TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ October 07

Hey Starrysky- are you kidding about the teeth?? Ive never heard of this before. Freaky stuff.
I can understand where you're coming from re your cousin's gf. Its so incredibly frustrating isnt it? Im sorry you're feeling negative. At least weve all got one positive thing going for us in this thread, and thats that we know we CAN conceive. I know it sounds like a BS cliche, but we're a lot more fortunate than some of the girls on BB who are being treated for infertility.
You know starrysky, it's a numbers game. Eventually you WILL hit the jackpot and take home your very own little bubba. Please try and stay positive, and remember you're not alone on this ride......

he beaksie, Iknow,Iknow, you are very right and I am being negative and ungreatful for the fact that at least yes, I can conceive. sorry I sound a bit B1TCHY
I dont know what I would do if I didnt have bb, to whinge and moan and groan and know that someone out there in cyber space understands.....
I had never heard of babies being born with teeth either, not from our side of the family *snicker*
he was about 2 weeks overdue, dont know if that had anything to do with it????

just having a laugh with dp about the teeth. Funny if they were the canines, her own little baby vampire (lol). Im getting the image now. Cracker!! BTW you dont sound b1tchy or ungrateful at all, just normal and human....

Hello - another weekend over!!

Thanks STARRYSKY - I was due March 14 2008 so we would definately have been in the same bellybuddies group - not to worry!! - it will be very special for us next time & you never know we may be in the same bb group again someday soon :dance:

Hi butterfly_warrior !! That is very interesting about your auto immune condition - so now do you have to have meds or do anythng in particular for it?? I hope all goes well for you butterfly_w

Thanks littlescottishboy - you are living proof that you should keep trying and eventually you get that beautiful bubba !! You are one brave and tough chick - thanks for the welcome.

Hello to everyone else - I am not sure really what to say - my weekend was very quiet - oh I saw a movie today "Death at a Funeral" it was rather good - if you like those Four Weddings & A Funeral / Love Actually type of movie you would like this one!!
On the baby making front - my AF is pretty much done so I will be temping for the first time tomorrow - so that is my excitement for now - taking my temp lol!!
I hope this temping and checking my CM etc does not turn into an obsession - cause when we got preg last time we didn't really do anythng much except the obvious :lol:
Good night girls
AnnaBelle

Hi girls,

Firsty, beaksie i hope you get that positive any day now.
Annabelle and Starrsky, soundslike we had our m/c in the same week, my baby would have been due march 29th. Reading your first post Annabelle, really summed up how i felt too. Good luck tomorrow, atleast baby making is the fun part. I am expecting af this week, or not. It's so hard waiting..... One of the mothers in my mothers group just announced that she is expecting number 2. She is 12 weeks. We could have been pregnant together... Oh well, shouldn't dwell on it. It's just hard seeing her so excited when she doesn't know about the m/c. Anyone sick of hearing - don't worry you'll be pregnant soon. Af must be coming as i feel very negative today, sorry girls. Hope to hear some good news from you all v.soon....

ROFL beaksie!! What an image!! that would freak the ***** out of me if my baby was born like that.... are you testing again today? I hope something happens for you soon, whatever it may be, just so you (and me and everyone else!) know whats going on.
hello bunnysmum and annabelle, It must have been a week for it in August I feel, my brothers gf also m/c later that month, she was pg the same as me.
well girls lets just all try to get Bfps together! what motivation!
have a great day everyone, here in adelaide it is going to be 30 today, blue skies, sun is shining, I should be doing some washing, but I will probably just go outside and bask with my book!
all set for bding this month, will actually try, instead of just letting things go on as they have been.
xxx

Hi girls. Yet another selfish post from me. Should change my signature to OSO (Oh Selfish One!)
Anyway.....Now 4 days late which never happens. Did HPT with FMU (Confirm) and got BFN. Very sad. BUT. Did another one with Discovery one step which claims to be effective 5 days bf AF (so super sensitive) and wait...GOT 2 LINES!!!!! WTF? Admittedly the second line was super faint, but was pink, came up in the time, and you can see it (only just) at arms length. SO. This may indicate that I did O really late, which as I said happened with DD, and the HCG is still too low to be picked up on 14 day tests. Am I grasping here?? I keep checking, and yes that 2nd line is still there, and it wasnt fmu. Guess the best thing is to wait till tomorrow and do another one (this is costing me a bloody fortune!). OK. Hands shaking. Wish you were all here with me, I feel like Im turning into a nutter. Ok maybe I already was a nutter. Im just so nervous.... Thanks for listening

Beaksie - that second line sounds positive to me! Congratulations - I don't think I could wait another 24hrs to do another test lol

Missbelinda - thanks for the good wishes but I think its too early to be excited just yet. I did a second test just then (am I mad, that's the 3rd for the day!) and Id class it as a bFN. Did however give me a reference, and convince me that the other one was a Definite line. Must be very very low level of HCG though. Now I dont have any of those tests left and only have a clear blue for tomorrow. What if its not as sensitive and is BFN? What if its a bFN anyway! Arggghhh. This is seriously doing my head in. The only thing I can console myself with, is this happened with DD. BFNs, Bfps ,painful!

