TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 08

Sam - gosh, I really did not want to scare anybody, so sorry. Day 10 is actually OK (still below 30%, they say 25% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage), the risk rises sharply AFTER day 10. I tried to post a link to that study, so you know I am not not just saying that to make you feel better, but I do not think I am allowed.

And that is true, everybody is different, some people never see a dip, and sometimes maybe it does not mean anything? I think the doctors say there is no hard evidence that it means anything. I have to say though that I have been charting for about 4 months before, and this was the only time I saw it.

One more thing about charting - I noticed that alcohol really messes up my temperatures. Please do not think I am a lush, one glass of wine the night before or even worse, one martini, makes my temps go up the next morning. But again, maybe it is just me. I really cannot hold my liquor too well. But just to be safe, I decided to stay away from the stuff around O time, or my charts will never be right.

Angel Babies - I have just started temping as well....and so far i havent forgotten. Although i nearly fell out of bed when it jumped from 35.8 to 39.6....needless to say i had a fever and that was the reason for the temp rise. I dont really understand it all but Dr said to give it a go.

good luck
treelo

not much happening here , good to see you all getting into charting

good luck with the temping girls, I was hopeless at it, I was the same with taking the pill!!
I would get out to the kitchen and be making coffee and then doh!! didnt take my temp!!
yeah, so now I have given up!
I have my opks this cycle, which I hope will work, I dont want to fork out money for a pack, theyre too bloody expensive, evn with my staff discount!
good luck to all sending everyone lots of good luck vibes.

Hi everyone

Hope you all had a lovely weekend - shame it's all but over and back to work tomorrow :(

Saw the article about coffee - have managed to give it up without any dramas but have been unable to give up chocolate and I know there is caffeine in choc. At least that gives me a good excuse to resist that freddo next time I'm in the supermarket line. Still can't cut it out completely though.

Good to see everyone is getting into the charting, I love it - have learnt so much about my cycle since I started charting. For those that haven't joined yet I highly recommend fertility friend too - it helps keep track of everything.

Bettyboop - hope you're doing ok. Doctors don't understand how when we are waiting for appointments etc the time takes ten times longer to pass. Sending you lots of positive vibes.

Good luck everyone whatever part of the cycle you may be up to.

Hi Guys
I am pleased to report that this week has started off a good deal calmer than last week. Phew! I hope it stays that way. Have managed to stay off tea and coffee, but I am afraid that I also have difficulty keeping off the chocolate. Maybe I'll have to stick to the white kind.

I remembered to do my temp this morning, so now I have 2 on my chart! Apparently I am CD 28, if you count the miscarriage day as CD1, so AF should be just around the corner. (I hope)

Nickster, I'm glad that your tree made it home safely in the end. It has been very windy here in the North, so I hope that the tree is bearing up OK where you are.

Sam, I've still got my fingers crossed, good luck!!

Well, I have mustered up just about emough energy to go to the gym, so can't really put it off any longer. I hope that Monday has been kind to you all.
C

It drives me mad to be told what we can and can't eat or drink these days. As far as the coffee debate goes I reckon people have been drinking it for hundreds of years, and many countries have it as a staple part of their everyday diet and it's only recently that we've been told about its possible 'unproven' link to miscarriage. Women coffee drinkers have been drinking tea/coffee and eating chocolate for generations, and having babies successfully throughout. I mean, I have cut down on coffee (one cup in the morning now), I sometimes drink tea (which has 50% of the caffeine in coffee I believe) and have some chocolate (which has even less caffeine than tea) but I am absolutely sure that my caffeine intake has had absolutely no connection to my m/c. I feel obliged to cut down on it, just in case though.
It's just one more thing that 'they' throw at us and we spend anxious hours worrying about it, in addition to everything else that we go over in our minds that might have caused us to lose our precious babies, when actually it was probably a genetic cause more than anything else. (Sorry if it sounds like a rant, it really isn't. I just refuse to feel guilty about one single thing that has not been proven...in fact the evidence just seems to go the other way as far as I'm concerned).
I live a healthy lifestyle, eat well and keep fairly fit. My job is quite stressful, and just before Christmas was particularly stressful, so if anything (other than genetics) caused my m/c it would be that. I just strongly feel (personally) that what happened to me was meant to happen. My mind is at ease as far as 'if I could have prevented it from happening' because I truly think I couldn't. I don't know whether I'm right or wrong of course...

