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Oh Jo, I am so so so sorry you are going through this.
I don't have any advice either, as I have never gotten that far.
But I want you to know, that I will be praying and will have every finger and toe crossed for you, that all is OK.
I will be thinking of you.
xxx Sue xxx
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Jo - I posted a response in the preg thread. I am praying like that mad - and I hope you get some news and clarification soon. :hug:
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Jo,
I don't have any medical experience with this, but my advice would be to talk to your OB, grill him until you fully understand what this means. It sounds like it will probably be all fine but maybe your OB can refer you to a high risk clinic for more tests or something. There's plenty that can be done I'm sure, even if it's to get a better picture of what's going on.
Good luck
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jo--Oh, hon.... I wish I had some magical advice to give you! I'm :pray: so hard for you and your little one! Just wanted to send you some big :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: and some :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesgirl: :stickyvibesgirl: I'm praying all will be well, please keep us up to date with how you're doing!!
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Dearest Jo, have you had your meeting with your ob yet?
Maybe they're just being careful because you lost Jack. I am praying really hard that you will post soon and tell us it was all just a scare.
Little baby, you're so loved and wanted. Kick! Kick!
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Hi Jo,
Been thinking about you all last night. I am so hoping all is well.
xxx Sue xxx
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hi everyone,
i am overwhelmed by how quickly some of you replied and also your thoughts.
I checked back on quickly yesterday afternoon but had to get off before i could reply to any of you due to my other kids needing attention. And of course they don't know yet that i am pregnant again as i wanted to get happily through my 22 week scan, so i am glad i have'nt told them esp since this has come up. (and esp since my daughter still refers to our spare room as baby jacks room)
So update is, my Ob called late in the afternoon (had been in theatre for most of the day) and he said he had organised a scan to be done through a specialist centre (who i have since found out is regarded as one of the most qualified in aust) who will start with a 2d scan and proceed to a 3d if necessary. That will be done tomorrow morning and thankfully my dh has taken the day off to come in with me. My Ob said it could mean something or nothing and wanted to make exactly sure so the scan would be done to find out. Dh was a little anxious for me to be waiting so much longer but i could'nt do too much about it. I have taken today off work as my mind is still a little scattered and i am monitering every possible is it? or is'nt it? movement in my belly. (my mind i swear is starting to play with me!) The baby moved last night a little when i went to bed and the slightest bit today but not anything that has been done previously. i have to take 1/2 a disprin per day to thin my blood and had a teary at the chemist when i asked for disprin that was safe for pregnancy and she said you should'nt take it at all and then the waterworks started while i stood there explaining why i needed to have it to her and the head chemist lady!!
Some questions that were asked..
heartbeat -i am sure i saw on the screen that it was up at 196. They did say that it could be due to my distress but were concerned that another sonographer had noticed the same thing in my 17 week scan.
cord - thanks for all the happy ending stories on this, like i said i am sure that is what they meant but with all hopes dashing from my heart yesterday i may have heard wrong. So if anything more comes of this tomorrow will let you all know.
Flowerchild - they were checking the heart constantly because they said that if the baby has abnormalities in one place quite often even the smallest abnormality can also be found in the heart but it checked out ok. They said the heart is the most sensitive to abnormalities. And i was beyond stresses, even the midwife they bought down to see me said they probably should'nt have jumped the gun so quickly due to my history but if it means i can have this more specialised check then maybe they were right in jumping. The thing is, because i have had 2 healthy kids (5 and 3.5yrs) and then with my pregnancy with jack eventhough he passed, i am still not considered by many a higher risk pregnancy. Which annoys me as i am so fearful this time (and i have always been one of those sickening women who sail through pregnancy, no m.sickness, worked till 39 weeks fulltime etc, so it is not a feeling familiar to me until Jack) that if not my physical side is an issue, my emotional side should be taken into account!
who knows...i woke up this morning and my belly seemed flatter than normal so i had a cry over that, and i know it can't suddenly decrease in less than 24 hrs but crazy paranoid lady is ready to come out at any chance!
anyway -
butterfly warrior - sending hugs to you also! You are amazing to have the strength to think about the future like that. I too have been putting off telling people. My dhs parents still don't know as i decided to wait till ater the 22 week scan. It started off as the 17 week one so i know that feeling for sure. And plus, it has been nice to have this little secret to ourselves anyway. sending you loads of hugs too!
and to the rest of you :grouphug: x 1000! I don't even know where i would be without the BB site! will keep you all posted!!! take crae of yourselves!
sorry for another essay!
x jo
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Hi Jo,
So good to hear from you.
You poor thing having to go through this.....
I wish you all the best for your scan tomorrow and will be thinking of you.
:crossfingers: all is OK.
Keep us in touch.
xxx Sue xxx
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Holding my breath for you Jo. Get back to us as soon as you've had your scan tomorrow. Lots of love and hugs.
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Jo,
Thinking of you and all the best for your scan tomorrow.
Sending you positive vibes...
