TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ July 07

Hi there everyone,

I have to say this is the nicest community and everyone is so brave. It's great to know when I start the IVF I'll have this place to come to. Meantime I just wanted to share with you one of the funniest books I can remember reading. I came across it on the net, and the site is which also happens to be the title of the book. Its a true story and among other things the writer Jodi Panayotov has miscarriages before going onto IVF. I know it sounds strange to be saying it's funny, (it reminds me of Bridget Jones) but at times I was crying laughing, something I rarely do these days. Anyway I truly recommend it. Meantime back to the grindstone, the countdown is on....

Lol Sienna

Pash - hello! so glad you updated us, I have thought about you the last couple of weeks. You sound pretty "good", all things considered. What a hell-ish couple of weeks you have had, I really feel for you. Hoping your bleeding eases off real soon and you can get back to bd-ing and enjoying life again. I'm so relieved your twins were not molar pgcys, but you didn't really get any answers as to why? When do you think you will be up to trying again, or do you think you'll leave it a while? You take care, and enjoy your bender, have a pint for us!!

Satya - I really do feel for you too, and so wish you could be pregnant. I know I'm one of those pregnant women now, and I can totally understand how you're feeling. I pray you will have a healthy pregnancy SOON :pray:

Hello everone else, and best of best luck in your tww's and testing.

Lee xoxo

Hello ladies, I hope your Thursday is going well, almost at the weekend…

Timnik77 – hope your tooth is okay. How are you going on the Clomid?

Britkane8 – fingers crossed for you hun!

Missbelinda77 – hope your AF finishes up soon.

Sharon19270 – ooh, how long until you test?

Pash – glad it wasn’t a molar preg. Enjoy your bender! DH and I are going out on Saturday night, would dearly love a bottle of red but think I will just take it easy for now in this TWW. If AF comes, it’s drinks all round!

Satya – I know how you feel. It hurts so badly. I have it in my head that I need to be preg by Christmas, I don’t know how I will deal if I’m not. Do you need a lap IIRC? How long to go?


Thanks everyone for your suggestions about when to test:

Satya – 10DPO
Flowerchild – 11DPO
Cherie26 – 12DPO
Kiwigirl – 12DPO
Sharon19270 – 12DPO
Missbelinda77 – 13DPO

General consensus is 12DPO so I will give it a go on Sunday week (22 July) when I am 12DPO. I am trying to find the HPT that says Pregnant / Not Pregnant so there is no way for me to imagine another blue line. 2DPO for me today and just sitting tight for now.

I’m thinking about changing my username (it’s totally obvious to anyone who knows me) but can’t think of anything good right now….would like to remain an anonymous as possible.

Hi everyone,

I haven't had a chance to log on for a day or so and there are soooo many new posts!!

Susan - great news! I was going to reply to your earlier post that I have a friend who reckons she fell pregnant on day 5 while she was still bleeding. So it can be possible...

Kiwigirl - thanks for the charting info. Good luck for Friday!

Zionsmum - bding every day worked for us with my last pregnancy, but I got a really bad urinary tract infection from it which happened exactly on the day I conceived... I had to take antibiotics etc. and it was a really bad infection, so sometimes I wonder now if that had something to do with the m/c. If you can avoid any infections, I reckon it's worth a go!!

Janeo - I have been investigating Naturopaths and Acupuncturists over the past day or so and it's funny that this topic has just popped up here too... Makes me think that it is a sign and that I should give it a try! I have been thinking acupuncture to get my system balanced again after the d&c, but I am a bit anxious about the herbs because I have heard of someone who has stuffed up their liver by taking the wrong herbs...

Has anybody got any suggestions how to find a good naturopath/acupuncturist specialising in fertility issues?

LOL to everybody.

Where abouts are you Penny... The herbs i was taking was very natural and i trusted my guy 120%, he was saying that he had a woman who only had AF 3-4 times a yr and had been TTC for 4 yrs and after taking the herbs she had 3 periods in 4mths, havnt heard if she had fallen pg yet she had only just started to take them...

Ask friends and family if they see any because you would be surprised at how many people visit them for all sorts of reasons...

I recommend it though Penny, especially to get it all back on track, it took me 3 mths to get AF after my D & C then i had a 6 week cycle after seeing him i have had a 31, 33 and 27 day cycles...

Hi everyone,

Shoegal - I've been on the waiting list for a lap for 4 weeks. The average wait is 12 weeks apparently in this region. It's to check everything out b4 I go on to IVF & also possibly to resect a fibroid. I'll be glad when it's over and done with. Good idea about he digital HPT - I used one of those when I was pg last time after I got a negative after two positives with the stick kind and went in to a mad panic. It came up PREGNANT straight away and eased my mind. At least there's no guess work with them.

Salt - I hope your O is on it's way soon.