Ok. Last on the topic. Have decided to treat my BFP as a false+ as Ive now done 4 HPTS today and all but this one were negative. This is the only way I can preserve my sanity. WIll try again tomorrow with FMU. Thanks

beaksie, beaksie,beaksie!
why do we torment and torture ourselves this way! Clearblue isnt an ultra sensitive test, but with fmu it still might come up +ve....
I have butterflies in my tummy, I am so excited for you!!!!! (can u tell????)
wishing you so very, very much good luck and positive baby vibes and tons of baby dust, okay I am prolly going overboard here, but I want to see a +ve!!!!
As they say a line, is a line, is a line. From everything I read that you have posted previously, in regards to pgncy with your dd, I think congratulations could very soon be in order, I dont want to torment you further, I dont want to upset your sanity, so I am consoling myself with the thought that you prolly wont even see this till tomoz anyway.
good luck for a second line chickie!!!
xxx

Hmph!! As if I wouldn't see it till tomorrow. Very funny! :)

Thanks for the positive vibes. Am getting to the point of the ridiculous at the moment. Never thought Id be this mental, but hey Im only human. How you going anyway chick?? Hope you're feeling better. Was still thinking about the fanged baby today, as I was watching Salems Lot. (About vampires) Will probably give myself nightmares about a blood sucking, mutant vampire baby eyeing me off for a feed! Aghhh! :cryinglaugh:

rofl beaksie, I am in stitches!!! you are a bloody funny chick, I really didnt think you were online at the time!!!
omg!! we have actually caught eachother!!!

Shock horror~what time is it in Adelaide??

8:31 exactly, I knew you were gonna end up witha bfp.

Yeah Yeah. BTW. Why is it that you only pop up in THIS thread, when I leave it?? Trying to deliberately torment me? Obviously you're psychic and know when Im about to strike!
Where are you in your cycle btw? And hows it going?

well, my second af after my mc has just ended last week, so I am upping the bding for this week and next, I dont chart or temp or anything, I dont want to get too obsesive about it iykwim?
We tried for 18 mths before to get pg, the one we lost, dp is keen on having a bub but doesnt want to really know all the nitty gritty technicalities involved. men!!
Last time, I wasnt that worried about getting pg at first, but then the longer it was, the more bloody heartwrenching it became, I felt like I was losing a baby every time I had af!
I dont think I can do that to myself again, I dont think my sanity will hold out.
I am soooooooooooo excited for you still........

I think you need to contain yourself here(lol). Very very early days.
I know what you mean about how hard it can be.I know how lucky I am to have DD, but it doesnt make it any easier to lose a preg. After DD was born, I wrongly assumed the bad crap was behind us, and went into my last preg relatively relaxed. As you know though, once its happened once you cant take being preg for granted. I know my next preg, whether that be this cycle or not, will be hard going. You seem to be knicker checking constantly and evey niggle sends you into a panic. I do believe its a numbers game though, like I said to you before. For me it was thrid time lucky, and Im hoping next time it will be one I can bring home.
As for you, YOU WILL stay sane, cause I said so, and whenever you feel like having a mental breakdown, you only have to remember, you cant be as mad as me! That should be comfort enough.
Just curious....how old are you??
Just noticed in your signature, you actually miscarried on my little girl's 1st bday. Odd.

well it was a missed miscarriage, that was the day I found out, my first scan, I was so excited, then my world fell apart.....
I am 27, if I get pg again it will be 3rd time lucky for me too.( check out the spiritual look at loss thread to find out more if you want)
I have been feeling nauseous yesterday and today, I know its like waaaay to early but the thought still springs to mind even though I know I prolly havent even ovulated yet, crazy isnt it!
it that a recent photo of you?

It was taken in May. There are a couple more pics in my gallery. Youre just like me. My last loss was a missed mc and I found out at a scan at 9wks. Worst thing was, during my preg with DD I had a scare with a lot of pain, and my ob did a scan at about 7wks to set my mind at ease, afterwards telling me that you HAVE to bleed to have a MC. So anyway, I was going along all fine and dandy with no inkling anything was wrong BECAUSE I hadnt bled. Not happy Jan. Was a total shock. At least (if I can say that) with the other 2 there was bleeding, so I was forewarned iykwim. More of a chance to mentally prepare myself, instead of finding out via a scan, and being totally floored.