Flippin' 'eck I've blabbered on! Sorry :doh:
Hope you've all had a good day- anyone feeling pg yet (symptoms?) We so need a BFP to boost us all :goodluck::crossfingers:

Hi everyone,
Just a quick drop in before I have to rush out for the day.
I've had a quick read but still trying to catch up on all your posts, I've been having massive BellyB withdrawls.
Happily however I am now in Melbourne and the move is over for now, until we find a house to live in and get the heck out of the parents.

Nothing much happening TTC wise here, I had some spotting then a hell of a lot of sticky CM, more than I usually get, I think I may be O but I am not sure as this is the first cycle of the m/c.
I've got all sorts of things happening down there. I had some real pain last night, felt like it does when I O sometimes but worse, I have been slightly backed up because of all the iron tablets they have me on afer the m/c so could be a bit of front and back pain lol.
Oh the horror!!!
I am off the the deli today to stock up on all the lovely Italian food I have been without since living in country QLD. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm can't wait, rest assured I'll be buying cake, I'll share it's okay, you just have to find me before I eat it all :)

Have a good day everyone,
Hopefully I can catch up with the thread later on today.
Big :hugs: to everyone temping and waiting, sending lots of luck.

..Laura

Hi Everyone.

Well I have had a very big weekend. Friday was not so good - I decided I wasn't preg and then got upset about it - two reasons - I was disappointed and also annoyed with myself for getting my hopes up. DH and I had a big fight in the evening, but I think we really needed to get some of it out. He admitted he often finds it hard having to listen to me whenever I need to vent etc, but he said he also knows that I need to be able to express myself. It is a difficult one. I also realised that I think I have been focussing on babies a bit too much of late, and need to try to give myself a break from it at times.

Then my best friend arrived from Syd on Saturday morning (she was coming for my DH's birthday party on Sat). It was wonderful to have her here. Sunday night was the party - and well I let loose! I have had barely any alcohol since the MC, and Sunday it was like I was rebelling against everything! I think having my 2 best friends at the party with me, helped me revert to my old single day behaviour. It was great fun, but I paid for it yesterday. And now of course I feel guilty because the first thing I thought when I woke yesterday was 'God what if I am preg'. DH told me to give myself a break, so am trying not to think about it too much. I have the naturopath this afternoon, so dreading telling her about my binge on Sunday. I never ever want to drink again, it had been a long time since I had experienced a hangover and it was really not fun. So it was fun to forget for a night what has happened, and it helped me get through seeing all our pregnant friends and babies.

So that is it for me. Angel Babies - I also had a temp dip 5 DPO and since then my temp has been rising (another dip on Friday - but still above the coverline on FF). I am now 10 DPO so not long until I hopefully will know. Though because I have not had a clear cycle since the MC in Dec (almost 2 months ago!!!), if I am not pregnant, then I really hope AF comes on time and does not having me waiting around.

I have a counsellor from SIDS and Kids coming this morning. She has been to see us once before, but this time it will just be me talking to her. She is lovely, but I am nervous.

Hope you all have a good day.

Hi Luna - nah, look I agree if it is going to happen it is going to happen. I keep focussing on - new egg, new sperm so anything can happen.

One glass = being a lush LOL - I know if AF arrives today I will be having a champers or two :)

I am due today and no sign of af, but I have woken with a headcold which p$$es me off cos it might be the reason my temps have been a big higher .... still too scared to test today in case a BFN - my first FF chart this month and I HATE the countdown till recommended test day - cos my first says 02/02!


