TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ Dec 07/Jan 08

Just a quick post from me; sorry for lack of personals to everyone else...

Baby Hopes, what's giving you the feeling that there's something not right? I know we all carry the fear that it's going to happen again as I'm still walking that walk at the moment - I don't know if it's something that any of us will ever shake until we have our little ones in our arms with us after the long 9 months. I too have been fearful that it's going to happen again, and at every sign of cramping or blood (even the slightest amount) I start freaking out. I've booked in for an early scan at 7 weeks, which is Monday for me, but I know some ladies on these forums have had earlier scans than that even. I know if you went back to GP you could request a transvaginal u/s from local imaging centre without having to see OB as such - that may just give you some peace of mind until you get in to see your OB, although the imaging centre won't give you the results, you'd need to go back & see the GP to get those. But I can understand your concern and your fear. After much venting to ladies on this forum, I've finally come to a point in 'letting it be' as there's nothing that I can physically do now that can stop it happening again. As painful as it would be if it happens to any of us again, we can't control what is simply out of our control, even though that's the one thing we want to be able to do. Be brave Baby Hopes, and keep in contact here, as we're all here to help you through whatever happens. I'll be praying for you.

Tempus - thanx for the cyber hug; gratefully received!

Babyhopes - sending you positive thoughts and vibes, darl - i know how hard it must be and how you must be feeling. I hope it is just a case of nerves which will soon go away as you get further along. Thinking of you and praying that everything is hunky dory.

Babyangels - i think you have it all covered! Sounds pretty thorough and like you know what to do. Good luck. (I have been charting for 15 months now).

We are off to see the FS on Thursday next week - glad to finally have an appointment and that DH is keen to go. I think he is realising it's not going to happen on its own so we need some help./

Hugs to everyone and have a lovely weekend.
LSB xxx.

babyhopes: some fear is absolutely normal, but if it becomes debilitating, you really need to talk to a professional. And of course, we're all here giving you support too, because we all get what you're going through. I'll keep you in my prayers.

hi girls

thankyou for all your kind words of support maybe it is just stress i am gonna try to get to the doctor asap for peice of mind

thanks girl have a great weekend xx

Hello Everyone,
I just wanted to say that, like Jo, I am hoping to join you in a couple of months. It is a bit early for me as I am still bleeding after m/c No.2 (sorry if TMI), but I am coping by trying to stay positive and hopeful for preg No. 3.
BettyBoop, thank you for your kind words on the bleeding in preg forum. I hope that AF comes soon for you.
Good luck everyone, I'll be lurking too, but will catch up in a month or two!

:crossfingers:

:angel: 5w (April 07) :angel: 7w (missed m/c, 31.12.07)

canary- glad you are doing ok, do join us when you are ready.

Hi Ladies,

Happy New Year!!!

I hope that everyone is doing great and that this new year brings us all our hearts desires.

I have not been on this week, have just been out of it. On Friday I woke up feeling very unconfortable and like I was going crazy to m/c already. I decided to just wait out the weekend calmly until monday when I see the dr.

Anyways, yesterday Saturday evening, I started feeling cramps and I had a lot more brown spotting. Then by last night I started bleeding and with severe cramping. I have been in bed all day with pain and I am bleeding alot. I guess that the waiting has prepared me for this, other than the pain I am feeling fine. And can't wait to ttc again.

I hope you ladies have a wonderful evening and thanks again for listening to me.

sorry to hear what you are going through, sending you a big hug and we are here for you

magda - I am so sorry. Glad you are feeling positive. good luck

Magda, so sorry for what you are going through right now. Sending you big hugs and hoping you can move forward.

Magda: I'm so sorry for your loss. Be real good to yourself right now and keep us informed. I'll be praying for you.

not much happing here

it is a bit quiet in here. hope all is well

Hiya All

Have been lurking for a few months now. Popped in Sep/Oct after m/c # 2. Have since been undergoing investigations into my m/c's before we tried again. Only thing tests bought up was uterine polyp which was removed. Went to see my fabulous ob/gyn this afternoon who gave us the green light to start trying again. Very excited, I should be nervous but I just feel so good about everything this time (you know what it's like - up and down like a yoyo, I'll probably nervous again tomorrow but here's hoping the happy feelings stay around for a while).

Very pleased to see quite a few :bfp: while I was lurking - Congrats to those & best wishes for a happy & healthy pregnancy. Of course sorry to see some faces still in here from before but here's hoping 2008 will be the year for all of us & we'll all be out of here!

hi girls

sorry havn't been on for a bit hope everyone is keeping well

i went to my doctor today and got my blood results back i'm not sure weather to take it as good new or bad he said my hcg level was low i go for a u/s tomorrow hopeing everything turn out ok but it's not looking that way atm feeling a bit stressed and upset really

baby hopes- fingers grossed for you , hope you get great news from your U/S tomorrow. sending you a big and and praying for you.
Hi to everyone else and welcome back
me not much happening think i might have just O , dont know if there was any point in Oing till i have had AF

Hi ladies,

I wanted to pop in and sprinkle some BABY DUST!! I have been in and out of this thread last year.

