Thanks Satya and Kbowman, i really appreciate the thoughts and all those precious hugs.
I have just done a pregnancy test to make sure that i dont have any pregnancy stuff left in me and its negative, and although sad to look at, it also makes me happy because it means that if i happen to do one in 3 weeks time and its positive, then it will because i will be pregnant and i wont get excited for nothing.
So now my plan.....i just told my poor DH what my plan was and his reply was "what is the meaning of this maddness ????" And im sure this is going to sound totally crazy but then again....im feeling pretty crazy these days.
But anyway......we are going to BD every second day for the next 3 weeks or until AF comes. Why ?? because i know nothing much at all about MY cycle and cervical mucus?? and tempretures??? im totally in the dark. Right now i feel WET but its not sticky or anything?? so if anyone can help tell me what that means then i would be gratefull.
All i know is that i could ovulate anytime a week after the m/c and so im hoping that by BDing every second day then i should have a great chance of there being enough swimmers up there to catch the egg when it decides to come out.
So thats the plan....please tell me if im an absolute nut case....my DH would love for you to tell me that....but im praying that it will work.
Im going to try to be brave tomorrow and not cry..but who am i kidding...ill cry.
hugs hugs hugs to all you wonderful ladies that have kept my sanity in the past week, you are all truly special people and i thank you from the bottom of my heart.
kbowman - I knew plenty about fertility in my 20's & 30's and charted back then too. Unfortunately when you have unexplained infertility that's just not enough, but I was ever hopeful that we would get another BFP without medical intervention - even though IVF was recommended when I was I think around 30 or 31. I am thankful that I didn't have a child with my ex as we are no longer together and I would have had to raise the child without any financial assistance from him, so my life would have been completely different to the life I have had. With the recent pregnancy taking 9 months to achieve I now know that I can't leave it to chance and I have to get some help and it's just not so hard to digest that fact this time around. I had a look at your chart and I'm sorry to say it but I think your AF will be here very soon. My chart dipped like that for I think 3 days last cycle & then on she came.
Treelo - I like your plan of BDing every second day but I think you might find it hard to keep up for 3 weeks in a row... one of you is sure to get tired (probably your other half) and a lot of guys find it very hard to perform like that.... even if they normally like it every day. It's somehow different when they are told they need to perform in a certain way. I'd suggest buying a digital thermometer (about $15 from a chemist) and start taking your temp every morning when you wake up. Just set an alarm so you wake up the same time every day & do it before you get out of bed. After O you will see that your temp goes up by about .3 of a degree or more. After 3 days of staying high you can safely assume you have O'd and then the pressure is off and you can get back to BDing when you both actually feel like it, rather than when you feel that you have to. You can use FF to record your temps and keep a record of your cycles. This takes the guess work out of it for you as the charting software will pinpoint when you O from your temps. If you are feeling wet you could well either fertile now or coming into a fertile patch.
Good luck to everyone this cycle. Let's hope there are heaps of BFPs in here again soon.
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