Hi Kam, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter, its so devastating to know you've had to go through this.
My daughter was stillborn in February 2007 and only coming to this website and chatting with the lovely ladies here made me consider trying again. I too had the thoughts of maybe I was disrespecting my daughter, and maybe I wouldn't be able to bond with another child, but i made the decision to go ahead, I talked to so many women, who made me understand that I wouldn't be disrespecting her, she would want me to be happy, she would have wanted a brother or sister, and ultimately when I was lucky enough for a new baby to arrive, I would bond and love it probably more so because of my loss. I had a baby boy in May 2008 and every single day I'm grateful for him, not a day goes by where i don't think of her and I talk to him about her every day. When I ended falling pg I had also made the decision to try and enjoy this next pg as much as I could because thats all the memories I had with Phoebe, yes there were the stresses but you put things in place to cope with those, whether that be scans every week, to accupuncture, to kick charts in the third trimester, you do things that help you and your mind.
There is lots of literature on subsequent pg after late loss, if you feel they may help I can provide it to you, or if you feel like just talking pm me.
Ultimately I think the decision is up to, if you feel you are ready then you are but if you feel you need more time to think and reflect then do that.
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