Just wanted to give some hope too........... I had a chemical pregnancy last month (November), AF was a week late, my hpts never got dark that week though. After that I O'd exactly the same time as I normally do (cd18) and conceived again straight away. I tested positive New Years Day, so that was the best 2008 present I could hope for.

I was really surprised to conceive again straight after a MC, but it certainly is possible.

I wish you all the very best of luck!

Lee xo

thanks lee and congrats , we do like to here great news and give us some hope
babyhope - thinking of you , fingers grossed

Lee!!! What a wonderful start to the new year! I am so happy for you. I am sure you will be taking your 3month old through his/her first Christmas at the end of the year, along with the rest of your family. I'm thrilled for you, and will be following your progress in the PAML thread.

I'm living it up in Whistler Canada at the moment. Hot tubs, massages, chalets, can I sho w off any more?

Happy new year to everyone else. May it bring you everything you wish for.

big hello to everyone
just popped in to see how everyone is doing

lee CONGRATULATIONS

well i got the u/s results today and all is well that takes a load off my mind atm

thinking of you all
xx

Thanks ladies,

Pash - I'm just a tiny bit jealous of your hot tubs (okay, make that a huge bit jealous!!) but really - you deserve it, so glad to see you pampering yourself! Hope you had a great Chrissy in OZ! And that 2008 will also be the year you celebrate Christmas with your new bub, or a bub in the tum!! I'm sure to be right!! All the best!

Babyhopes - glad your U/S was good! Another milestone passed.

Good luck everybody!

Lee xo

Hi Ladies,

Thank you so much for the well wishes. I have been bleeding since Saturday night but the baby came out yesterday, Wednesday. Afterwards the bleeding was more like spotting and no more pain. But today in the afternoon I started getting mild cramps like my usual period cramps and started bleeding heavier like the first day of a normal period. I am wondering could this be my period, has anyone ever experienced anything like this? a period immediately following m/c?

I am no very anxious to ttc again.

Thanks for your help.
Hope you all have a wonderful evening.

hi all,
sorry magda im not much help, I had a d&c, I am so sorry for your loss, big hugs.
babyhopes- I am so glad that the us went well, I know that if I EVER get utd again, I will be dreading that milestone, are you having more bts done to monitor hcg? how low was low? just curious sorry, I cant believe how happy I am for you to be preggers, seems like only the other day we were commisserating together, heres hoping i get a bfp soon too!!! you give me hope.
CONGRATULATIONS LEE!!!

Hello girls

Sorry for your loss magda i am not really much help either as i had a d and c aswell hugs to you xx

Hi starrysky
I was suppose to be 6wks and 4 days and my hcg was at 2591the doctor freaked me out a little when he said it was low i went home and cried. when i went for the u/s at first they could only see the sack so i was really worried something was wrong so they had to do a internal u/s and there was bub i was so releived and the heart beat was nice and strong 192bpm i havn't been back to my doctor yet probably go back this week. I always watch this thread now to see how the ladies are going i feel close to all the ladies in here now as i feel we have all been through things togeather iykwim

Sending baby dust to all in this thread goodluck ladies
Hope to see a few bfp's soon

xx

Hi Magda,

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all that you have. I lost my first one naturally - started bleeding on the Monday, followed by cramping & bleeding until Wednesday. Went to the OB on the Wed & he did an internal - it was at that time that we knew that there wasn't a lot of hope. I ended up losing it naturally at home on the Thursday, but OB still had me admitted to hospital for D&C that same day even though I thought I'd lost it all. I then had bleeding & cramping (like a period) for a week, followed by return of normal AF 28 days after D&C. It may just be that your body is still responding to change in hormones as to why you're still getting bleeding. If you're concerned, you should go & see your Dr as it's taken a while for you to miscarriage naturally, so you may want to make sure you haven't got an infection (which is why I think my OB still wanted to do a D&C even though I was sure I had lost everything). Thinking of you.

Hi Ladies,

I am new to this forum, I have just lost my baby December 30, and I think I would have gone mad if it was not for this website. I have not posted before, but just knowing that other women are going through exactly the same thing has been such a comfort. And to hear your words of encouragement to each other really helped me.

Magda - the same thing happened to me. I had very heavy bleeding on the day I lost my baby, not so much pain, well, nothing I could not take. It only lasted about 3-4 hours and then it was just spotting, so I thought it was all over. Then very light bleeding/spotting the next day and then the next day it was as if I have gotten my period. Regular period bleeding and cramps. I even called my doctor because I was concerned, but she told me it is normal. It lasted about a week.

Ladies, my doctor told me that for my "mental health" I should wait at least 3 months before trying again. But I feel that for my "mental health" I need to try again ASAP. Did anybody try right away? When can I expect O to appear? Normally I get it around day 20, will it be later now?

AJC your chart looks good

Hi luna and welcome , sorry to hear of your loss, do join in

Hey there lovely ladies, its been a long break but i am back and ready to get back into ttc.
For those who have recieved BFP's - Congrats to you all, i wish you all an uneventfull 9 months.
For those who have joined us - I am so sorry for your loss, you have come to the right place and we will always be here to lean on for support and encouragement.