My mood is not good tonight. It's been a hard day. First of all my work colleague went into labour today....so I know there will be a happy announcement tomorrow. I should have been half way there myself by now, and here I am still TTCing. I'm so over it. My mum got her PET scan results today and the cancer is definately back but is isolated to just the one spot which I guess is good, but now the treatment starts again. To top the day off my DF got a call that he'd missed out on a great job he'd applied for that would have meant more money for us. We were really hoping he'd get it as we need the extra money to pay for IVF. Just not a good day.

Quick update. My temp shot up by .3 this morning. I'm now at my usual post O temp which is very weird as it's only CD7. I've never had a temp this high prior to O before so I think I must have O'd early. Of course I will wait for two more temp checks to confirm it. I usually O from CD13-16 so it would be way early.

janeo certainly sounds like things are going great for you atm, good on you, you deserve it.
sienna good luck to you and your partner when you start on the road of IVF I hope it doesn't take too long for you to get a bfp.
Shoegal I am trying to hold off testing until Monday, but honestly I don't know if I can wait that long with my current symptoms (see below about 'me') I have heard that those digital hpt's aren't that sensitive so testing at 12dpo with one of those may give you a false -ve.
saltprincess I am trying so hard not to test but I just feel like I am going to cave in, in know it! I really hope it happens this month for both of us, I am going to be totally crushed if it doesn't.
satya I am so sorry to hear about your mum's results, that is awful. And bugger about DH missing out on the extra money. Hope that you don't have to wait another 8 weeks for your lap. Just read your update, hope it isn't early O (unless you happened to BD in the last 24 hours or so).

Me - I think I really need to be talked out of my symptoms, I am just starting to get my hopes up and I just feel like everything is going to come crashing down when AF arrives. The thing is, this morning I woke up with a scratch/sore throat and this is the exact day I got my sore throat back in Dec, also the constipation, and today after lunch I felt so nauseas, I had to pick DH up from the airport tonight and we were going to have laksa for dinner but I have totally lost my appetite, and I also don't have my usual pimples that I get at this time in my cycle and the only other time that happened was in Dec I just feel like screaming! and if you look at my chart overlay (just have this cycle and Dec cycle up) they are both VERY similar both before and after O. So should I let myself get my hopes up?

Hi all-

I am totally new to this and am probably doing this all wrong but I was hoping to get some input or something. In reading some of your posts and experiences, I almost feel silly writing but I also see that there is a great deal of support in this group - I hope you have room for one more.

Yesterday I had my 3rd D&C and I am very depressed. I have had 4 pregnancies - 3 of which have ended in miscarriage (the 1st, 2nd and 4th). The third was the result of IUI and ended in a BEAUTIFUL little girl who is almost 1 and who is my world. I desperately want her to have a sibling. This time I got pregnant almost as soon as we started trying but I lost it at about 6 wks (didn't find out 'til 10 wks tho). I am devasted because now I have to wait a couple/three months to try again and I will be 40 in October. My husband knows how much I want another child and said we can try again but naturally only - no more help. He says he doesn't want another so I feel he was relieved by this loss - esp since the technician thinks I might have been carrying twins. I feel very, very alone in my grief and very scared I won't be able to have another full-term, healthy baby. I have 3 siblings and really want my daughter to experience a sibling too. I am so sad, angry and scared sometimes I think about doing myself physical harm but I won't b/c I want to be a good role model for my daughter. I know I'm not eating or drinking enough tho - just don't want it. I could use some help on how to deal with this right now.

Sorry so long - haven't learned your lingo yet. Thanks for any words of wisdom.

sweetpetite so sorry that you have lost so many little angels, unfortunately I don't have any words of wisdom with regards to your dh, but your emotions and feelings are all completely normal and you would have probably read that we all go through similar stages at some time or another. Just a question, is there any particular reason why you are waiting 3 months before ttc again? Most women here are told to wait for their next cycle after a D&C and some are actually told they can ttc straight away. I too feel like my time is running out to give my youngest sibling closer in age than his big brother and I know for a fact that my dh will never agree to having 'assistance' in conceiving and and I am OK with that because I do already have 2 healthy boys. I really do hope that you manage to get your sticky bfp naturally. :hug:

Hi Sweetpetite,
I am so sorry for your losses. I have had a D&C almost 2 weeks ago and I was also under the impression that I had to wait for 3 cycles to try again. This seemed a long, long time to wait, particularly because we don't know when our first AF will arrive... I also found this wait unbearable (I recently turned 42) so I rang the ob's office and quizzed them about and his midwife said that they like women to wait for their next cycle after the D&C. Maybe check with your doctor why they recommended a 2/3 cycle wait...
I have a 7 year old son and feel the same way as you about wanting to give him a sibling. Also, on the subject of age, don't zoom in on turning 40, my ultrasound doctor said that he sees plenty of women in their forties having healthy babies.
I am also fairly new to this forum and I have found a lot of support and answers here - you have come to the right place... Don't be scared, we have to stay positive to get that BFP soon!!
Lol

Shoegal: The tests that say pregnant/not pregnant are the digital tests. This is a 50miu test so it in all probability won't work at 12dpo even if you are pregnant. Just keep that in mind. I would invest in some Lullaby conceptions 10miu tests. They are great and accurate and for 10 I think the cost is $24?

