TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 07 #1

Hi satya, We're now cycle buddies :) This month eh??!!! And I hope you have a much better week. Did going away help yesterday?

AF came yesterday for me too but I was expecting it. But man, is this the heaviest AF and most spewy/crampy feelings I've ever had or what!!! I am feeling very paranoid since of the massive haemmorage I had 5 weeks ago (you're right pash, it was an eventful cycle) but I'm just hoping it's everything returning to normal and unlike the light AF I've been having since the first D&C...

Jayney I'm glad you didn't settle for one dr's opinion. It's so important to have peace of mind (as much as possible) and feel like they're doing their job properly rather than not taking the time to investigate things properly.

Hi everyone else :)

Well it sure is hard to catch up when you've not logged on for over a week. I'm still trying to work out where everyone's at, so I'm sorry if there aren't many personals.

Satya- I'm terribly sorry for the loss of your aunt, but if she was going down hill fast, at least she's in a better place. :hug:

Sorry to everyone who got a BFN. :crossfingers: for next month.

As for me.... I got married on Sat which was fantastic! The reason I didn't log on last week was because I ended up having to have the D&C afterall. Can you believe it?! I waitted so long and there was so much bleeding. When my ob did the ultrasound, it was all still in there. I had the D&C that afternoon (Tues) and bleed for 2 days, then spotting. I started bleeding again the day before yesterday- is that normal?

We start our honeymoon in Perth tonight, then go to Japan. I hope the bleeding stops soon.

Congrats Ems !!!!!! Enjoy your honeymoon.

Guys i need some advice, i started bleeding this afternoon, but its very different than a normal period. First of all i usually get bad cramps a day before the bleeding starts, secondly the bleeding started off brown, and is now light pink and not very heavy. I am 11DPO today and AF is due on Sat. Im never early??? At first i just thought AF was here, but now im starting to wonder if something is wrong??? or implantation?? although its a bit more than spotting. I do have cramping now and a bit of back pain, but nothing unbearable. Its just all very different and i dont know what to think of it all.

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
thanks
treelo

Hi everyone,

I still lurk around here and are here to give everyone some positive vibes and baby dust.....:bluedust:

Treelo- With both my pg, I had implantation bleeding. I thought both times AF was on her way because I was cramping too. My I/B was ranging from red to brown and sometimes more than spotting which led me to assume it was AF. Everyone is different though so I have my fingers crossed that you will get a BFP.

Now to all you other girls........ get a BFP very soon.

Take care

Jen

Hi Girls

Satya i am so sorry to hear about your aunt passing away, my thoughts are with you and your family ..

Treelo, i'm not sure about all those symptoms, but i guess all you can do is wait it out. Could be implantation bleeding!!

Ems congratulations on getting married, i hope you do enjoy your honeymoon!

I hope the rest of you girls are feeling a little better. I have been a part of these BB forums for over a year now and it is so lovely to have someone to vent to, talk to, ask questions or just report in on what is happening to someone that understands. I think i speak for all of us when i say that if you feel down, we are really here on the other end of the keyboard, and we understand... dont be alone!!

Well we are 5 days post IUI, gave kim her booster HCG injection yesterday and she is having one progesterone pessary each night as well, can't hurt. The TWW is dragging i must say. It is our last try for the year so cant help but feel we are pinning all our hopes on this cycle. Which is scarey because then if we get a BFN we will really be setting ourselves up for a huge disspointment.

Af is here :(

Hi all

Been lurking but not posting much. Am feeling pretty ordinary about not being pregnant :cry:

Satya - just want to send you some good vibes and pass on my condolences for your Aunt - it's always sad when a loved one moves on, regardless of whether it was expected or not, you will miss her.

Pash - hello over there, nice to "see" you again. Glad to hear your body is righting itself, bugger about having to wait though - it you're like me, patience is not a strong point in ttc matters!

Jenjams - thanks for the babydust, we all need it!! Your ticker is moving quickly!

