be shattered. I know if it takes longer than 6 months I am going to be a wreck.

Re: HPT I did 3 when I got my positive now that seems a waste. I have bought a supply from ebay but not sure how accurate they will be, they haven't arrived yet.

satya - I'm not too bad - Glad that AF has been and gone for me and hoping that this is going to be the only cycle I have for a very long time!

ems - Hi! I had a great weekend, how bout you?

As for me - nothing new on this side of the woods - have fun all!

Hi again! well I couldn't resist and Damn well tested again today as I am calculating 12DPO......wish I hadn't.......as I think I can see that second Faint line?? am I imagining it?? because I want to see it......I wont tell DH until I'm sure my eyes aren't playing tricks as it's VERY faint...I will test again in the morning first wee an all being stronger...and then we'll see!
I know I know I SHOULD wait at least a few days....but I know I don't have that much will power....:)
EMS: hahaha yeah I'm with you about not letting DH wear my shoes haha!

Dawnee- woo hoo! here's hoping you get a stonger line tomorrow, it sounds promising! Have you had any symptoms? Goodluck...............let us know.

Thanks Beaksie: well I didn't think I had symptoms yet I have been feeling a bit queasy last thing before I go to sleep and when I get up.....I put it down to being hungry in the morning though, the weird thing with that is with my first four Pregnancys that I carried to term no trouble except the Damn vomiting I was diagnosed with "Hyperemisis" (High- Vomiting) I spent alot of time in hospital lost lots of weight it was awful....anyhow with the Pregnancy I lost in July I felt fine and never got sick once....Deep down I believed that to be a sign that something wasn't right.....also I have been feeling really tired again,and can sleep for hours in the afternoon :) I think my Boobs are feeling tender too but am not 100% on that one yet! and I feel abit aching low down Abdo/Pelvic area.....so there you go if I'm not pg it's going to be a Damn good AF....or I am master of Phantom Pg's now :( Okay then back to it.....It's so great being able to share this stuff when I'm not letting on anything to anyone else close to me :) just in case........
Bye for now then -x-

Yahhh Dawnee, :pray: hope it is a BFP.

hello! hope everyone had a fantastic weekend;)
big hugs and a warm welcome to dawnee,mumstar and wowzer so sorry about the loss of your babies. like these lovely ladies have prolly already told you, this is a great place to be for understabding and support:)
good luck dawnee with the bfp, let us know...
treelo sorry to hear about the chicken pox,hope everyone feels better real soon...satya stay positive hun, it seems you have a pretty good understanding of your dreams and what they mean to you, its nice when you can just sleep and just not though sometimes....
ems,kbowmanbeaksie,lizjessieand leila, i hope everyone is well and ttcing to their hearts content....
my weekend was good till yesterday, my brothers gf rang me sunday morning, she m/c on sat night at the hospital, a scan just before showed 5-6 wks, she should have been 12, there was no heartbeat, she is understandably upset so i would like to be a friend to her in her time of need but she really doesnt make it easy, she is blaming my brother for it.......too hard to go into.
anyway, my old boss rang me up on sun too, i had to go work for 5 hrs today, which was fine except every second person was asking me when the baby was due, why arent i showing yet etc.etc.etc:(
the girls i worked with had told all my good customers.......i didnt get upset, i didnt cry i just explained what happened....now i feel wierd, empty.
oh well, thanks for reading my dribble....
love starryskyxxx

Starrysky glad you made it through the reminders. I am funny too at work we have only 3 female loos and I tried to a different one all the time while I was miscarrying (started at work).

Sad for your Bro's GF. Very unfair for her to blam your Bro.

thanx wowzer, have you posted your experience elsewhere (in here?) im being lazy about looking it up... how terrible for you to have to endure that at work......i have said before these things can only make us stronger.........
my bros gf m/c has stirred up all my head again, i thought i was handling it pretty well, but oh well...
hope you are better and the bleeding stops soon, i started bding a week after, i am still bleeding now(very lightly) i feel all out of whack atm, it will be 3 weeks ago tomorrow, sometimes it feels like years and then like today it feels like yesterday...