I drank 2 - 3 cups of espresso type coffee every day with my first two pregs (apart from morning sickness from 6 - 12wks) and my kids are pretty normal and gorgeous. I am just amazed at how much stuff you can't do - I am currently having an internal conflict as to whether I should have ham and cheese sandwich cos of the whole deli thing, even though not known if preg yet. My doc told me to eat like I was already preg - psychologically takes over though so I am just doing my usual.

Do the best we can, have a gr8 day!

Hi Katiegirl, just wanted to edit and say so sorry for your loss of Nathaniel - and special good luck in ttc again.

HI Everyone
It feels like forever since i have last been to see how you are all doing.
So i have just spent the last 30 minutes catching up on what is happening for everyone. Welcome to all our new friends i hope that it is a short visit and you have great news soon.
Well i have had a busy weekend. My daughter had the birthday party on the weekend and man is there alot of things to organise. Of course i do more than required and we have so much food left over it is crazy.
Sami - Goodluck and i hope we hear some news from you soon.
Nickstar - I agree we are always so worried about what we eat and drink and if our m/c are our fault. We need to be thinking that our babies are unfortunately not healthy and there is nothing any of us can do about sadly. We all ned to grieve the loss of our babies and they will never leave our hearts but we cannot keep trying to blame ourselves.
Katiegirl - It is great that you let your hair down and had a good night. You needed probably needed and it is great to see that you were able to catch up with great friends and have a great time. I am like you i also becoming a little focussed on having a baby but the promblem is when we want it so bad that is all you think about. My DH and i had a huge fight the other night and he told me he wasn't focussing on having a baby anymore and if it happened it happend if not it didn't. This really hurt me as he had wanted a baby so bad and now after two m/c he sounded like he was giving up. Now that everything is ok and we made up and talked things through he said that he is not focussing on it because both times have been planned and both time we have had m/c so he thinks if he doesn't think about it all will be ok. As both our previous children from other relationships were both suprises.
I understand what he is saying but i am still going to visit the Fertility Friends website you have all been mentioning just to get some information.
Well i am currently planning a well deserved belated honeymoon to Melbourne for the end of Feb so that we can get away and have sometime on our own without children so if this month is not the month for us keeping my fingers crossed that next month will be. We were not able ot take our 8 day honeymoon to Fiji due to our m/c 3 days before flighting out of Australia.
Sending everyone goodluck and i am with you Nickstar we need some BFP to help boost all of us to see that it can happen especially with people that we know are in the same boat as as. Sending love to you all
Trac

OK OK OK...... dang.... catch up time. I only missed one day....grrrrr

Now i m going to have to do the multi thing again..... ohhh it take s it out of me.... pitty i m not "allowed" coffee to see me through....... hmmmm back in a sec.... getting a decaf :D

Before I go, Nickster, I completely agree. When i was given my "pack" when I started on IVF it came with a brochure of things to avoid when pregnant. I seriously thought..... this has GOT to be a joke. Apparently Salads are bad for you unless you physically make them yourself. My thought at the time was "SALADS..... Lettuce and bloody tomatoe.... youv'e got to kidding...... get me a plastic bubble maybe i should live in that for 9 months" Then i went on a rave to DH "When I had my oldest son i ate....blah blah blah blah ...... (pretty much everything you are not allowed..... AND lots of it)" He s 18 and 6 foot 5. (well he is now.....lol 8'5 when he was bon)

Its standard stuff, one minute something is good for you the next its not.... MODERATION..... thats what it all should be about.... and Healthy....if you can.

And if it all really is coffee or salads or whatever else they came up with that "causes" miscarriages.... then why did I have mine? I followed the rules, every "i" dotted every 't' crosssed. I spent weeks sitting in an office at work instead of my normal work, I did everything. My way of lookin at it is simple, they wernt meant to be on this earth. Nauture took its course and my beautiful angels will fly instead of walk.