Treelo - damm that AF, hopefully this will be her last visit for ages :pray:

ME - well 3.5 weeks post D&C and I'm still spotting - well don't know if it's spotting or a light AF - I've heard AF can be pretty light after a D&C. And I have EWCM, but it's blood stained. Have decided NOT to buy any OPKs or HPTs, and just let things take their natural course WITHOUT me obsessing about where I'm at. BUT it would be nice to know where I'm at in my cycle :wall:

Hello to everyone else and good luck in your TWWs or whatever WAIT you are waiting on ............

Lee xo

Hi everyone! well it's not looking too good for me again....I am 5 weeks today and last night started feeling like period cramps twice in two hours....when I went to the bathroom I found that I have started bleeding Bright red :( no cramps since and wore a pad to bed but it had nothing on it this morning,but when I went to the bathroom there was the blood again? so I guess this is the beginning? My DH and I are devastated but theres nothing I can do.....I feel like I am just waiting now :(

Dawnee - I am so sorry to hear about this but try to remain positive. Many females spot during pregnancy. I really hope this is nothing and this is a really sticky bub. We are all here for you, so please don't feel as though you are alone.

Hi, Dawneee, I am sorry for you and your DH.
I will be thinking of you tonight.

Hi Dawnee...just want you to know Im thinking of you,and sending you the biggest :hug: You're probably feeling pretty scared and alone right now, but remember we're all here if you need to talk, and with any luck the bleeding will stop and youll go on to a have a beautiful little bubby.
Treelo- Howdy. Im really sorry af turned up for you. I was pretty convinced you had IT this cycle. If its any help, before my last preg, my af arrived 1 week early(which never happens) and I went on to fall preg the next cycle. Might mean something??Hopefully it does for you.
Satya- how are you? Hope youre doing OK?
Everyone else, gday, fingers crossed for Bfps for you all.

I'm sitting at 6dpo at the moment, so Ive still got a while to go yet. Hmm. At the moment in my house we're trying to get a work transfer for DP, back home (central Vic) as we've completed our 3 year contract in P.Hedland, which if anyone of you have been here, you'll know its no mean feat living 250km away from another town, and 6hrs flight from family! Anyway. All isnt exactly going to plan at the mo, as I really want to be moved home and settled in our new house (with a shiny dishwasher that Id like to marry!) by Xmas time. All this is getting me down a little, along with the fact that Im worried that I'll never get preg again (let alone carry to term). Perhaps slightly irrational, but Im having one of those days. Anyhow, sorry to make this all about me, but thanks for listening to me rant. Have a great day girls.

Hi everyone,

It's day 4 of AF for me now... normally I only get a few days of spotting then 2 or 3 days of bleeding. It's all very different this time. I've had 3 days of medium bleeding then it went to light last night & today with small clots which is weird. Also been getting a little cramping today. My bbs have been sore all day and have been eating myself stupid. I know I'm not pg as my temp has been down for a week now so it's not even possible. I'm in a really crappy mood too.

Sorry for no personals, but my DF & I are in the middle of another argument.

Dawnee- Hang in there. It is so maddening. I am praying for you and you little one.

Beaksie- I know what you mean about being isolated although we do have a town a little closer but there is nothing significant in communities for 165km and it really takes getting used to. A new DW sounds wonderful.

MelissaL I'm so sorry that we seem to have so much in common. Though my twins turned out not to be molar. My HCG is high now either because I've got very persistent (but normal) retained product or that I've got trophoblastic disease and it is going away on its own. I am assuming that it is the first one and that everything is still normal. Its interesting that you decided to TTC at 3 months of 0 HCG. If the mole did grow back, do you know how long it would take to get dangerous for you? If you did fall PG, and then the mole grew back, would that affect the baby? If you did fall PG, then the mole grew back, and all went well with the bub, you might need treatment after giving birth. This would put you out of the TTC picture for a year after finishing treatment. Would you be ok with that? But I think it must be ok. The literature the mole clinic here gives mentions stories of people who fell PG before the 6mth wait was over, and they had their kid and it was fine. I figure if the clinic tells this story, then its probably an ok risk? Also my specialist said that he tells people to wait 6mths, but with older women he lets them know that if they wanted to, they could start trying earlier. So I think it must be fine. I just noticed that you lost your twins on my 30th birthday. I'm sorry.