Hi girls, just doing my usual check in.
Starrysky - I'm really sorry about your brother's gf. I know what you mean about finding it hard to be a friend. Some people are really hard work. Maybe just settle for being there if she needs you? You have to take your own feelings about your MC into account too, it may dredge up a bit too much for you right now. I was also sorry to read about the work stuff. Its so so hard to "untell" people about a pregnancy. Kind of makes the "wait till 12 weeks" thing a bit easier to do, though we all know that that's no guarrantee either. Hmmmm, not exactly uplifting am I? Sorry Anyway off for an early night for me, totally wrecked today. Night everyone, hope you're all doing well!:D

Hi Girls-

Just my usual check-in and probably long message! :)

Mumster & Wowzer: Welcome. I am very sorry for your losses. I hope your time in here is short and that you'll find this thread as helpful and supportive
as I have.

Satya: How are you doing? I, too, have everything crossed for you.

LizJessie: Congrats on your visit from AF. Please, o, please send her my way! It feels like it's been forever. Unless I'm pg (which I seriously doubt),
then tell her to skip me for a while. :)

Dawnee: Got my fingers crossed for you too! :goodluck:

StarrySky: Sorry to hear about your brother's gf. It is a terrible loss for both of them and your family. It really isn't fair that she wouldn't
tell your brother what was going on with her and then to blame him but I guess some people are internal blamers (like me), others need someone else to
blame. And unless she was doing something unhealthy to herself, there really is just no one to blame. I'm sure she will come to that realization soon-
I hope so for the sake of your brother's sanity!

Hi to everyone else!

Friday I called my ob to get my D&C results. It was a genetically normal girl. I was really expecting them to say there was a genetic abnormality and
at least then I would have had a reason. I felt pretty bad but my mom said all kinds of things can happen that aren't genetic in the formation of the
organs and stuff and maybe something just formed wrong. So then I felt better. But then later I freaked myself out b/c I thought I had accidentally taken
200mg of progesterone instead of 100. I was not worried unless I am pg. But then I looked it up this morning and I was on 200mg w/ my DD. So then I
started worrying I wasn't on enough progesterone this last time but then I remembered that I had a blood test right around the time I m/c'ed and my levels were fine. Geez, I am such a basket case!! Anyway, Thurs I will be 7wks since the D&C and I'm ready to either be pg again or finally see AF so I can
know where I stand. This waiting is driving me buggy!

Dawneee - How did you go this morning with the test? I have my fingers crossed for you.

Starrysky - sorry about your brother's loss. That must have been really hard on Sunday with the the pregnancy related questions... at least it's out there now.

Sweetpetite - It's hard not to wonder if you did something to cause a m/c but the truth is in most cases it's just something that happens and you wont get an actually reason for it. I think the hardest thing about m/c and/or LTTTC is all the waiting that goes on. I find that posting here always helps with that.

:)
7DPO for me this morning. Temp dipped .2, bleeding gums again this morning. Two toilet trips overnight again. Slight spotting after BDing last night.

Hi everyone,

Hope your weeks are going well. I don't think I had any luck this cycle as no symptoms and got a BFN yesterday (I caved!) but I will test again on Saturday if AF hasn't arrived.

Satya, you always have so many symptoms!! I can only remember sore BB the day I tested (12DPO) and got a BFP in Jan. Fingers crossed it's third time lucky for you.

Hi everyone
I am off to ob today for results of D&C..... i dont really know how i am or should be feeling - i think i am a little scared of getting the results??
Anyway have to get ready to go i will post later to let you know the results...

Leila - thinking of you today as you get your results. Big hugs hun.

Mumstar and Wowzer - welcome girls - sorry you have to be here and so sorry for your loss, but the support in here is amazing.

Just a quick one cos i am at my mum's again (she is having a colonoscopy today and i am driving/caring for her) so big hugs to everyone and promise will do personals soon.

PS - AF due this Friday, first one since m/c - trying not to think about it!

LittleScottishBoy and others I have no idea when mine is due. Well I know when it was due before the m/c but unsure when it is going to come now and I presume the m/c played up my cycles.

LSB you will be right, it is better to get it so you know your body is on track to another try for a baby. :pray:

Leila - best of luck today hun.
LSB - I sure hope your mum is doing ok, hugs to you both.
Wowzer - I hope AF comes soon for you so you can get back to normal.
Kiwigirl - It aint over till AF comes!!! so STAY AWAY AF !!
Satya - So many symptoms again !! I hope this is it for you hun.

Well im sitting here 3DPO and im bored. Its only been two cycles and im over it already. Im always waiting for something O, AF....boring.

hugs
treelo

Treelo, I know what you mean... always waiting for something. We need to get a new hobby lol ;)