Look Nickster.... now I m ranting...... ok going to get my decaf

Firstly, where am I at.... well temp is still high. Today is day 29. No sign of AF but as I ve said before, even though "o" was obvious it is still my first cycle after loosing my babies...... Not going to get my hopes up..... I must say that to myself 20 times a day at the moment. I m not even going to have any tests to see. I would really love to just be expecting AF anytime and then WHAM 12 weeks later...BFP. I know If or when I get the BFP i am going to be scared beyond what I can comprehend at the moment, I wonder if I am strong enough to loose a third baby I would say I m not but then again, I would have said i m not strong enough to loose the 2 that I did, but I m still continuing on. So here, nothing has changed, either AF will arrive or BFP... holding pattern I call it.

Ok well as for catch up time

Trac.... Completely understand the becoming absessed with everything. I ve watched my hubby.... its a habit of mine.... i watch people. I watch how they cope with various things and try to adjust what I put onto them by how they are coping with what they are currently dealing with. I came to the conclusion, which I think I shared a while ago with everyone..... He doesnt know what I know. I dont do it to keep him in the dark or anything, my thought is that if he wanted to know something firstly he would ask or he would do what I ve done and look it up. He is not me, his personality is not mine. Also I dont go into much detail about "o" my thought there is that I dont want him to think he is just a sperm bank. I m trying to i suppose take the pressure of him. Now I know there are a lot of people who think it should be shared and I m not disagreeing, what I am saying is that by doing it the way I m doing it our relationship has stayed one of husband and wife instead of want a be parents. Our sex life is still our sex life......not just BD and that keeps him happy which makes me happy.

Katiegirl.... Hope you get a lot of support from your councellor from SIDS.

Laura Laura Laura....... Glad your move went well...... hmmmm cakes in Melbourne ohhhhhhh there is one street down there.... cant remember what its called, has luna park in it..... OMG i walked down that street with my tonuge hanging our of my mouth....I love European cakes.....OHHHHHHH

Canary..... Is that 2 days in a row on your chart now ....lol..... are you going to go for 3,........ Isnt it funny how difficult it is to get into a new habbit. I sat my thermometer infront of my alarm clock.

treelo..... if my temp had peaked like that I would have been on here going.....HELP......LOL I probably wouldnt have even considered a fever.

luna..... thank you for sending the link...... depending on which day is the actual "o" day, my chart says it was over the 18th and 19th that would make the spike down around day 7 or 8 which would then make me now post "o" 10 or 11..... Like i ve said, I m not going to get my hopes up.... just keep temping and keepgoing.

tempus.... ok... had me laughing..... Yes I did used to have 20 plus a day. Basically when i made a coffee I made 2 at a time. I would sit them next to my computer and as I worked i drank coffee..... I would do 2 at a time to save time of not having to get up to make another. Then when I had drunk them both I would get up and make another 2 and so on through the day and night..... as for house work.... hmmm dont thing that would EVER be something i put my hand up to volunteer for. So your on your own there..... lol

Goodness there are to many posts to catch up on so I do hope I havent missed anyone.

Great Positive Vibes sending to you all...... go BABY go BABY go !!!!!!!! :dance:

i have missed you all so much, i am trying not to think about TTC, as i have been so gumpy and sad , is nearly been 100 days since my D&C.

The things we wait for and the things that we go through, we find the patients some where but I have no idea how we do. My thoughts are with you.

hi everyone,
hope youa re all well, I am counting the days till I can poas, opk stick that is, hehehe!!

Beaksie, you still around chickie??? lizjessie?? lsb?? anyone?? what happened to all my old friends??

treelo, I hope you are keeping that chin up, the kiddies are back at school this week arent they?

I dont mean to offend any of you girls, I am glad that we are all here to support one another, sadly there are so many of us.....looking forward to getting to know you all a bit more too.
goodluck, fingers crossed for all, and hopefully sending af off to bettyboop.

Hi Canary...thank you for the welcome!

bettyboop...I feel "some" of your pain as it has been 42 days post op for me and no sign of AF...I wish I had patience BUT I really just want to be pregnant!