I finally had my appointment at the recurrent m/c clinic. Stupid nurse pr1cked me 3 times cos she kept missing my vein and the blood kept stopping. Then she had the nerve to tell me that it was my fault cos I didn't have brekky!!

But it was all worth it. The chromosome tests have proven that DH is a man and I'm a woman. No idea why they needed to do chromosome tests to prove that, they could have looked between my legs like all the other docs have.

I don't know the other results yet, but a scan showed something weird in my uterus wall again, so they've scheduled me for an MRI. I panic when I think about it cos I'm claustrophobic and don't know how I'm going to cope with it.

Soulmate Hiya! IKWYM. I sometimes imagine all three of my angels alive & running about and me with my arms full of my little family. Then *sigh* back to reality. I don't want to wish for twins again, but I would be thrilled if we could have healthy twins.

Treelo Bugger! How frustrating.
Satya So much is happening all at once for you :hug: I hope you and DF sort things out. And any news on the lap?
Jayney I'd rather not know about an early m/c and preferred to think it was a late/heavy period. But, once you know you were pregnant, there is no going back. You can't wipe your memory and male doc shouldn't expect you to. Also, he shouldn't be deciding that its best for you to treat it as though it wasn't a m/c. It was, and he should do his best to treat you or analyse it (my 2 cents). I'm glad you found another doc who treated you better.
Rachael Got my :crossfingers: for you this cycle!
Ems Congratulations on getting married!! Pity that you needed the D&C after all. Maybe there could be a honeymoon bub on the cards?! Either way, wishing you an awesome honeymoon.
Lee Hiya hun. How are you doing? I've been away a bit, but still been thinking of you. Sounds like a good thing that you're taking it easy with TTC (lets see how long that lasts ;) ). I'm going the other way. I bought a thermometer and I'm going to start temping. But apparently the digital thermometer I bought isn't a BBT one, so its not going to work. D'oh!
Aww Dawneee.. I'm so sorry. Its so unfair.
Beaksie I have days like that too. And no amount of rational thinking can convince me that things will be ok and that we will have a family. But things will be ok and I hope you feel more positive by the time you read this.

How are you today Dawnee?
Hi to everyone else.
Well my TTC hasn't really kicked in yet i guess, Today is the 3 week mark post D&C. My ob said that i probably wouldn't ovulate till week 5 or so??
A friend of mine fell pregnant as the same time as me and due the day that i was 2/3/08. I had dinner with her last night and while i am over the moon for her as her and DH have been trying for bub for 7 years they really deserve bub, but the "Its not fair" thought crossed my mind a few times..

I will be making myself scarce from here for a while I think. My DF and I are having major problems and I have serious doubts about the relationship altogether so I'm going to have to forget about TTC for now....probably for ever. Will check back in at some time now doubt. Good luck to you all.

Satya, I am so sorry to hear this news. I hope you and DP can work through whatever is going on. Big hugs to you sweetie.

SG
xo

Hi Ladies all......

Satya - thats all bad news...... but you and your dh have been under so much pressure and suffered your recent loss, I hope you can work it all out. Hugs, and we will miss you, but I reckon you'll be back soon xo

Dawnee - how are you??? :pray: your bleeding stays stopped. Please let us know.

Pash - so good to hear from you..... AND ........ I'm really HAPPY to obsess with you about all matters to do with TTC....... oh when should we start ........ how about NOW !!!!!!!!!! :dance: My bb's are a bit sore right now - I'm wondering if I'm ovulating - 3.5 weeks post D&C - totally feasible I guess. DH and I are certainly doing the baby dance :D actually it's nice to have my libido returned, I'm pretty low on that when pregnant, so dh is seeing the upside of times in between pregnancy...! Hope we can be prego buddies real soon Pash :)

Hello to everyone else. Hope you all have nice weekends.

Lee xoxo