It was a shock for me, but I did have afeeling that something wasnt quite right, I had a little cramping which everyone told me was completely normal, just the uterus growing etc, then at the hosp, when I told them that they were like "yep, thats a sign" no bleeding whatsoever, they said the sac was only measuring 4-5 wks, witha yolk still there, strangely my ms only kicked in at around 6-7 weeks, my boobs still hurt, was just so confusing iykwim?
Your daughter looks gorgeous I bet shes a lot bigger now! they grow too quick.
my mum only ever had one mc and that was because she fell pg with a iud, she had 4 kids by the time she was 22, I feel like a freak of nature cos of what happened, never evr entertained the thought that it would happen to me, mind you I never ever thought I would get pg at 16 either...

I've had that "feel like a freak thing" plenty of times as well. Apparently MC is supposed to happen about 1 in 4. Good and well. But when I started to think about it Ive got my sis, 2 sil, 4 good friends (which is 7) that have all had kids in the past few years and NONE of them have had even I mc. I on the other hand have had 3, so statistically Ive had everyone's share. Not that I want any of them to go through it, but i do have those why me, its so unfair etc type of days. And you just dont get it unless its happened to you. Anyway enough of this talk, we need to try to focus on the positives, and keep each other boosted when we're feeling all whoa is me.

too true beaks!!
so what have you decided to do? test tomoz with fmu? go to doc and get a bt? should I not ask incase I drive you batty?

Already batty, nothing can change that. I will test with FMU. Dont want to go to the docs unless I have a definite BFP, and this may take a few days yet. Im pretty nervous about testing, evenn though I know I have to. Anyway, will let you know tomorrow. For now Ive gotta go, but will be in in the morning. Talk then....night. PS. Have PMed you, hope you dont mind.

Beaksie - I hope you wake up and get a nice strong BFP with your FMU. With my 1st pregnancy I tested 9 times, but all with the same type of test, so I'm not sure what I was hoping to achieve lol

Beaksie: First let me say :goodluck::goodluck::goodluck::goodluck:

Second, I really think we must be living parallel lives (do you hear the Twilight Zone theme?). The same thing happened to me re: no bleeding for the longest
time during my last mc. I thought the bad stuff was behind me too - after all, I know someone else who had 2 mc but went on to have 2 healthy girls. I
thought that would be me (hoping it still will be! :pray:). Sounds like you have 2 bros & 1 sis. Too weird. Tell me, are you also the oldest? Just curious how far this Twilight Zone thing goes! My mom told me this last time about how 3 of 4 pgs end up in mc. So I want to know, how is it that she has 4 kids out of 5 pgs and I have 1 out of 4? My sister had 1 mc and one of my SIL's had 1 mc but all the rest are mine. Each of my bros and sis have 2 kids plus mine so that's 7 kids and 5 mc's - 3 of which are mine. Now how fair is that? Not that I wish an mc on anyone - ever. I'd just like fewer for me too! So, on a purely selfish note, since we seem to be living parallel lives, you must now get yourself a sticky one so I can too! :) But seriously, best wishes for a BFP very soon! And btw, what a cutie you have!

LSB: I have often thought about just what you said about appreciating your little one so much more. I know most moms love their kids with all their hearts but I really feel like I have such a very, very special one. I have infinite patience with her (okay, so far - she hasn't hit the terrible 2s & 3s yet!). I never complaned while pg w her and I don't complain now about misbehaving or getting me up in the middle of the night on occasion. I just feel so lucky to have her, how could I? And, yes, my DH can really be a tool sometimes (you cracked me up with that!) - can't they all? But he's going to at least let me try and I really can't ask for more. I agree that sometimes you just have to kind of keep them in the dark
about the tracking. That's part of the reason I can't temp - but hopefully my little predictor kit and staying calm about all this will work anyway.

Annabelle: Welcome! I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be moving to PAML before you know it! And you are right, the innocence is gone forever which is
very sad indeed. But littlescottishboy is right too - when you do eventually have one (and you will), you will appreciate him/her in a way that someone who has not been through this could.

:bluedust: to all!

Good morning ladies,

Hi Beaksie :crossfingers::bfp: for you today!!! That would be so great let us know asap!

STARRYSKY & bunny's mum - Isn't that weird that we were going through the same thing pretty much on the same day - that is what's so good about bb having someone to talk through this who is going through similar emotions at exactly the same time.