Danek
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Thinking of you, :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
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Oh, Jo, I'm so sorry you have to worry like this. My subscription to this thread must have gotten messed up so I haven't been here for a few days, but I'm definitely thinking of you and crossing my fingers that everything will be fine. I think it sounds like they're just trying to take care of you extra carefully given your earlier loss, even if their extra care ends up making you feel worse instead of better at a time like this. We're all here for you with lots of :hug:.
The medicare stories are, BTW, appalling. I've had some experiences with idiot bureaucracy with Swedish health care and insurance things, but this particular story about BOTH of you having trouble getting them to understand that people might have two scans in a year -- I don't think that particular situation would happen here, anyway. But only because we have a system where we pay (or don't) at the doctor's rather than getting a refund. I'm sure the Swedes would manage to mess it up if it were a refund system, like with my money for the sick leave I've been on. They sent me a form asking me why I came to Sweden and how long I plan on staying and if my family had moved here with me and to send a copy of my work permit, etc. I was like, "I've lived here for 6 years, my husband is a born and raised Swede, and I'm a Swedish citizen so I don't HAVE a work permit." They actually tried to give me crap about not having the "right" documents -- honestly, their brains are not with them sometimes.
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Updates?
Any updates? I'm worried about Jo. :(
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Jo posted in the Pregnancy after late loss thread. You can see her update in there. :hug:
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Oh thank goodness for Jo's update. I've been freaking out all over place. I hope your little baby is bouncing away again Jo!
Hope everyone else is having a lovely weekend.
Tildy, can you pls put a link to your blog in your sig. I'm too lazy to find your first post about it ;-)
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Yay! Oh, when I didn't see an update in here from Jo I was afraid that meant bad things. Now I see I should just make sure to check other threads. :) I know what you mean about being the queen of after questions, Jo. I usually have 3 new ones on the way out to the car. My counselor told me to never feel like a burden; "you should be able to call and ask questions three times a day if you have them."
I had a break-down today in the car. We were driving to the grocery store this morning -- I was practice driving, as I'm working on gettng a Swedish license -- and I had another practice driver in front of me. He/she was very unpredictable and hesitant on the way into a big roundabout and I started driving when I thought they went but they slammed on the breaks. I almost didn't see it so hubby screamed and made me feel stupid. We ended up sitting in the grocery store parking lot for about a half hour, waiting for the waterworks (both mine and outside) to stop. He seemed irritated with me at first because he's "already told me" that things will be okay and that he really wants a baby too, etc. I'm trying to teach the boy that just because you said "I love you" yesterday doesn't mean I don't need to hear it today. (Bah, silly practical engineers!)
My chart is all haywire, which has been freaking me out. It's my first month of charting, so I don't know what to expect. The site has moved my ovulation date a couple times, and I'm concerned that either my emotional state or my thyroid condition are keeping me from ovulating normally. On the other hand, I'm cramping today and seeing little tiny streaks of red blood, still 5 days before I expect my period. (Hard to say how much DPO I am with the unreliable chart.) But maybe it's implantation? I keep reminding myself that there's no reason why it can't be. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.
Hammi -- okay! I put the link in my sig :)
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hey guys!
oh my god! so sorry! i thought i had copy and pasted here also! It was a quickie type and i have'nt been around since so have'nt checked! sorry, sorry, sorry! You guys have been amazing support and this side of the forum still feels like my homebase, i am trying to continue to keep posting in the preg one also at the moment to give myself some sense of where i ACTUALLY am right now. So you were'nt neglected or forgotton!
I am not resting easy though, unfortuneatley. I have my OB appointment tomorrow and i am feeling beyond apprehensive about it. i can't stop thinking about how i am being referred onto monash and what a smaller placenta and my baby being a week behind its dates in growth may mean. So i am going armed tomorrow with questions and to find out if there is more to it that the ultrasound was'nt telling me and what i can get out of my OB instead. I think also i just need the what ifs answered, i am not good with surprises and i woud just like all options and ideas either way opened up for me i think! :wall: Als my daughter caught a virus and although not considered contagious, my DH said the GP wants me in there to get a blood test this morning as DH explained all that we have gone through so far. so i have a day off today to be jabbed, so fun!!!
tildy - you poor thing! I am always worried about other drivers to start with, learners or not. Everyone seems to be getting worse!!!Hope you are feeling ok and you can relax to get your body in check!
hope you are all ok! I'll be back tomorrow with an update! promise!
x jo
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Well, I have been away since Saturday morning unable to check in and I had been thinking about you Jo all weekend!! I am so glad you posted although I haven't even had time to read your update post in the preg thread, goodluck at your OB appt tomorrow.
Tildy, charting can be one huge rollercoaster ride, but trust me it IS addictive!! I know what it's like when your web chart keeps changing you OV day. I have always charted on the FAM method myself, but started using FF, which uses some different method. It said I OV on day 13....Well it looks like I have just OV'd on day 21 (fri) according to my chart, and what do you know I get back home enter it into FF and Bingo it know says day 21!! arghhhh. Fingers crossed.
How is everyone else going??