Sweetpetite: I am so sorry for your losses... :hugs: I think it would be a really good idea to talk to a professional if you have feelings of wanting to harm yourself. What you are going thru is really really tough - most of us can't do it on our own... I am so happy you have found Belly Belly.. You will find so much loving support on here that will help you on your journey... :hug: Can I ask why you had iui?

I'm not so sure if I should be posting in here, but because I'm in the whole TTC thing I thought I would.. except I'm still waiting for AF *sighs*

Hello everyone! Apologies in advance for not posting for a little while - I've been in and out the past few days and I've been missing BB big time :D

Belinda, how mad was that to run into you at Yass Maccas! Small world! Sorry I couldn't stick around for a chat but DP had already headed for the door. Hope that the experts have been able to come up with some answers for you. Was your GP right? Hugs for you.

Janeo, nice to see you! Trying some alternative therapies sounds like a positive thing to do. I've begun looking into it too. I found it a little hard about the time of my first edd but it was great to be able to congratulate all my belly buddies as they brought their precious bubs into the world. It became very exciting! Most exciting was being able to congratulate one of the first BB friends I made on the safe arrival of her son. :dance: I hope I'm pg before my November edd! And I hope we'll all be making birth announcements in 2008.

Britkane, how are you going? Hope you get a nice sticky BFP. I'd have been testing madly if I got a hint of a positive. I've got in a new supply of LC hpts and opks (hoping I'll be able to give away the opks!) for that very reason!

Sharon, that chart of yours is looking great. Oh, I hope this is the month for you!

Pash, I am so pleased that the ERPC results showed that your pregnancy wasn't molar. Hope you enjoyed celebrating coming off the antibiotics. :D

Satya, IKWYM about being jealous of every pg woman in the world. I've seen some really lovely bumps while I've been on holidays and I get attacks of the I-wish!! and Lucky-thing!! So sorry about your Mum. Must be so worrying for you. And what awful luck for your DP. Hope things turn around in a major way for you and your family.

Lee, wow! Congrats on passing the 9w milestone! Belly rubs!!

Hey there, Shoegal. I've been racking my brain to think of a new name for you - maybe a favourite actress or holiday destination? I should change mine, it's so very dull! It's my first initial and the street where I used to live (yawn!) Good luck for when you test (I may be sneaking a test in about then too, although it will probably be too early).

Hello Saltprincess - I like your name - kind of picture you as a Gobbledok emptying bags of Smiths Crisps, lol, or a tequila slamming type of gal! Hope you get a nice positive OPK soon!

Penny, how are you going? We all wonder about what we might have done to have a m/c. I wonder about whether a stressful trip away was a factor in mine or if it was a trip to the endodontist and having to have x-rays, even though I was assured the risk was *minimal*.

Sienna, good luck!!

Sorry for your losses, Sweetpetite. Please be gentle on yourself and I hope you can get the hugs and support you need. Thinking of you and sending lots of special squishy hugs your way.

LizJessie, wishing you lots of success on your TTC campaign. Of course, you're very welcome here! Hope the Waiting for AF thread clears out soon!

As for me, I think I'm 2DPO and hope with all my heart that I'm in with a chance. Countdown to testing has begun. Argghh. Wish I had another week off before heading back to work!

Hugs and *stickyvibes* to all!

Yeah, as much as this sounds weird, I'm REALLY hoping all the ladies in the AF Thread get theirs soon!

hey girls

sweetypie im really sorry bout your loss hun hope everything goes well for you soon.try to get some answers on why this is happening to you....you are in my thoughts.

kbowman hey there chick how are you doing i am praying for you this month.yes and i hope you can give away all your testing after this month


only a short post today i am going back to my dr tomorrow to get by bt resualts so fingers crossed.in the mean time my dp and i went to a poker tournament sat night it was a midnight one.....and i cant believe it but i won so now i have a seat to regionals....how is that i say go the girls kick some butt

love susan

hello everyone, well i had my first pregnancy and Miscariage from march through june i was "13 weeks" but the baby died at 5 weeks...and nobody caught it. i had a D&C done on june 12 and i just got Af on July 12th which means we can ttc again...even though my doctor told me to wait 6 months... like i want to wait that long...right... i love reading all of your stories...it helps me. good Luck To all of you and lots of baby dust to

Just started spotting this afternoon, I am so peed off! so if Af shows up in the next day or so I probably won't be around for a couple of weeks as it just gets too depressing.