Oh yes & how over are you hearing about other people announcing pregnancies - I am genuinely happy for them but I get this little twinge in my heart too !!
I was told a relative on my DH side is preg (on the pill & total accident!!) & what I can't get over is they are telling the world and she is only due in June !!
How early is that !! I am just astounded cause I know that so much can happen in those first few weeks as you all do !! Actually we did not tell a soul until we had the mc - we were going to tell everyone at 12 weeks - ON father's day - but not to be - we have told only a few people about the mc for support but that is all.

sweetpetite - thanks for your lovely words & encouragment - look forward to talking more with you someitme.

Hope you all have a good day today whatever you are doing - chat soon
Anna
x

Thanks girls for the good luck wishes. It's great to have your support.
I tested with 2 different tests using FMU today and 2 BFNs:( :(
Im now on 5 days past AF, so as you can imagine pretty bloody frustrated. Dont know what to think about the BFP I got yesterday, perhaps it was just a much more sensitive HPT. Have now decided Im not going to test again til Monday (assuming AF doesnt arrive of course). If I have no AF or BFN by then I'll go to the doc. I was trying to remember. Pretty sure I didnt get a BFP with DD until over a week late, and then it was so faint that the doc wouldnt believe me and insisted on bloodtest that came back BFP!
Any hoo, tired of the disappointment od BFNs, not to mention the expense! Really relly will be surprised if AF still shows. Im just not feeling it iykwim. Ok stop obsessing, must be more patient.

SP- Hi. Thanks for the wishes. Ive got a younger brother and older sister. My sisters in law are DPs sil, and sis.Make sense? :rolleyes: Sorry about your missed mc. You just cant imagine it will happen to you.

Anna-thanks for the crossed fingers, I can use all the luck going around. (Cant we all?) Don't you love how the ones who tell the world are the one's who never strike a prob? Wait a minute. Strike that. Made no difference to me when I did it first time around (lol) :redface:

MissBelinda- Testing 9 times?? How long did it take to finally get your BFP?? :doh:

Starrysky - Morning sunshine. Have a good one!:D

Morning Ladies, ok im fired up for lots of personal, so lets see how i go !!!!

Zionsmum - Im so sorry hun that your cycle is giving you so much grief. I hope it sorts itself out soon. Sending you load of cyber hugs.

Wowzer - Oh you must be so excited with the wedding !!!!! Im sure your day will be just perfect and perhaps you can create a honeymoon baby !!!!

Beaksie - Fingers crossed that its just too early hun, im really praying hard that you get your BFP in the next few days, you sooooooooooooooo deserve it !!!

Starrysky - I know exactly where your coming from with the negative thoughts hun and i think it's completly normal for us to feel a little angry and cheated. Im going through it right now with my best friends 18 yo daughter. Hang in there sweety.

BW - Im so sorry about the embies hun. I dont know what else to say except that you know that we are all here for you, cheering on TEAM BW!!!! Anytime you need us hun, we are right here.

LSB - I hope your traveling ok hun, sending you loads of best wishes and baby dust.

Annabelle - Good luck with the temping, your a brave woman !!! i just cant remember to do it before i get up !!!!!!

Bunny'smum - hi and i have my fingers crossed that you will be pregnant very soon hun.

MissBelinda - Hi sweety how you doin??? sending you lots of hugs

Well i have been having a little rest from posting as i was just getting my self down and it was really doing my head in, but im on track now and looking forward to hopefully seeing af dissapear for 9 months. Im determined not to test as i dont see the point, we only BD twice and i dont think the timing was the best so ill just wait to see if AF shows...

hugs to anyone i missed
treelo

Thank you, treelo.

I'm doing ok, I think. It's going to be a rough few weeks until we find out what the next step is. Things will become clearer in due course... meanwhile I'm just going to rest up and wait patiently... more work on the head stuff as my FS puts it.

Will probably be fairly quiet for a while during this stage.

BW

morning- or sould I say afternoon everyone?
boo hoo beaksie, get thee to a doc asap! do you have any other symptoms? did you have any with dd?

treelo! so nice to see you! I was getting a bit worried about you, thankyou for the sympathy, it is so nice that we come here and be understood.

BW- totally understood sweetie, we are all here thinking of you and wishing you all the happiness in the world.

annabell- tis a bit weird! makes you wonder....nah I wont go there!
have a great day ladies, I am really hoping I can do this this month, catch the eggie and make it stick that is,
xxx

Just a quick drop in to say I'm 8DPO and getting a little nervous. I had a two day dip on 6&7DPO (had a 3 day one with my last pregnancy). Have bleeding gums, have had some hot flushes today, stuffy nose, scratchy throat this morning and am really thirsty today. I was incredibly tired last night too. All things I've had before I got BFP's. My DF and I have reconciled (I hope I don't live to regret that later on down the track) so I'm not freaking out. Anyway, I might just be coming down with something. If AF doesn't arrive I might test Saturday or Sunday morning as I have a 11-12 day LP.