As for me...just waiting for AF and then we will start trying.

hugs
treelo

Hi all,

I am not quite ready to ttc yet, but I have been following everyone's stories and have found lots of hope and inspiration through this thread.

Baby hopes, I am really glad that your scan came back OK. :D I have read that HCG can vary hugely in early preg, so sometimes a single HCG reading can be difficult to interpret.

It is really great to hear about all of the BFPs- Congratulations!! :clap:

Luna, I am really sorry to hear that you have also had a rotten new year. It is good to know that you have found BB for lots of help and support. I feel the same way as you do, and want to ttc ASAP. I was advised to wait until I had one AF, so that it would be easy to calculate the age of my next pregnancy. After my 1st M/C, my cycle was all over the place for about 2 months, but everyone is different so you may go back to your normal cycle straight away. HTH, Good luck. :goodluck::goodluck:

Hi Magda, I started bleeding on 31.12.07, and a scan on 02.01.08 confirmed that I had miscarried a few weeks earlier. Everything came away as it was supposed to one week ago today, and although the bleeding is less, I am really fed up that it is still ongoing (as are the mild, AF like cramps.) The nurses advised me to do a HPT two weeks after the bleeding stops, to make sure everything is gone. The other thing that I have noticed, is that I still have some pregnancy symptoms (mainly, I dont want to drink coffee, which I loved before being pgt). If you still have pregnancy symptoms, I think that it is unlikely that you are having AF, as your hormone levels will supress it. If you do a HPT and it is still pos, then I think that it is unlikey that you are having AF for the same reasons. Sorry that was a bit waffly, I hope it helps.

Good luck to everyone,
C. x

Luna: so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.

My docs made me wait 2 cycles, to let the hormones get back to normal and the uterine lining to heal.

Just wanted to pop in and congratulate Lee! Also, good news on the ultrasound baby hopes.

Hope everyone gets a BFP real soon!

Cheers
Belinda

Hi everyone,
I've been reading all your stories and you are all such strong women.
I've only just had my m/c last week and am wondering where you get the courage to try again.
I'm not ready yet and at this point not sure when I will be.
I do want to try again, after being pg again it has re-kindled the desire IYKWIM.
Just need to build my strength back up and get back on track mentally.
Good Luck to you all TTC.
..Laura

Ohhhh Laura I so know what you mean. I lost my angels 12 Days ago, and reading what you just wrote I fully understand what your saying.

I wrote for something in a forum last week sometime and a lady who had just lost her babies told me I was so strong. I got her response and I thought..... Strong.... Nope Not Me. At the time I wasnt. It comes very gradually. Yesterday was the first day of the fog lifting and today I feel just a tad better again. I have only just finished writing a post in the TTC saying that I think, thanks to some of the people i have met and spoken to on here that I just MIGHT be at the stage where I can think about going again.

Its a slow process Laura, but you can get through just like I can, just like so many of the wonderful women... and some men I ve spoken to on here can and have.

:hug:

thanks Bettyboop. Will be a miracle if it happens this month - we were actually trying not to fall this month until we saw ob/gyn to see what he thought of all of my post m/c tests. He gave us the green light so are waiting for af so we can officially start trying again. Chart does look good though - can't even remember when we bd'd this month as haven't been marking that on my chart. I guess there is always that slim chance but no tender breasts or any other symptoms I've experienced before. At this stage just hoping it means my hormones are doing what they're supposed to and will be in order to give me a bfp next cycle. :pray:

Your cycle looks like af will be on her way very soon. Maybe next cycle will be your lucky one too:pray:

Treelo - hope the break did you well. DH and I have had a 4 month break this time, mainly to do tests but mentally/emotionally it has done us the world of good. Also been good to get fit, eat well. Good luck to you!

Hopeing we will see some BFP soon on here

Hiya ladies, I've been reading your amazing stories since i found you in December. I was looking for 'something' to help me after my m/c on Christmas Eve at 11 weeks, but didn't have the courage to join you until now. I looked back through some old threads from summer '07 too, especially in my saddest moments-I have to say you're an inspiration- i've learnt far more from your experiences than anything I've read elsewhere. My GP has been very aloof (old style) so I don't know if I'm doing the right thing (as I didn't ask) but my hubby and I are TTC again straightaway. I have finished a course of tablets to stop the post m/c bleed, and hcg is back to normal. Figure we have nothing to lose now.:)

Very best wishes to those now expecting in '08. Sincerely have fingers, arms, eyes (but not legs- i'm needing those TTC!!!) crossed for you- you give me hope xx
:clap:

good luck Nickster, hopefully you get that BFP soon.

...Laura

Good Luck with it all nickster. Hope everything goes well for you. I had a specialist that wasnt to forthcoming with information or the need to set my mind at rest and coming in here helped. Even if i didnt know what question I needed to ask, just reading through the posts taught me a lot and I hope it helps you as well

Laura, you're very sweet, but I don't feel all that brave or strong LOL! Maybe bullheaded is more like it because I really want another baby. But then I get ambivilant. Totally want a baby, but afraid of getting preg and having another MC.
Good luck.