thank-you! thank-you! thank-you!
i know that unfortuneately there are things that have no answers and it is heartbreaking but at this stage i am not ruling out a "miracle"! I am the google queen - but most of what i find horrifies me or is in terms that i would never understand! (therefore leading to more googling!) I just wanted a bit more insight which you have given so if they say certain things i am at least familiar with them!
i will keep you posted after next week!
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