Hi all- hope it's been a good day xx

BettyB- I'm gobsmacked that you've been left like this, with tests after tests and keep being fobbed off to wait for weeks on end. I am so, so sorry :hugs: Can you not ask/request an 'intervention' medication to kick start your cycle? Personally I'd change my bloody doctor first! (can't swear but would love to call him a few choice names, the unfeeling ******!!) I know there are things that can be done- like going on the pill or a course of Provera (although some people don't approve of that one). Unfortunately it would mean 6-8 weeks of definite 'non-pregnancy' (but maybe that would be a relief and take the pressure off a little because at least you know exactly what's going on iykwim?) You will see af, and chart your calender and cycle during that time and then you can plan for 'o' and af with certainty. I don't know hun, willing af to come for you Sooooooooo much!:crossfingers: You too Smilanatu

Angel Babies- Hi, hope you are well- good girl for drinking Decaf (me too!)
Katiegirl- Well done you! (I did it too) and you're right, it's such a blessed relief to feel 'normal' just for a little while. good luck with the hangover :lol:
Trac- wow, so jealous, but happy for you on finally getting your honeymoon! It sounds like you both could do with some time together away from everything- DH and I have had some horrid rows lately, all for exactly the same reasons as you. Never mind xx Have a smashing time, and wishing you lots of jigginess with DH :dance: Hope you come back pg!! (or at least with renewed energy lol!)
Laura- welcome back, thanks for the cake (I stole it while you weren't looking!) Glad the move went well x

Right, I'm just having a 'timeout' moment before I go and help DS with his Homework and then I've got a presentation to sort out for work. Am hoping for an early night, but we'll see...
Hugs to all x

Hi Everyone,
I cant believe that it has only been a day since I last posted, so much going on!

I am really sorry if I upset anyone by bringing up the coffee issue. I also belive that there was nothing any of us could have done to prevent the losses that we experienced. I think that taking control of something, by charting my cycle or watching my caffeine intake, gives me a little bit of hope that I can make things better next time.

BettyB, so sorry that you are left waiting and waiting. I dont have any words of wisdom to make the waiting any easier, just wanted to say that I am thinking of you.:hug: Goodluck.
Laura, glad that the move is over. Thanks for the cake!
AngelB, Yes! I now have 3 consecutive days on my FF chart, although it is only really for practice, as I think that AF will be here soon as I am getting cramps already. I have also put the thermometer next to my bed. I find that measuring my temp gives me the excuse to stay in bed for an extra few mins..!;)
Katie, glad that the party went well and that you had a good time. Your friends sound like really great mates, they knew just what you needed!

Well, I'm off to have dinner now. Take care all!
C

Morning everyone

I have been here only a very short time, but have been fortunate. I have had 2 full cycles since my D & C so maybe some of the rumour that it cleans you out and helps fertility is true.

I got a BFP last night with 6pm wee, and again this morning. makes me 4wks 1 day. Going to docs today to get bloods done.

It is only the start of another journey, and trying to be positive that it will all work out.

Hubby says he is not going to even look at me when I O in the future :)

Good luck to you all :grouphug:

Congratulations SamiH. It is so wonderful to see a BFP in this thread! It gives me hope.

Well I went to the naturopath yesterday afternoon for my 2nd visit. Besides my bender on Sunday night :D, I have been good at keeping to what she instructed. She seemed happy enough. Though when she looked at my temps, she said that looking at the mucous it looked like I O'ed on CD15 but my temps did not support that. So felt a bit deflated after that. She also thought I should not be TTCing yet, but I told her I was just doing what felt right. She seemed to understand. She said that if AF had not arrived by CD 32 to test, but I know that I am not pregnant...so waiting now for AF. Just to give me a boost, I really hope AF comes on time. I am over waiting for a proper cycle - it has been almost 2 months since the D&C and I want to at least know what is happening with my body.

Also - in regards to getting your AF kickstarted (and not wanting meds), I did ask her if there was anything we could do if my AF didn't arrive and she was positive about this. So maybe look at natural alternatives to help get your cycle going and AF.

