OK I think I've managed to join. I have a dilemma. Been TTC for almost 2 years now - had a big operation 6 months ago to clean up all the mess (endometriosis) & 3 months later, I conceived. However, it was soon discovered at an early ultrasound that the foetus had not grown. I did not miscarry naturally & at 9 weeks, had a D & C, sadly.

So they tell me there is varying advice on when to TTC again - some say wait until your first "normal" period after D & C; some say wait for 3 cycles before going again. I'm 37 - no time to wait - so we tried again after my first period, which was very light.

Now HERE is the dilemma.

Today is Day 29 of my cycle - I am officially 1 day late for AF. Today I've had light cramping, comes & goes, completely tolerable. Not a spot of blood. Should I test? When should I test? I am TERRIFIED of testing & getting a negative. I am holding off, thinking wait it out, give it another day, then another.........I would rather discover blood than test & get a negative.

Could really use some advice/opinions/support if there's anybody out there. I really wish this thing was instant - maybe it is & I haven't figured it out yet.