When would you ladies tell your family & friends you are pg? I had a 22wk loss due to IC and 12weeks induce due to birth defect.....So I was thinking not to tell anyone until I am maybe 5 or 6 months What you guys think?
I agree I lost my first one at 8 weeks and evryone knew, and then again with my second one we announced it at 12 weeks and lost it at 16 weeks. Next time around I think ill wait as long as I can even if I start to show , I wuld rather avoid seeing them till i knew I was over at least 5 months ...
I agree with you bub1..I said next time I'm preg I am just going to try to stay away until I am far along........................I just hate when people still ask me ooo how many months are you or you had the baby. That just makes me sad. I want a baby so bad but I am also scared to try again!! ahhhhhhhhhhhh its hard. how does your dh feels about your loss?
Its taken alot of time to accept today we would have been 20 weeks I think this time around it was ssoo much harder, we actually saw the baby developed with eyes mouth hands and feet .... compared to sseing the first at 8 weeks. Also due to having family and friends arounds us who are due very close to when we were suppose to be is esxtremely more difficult. we are not letting it affect us, unfortunately it happened to us, no body can imagine what it feels like, even thought there are some insensitive people around us. DH is being very supportive, the main thing is that you grief together and maintain a very close bond... believe in yourself and hopefully believe that one day it will be your turn. Its not easy but you need to be strong. Anytime you want to chat feel free.
Hi Mimi24, I think its a good idea to not tell anyone for as long as is possible as well, i.e. growing bump. I lost my daughter at 19 wks but knew from 12-weeks that there were serious problems. We were going to announce the pg after our 12-wk scan but decided to wait due to the problems which continued to get worse so in the end only a few people knew. These were people I chose to tell and they helped me get through losing her. I dont' think I could have gone through it alone, but chosing who knows & who doesn't means you & your DH are supported. Hopefully though, you'll never go through that again and everything will be fine for your next pg. All the best.
Hi Mimi,
I agree with all the girls!! I lost my little boy at 20 weeks. When I first found out I was pg, I only told mum and dad and 2 very very close GFs as they knew I was going through IVF so I couldn't not tell them!
At work, I tried to wait until 12 weeks at least, but because I was very bloated from all the drugs, I looked 6 months pregnant when I was 8 or 10 weeks!! Someone close to me (I haven't found out who althought I have a good idea) told one of the girls in the lab where I work that I was pg well before my 12 week scan. One day we were all sitting in the tea room and this girl from the lab's sisted came over for a visit, and said 'Oh congrats on your pregnancy'. I was not even 12 weeks along. I was furious that now everybody knew, before I was ready to tell them!! Then this other horrible girl said, 'oh, we all knew you were'. I could have strangled her.
Next time, I will only tell my friends at work & extended family when my belly is too big to hide.....LOL.
I will still share the good news early with my parents and my two closest GF.
B xxxx
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