The counsellor from SIDS came yesterday morning (it was a big day for me). She is lovely and very supportive. It is the 2nd time she has come over, but this time it was just me speaking to her. My DH and mother both wanted me to talk to her because they feel I allow myself to get too negative and fixate on how long the year ahead looks. The best part is...she told me this is normal and a natural part of grieving. She really made me feel okay with how I was handling things, and reminded me that we only lost Nathaniel 2 months ago. I know that my DH and mum worry about me, but I think sometimes they don't give me credit for all the good things I am doing, and just worry about the times that I am down. So I feel really good now, as I don't have to worry that I am not coping etc. She really helped me see that I am doing the best I can.

Hope you are all well. I am still too tired from Sunday to be able to do personals - my memory is not good enough today to remember what everyone wrote!

just dropping in to congratulate Sami!! hoping we will have some more BFPs in here soon. i have a pounding headache. arghh. hope everyone is well.

Barbara

Fabulous news Sami - so happy for you.:dance:

Canary: good for you sticking to your healthy resolutions (always easier said than done!) And no, I?m not offended by the coffee stuff. After all, we?re here to share information, too, not just emotional support (although that?s important too)

nickserUK: IKWYM. I ate 1 or 2 tuna melts a day during my second pregnancy because I craved them. Now they say fish has mercury which can cause autism. But my daughter is healthy (thank God). Really, there are only indirect correlations. I just like to stack my odds.

ll80: congrats on the move, good luck finding a house! Fertility signals in the first month or two after MC can be really conflicting. Try not to sweat it.

Katiegirl: IKWYM about how it?s hard not to obsess. Fertility becomes so huge when it?s difficult. Rant here. We don?t get tired of it!
Personally, I trust temps to tell me when I O more than mucus. The reason being that you can have CM before, during and after O. Besides, I tried Billings (CM-only NFP) and thought it was very hard to interpret.

SamiH: That?s wonderful! I?ll be praying hard for you!

Trac73: I do the too much food thing, too. I?m afraid my guests will go hungryLOL! enjoy your trip.

Angel Babies: good luck, whatever you decide re testing!

SAMI SAMI SAMI........ I am over the moon for you. Felt like the BFP were on hoidays from this thread...... Now we know they are back :dance:

We all know the difficulty now, and I pray that everything goes smoothly.

CONGRATS :dance::dance::grouphug::dance::dance:

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Morning everyone

I have been here only a very short time, but have been fortunate. I have had 2 full cycles since my D & C so maybe some of the rumour that it cleans you out and helps fertility is true.

I got a BFP last night with 6pm wee, and again this morning. makes me 4wks 1 day. Going to docs today to get bloods done.

It is only the start of another journey, and trying to be positive that it will all work out.

Hubby says he is not going to even look at me when I O in the future :)

Good luck to you all :grouphug:

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Katiegirl.... I know there is a difference in me since loosing my angels and there will be a difference in you and everyone else in here. Our babies died..... thats it simply. As Mothers we will Grieve..... thats how it works. Its staight forward and simple. DONT feel bad at all about the fact you are grieving. Nathaniel is your son who passed away. The fact that you can get out of bed each day and go about most of your daily activities after loosing your baby is proof of the internal strength you have. Be proud of how far you have come. I know I am and I m sure the ladies are proud of how far they have come as well. Every day is a new day, every day you will be able to breath a little easier. Every day you will grieve but every day you will learn how to cope just a little better than you did the previous day.

In here we chat, sometimes laugh, help each other on our journeys forward but that does not stop the simple fact that we are all mothers grieving for the loss of our children. In here it is just a little easier to deal with it because you know every one understands and everyone is going through the same thing and noone is judging anyone. WE ALL KNOW THE PAIN!

HUGE HUGS KATIEGIRL:grouphug: and well done on how far you have come so far!