Good luck with your next lot of testing Beaksie..... that must really be doing your head in.

HI girls,
Just a quickie cos i have tonnes of work to do...

Satya - glad u have reconciled with your DF. Hope things are going well for you guys and fingers crossed. your symptoms sound promising!

Beaksie - oh my gosh hun!!! Am soooooooooooooooooo excited for you! I have heard that some women's bodies do not produce heaps of hCG till later on... and you have proof of that from your DD, so maybe your body is following the same pattern!!! Hugs hun and hope you can stay sane for a few days till you know more.

BW - will be thinking of you even tho you might be quiet for a while. Hugs and lots of support to you.

As for me, Day 17 today, i o'ed on day 15 according to my temps, and we got a couple of good quality BD's in there before that... so fingers crossed for us this month! Now entering the 2WW zone!

Big hugs and hellos to everyone else and have a good day. xoxo.

Hi everyone, so glad this thread has picked up again.It's been really quiet for a while and Ive missed you all...
As for me. Total freak that I am. Found myself in chemist today with pk of HPTs in hand and LITERALLY had to force myself to put them down and walk out. Am not going to waste any more cash on hpts this cycle. Arggh! Dp and I had a talk, and decided to wait it out. Im either pg, or going to get af, anh no amount of hpts will change the fact. Sound convincing?? For today anyway (lol)
Starrysky -symptoms, hmm. Have felt the odd bit of ickyness,and dry retched a couple of times. Also have nasty sore boobs on and off. As we know though, the mind can play nasty cruel tricks on the body. Have decided that if this isnt my month afterall, I will buy an OPK or start temping next month.
Treelo - glad your feeling more positive about life. Great to see you back
Bw-Goodluck, we'll still be here when you feel like a chat
Everyone else, hope you're doing great, and good luck !!!!
LSB - How are you chickie??
Satya - yeah thanks, it is. How are YOU! Gee lifes never dull is it? Hope you and DP have sorted things out for good, and you've managed to catch the egg this month. Is sounding promising...

hi satya, glad to see you back again, I am happy you have worked things out, alls well that ends well and all that, sounds promising from your symptoms, my fingers are crossed for you too.
hello lsb, hope you get all your work done! fingers crossed for you too, sending you lots of baby dust for the tww.

beaksie, i just noticed your ticker, that somehow doesnt seem right!
I agree with you about the thread picking up again, I have missed everyone too, there are still a few girls mia, I hope they are all okay if they are out there in cyberspace reading this.
Have you ever temped before? You might just inspire me to do the same thing, would be interesting I guess, just to see where my bodys at.
I hope you arent driving yourself too mental, thinking of you lots.
xxx

Hi chick! Yeah the thing with the ticker is it needs to be manually reset. Spose I should delete it, cause even if I resetit its no good till af shows. Definitely think Ill try temping next month just to see where Im at too. This is just crap.At least if I knew when Id O'd I might know for sure whether I was in with a chance. The thing that makes me think I may have o'd really late, is I got heaps of ewcm on about day 25ish.I hadnt noticed any at any other time this cycle, but one of the girls said you get that it means AF is at the door. Anyway, we bd just in case, but I dismissed it cause of the af comment. Was also getting af type cramps which I havent had for a few days. Assuming I did o then, I wouldnt expect a positive hpt till early next week. I know Im grasping here.
Bit convinced yesterdays test was false, as one of the other girls had 2 false+ with same brand. :( Just so OVER this. Need to know either way, dont even care if AF arrives, as long as it stops the bloody guessing game....
So sorry. I keep taking over with my me,me,me posts. I promise Im not normally a selfish cow...:redface:

Changed my ticker.....

ohhh! she is too cute!
I dont think you are a selfish cow, what is bb here for if not to moan and groan.
I wish things could be easier for you, the worst part must be the not knowing, at least if af was here you could have a few drinks to console yourself.
have you registered with ff?

Not yet. Have you? Spose I should at least look it up and see whats all about. Will you use Opks or chart your temps? The only problem I see, is us becoming even MORE obsessed that we are already. Im a firm believer in relaxing to fall pg, has always worked for me in the past. I saw the Maybe Baby OPK saliva tester thingy in the chemist. Its pretty pricey at $75, but considering what i spend on Hpts each cycle, it could actually work out cheaper in the long run.