A Pair of Shoes

I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don?t hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

Ok... well i m going now...I only logged on to quickly read how you were all going.... and could not go once i ready Sami s and Katiegirls.... so i had to reply.... big hugs to both of you.... as for my normal post......I ll be back later today to catch up with everyone.... have a great day.

PS the poem below is not mine, but it says it all so well.

congratulations sammi!!! thats fantastic news.
sending you ots of sticky vibes hun.
:confetti::stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:

:dance:SamiH..CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Yay Sam, That's great news!
:stickyvibesboy::stickyvibesgirl:
:happyforyou:
Wishing you a H&H 9 months.
C

that is great news sammi, hope there is more BFP soon

Hi Everyone

Just a quick drop in to say CONGRATULATIONS Sami!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What fantastic news and such an inspiration to us all. Take Care of yourself and my thoughts are with you in this time. May we start seeing more BFP soon sending everyone:bluedust:

samii - you have inspired me! i am really excited for you and hope your positive is the start of many for us all. heres to a few more of us joining you soon.
i am still battling through my AF but that i am considering good news as it is a start of things for me, so wish me luck!

Thank you so much - blood test has confirmed 4 - 5 weeks so it is a reality (I didn't still believe it after peeing on about 10 sticks).

I hope to see you all again with BFP's!! good luck on your journeys.

Congratulations SamiH. It is wonderful news and like the others have said, hopefully it is the start of more BFP's!!!!!! :clap:

:dance::clap::dance::clap: CONGRATULATIONS SAMIH xx I knew there was a BFP out there! So thrilled for you, sending you :stickyvibesgirl:

:happyforyou:

Well, I've managed to destroy my laptop and am having to use this 'ancient' machine which is SOoooo Slooow!!! (The cat jumped on me yesterday and made me jump....I had a glass of wine in my hand, and the laptop on my lap. Apparently they don't make a good combination!! :doh:

Hope you're all well, and hoping now for more good things to happen now SamiH has started us off xx Any news on af (or test results) BettyB? :crossfingers: Keep your chin up x

finding it very hard to keep my chin up, day 99 since D&C , were is my AF

Hi Bettyboop - I am so sorry that you are having to play the waiting game for so long. Did you have much spotting after your D&C? Like Jo mentioned, neither of us are certain that we have AFed because we spotted so much. I had a heavier bleed (TMI) for about 4 or so days so decided to take that as AF. Have you seen a naturopath or someone like that to help kickstart your cycle? It is so hard to be patient during the most difficult time of our lives...I hate when people tell me to be patient!

congrats Sammi, I hope all goes well for you...

AngelBabies, I love that poem, I found it resonated with me for many other things that have happened in the past. I am so glad January is over, with the m/c, the 9th anniversary of my mother's death a few days later and everything else, I am hoping that things only go better here on end for the year, I've had my bad run *fingers crossed*

Well hopefully within 3 weeks we will be in our own place and then can start TTC, hopefully.
I haver a doctors appointment on Monday so I can get the processes started to make sure I am okay to start again.

On a bright note, I got some information from University today about starting my Masters degree.
I did defer when I found out I was pg, but they obviously screwed it up somehow and I am still enrolled. Worked out for the best I think, something to keep me occupied and keep my mind off things.

BettyBoop big :hugs: I hope that damn AF visits soon, I'll try and light a fire up her a$$ and see if that gets her moving.

Nickster I know what you mean about the old emergency pc, my baby is all packed up and is getting a nice rest, I miss her so much, bit sad isn't it lol.

I am starting myself on a health kick this week, as I need to lose some weight I put on while pg, I can't fit into any pants without a great big mushroom hanging over the top and all my tops look horrid, just another reminder of m/c, no baby but a whole lot of fat to remind me about it. Right pain in the behind. No more cake for me for a while, okay... a few days....;)


This post is a bit all over the place heh, just like me :)

Hope you girls all have a good weekend, we are going car shopping ugh...so sick of looking at cars, but DP has to look at everything before he makes up his mind. MEN!

...Laura